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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi,Girlfriend problem,So to start, we have known each other for 2 years and started dating 8months ago and we have been perfect all the way through. We live apart (50miles) but see each other once a week/2weeks. We are set to be engaged in the summer. But one reli big annoying thing has started to happen!.....We call each other every night at 11pm till 1am, so 2 hours chat a day, however recently she has been talking to her best friend and she is considered to be her no.1, seen as they are childhood friends. But she rings me late like at 12:45am and it's taking away our quality time, just because of her friend. I feel like we are drifting apart. She rings her friend before me, and she rings me late, she see's her friend everyday and hardly sees me, so why is she talking to her more often and cutting our time short, I feel like we are drifting and she is too involved with her friend. I'm supposed to be her no.1 priority!!!! We always talk at least 2 hours a night. Nowadays since two weeks she talks to her friend and then rings me for 10mins. I dnt like it, and it's making me moody with her and she can feel it.--Can I ask my ex gf for money back?My gf and I were reli close, but nowadays we has drifted apart and she got reli angry one day (normal of her to get angry at me) she wanted to leave me forever and not be friends. Now this reli hurts because I have done so much for her. Time effort hassle and money well spent. I have spent around 300 on her and I feel done over, she has used me, if she disappears from my life, the. I cnt help wondering and regretting the money i spent on her, as well as looking after her and sorting her problems. If she is so adamant on leaving me, then I want at least 100 back. Can I do this?-----Best friend helpBasically my best friend is a girl and she was my gf for a few months but it didn't work out and now we have mutual understanding and we just keep in contact via email (she doesn't have phone no more, and isn't allowed out)And the problem is, we used to talk everyday on phone for 1hour and that was good. Now she refuses to have a phone. Anyways we email each other but nowadays she gets angry at me real quick, just via email, and I'm getting frustrated and annoyed because we dnt get to talk as much and I want to go back, but she claims that she is too busy with uni etc..... That she won't have time to ring/text or even email me as much. This reli hurts because we were/are reli close. I keep telling her to make time for me, at least 10mins a day, but I reckon she is too selfish to realise that we are drifting apart. What do I do now and how can I show her that we are drifting?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (4 November 2011):
 I hope I don't offend you, but you come off as very needy.
1. the GF, I understand you would like to speak to her more each evening, so maybe you could call her? Or just tell her that you miss your long conversations. It could be that she is trying to make the conversations short but sweet instead of having quiet awkward moments?
2. No, you can ask for money back you spend on the ex. But you can learn from it. Spend money on people you think are worth it and don't spend more then you can afford.
3. Your friend. I DO think she is busy with Uni, it can be hard work. Cut her some slack and, accept that she might also have friends at Uni she wants to spend time with. IF you two are good friends communication can go a little up and down when apart. I have friend I have had for over 30 years. Sometimes we get busy and a week or two goes by, but we are still great friends and when the one needs the other we are there. Maybe your friendship is just maturing?
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