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*nna mills
writes:hi there ...my boyfriend and i have been together for three years and i love him very much he's my first love also my first boyfriend but recently he told me that he don't love me anymore so i went on to ask him if he's not in love anymore or he does not love me anymore. is there a difference? how could someone be with someone that long and not love them?? is that even possible?? then i ask him again do u love me or you are not in love with me anymore?? he went on to say he's not in love anymore. to me it was a big turn off for me i cried alot. this happened on Monday we had sex tuesday and talked about it a little thurday. he called and said it just got a little boring. what i want to know is does it really mean that our relationship needs a little spicing up? is it worth a try or should i move on with my life ?? what should i do? i really need some advice
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reader, Anna mills +, writes (7 January 2012):
Anna mills is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all will give u and up date as to what going on thank you all for taking the time to help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): Put space between you ASAP. I also agree it's NOT your job to spice it up. Do your own thing to show him you can do great on your own. It will also keep your mind off the bf problems. Try to enjoy yourself and he might come crawling back when he sees there's a lot of lame chicks out there. If he does, don't make it easy for him. Warning! DOnt hold your breath. Do your own thing too!
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reader, Daddybear  +, writes (7 January 2012):
Im in the same situation, my gf recently ended it due to her not being in love with me, heres wat I did, seemed to work,
I wrote a list of wat I wanted to say and then sat her down and had a heart 2 heart, asked her what feelings she had 4 me, and what changed, I then expresed my feelings and she told me she was confused bout every thing. So we went out for a romantic meal and drinks. Wen we got home she said sorry and that she loves me mre than ever. Bt that just my experiance, another way is have time apart, they say u dnt no wat u got til its gone, give it a week apart and dnt contact him, if he contacts u within that week his love 4 u wud most def b there, hope tht helps
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reader, Starlights +, writes (7 January 2012):
 If he says he is not in love with you it simply means that he is not feeling the passion anymore.
Alot of people stay married for 50 years and are not in love this is possible unfortunately.
If he says he is bored of you.. thats a big sign to move on.
Someone who really loves you wont be so shallow enough to say its boring.
AND its not YOUR job to spice it up,
its a joint responsibility to make the relationship work. He has to want to do his part too.
I suggest you ask him for a final time, does he want to be with you? if he doesn't however hard it is, stop having sex with him and let him go.
Trust me neither of you will be happy if there IS NO LOVE exchange between you. Talk to him.
Goodluck!
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