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*k30
writes:When i masterbate my boyfriend will either roll over or not acknowledge me at all. i asked him to help me he said " why you can do it better yourself" i thought guys liked it when their girl does this, (i usually only do it after giving him oral and hes gotten off) it really hurts my feelings and makes me feel dumb when i am done. I have told him this too and he doesnt say anything. Please tell me is this normal, am i doing it wrong, whats wrong with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): you say that you do this after you've finished him off...
a sad truth is, that the more selfish among the male species have a habit of being completely disinterested in their partner once they've been finished. believe me, i've been seeing someone who's pretty much the same. if you're really into this getting yourself off in front of him, why not do it before he finishes? you never know, he might show a bit more interest.
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reader, mk30 +, writes (7 November 2011):
mk30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all of your respones. i think he is just a very selfish person and thats the problem lol. we rarely have intercourse the way it is, but i give him oral almost everyday thats why i have to masterbate to get myself off. i just thought if i do it in front of him then he would be turned on enough to want me. i dont know something is not right i do know that :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): in my opinion, guys most likely like to watch porn stars masterbate, but to see you get your self off better than he can get you off, probably lowers his ego.. "beg" him to help, and tell him you cant get off without him :D that will boost his ego!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2011):
 Person12345 pretty much said it all.
The only thing I like to add is that masturbation is a solo act done in private. Unless of course your boyfriend says he would like to watch you flick your bean. Or if you're on top stimulating yourself during intercourse, then it's acceptable.
Why can't he stimulate you while you give him oral? Also, why are you two not engaging in intercourse after oral? Is he just too tired or is it because he already got his? Has he ever given you oral?
You need to communicate with him and tell him how you feel about your lacking sex life.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 November 2011):
 There are two ways to read this:
By randomly getting into bed and masturbating in front of him you're sending the message that you'd rather just take care of yourself than let him or do it with him. Men don't like when their girlfriends masturbate instead of having sex with them! If you asked him what his fantasy was and he said watching you masturbate and you went and gave him a really big show of it, that would be one thing, but just doing it in bed next to him could be disrespectful.
The other way is that he's just being selfish and lazy and genuinely means, you have sex with yourself so I don't have to. After he's recovered from his orgasm rather than masturbating, you should ask that he return the favor. If he won't repeatedly, perhaps you should stop giving for awhile?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): Do it before giving him oral.
Men lose interest in sex quickly after ejaculating a lot of the time.
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