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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

We had a great connection, now he is ignoring me because of family issues. What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and started talking on facebook things were going good so we started meeting up in real life. He is incredibly attractive and we spent hours upon hours talking and eventually cuddling and kissing eachother. We'd go out for long drives park up and ... (565 words)

He left me with our daughter because he was too busy with classes. Should I wait for him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend of one year broke up Tuesday. why? he works 40 or more hours a week only gets two days off, and goes to school. he is a senior, we have a 5 month old daughter together. we broke up because he said he couldn't handle having a relationship and going to schoo... (302 words)

FWB accuses me of cheating, how can we be a proper couple?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all I have a problem and I don't know what to do I am in a fwb with a man for the past 11 months we started sleeping together and naturally after a few months my feelings grew stronger for him I don't love him but I really like him I talked to him about this he says he would ... (187 words)

I hate being on top, it's way too tiring.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i feel so lazy in bed as i hate being on top, purely because practice will not make perfect and i find it so hard and tiring! im quite short and my legs are quite small, and i feel like i cannot move up and down enough to please him or even myself. any help would be so ... (61 words)

He cheated twice while travelling, why didn't he tell me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years in a very happy relationship.He recently went travelling for 9 months and cheated on me twice once whilst drunk and the other time sober with a girl he had met up with a few times.I only found out after he returned home and i had ... (131 words)

Struggling to decode guys.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi! I was recently talking to a group of my friends (mixed group-guys and gals) and I dropped into conversation that I had a boyfriend-just for the record I don't- but I just wanted to see their reaction but it wasn't what I expected... All my girlfriends were really ... (131 words)

He has a girlfriend, but he keeps flirting with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, so there's a guy I like! We work together in a supermarket, were really close friends, have been since I started over a year ago!! We speak all day, go on a lunch together, breaks together the lot! He walks me home a lot too! We recently had our work Christmas party were ... (222 words)

We argue, don't talk, no sex, no date nights, no vacations. I'm fed up, what do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 31 and my boyfreind is 46, we argue, don't talk for a wek at a time, no sex, he don't take me out movie, dinner, shopping nothing, no vactions together, I'm getting really fed up this being going on for years what should I do?... (46 words)

Is he being insulting to this woman or could he be into me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - So I had a week of holiday and yesterday (during holiday), as I stayed in the city, I went to work where we had a professional training for 2 hours. So I got to the cafeteria where I met most of the colleagues and it happened to show up a fellow colleague I like A LOT. (a ... (261 words)

My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1682 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was ok with that. Until four month... (241 words)

Girl on top worries!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. I am seeing a new guy and we have slept together once, thing is he's dropped a lot of hints that he wants me on top next time. I'm really worried as its not something I've ever been good at I can never seem to get a rhythm and my thighs tire quickly I'm hoping some ... (82 words)

Wait or move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age - A male friend I have been seeing each other for 2 years. He has told me he loves someone in another state. They have been communicating for more than 5 years but she is committed to her family with obligations. The have been intimate three or four times during this time. ... (229 words)

All we've done is argue since we've been together but he is my heart!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so me and my boyfriend has been together for 5 months almost 6 months, and all we do is argue slmost everyday, i love him 2 death and i kno he loves me too. i feel like i am going 2 lose him sooner then later. but i dont want to lose him because he is my heart and another ... (103 words)

I'm not as happy as he is in our relationship. I think I'm falling out of love!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey readers, I think I'm falling out of love with my bf and need some help to understand my emotions and what to do to preserve what we have, or whether we should preserve it, please. We've been together 1 yr 5 months. I no longer get excited when I think about seeing him... (681 words)

I have never enjoyed sex and even wind up feeling like I hate the person who I'm doing it with!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i am now starting to get worried because ever since i started having sex i have never enjoyed it,i only get exited during foreplay but the moment i see we are about to do it exitement goes away i feel pain and i feel bad like "just finish up and leave"at times i feel like i ... (146 words)

Should I marry him or stay with my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay well ive been with my boyfriend now for about 3 years. Ive been through abusive relationships since the 7th grade i am now 19 years old ad i have found true love. Ive never felt this way about someone a i do him, the problem is my family didn't know about my past ... (234 words)

My parents don't want me talking to him...Can I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Im a 17 year old girl from london...Ok so here it goes...November 7th 2010 i met a guy who is from America, California...he was here in london for a holiday on his own...so we exchanged emails and numbers..he went home and emailed me right away..we started talking more and ... (389 words)

My boyfriend told a friend he still misses his ex, what does this mean for us?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Long story short: I stooped through my boyfriend's phone, found a text he sent to his best friend saying that he's been missing his ex a lot lately. They've been broken up for over a year, and we've been together for almost a year. He said he saw on Facebook that she is in a ... (210 words)

My boyfriend admits that he thinks about sex with other girls, am I not enough for him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - im 19/f and my boyfriend is 20/m We've been together for nearly a year, and we love each other alot. i honestly think hes my soulmate and we can both picture our future together perfectly... except now im not so sure anymore. im a very very insecure person. i lost ... (320 words)

Feeling useless being in a long distance relationship with an emotional girl

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm having a long term relationship with an emotional girl for about 1 month. she is very emotional and feeling depressed all the time. we are in love, deeply. because we are living in different countries so I have no idea how to help her. but seeing the person you love being ... (198 words)

She is making an effort to commit to me, so why am I still having trust issues?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4483 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I am still having MASSIVE trust issues despite things going better than most could expect from a relationship. She has booked a wedding venue....says she has stopped taking the Pill so we can start a family, but I am STILL having trust issues. Its insane I know but I can't... (119 words)

I'm sure this older married woman is into me, how do I get her number and get to know her better?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all. Need some advice. I'm 21 years old, and I've been working at my job for over 4 years now. There is a woman who comes in who is significantly older than me (probably mid-30's). She is Colombian, like me (although I don't speak Spanish and she does). I've noticed that she ... (183 words)

I cant put up with my husband's behaviour anymore, but I don't want to throw in the towel less than a year after getting married! What should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have been married since spring of 2011 (not even a year yet). We have the most beautiful 18 month old son and another new baby on the way. Our marriage is anything but newlywed bliss. I think a lot of our stress comes from little income and caring for our son. ... (563 words)

Can abusive men ever change?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Can men who have been abusive with there partners ever be rehabilited and change their behaviour, or is it something deeper within them and there is little that will change them. I have been with a abusive man for 8 yrs and although it is not daily abusive, every now and then ... (124 words)

How do you politely reject someone on the grounds that they might not be "your type"?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - How do you politely reject someone on the grounds that they might not be "your type"? If a woman showed an interest in me, how can I say in a nice way (if I'm not interested) that she is not my type? If a woman told me I was not "her type", I would be a bit offended. But i... (98 words)

Telling someone you like them....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - how do you tell someone you like them without it becoming awkward ? ... (13 words)

He has cheated before and now it seems he is doing the same again, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Well compliments of the new year to every one, my problem is i have been dating a guy for four months and things has been goin pretty well until he started breaking off the communication between us recently.. During the time we were on good terms he happen to cheat on me with ... (120 words)

My girlfriend cries when we have sex! What is wrong and how do I help her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - seriously i dont get what is wrong with my girlfriend when we first had sex i realised she was crying slowly as we were at it...since then anytime i sleep with her in the same bed she gets nightmares and also cries like she does when we are having sex even after we are finished ... (105 words)

Should I try online dating when I still have feelings for my ex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I came out of a relationship about 2 months ago. I still have feelings for my ex but do want to move on. A lot of my friends have suggested internet dating. It sounds alright and i was maybe thinking of trying it but i do still have some feelings for my ex and dont want to ... (86 words)

He distances himself from new friends, but I'd like to go for coffee so he can give me tips for my 1st audition. How do I go about this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm new to dearcupid (friend recommended it) so I'm not really sure how this works, but ok: There's a guy I know from a drama club I go to every week and it started up in September. He's auditioned for shows before and been in some, so I was hoping to meet up with him at s... (323 words)

Lack of balance in my relationship....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel as if my 3 year relationship lacks balance. I always seem to be the one helping out and my boyfriend the one needing the help or asking for the favour. I also seem to be the one that is always giving in and giving up because his requirments/need... (155 words)

Tentative steps in our new relationship. What's a reasonable timeline, before we decide to have sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age - When is the right time to have sex in our relationship? We are both widowed. I'm 68 years old and he is 72. We have dated four times. We do care about each other. ... (35 words)

I don't see what she gets out of this 'friendship' with this other guy and it is ruining our relationship...what should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Here it is, been with my girlfriend for coming up to five years now, she has recently started talking to an old guy friend of hers, they never had a relationship but he liked her. I aren't usually too bad with my jealousy but this time feels different. She has been finishi... (385 words)

Sex advice please!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4484 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. so my bf and i are in a pretty serious relationship, i love him so very much (will never cheat), he treats me right and sincerely loves me. however, as far as sex goes we lost our virginity to each other, so i guess u could say we are noobs in this department. ... (177 words)

Why is so little love and affection in our relationship? Is this just a phase?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help. I have been reading Dear Cupid for a number of years, but I finally need to turn to it for advice. I apologize for how long this will be. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three and a half years. He is almost 27 and I am 22. We met in my undergrad at a p... (1158 words)

Does he like me or is he messing around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So last year, me and this boy got really close to the point where we became best friends as of now. He has a girlfriend and everything too. But the way he acts towards me is confusing. Whenever he mentions us being perfect for each other and and tells people we're together when ... (166 words)

How would you interpret him ignoring my request for information on his other woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am currently separated from H. Some few weeks ago,I indicated to him my intention to move on with my life. Reason being that I dont have it in me anymore to work on the marriage due to his series of emotional affairs since we got married 14 years ago. He then asked for ... (271 words)

Does my ex still have feelings for me? I don't wanna end up as FWB.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and I recently began talking again after 2 months of no contact. We topped talking bc he got a new girlfriend. He texted my sister asking if I till hated him. And he even told her that he misses me and wants to be friends. My sister replied saying it's not a good ide ... (279 words)

How should I take this? Is this a date? Or am I just a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I just "hung out" with a friend tonight who I really like and she knows I like her (we dated for a bit last year) we've been hanging out more recently cause we both joined this art group. She came down tonight ( which I found out was like a 45 minute drive for her) to hang out ... (195 words)

My wife is a mean drunk!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife has trouble with alcoholism. There are a lot of reasons I won't get into here. She can stay away from alcohol, but if she has just one drink she will have 6 or 10 (or more). This doesn't happen often (anymore) because I gave up drinking so that she isn't tempted, b... (418 words)

We are due to be married soon but she lied about being in touch with her ex, and there is this one question from the start of our relationship that is troubling me.....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - haii im in reltionship with my girlfriend for past 3 years..for past 18 months we moved in together...and now we about to get married..the problem is my GF is in love and broke up with another guy as he cheated her before we met and she said to me about her past life.i acce... (274 words)

Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ... (40 words)

My FWB wants to have a baby with me!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so im 18 and ive been a friends with benifit with this guy but it has grown into where neither of us are with anybody else but he wont say that we are in a relationship... so now we are having trouble seeing each other because his family doesnt like me and he now wants to ... (89 words)

My husband has lost interest in me sexually, Am I focusing on all the wrong things, to think it is all about me improving my physical body?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - My feelings and words may be confused. I Have been married for 7 years. my hubby use to be loving towards me and sex and romance was the best. Now he has lost his sex attraction for me. The problem with him is he says he still loves me, the problem is with my body and present... (218 words)

Should I be the one contacting him or should he be the one to call me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I met this guy a couple of months ago and really like him. We have slept together a couple of times it was quite intense from the start but we've only seen each other a couple of times. I haven't seen him in around 5 weeks because I had to go home and visit family. He has ... (236 words)

Am I just his "booty call"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I met this young guy (25y) I am 33y female....We had chemistry..started whith just kisses..with the time we ended up in sex.... I like him a lot. Is very mature and has a brillant career, is very smart and corteous. Very succesful for his age. Last night we agreed to go to ... (225 words)

Is my friend worth all the trouble and uproar she causes? Especially when she acts up or is drunk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. So I'm having a little trouble with my friend (lets call her X). She's 23, and she's always drunk. She always tries to start stuff with me ONLY when she's drunk, and she'll only "admit" things (like how stupid my boyfriend is, how she hates my boyfriend) and lots ... (306 words)

I love the kid with my life but the fact he cant accept me breaks my heart so bad.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Its amazing. Its been about 5 years and me and ronnie are still on and off. All that ive put up with no doubt has been love and all the rumors (about me) hes ignored can only mean he cares about me. But what happens when a guy likes being low key and the girl hes involved with ... (141 words)

How do I get him to want sex more?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I am married to a wonderful man. We are both in our forties. our problem is I want sex more than him. He has a physical job and is tired when he comes home. If he is ever horney he can take care of himself. If I am not up to it. But I cant take care of myself. I can but ... (140 words)

Why can't I say "I love you" to her any more? Should I end things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I've been with my girlfriend a little over two years, but recently I have been considering properly for the first time to myself whether I should end things. We go to college together, and have had a great couple of years - ups and downs along the way - and I enjoy be... (383 words)

How do I find out if they're going to the dance? And what about this language issue?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey all! This is a two-part question. So, in my theatre class there are three exchange students from the Czech Republic. Two of them are pretty attractive, but I've only talked to one of them a few times (but he seems nice and all). They don't take the class very seriously, and ... (176 words)

I chatted online with a nice guy but gave him false info and then broke things off. Should I tell him the truth now?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4486 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so I've made a major mistake and I'm not asking for reassurance from anyone or for anyone to try make me feel better because I know I have done wrong. well basically last year I was left hurt by a guy after he treated me really badly and dumped me. I kind of lost my trust in... (256 words)

Clingy one night stand

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so the first time i ever dated/kissed/had sex someone happen over the summer, it was a two week thing before we both went off to college. Well it hit me pretty hard and she moved on pretty easily. So i was looking for somewhat of a rebound girl and i found one. This girl i ... (325 words)

Do I tell my ex's family how abusive he was to me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4487 days ago

13 January 2012 (F)

age - After 5 years of being in a very emotionally abusive relationship with some physical abuse, I got out! Its been 2 months and counting, of absolutely no contact. The problem I'm having, is with his family. They always made me feel like apart of the family. They knew my ex ... (608 words)