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writes:I am 33 almost 34 with 3 children and getting divorced. I have been casually seeing a guy I met on the internet for the past 3-4 months, he's 26. We both work a lot so only meet up every few weeks and text in between. It's not a relationship. I'm not really religious, he's different ethnically to me, and he's more into his religion. I told him I wasn't on the pill and at first we were careful and used contraception, at his suggestion. But after a while we stupidly stopped and I've now found out I'm pregnant. Because of his religion I'm not sure how it will affect the situation. I wonder if it would it be better for him if I didn't tell him I am pregnant? Do people following the Muslim religion have the same opposition to abortion as some people in the Christian religion?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 He has the right to know about your pregnancy.
You need to tell him and talk to him about what you guys are going to do.
Ultimately, it is your decision as you are going to be carrying the child and will probably end up taking care of it.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Hi,
I agree with everyone here. I understand it's not a relationship, but you both decide to be intimate, so therefore he has the right to know. Also, I don't think it's fair to you to deal with this situation alone. No matter what you decide, I think you should make a decision together.
Good luck
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reader, natasia +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Are you planning to have an abortion, then?
I don't know. Of course he has a right to know, and almost especially if you are going to decide not to let the child live. I know your personal situation isn't great, and you have to think of the well-being of your other children. However, I tend to think that as you got pregnant by carelessness, you should kind of honour the result, tell the man involved, and if he doesn't agree with abortion, not abort his child. I feel you are looking for a sneaky way out, and I don't honestly think that is right.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 No matter what religion someone is everyone feels differently about abortion, really it is a matter of personal opinion. I guess you need to ask yourself what do YOU want. Do you want this child or do you want to abort him/her? You need to think about it for a while before you make a decision. To be honest I think after you decide you need to tell the father of the baby, at the end of the day he has a right to know about it. Yes it will be hard but it was a mistake that the both of you made and I guess you need to discuss it with him now and tell him your plans. Good luck.
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