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Archived questions from: 9 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My mother has become so distant. Is it possible she is cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I would not Like to think this but My mother has been really distant lately. And she has been worrying me lately. Well Ill start off by saying that my grandmother has been getting real sick, and she stays the night over there alot But she has been worrying me lately, she ... (169 words)

How can I not be cold hearted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4119 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how i can change from being cold hearted. I know im like this from being messed around by men (aswell as seeing me father treat my mother badly from a young age) and it stops me from developing relationships. I go on d... (136 words)

Ex-boyfriend of 9 years screwed up. Separated for a year but he wants to win my heart again. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm at a crossroads. I've reciently broken up with my boyfriend of 9 years. At the time, I was very unsure about the future of our relationship. To make a long story short, during the last 4 years of our relationship, he had become a completely different person. He had b... (640 words)

I'm married and received anal sex from a tranny. Am I gay?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3107 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am what I consider to be a straight man. 36 yo. I was molested by a man when I was 6. it went on for about a year. When I was 30 I let a tranny give me a bj outside of a bar. She wanted to take me home and perform anal sex on me. I didn't but it sparked a dormant feeling ... (228 words)

My brother died unexpectedly and I don't feel my g/f is supportive enough. Am I being angry and unfair to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My brother died, suddenly, last week. I've gone through a range of emotions from total devastation when his life support was switched off and I saw him die to a numbness and now I just feel angry. Except I feel my anger may be mis-placed so I'm after some rational opinion... (487 words)

Dating -- When should I pose the question of exclusivity to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm a 27 f currently dating this guy I met nearly a month and a half ago on an online dating site. Everything so far has been great. Although he's a couple of years younger than me (24), it feels as though we have a lot in common in terms of interests, views on life, and he can ... (312 words)

My ex won't get rid of his new gf that hates us still being friends.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex and I split up over a year ago, but continued to spend time together as if we were still together. Then in August I moved back home from college and he stayed there. We both cried as I had to leave not know when we would see each other again b/c I graduated. I went to ... (357 words)

My parents wouldn't approve of my older boyfriend coming to see me. So how can we arrange things?

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9 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So my boyfriend lives in a different city and he wants to come and see me but he's a few years older then me and my parents don't know about him and if they find out i won't be able to speak to him anymore, so i need an excuse to be free for a day so i can see him but we need ... (75 words)

What do I say to bring this guy back around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy online, we clicked, hung out a few times - then got into some huge fight .. nasty words were exchanged even at one point! And we stopped speaking ( he didn't trust me and I didn't trust him but no one cheated or anything as we were barely exclusive). This was back ... (226 words)

My married lover has given his wife 6 months to give him more sex. What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (?) age 41-50 - Im 35 and single and I met this 38 year old guy that has been married for 15years, we started off just being cool and each time we saw one another he would always talk about his wife saying things like how bad she treats him, how he let his wife handle his step daughter at home ... (527 words)

Have you ever felt so tired that you just want to give up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Has anyone ever been tired,like you just want to give up..for the past 4 months I'm under a lot of stress and worry,which is affecting my health..I'm a full time student and my course is taking over my life!I'm awaiting my results now,and I'm soo scared and nervous..my parents ... (106 words)

Why is this confident man so submissive towards his wife???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it normal for a high-profile man who manages people with a high level of confidence to be completely subdued by his wife and her rude remarks and nagging without him ever complaining? I have noticed this about a couple I know and can't figure out why he doesn't talk back to ... (62 words)

Stepping over the friendship zone into dating. Is it worth the risk?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - A very good friend of mine has recently told me he likes me as more than a friend and I think I have feelings for him too but am unsure. We've been very close for a few years, see eachother a couple of times a week, but have never ever overstepped the friends boundary. We get ... (174 words)

Ex girlfriend who attacked me is pregnant, what to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - We lived together for a year and she was pregnant once before, which I fully supported, but unfortunately the baby was unhealthy to the point where doctors advised an abortion. Fast forward a few months and one night after a stupid argument, during which she started to scratch ... (869 words)

I am devastated. Girlfriend pregnant and wants an abortion

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, My gf got pregnant, we found it out today. We were both anxious when the news came. I'm 20, she's 19, we've been together for only 2 years, but we already made our minds about the future. We never had any unprotected sex, but as her period started to de... (334 words)

I can't climax with my boyfriend. How can I relieve the sexual tension?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have a sex question. I posted about this topic yesturday but have more to add. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "horny" when im around... (209 words)

I gave my b/f alot of money not expecting it back but I feel selfish because he still hasn't even gotten me a christmas gift. Am I wrong to feel this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Around Christmas time, things were pretty rough for my boyfriend of 2 years; he had just recently gotten into a new career after being unemployed for several months, and was in desperate need of money in order to put a down payment on a car/car insurance, etc... I, also ... (342 words)

I've known him for approx. 3 months, we don't have any mutual friends -- should I continue to pursue this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met him over a camp of sorts, where students across schools came together to discuss about local issues and give opinions on them. It spanned over a week or so, whereby only on the last 3 days, we actually got to know each other, and interacted. In the process of those 3 days ... (683 words)

I told my ex lover's wife that he cheated on her. Was I wrong to do so?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - It seems that I destroied a new marriage and hurt the couple, however before that I was the one who suffers most. 1.5yrs ago, I met my ex bf, at the 2nd meeting/dating, he told me that" I have a girl in Thailand, I have been with her ttaly for 6 weeks during the past 1.5 yea... (588 words)

Girls: is this a way to spark a girl's interest? what would be the possible reaction, if guitar solo performances (my own), were included in the flashdrive with legal software being given as a gift by to a fellow student?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. I am here for a question that might open a lot of doors for me. Here is my story. I have been lonely for 2 years now after my ex girlfriend left me for someone else and several rejections since then have made me numb. I came to USA 2 years ago and I did not have e... (512 words)

A needy, clingy woman got my man. How come this happened?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am so through with relationships and men. I am an independent woman, smart, beautiful and keeps myself busy never clingy. Met a good guy and helped him, even when he didn't have a job and no money, but now he's run off with a clingy girl. What did I do wrong? What do m... (297 words)

Friendly or Flirting? What are the signs a guy is genuinely flirting, and not just being friendly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Are these signs of flirting? 1. Staring or gazing at you. 2. Complimenting a woman on how she looks such as "Wow, you are beautiful," "I've been watching you--I see you and you are such a feminine woman," "You are one of the few people who makes my day," "I hope to see yo... (433 words)

Does being "up front" about wanting a FWB relationship means you are now a "decent" human being?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Why is it that men (and women) think that just because, they are being "honest" about wanting a FWB type of relationship in the beginning, that they are somehow a "decent" and upstanding human being? For instance, if someone who was going to rob your home, walked up to you... (380 words)

I gave up my job, my apartment for him but his controlling wife won't let him go

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Since 2 years I am in a relationship with a man. After a while I found out that he is married and has a 9 years old daughter. We were leaving in different countries and he didnt tell me from the start that he is married and has a kid. His marriage with his wife survived... (362 words)

We're half way across the world, spend a day together. Am I crazy for thinking of trying to pursue this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy recently while I was travelling overseas in Germany. He came over to me and said for some reason he just felt the need to talk to me. We hit it off just fine and spent the day and night together hanging out. He wanted me to stay longer but unfortunately I had to ... (322 words)

Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right to be upset that he went on ... (180 words)

My partner uses sex like he is in control of a game

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Why doesn't he want a intimate relationship. My partner and I have been back together for 7 months. We have never had a active sex life but did manage one of twice a month maybe but it's been almost 3 months and he shows no interest in me sexually at all, in fact I feel more ... (212 words)

Am I thinking too far ahead? Would Western parents accept a large age gap if their daughter married a man 10 years older?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in Australia but am not a westerner. I like a girl 10 years younger than me,she is 18 years old. I think she also likes me. But I am not sure.Is it possible because of age different she might be thinking the less possibility of marriage. Does western parents would accept... (73 words)

It's complicated. He will visit me. But often pushes for more physical content than I want. But he discourages me visiting him. Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Have been into a relationship with a guy for more than 4 years now we both love each other. He calls me and he pays me a visit. I need a new jobc so that occupies my time, but I'm less busy in weekends. Each time i pay him visit he kisses me on my neck n touches my boobs eve... (117 words)

Serious Anger issues. Does she really love me? Or is she just playing games?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Need some serious help from you cupid experts so i hope i can try make this short. recent behavior from my gf is worrying me, or maybe its 'affirming' my intuition about what women really want and what there true agenda is. Basically me gf's behavour has been really... (1169 words)

I think he's suffered a lot of abuse. How can I calm down my aggressive boyfriend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my current boyfriend just under a year. He's had a pretty unfortunate life up till this point and I suppose you could say suffered a lot of abuse from a young age (though I don't know any details as I avoid asking him about it). Anyway, I noticed he is a pret... (317 words)

Am I not good enough for him? I'm pregnant but all he does is talk to his ex. Am I crazy wanting him to leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I am currently pregnant and since I've gotten pregnant all he does is talk to his exs. I feel like I am not good enough for him and that he is looking for someone else. I don't wanna lose him but he can't ever be hone... (306 words)

Could I be bi-sexual? Can open-minded be considered a sexuality?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've questioned what my sexuality or how to define my sexuality ever since I was a child. It's probably been about 13 to 15 years long I have questioned this. Can open-minded be considered a sexuality? I grew up keeping to myself, and really trying not to think what or who ... (314 words)

He's disparaging about others.Am I being too insensitive here or would anyone feel hurt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, everyone So i just wanted to hear objective thoughts on something that hurt me. I don't know if i'm being sensitive about it or what. Here's the story. I recently told my friend that i'm into him because my feelings were bigger than me. He didn't realy say muc... (219 words)

I cheated and fell in love. Is this new guy the 'one'? Should I dump my Bf of 3 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I live in Europe and I come to NYC 2-3 times a year for holidays, Christmas etc. My whole family lives here (parents and sisters). My friend came here once with me, and now he says that he doesn't feel like it because he feels like there is no point of seeing NYC for the ... (348 words)

Still in contact with his ex! Am I overreacting? Should I let it go? I am quite convinced he is serious about us

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have had a beautiful relationship. We we met while we both were in London due to our work responsiblities. The four months we were together it was nothing less than heaven. He had to move to US after that and I had to return to India.Two days before he was leaving i found o... (394 words)

Should I give her time? She broke up with me because she says my actions are like a kid, and she is more free.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend told me that she needs space and broke up with me. She told me that she needs some time. It started when our friend texted her if I told my sister where i am because she seems surprised that I did no tell her that me and my girlfriend will be dining at her aunts... (247 words)

My husband is ignoring our latest baby. He wants to play video games. Does help his mother. Yet ignores us, his family. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This may sound really dumb and not a big deal. But I know men have their down time.... But my husband is obsessed with video games, has been since he was a child. I'm a stay home mom, and my husband works all day. We have a sixth month baby boy, and he doesn't even get... (318 words)

I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

9 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all my heart and I really c... (506 words)

He thinks we're in a relationship, but we haven't had a date yet! How do I deal with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I agreed to a blind date suggested by a mutual friend of myself and the gentleman in question. We spoke in person just long enough to arrange the date, but haven't actually gone out yet. I've just learned that he changed his Facebook status to "in a relationship" shortly ... (103 words)

I was OK to sleep with. But he said he could'nt give me what I wanted. How do I cope with this, and the fact he now has a Gf?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. Back in September, I moved into a shared house with three other people. Two of them I didn't know before, but there had always been chemistry between me and this other person. This other person and I have been close ever since we met. I can say that I've known ... (634 words)

My Bf talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid I feel that my bf of 3 years talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me, other times he never calls, ignores me and bullies me. I have already given him a lot of money for this student loan. I don't have any proof for this though. What should I do... (67 words)

Should I be reading books on how to interact with women or are there other successful strategies? I'm a virgin.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (?) age 30-35 - Is it worth reading books like "The Game" by Neil Strauss or similar pick up methods with women? I'm a virgin who has only had one girlfriend. I am going back to college in two weeks and want to be able to get girls interested in me because my confidence is at an alltime lo... (166 words)

Was I too quiet at a work dinner party? I'm older than them and the're cliquey. Or were they mean asking me to sit alone at a table, as I'm vegetarian?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - We had our work post Christmas party last week, at a restaurant. I arrived slightly late but a few people came after me. I'm older than 80%-90% of my colleagues, didn't bring a partner, (as I have none) and I have a little bit of social anxiety, and am shyer in big groups, ... (696 words)

I hoped splitting up with my husband would result in Bf wanting to be closer. So why is he now hesitant about us getting closer?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age - Hello People I am married unhappily, and have been seeing this younger guy for 3 years, i am 51, he is 45. We see each other once ot twice weekly, at the beginning he said it was like a FWB relationship, as time has passed, i have got a lot closer to him, but we still do not ... (386 words)

Do I choose my boyfriend, or my home country?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This is about the choices I have. My boyfriend has decided to live in another country, as he's found there some really good educational and professional opportunities. I am still a student myself, went to university overseas, but before we got together I had my heart set on ... (355 words)

I'm realizing that I'm clingy, needy and selfish. What can I do about the state of my current relationship?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

9 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 36 and didn't realize that I was clingy and needy and selfish to my own needs until January 3rd 2013. I've been like this for as long as I can remember (needy and clingy)and never realized it until my boyfriend and I started having some serious problems. He's still mourning... (586 words)