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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

The elephant in the room wont go away

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I wrote several months ago about my husband's old secret destroying both a marraige and friendship. Friend turned out to be an uknown to me old lover who was trying to destroy my marraige over the years by saying nasty things. I was so called friends with her and her hubby and ... (307 words)

Are men intimidated by smart women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Before i start rambling and telling the story behind my question..guess i should jump straight to it. Are men intimidated by smart women? So i'm 17, and not gettin into this whole subject, but i'm really close friends with a 35 year old that i've known for quite a few year... (180 words)

Should I even pursue something more with him or is it just a sex thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a man last year while he was on vacation in the states (from South Africa) we had insane chemistry and hooked up a couple of times during his week long stay). We stayed in touch after he left (facebook, emails etc) Usually friendly interactions, a little flirtati... (215 words)

Are these withdrawal thoughts or should I have given him another chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - We broke up this week after just over a year together. I did a huge amount to make things work on my end. He was young, but even his closest friends saw him change positively for being with me. I blew so much out of proportion, but he also has no filter and didn't make a real ... (241 words)

Is romance really dead?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I never know how to start these. Bear with me. I am pretty sure I am in love with romance. Never a good sign, I know. Problem is, this has been a life long love. I have been working on everything about me: my weight, my confidence, my appearance (pimple-city lol), and yet I ... (216 words)

How do I tell my fwb guy that I am pregnant?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I really need your help I have just found out I'm pregnant by my fwb of 9 months I have asked him if we are gonna be together someday and he said yes but how am I gonna tell him I'm pregnant he has a daughter from a previous relationship and I have a son from a ... (87 words)

Her lies and her temper are an issue. But I miss her. Should I move on from her or try harder to regain her affection?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, I dated a girl for 6 months and we broke up 3 weeks ago over her lying and my temper. She had a very tough past but since she had a child a year ago and with the help of a very supportive family, she totally turned her life around to become a great person. She moved in... (876 words)

He's a long term friend since childhood days. Could it be that he likes me?

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7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - ive known this boy for as long as i can remember and when we were little ( 5 or 6) we used to always play kiss chase and hold hands and be really cute so until i was like 12 everyone thought we liked each other which at that time i didnt but recently ive gotten quite close with ... (184 words)

I kissed a guy today. But now I'm freaking out. How do I deal with my confused feelings?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I kissed my friend today. We are both the same age, it felt really nice. That was hours ago and now i am feeling really low about it all. I think we were both half expecting the other to punch when it happen but we really did kiss. It just happened and neither of us pulled ... (130 words)

Why do most girls prefer to let hell freeze before speaking up and telling a guy they like them? Rejection isn't a good enough excuse.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello! My name is Scott and I have a question about women. "Why is it that most women would let hell freeze before they tell a guy they like them?" I'm pretty sick and tired of asking girls this and the only thing they can think of is not wanting to be rejected which I t... (456 words)

Is a 3 year age gap too much?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Ive recently met a girl who i like. We havent done anything yet, but we get on really well and have been seeing each other a bit. Thing is though, there is a bit of an age gap. Im 20 and she is 17. Is that ok? Im from the UK and the legal age of consent is 16 so its not wrong ... (119 words)

He doesn't 'feel that way about me'. I'm feeling gutted. How do I face him next time I see him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need some advice from anyone. The guy ive fallen for told me he doesnt see me that way and just wants us to be friends. I feel really crushed ive never liked anyone like this before. I cant stop thinking about him and i see him everyday which makes it so much hard... (108 words)

To guys: why do you take so long to reply to a text a girl sends to you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - me and this guy have been talking, and he mostly starts the conversation and it seems that he is interested in me and I am interested in him too. But why does it take him so long to reply when I text him? Guys why do you take long to reply back? ... (52 words)

Break up, get back together, but this time, for two months, he ignores me, why?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Ive been broken up with my ex for 3 months now. We are always splitting up and getting back together. We are usually trading insults through texts. For 2 months he has ignored me and not replied to anything or even argued. I have sent insults only to get his reaction. Now ... (85 words)

Boyfriend asks me to download porn since he doesn't have a computer!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - is it wrong for me getting upset that my "fiancee" watches to much porn even after i had told him that it bothers me that he do, he even watches it in front of me when we get in to a argument and even asks me to download his favorites for him because he doesnt have a computer, ... (64 words)

Why did this woman back off after I ended the relationship with my girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok. So I recently got out of a nearly two year relationship. My girlfriend and I were long distance and weren't able to see eachother that often.When we were together we both had accounts on OkCupid looking for friends (but thats it). A few weeks ago I met a wonderful woman ... (226 words)

How can I become my husband's best friend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been married 14 year and the first couple of years were good but then i got insecure and snooped and as he says i was controlling him for a long time. I have been going to counseling but haven't quite been there the last couple months but she is having me work on me so... (438 words)

I had female surgery when I was young does that mean I won't have a good sex life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I had fGC(female genital cutting) when i was young, i had part of my clitoris removed and the clitoral hood too, that's what my mom told me but when i looked downthere i couldn't find any trace for the clit. let's say that i have no clitrois, does this mean that my sex life is ... (113 words)

I had a dream before I met her, now I don't know what to do, suggestions needed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Life is as crazy and mysterious as one can make it, right? But some stuff are completely out of ours hands. It was that what occured to me around half 2011 when I stayed a weekend at my best mate's place. That morning, I awoke to a very vivid dream since it was the one I ha... (628 words)

I don't think my boyfriend wants to be with me anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am in a relationship and have been for about 6 weeks now, but I don't think my boyfriends want to be with me anymore. Last night I went to the pub with my friends and he went with his, but all the time were there he never said a word to me then as he was going he was l... (133 words)

I love him but seen him with his girlfriend. Does he have feelings for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. iv been friends with a guy 4 quite sometime now. I tinks he likes me but i really do love him. He told me loves me and asked if i'd. I lied to him dat i jst wanted him as my friend (i thought he didn't mean it) nd he's ok with dat. Eventually, my closet friend told me he ... (89 words)

Should I take a shot or is it gameover?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M) - Met this girl(shes 29) on christmas eve and I(Im 32) liked her straight off the bat. Shes the sister of my friends girlfriend(if you can get your head around that). She was acting all nervous around me and not making direct eye contact, I got a vibe that she liked me too. So on ... (343 words)

Will she realize how much she hurt me and contact me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age - Ok a few weeks ago i was telling everyone and asking for help in the area of love . I find myself still going around in circles and dating but nothing in my heart is ringing my bell as they would say . I met a gal december of 2010 and have also had relations with her yes I'm ... (478 words)

Our relationship ended but why couldn't we have stayed friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4492 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok here am going straight to the point. i have been in a relationship for about 8years although the last 5 part of has been a long distanced. we haven't seen each other in almost 6years. after much ups and downs i decided to ent the relationship as i wasn't feeling it anymore. ... (154 words)

Any suggestions to help find a job, desperation setting in?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, im going to try not to long. I am an event management graduate and I have been unemployed since last year July. I use to live with my boyfriend since I started university but once I finished university I had to move back to my parents house as I didn’t have a ... (144 words)

I wanna profess my lesbian love to my friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello I'm Korean so u might dont understand some sentences. sorry! I'm biesexual and I had my first luv with my best friend 3 years ago. Our first meeting was in the middle. We were really really close and we always hang out together. When I was with her, I was sooo happy e... (325 words)

Does he love me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - A guy and i have been friends for sometime now. Lately, he told me he loves... i'd love him but i dont know if he means it. Ive seen him with all kinds of girls. Some even touching his hair. Because of this i told him we should remain as friends. He keeps buying me gifts. Does ... (60 words)

Is this guy's behavior strange?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I hope this is not confusing. David, Diana, Melane, and several other people work together. David attitude towards Diana is very bad after several years of knowing her. Recently, he has been forming friendships with all her close friends, especially the ones that are always t... (367 words)

I'm being ignored by my long-term FWB!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, a few weeks ago my fwb told me he loved me over the phone (I did post about it here) I thought he was joking as he shows no signs of this "love" and said "no you don't" I had to go straight after as I was hiding in the toilets at work on my phone at the time. He text me ... (174 words)

Should I have kicked him to the curb or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because we have major trust issues! We have both done wrongs to eachother but it became to much to handle for me. Im tired of breaking up over and over because of the same trust issue! Neighter of us want eachother to ... (169 words)

Can someone love you if you don't love yourself?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - hey i was wonderweing, can someone love you if you dont love yourself? or how can you love yourself?... (20 words)

She's with another guy now but I want her back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, please help me! I recently broke up with my gf of 5 years due to my gf was in love with some one else. The problem is she is now with this fella and has been for a while, yet she stopd at my house and we ended up makin love. (With out using protection) This is makin ... (92 words)

I want to finish breaking up with him but it is so difficult!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I find my boyfriend quite controlling and am trying to break up with him. Last weekend I went out with a girl friend and he was texting all night saying he missed me and then at 2:30 he phoned me when I was asleep, saying I should be with him and accusing me of sleeping with ... (439 words)

Does being on a few dates mean you are together as boyfriend and girlfriend? Or am I understanding this wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My best friend is seeing a guy, but yet she flirts with other guys and she kissed someone on new years!? Am i being silly thinking that she's cheating and that she shouldn't be doing this... I told her, but she said that she has been seeing the guy for only two weeks and th... (163 words)

Told my married man who was deciding between me and his wife that I wasn't playing second fiddle, not sure I did the right thing!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4397 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been working with this married man for 4 years everyone at work including him has told me that he really liked me, i asked hes best friend to tell him to leave me alone,as i knew he was married as the years went on we became really good friends talking about everything,, ... (217 words)

I'm having second thoughts about meeting this online guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, so i have a bit of a dilemma. well i met this guy online about 5 months ago now. and we've been in constant contact and been getting on really well and so far really like each other. we havent been able to meet because he lives quite a distance away and iv been busy... (229 words)

Is my size normal for my age?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - i want to know if my penis size is normal im 16 and my penis is only 7 and a half inches... (22 words)

My boyfriend says he's not in love with me anymore. Is it worth trying to win him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi there ...my boyfriend and i have been together for three years and i love him very much he's my first love also my first boyfriend but recently he told me that he don't love me anymore so i went on to ask him if he's not in love anymore or he does not love me anymore. is ... (195 words)

Would you read your partner's diary if they accidently left it out?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - If your significant other left a notebook or journal at your place by accident, would you read it? Do you think you could resist, or would curiosity get the best of you?... (33 words)

I'm no longer the popular girl and I don't like it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. I've had this big problem with some friends. I have always been that popular person and I'm happy with that. But recently this girl started getting popular and I got really jealous cause most of my friends would rather hang out with her.. EVEN MY BF! I'm not an att... (93 words)

He says he is too tired to have sex.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4494 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - i have be with my boyfriend for 2 years we are both older and have kids from other parnters we both work long hours on the farm sometime 12 hours a day. We use to have sex all the time but now it maybe once a month sometime I ask if he want to make love but instead he will stay ... (139 words)

He never treats me right

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4494 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm new to this and I'm not a person who would normally ask for help, BUT I really feel like I need a 2nd opinion on my situation. I am 24 years old. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17. He is 10 years older than me at 33 years old. We have no children. He ... (367 words)

He won't come and say goodbye to me ....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid I am leaving in 2 days out of state for few months for my work. It would be difficult for my bf to visit me once i leave, its very expensive. So i asked him to come and visit me once before i leave, i cannot visit him right now cause i have a lot to pack and do s... (156 words)

I'm pregnant and he is threatening me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Need some advice. Ive been with my partner 2 yrs I am now 22 wks pregnant with a baby girl. My partner never wanted the baby he demanded an abortion which I booked and.couldn't go through with. Made it clear he doesn't have to be here ive made the rescission to keep her he can ... (142 words)

Sleeping with my boss and dating a new guy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi i have been sleepin with my boss for around six months now but we made an agreement to keep it just sex cuz it wud never work. hes about 20 years older than me, very busy wudnt have time for me properly. i started to get attatchd so i get pissd off wen i cant see him wen ... (212 words)

How can I either improve my singing voice or learn to feel comfortable with it as is?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - At school I got put in a class that I didn't pick because what I picked was full. The class I got put in was chorus and I can't sing at all. Today we song and I was the one that stuck out because I had the worst voice so I had to practice in front of everybody. Still I was lo... (183 words)

I think my boyfriend is controlling and he dislikes physical intimacy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a few months. Our relationship has been very hectic, there was this period where I had terrible rashes and could not leave the house. He started to act distant towards me and my friend told me he was flirting with other ... (287 words)

What exactly does 'taking it to the next level' mean?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - What does it mean to you "take it to the next level" regarding relationships? I hear this all the time and I'm starting to doubt what this means. Please share your definitions. I know what it means to feel closer or more distant and even have conversations or conflict... (277 words)

Some questions about 'doggie style'

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3610 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'm 20 and had some questions about doggy style. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I have never really wanted to pursue this position because there is not really any eye contact and feels more like a "get her done" position. For some reason t... (225 words)

Unsatisfied with immature boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone. I have a question regarding my boyfriend. We're both 28 years old, I've known him for just over ten years, we dated for a bit but until the last year had been just friends. We had a one night fling 18 months ago... and now we have a nine month old son. We've ... (477 words)

Is another relationship in our future?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4494 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'll keep this as straight forward as possible. My ex (25) and I (20) broke up in August. It was mutually decided. A few months later he began dating someone for a short time, maybe 2 months, while I remained single. We didn't talk during that time. I was absolutel... (585 words)

Please help me endure my first breakup at 37 years old!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4494 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Just ended my 1st relationship ever. We started when I was 35. He was 22. We fit eachother perfectly as we were both awkward lonely people. We understood each so well about so much. However, I ran hot, he ran cold. I blew some things out of proportion and wonder if I should've ... (228 words)

Am I just someone he uses to fill his time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey Agony Aunts thanks in advance for reading my question and any help you can give. So here goes, I really like this guy we text and phone each other all the time from morning to night, all days including weekends we have spent some time alone together although to be h... (126 words)

I love him so much but my heart is so broken.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4494 days ago

7 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Last night my boyfriend was acting unusual so I asked him lets discuss what was going on . So we begin to talk and he tes me he doesnt wanna be in a relationship because he cant deal with it and it is impossible for him to just talk to one girl.So I asked him was I the only ... (214 words)