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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What is best to ask are we exclusive or what is happening with us?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have decided I'm going to ask the guy I've been seeing for about 2 months now where our relationship is going do you think this is a suitable time too? He has introduced me to some of his family and friends which i take as a good sign but has never introduced me as his gf. ... (117 words)

Why won't my long-term boyfriend be my Facebook friend?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. We're stable and recently moved in with each other and we've never had trust issues (no concerns of cheating, etc). It's been an ongoing joke for a while now that once we move in together we should probably take the plunge and ... (349 words)

He said mean things to me only because he was mad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - what would u do or think if your bf tells u are clingy annoying and needy....and then when u tell him if u think im all those thing why are u with me.then he tells u he was just mad and that he does love u and that i need to just enjoy being togther what would u thiink of that?... (61 words)

Fiance broke off with me to be with friend, now wants me back. Can I trust her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi Guys I need some much needed advice, sorry this is soo long winded just need to get all the facts in to get the best advice that may change my life.... I met the girl of my dreams 3 years ago and it was basically love at first sight after going out for about 9 months w... (517 words)

We're in a FWB relationship, would it work out if we wanted to go into a real relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

- So I've been seeing this guy since this past Christmas and we've just been sleeping together. We had an understanding that we would just be friends with benefits, but he seems to be taking things to another level, one that feels like we're actually in a relationship. I'm still ... (162 words)

I feel such an outcast in school

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - This is just a rant. I feel so lonely in school. I'm a straight-A student who takes all honors/AP courses. I'm not a "nerd", I just enjoy learning. Anyway, I used to be popular in this school. I switched here four years ago, and for the first two years, I had so many friends.... (395 words)

My boyfriend is moving away

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is moving away in about 6 months to his hometown and he is moving later on to another continent for his job. I really wanna go with him but i cannot travel because of lack of documents. There is two options, one is a very long process that takes up to 15 years and ... (212 words)

How can I make him understand it's too late?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I could use some advise if anyone has any "insight" or experience or wise words... I have an ex-boyfriend who doesn't seem to understand what's wrong with what he does... Short: We date 3 years. He's always been open about having a crush on another girl ("Mads", from hi... (386 words)

How do I open up his heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. He's my first for everything, but he has had a few girls before me. I've somehow learned that he was very much affected by one of his past relationships with a "crazy bitch" as he puts it...so much so that he has ... (448 words)

My guy's great, but oral is BORING!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I find it incredibly boring when my BF goes down on me. We've been intimate for about 3 months now and have decided not to have intercourse yet, but we've done just about everything else in the book (or outside it). My guy is great, he really turns me on, he's exciting and ... (111 words)

Husband is watching porn on our honeymoon!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I are on ourhoneymoon and we were about to get in the hot tube in our room (ending in having sex) but when I looked over I saw he was on his computer watching porn. As I was walking over he quickly exited out of it. I confronted him and he said he was just ... (152 words)

Attached man, but on a dating website. Really?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a man for eight months. We live together and I feel we know each other quite well. He says he is very much in love with me. He's been divorced for more than 15 years and says he hasn't felt this way about another woman, since his first wife whom I know he ... (844 words)

Any suggestions on how to commit to someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 20 years old and I've had 14 sex partners since I've been sexually active at 16 years old. I have only been in one real relationship in my life, and that was with my first. I'm currently talking to this boy and I like him. We been talking since July and when I had went away ... (163 words)

What can I do to help myself feel better?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having a lot of issues lately with my self image. Whenever I talk to anyone about it they think I'm crazy because an attractive woman with a lot to offer. Even though I know that I still can't manage to feel worth much. My boyfriend and I have been together over 5 ... (662 words)

I'm on the chase, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - the boy i like, i think he has the idea that i like him by rumours. However, i dont think he believes them but has something on his conscious that makes him believe. I want to show him with out being to blantant and without telling i have his number and we are friends but not ... (72 words)

My husband's drinking is making me uncomfortable

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Im concerned about how often/much my husband is drinking. He is a big guy so it takes a lot to get him drunk and even if he does get drunk he is ok, not nasty or silly or anything. But I think im worried if this will continue when we decide to have children. I see him drin... (205 words)

I guess I'm depressed but I don't know what to do about it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My mood switches a lot. I’ll be happy and content then I’ll be breaking down in tears. I’ve been like this for the last 3 years or so. For a while I hardly ate, started smoking, drank a lot, and self harmed. I stopped all of that over a year ago, but I still feel miserabl... (198 words)

My girlfriend always had sex without a condom and it really bothers me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2315 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi folks, I have a kind of a weird problem: I've found the girl of my dream, we are together for 6 months, and I love her. I told myself I'll make sex without a condom only with my wife. The problem is that she's never used a condom before, the other guys just pulled it out b... (181 words)

Why do men send flowers?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - What does it mean when a guy sends you flowers? Does it mean he likes you or he's expressing his feelings for you indirectly?... (24 words)

Am I right to be annoyed by my fiancés constant texting other guy mates?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My fiancé is always texting one of two guys! everyday without fail. even some mornings before she goes to work. we've been together for 7 years, engaged for 1. she's been texting the same two guys everyday for like a year, and it really gets on my nerves. we'll sit and wa... (245 words)

Why did my ex contact me after 3 months? What does he want?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hy would he email me after 3months of no contact? what does he want? I loved my ex boyfriend so much. But he dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship anymore. I so hurt. He wanted to be friends I said no. But I gave it a shot, I thought we were getting back tog... (192 words)

Is this a battle of trust and freedom or the need to keep the one thing that is destorying my marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - He left cause he didn't know what he wanted anymore. We still go to counseling and the counselor suggested that we start having a date night once a week. Cause how else is he suppose to figure out what he wants. The other thing he suggested is that we put a block back on his ... (422 words)

I feel like I'm turning into a evil and wicked person but I'm not sure if I like it or hate it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys I'm a bit upset at the moment so I thought I'd ask for some advice for change. I'm the kind of guy people always seem to come to for advice and with their problems. I've never had a problem with it before, I actually felt kind of respected like some kind of young sa... (531 words)

When I ask him whats going on with us he tells me I'm pressuring him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone sorry if this is long just this situation is really confusing me I moved home over a year ago now three months after being here I met a man that lived very close to me I thought we would be a couple as that's what I was looking for a proper boyfriend someone to do ... (332 words)

Should I reveal my feelings to my professor?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in love with my professor.I'm a 2nd year student in college. I don't know why but I'm crazy beacause I always think of him every time. Actually I have just bought him a book because he loves to read. Maybe he already an idea that i like him.I just want to ask what should I ... (68 words)

Casual relationships....

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am divorced,have huge trauma for marriage and relationship. about a half year ago, I met an European guy on one SNS and agreed to have a casual relationship while I am in holiday in his country. (I never had a casual relationship before but at this time I was curious ... (682 words)

22 and never dated!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 22 and I have never dated not even for half a day.its not because I'm a prude nut I don't want to make mistakes.Right now I have a number of great guys(and I mean great) who want to date me. I've had people tell me to try it first and see if it works but I am of the ... (137 words)

Does this mean he likes me and it might go somewhere? Or is he just being friendly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4472 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys! I am feeling very lonely lately. This thing that i'm not in a relationship, and never really had one, is really putting me down. So i got some points that i wanted to ask you a question about. If a guy: *you saw only once, and you add him on fb, and he starts me... (222 words)

Getting frustrated with his lack of proposal.....how long were you together before you got engaged? What is the average?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am rather depressed of late. I am 28, and I've been with my partner for three years, he's 26. It seems that everyone around me is getting either married, or engaged... But me. I am starting to feel left behind and frustrated with my partner's lack of proposal. We have spoken ... (291 words)

Worried she has manipulated me to cover half of her mortgage to sort out her financial situation, how do I explain to her I've changed my mind and want to start fresh in a new property?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing my gf for 9 months now and living with her for about 5. I recently sold a flat and moved in with her whilst looking for a new one. I was about to buy a place but my gf appeared upset by the prospect of me moving out so I didn't and suggested that I take over ... (320 words)

My boyfriend drinks every night, how can I tell him to stop when I have been joining in for the last year?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I didn't know my boyfriend drank a few glasses of wine every day until we moved in together. He started getting me a glass when I come home from work and gradually we got into the habit of at least 3 or 4 glasses per day but more for him. I feel as if our lives revolve ar... (94 words)

My boyfriend got angry because I am too small for sex! What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - my vagina is too small for me to have sex. my boyfriend got angry!!! what can i do? should I make it bigger? but how?... (25 words)

She gave her number to another man while we were out on a date! Now she hasn't spoken to me since, has she traded me in for him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok so iv just split with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years,as we no longer got on. I can't believe my luck when i meet a stunning girl who show's an interest in me straight away. We've seen each other now a few time,though its been at her house. Last Friday we decided ... (340 words)

My husband is set on naming our baby after a child his mother miscarried years ago and I know I will regret chosing this name....what should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4126 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am officially 3 months pregnant!! I have been thinking of names... The only problem is that my husband is set on the name Zoe, which i love, but i know he wants that name because his mother had picked that name for her baby that she miscarried a long time ago. I wouldnt feel ... (101 words)

My older girlfriend wants to settle down but I don't feel that attracted to her anymore, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been dating this girl for almost a year and a half, she is 5 years older than me and maybe this September we will be going our own ways. She may be in other cities pursuing school. I have to option of completing my degree where she would be going to school but I am ... (294 words)

When he is drunk he says he want to marry me, when he is sober he is more cautious

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4491 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. He has been saying we must get married, he can't wait for me to be his wife and how wonderful our relationship is and how we must be together forever but mostly after he's had a few drinks and when he is not drinking he will hardly ... (174 words)

What do you think about during sex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am curious to know what other people think about during sex. I asked a girlfriend this once and she laughed and then started to speak, but then declined to answer saying that it would ruin it for her if she told me. I am guessing my wife probably thinks about w... (234 words)

Thinking about leaving my career for a few years when I have children to avoid daycare costs, is this wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Just wanting others honest opinions on this and what I should do! I'm university educated, been in a great job since uni. My partner also has a great secure job. We both earn an average wage so not high but not something we struggle on. I did invest a lot of time and money i... (337 words)

My girlfriend is losing interest in me?

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10 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - It'll make almost a year since I've starting dating my girlfriend. Even at this age, she's was my first (even my first kiss). At the start, everything was perfect, she was all over me, maybe too much even, I was kinda scared at first. It wasn't until we had our fist night of ... (790 words)

He'd rather watch football than hang out with me and my parents

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So this weekend me and my family are going out and we always invite my bf. so i called him and he said that he couldn't go because he is going to be watching football that day.so i got kinda hurt that he would rather watch football then hang out with me. Am i over reacting or ... (65 words)

Does my childhood friend like me or just using me as a replacement?

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10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My childhood friend I have known since we were born and we hang out every time our parents would hang out. We don't frequently see each other and we also go to different schools but we still live kind of close to each other. Lately now that we are older we hang out more and ... (724 words)

It's been over a month since we saw each other

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I've been dating this girl and we met early November. We went out a few times that month and slept together twice. She was very affectionate and so was I. It felt so good we had a few misunderstands nothing major. December she wasn't in town at all as she lives 2 hours ... (328 words)

My husband, the stripper and the bouncer

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - A few days ago, my husband came to me and told me that he had been taken advantage of by a stripper. He had gone to a strip club for lunch and a show. A stripper convinced him to go in the back room for a private dance for $20. Once there, she started to dance, then got down on ... (177 words)

Why do I all of a sudden feel so alone and frustrated with the selfish world? I was always such a happy-go-lucky person before....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi Readers/Agony Aunts/Uncles, Bit of a long one this but hopefully some of you will be able to relate to it... I know it's that happy time of year most what with Christmas and New Year. It can also be a very sad time of year for some. Unfortunately, for a long time I... (918 words)

Is he being unfaithful again? He wants to see me less and less. Frankly I'm sick of it. Am I doing anything wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriens for 1 year, he is everything to me and i love him beyond belief Now, i feel like he doesnt love me as much as i love him, but it has always been this way and its never really botherd me. Yet tonight i realized how he has been wanting to see less... (184 words)

He claims he is just "good friends" with this younger woman? Am I right to end the relationhip and get on with my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4489 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age - About 3 year ago, my boyfriend of 5 years became friends with a woman 20 years younger than him. They work for the same apartment management company and live in the same apartment building. He was seen at an outdoor event with his arms around her and I have since seen pics ... (160 words)

How should I deal with this great guy who seems to be starting to take me for granted?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I are happy. We haven't been dating long (since Thanksgiving) but care about each other deeply. It's a connection neither of us had felt in previous relationships. He constantly talks about the future, and about us sharing the rest of our lives together. There ... (706 words)

Should I be angry? Should I contact him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4488 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am going through my first breakup. As far as I know we weren't having any problems in the relationship. The main reason he broke it off was because he was having some trouble at work and didn't want me to become implicated in some way with what was happening. His fear was ... (656 words)

I'm pretty sure he just wants sex. How do I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4490 days ago

10 January 2012 (?) age 36-40 - Before i write my problem please try not to judge me too harshly. He and i had a casual relationship going for a while and i lost my virginity to him. I was very naive and had never experienced such strong feelings for a guy before so i guess i was blinded and didn't see t... (347 words)

My ex wanted to reconcile, now she's conflicted between me and another guy. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4491 days ago

10 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Don't know how many people here have read my older questions but to start things off me and my ex broke up last summer after a 5 year relationship and things ended in quite an ugly fashion. Last November she contacted me via email stating that she's been thinking of me and that ... (353 words)

Too many red flags here? Or should I have more patience?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

10 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months now. It's still early days I know, but it's also a long enough period to see how the persons personality is etc. My boyfriend had a troubled childhood, his mum ran away aged 5 and his dad beat him for years. He's now 25. ... (456 words)