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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Bleeding while not on my period, am I pregnant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Recently my boyfriend was fingering me and I started bleeding but I'm not on my period. This has never happened to me before and I never bleed when I'm not on my period. Two days later I went to the bathroom and discovered blood on the toilet paper. Normally I wouldn't worry ... (86 words)

Why did my ex hit me? What did I do to cause her to behave the way she did?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I need some advice, on how I contributed to this problematic relationship. The first 2 years were fine, but the last year that we moved in together was complete hell. She was always very insecure and would accuse me of being interested in other woman. She would go through... (454 words)

My ex seems like a new man. Is he interested in me again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't know what to do. My ex and I from two years ago have become closer recently we have been talking more face to face and we have also started bbming each other a bit. A few months after we broke up i had got completely over him and we thought of each other as friends... (214 words)

Why is my sister in law and friend is backstabbing and acting up to me as if I've wronged her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ModNote: two almost identical questions combined. She (P) was my friend before i even met her brother, my now boyfriend. I also have a mutual girlfriend with P called (E) When i started dating her brother she would back stab me and stuff, saying, 'i wish the relationship doe... (1621 words)

Is it possible to get over him whilst still having contact with him 24\7?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, I hope you can help me, I really like this guy, we met through work, but always text and phone each other all day every day. I have told him how I feel about him and he has said he likes me too, we have had a couple of times outside of work but nothing has ever ... (174 words)

My red hair gave me nothing but the blues

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4450 days ago

28 January 2012 (?) age 36-40 - I was bullied quite badly at school for having red hair. That was 7 years ago, i'm 24 now and look completely different, but i still feel like i'm the same person i was back then. If somebody compliments me, especially a guy, i just won't believe them at all. I get attentio... (303 words)

My boyfriend's demanding schedule leaves him little time for me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't seen my boyfriend in nearly two weeks. Though he has been extremely busy with work for that time, (14-hour shifts, no days off) the least he could do is take a few seconds to send me a text here and there like he used to. I loved it when he would send me good morning ... (573 words)

This 'happily married man' seems too eager to perform handy man favours for my girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Prior to meeting my girlfriend a year and a half ago, she met this supposedly “happily married” man at a church social function. According to my girlfriend, he apparently calls her from time-to-time to say “hi,” and will always inquire about any help with “handy-man” projects ... (165 words)

Should my boyfriend join the military to escape troubles at home?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a month and he is going through a rough time with family problems. Not to go into detail but hes basicly on his own right now, he has been staying with his grandma so far but he know where hes going after thet. he doesnt have ... (157 words)

What is the true meaning of 'romance'?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone !! I have been confused about the true meaning of romance :\ me and my boyfriend have been together for over ten months now and are very happy together. The other day i asked my man if he like being romantic he said yes and that we were a very romantic couple :... (190 words)

Any advice on how to prepare for a birthday spanking?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My birthday is coming up and my boyfriend says he is going to give me two gifts. One that I will really enjoy, the other is going to hurt. I asked him about the one that is going to hurt, and he tells me just wait and you'll see, then he puts his hand on his belt and gives me a ... (98 words)

Do you believe in 'soul mates'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Do you believe in soulmates? I'm curious to know what you think. And by the way, i heard this the other day and thought it was adorable, and wanted to share it with you: In greek mythology, humans were born with 4 eyes, 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 mouths, noses, and so on. The gods fea... (108 words)

My husband has joined an online dating site

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4465 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ... (19 words)

Has my husband's love for me faded?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi guys. my husband has been leaving on his own outside the country. recently i joined him there. but he doesnt seem happy to be with me. apparently its an isolated place with mostly men there. he has become so harsh with me. always finding fault with me or simply ignoring me, ... (180 words)

Not enough sex in this marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I love my wife. We have a great relationship, but no were near enough sex. I personally am up for it anytime anyplace. She also complains about not enough sex, but never initiates it. How can I change these things? ... (40 words)

After six months my boyfriend still hasn't told his new friends I even exist

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My extremely introverted boyfriend went away to teachers college for 6 months to make some friends. He did it! Is great friends with his housemate and a few other people he met from school. Anyway, the time has come for me to meet him up there so we can do a road trip home ... (201 words)

Discharge days after sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Since I've started having sex a few months ago I occasionally get a thin cloudy discharge. To describe it as discharge would be misleading as I can feel it come out and a lot comes out, like I have to run to the bathroom immediately to ensure it doesn't start running down my ... (113 words)

I still can't be intimate with my wife despite forgiving her infidelities

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4460 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife and i have been married going on 4 years. In our first year married she cheated on me with my ex best friend. Well i found out later by her best friend and for a while My wife denied it then she finally broke down and told me. Well I forgave her for it. Then I think it... (203 words)

A female friend talks about her sexual interests but when I respond she grows quiet

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I met this girl I know from college a few years back. We just chat whenever we meet, we smoke etc. we done this a few times. she has been talking about her sexual life and how often she needs it, I do not discuss mine. I really didn't know why she brings it up often. T... (97 words)

My ex wife is upsetting my family

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm 43 and divorced 5 years from my ex wife Janet. We have one daughter together Amanda who is 13 and is living with me because she wanted it. We split up when she told me she was having an affair and when i asked her was it me or him she choose him. Since then she has had four ... (622 words)

14 and not sure if I should come out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I am a gay 14 year old and I'm sort of unsure if I should come out. I've known I'm gay since I was 12 and the two years following have been really hard because I've been trying to hide my sexuality because when I was 13 I moved school due to bulling due to my extreme shyness ... (279 words)

Problem looking at other women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi - I am 40, married for 10 years and have 3 amazing and beautiful kids. My wife keeps thinks that I have a problem of looking to other women telling me that I do it also in her presence. As for me I have no idea of what she is talking but I admit I might have done it without ... (102 words)

I feel that I m a mother to him, not a wife.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - We 've been married forever. Right after my high school. We started out having no money at all to now owning a jewelry store. We split responsibility. I care of administration, my husband actually makes all the repairs and new designs. The problem is that he is an extremely ... (1227 words)

I am almost certain my husband is using escort services!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age - Hi Everyone, I also am pretty certain that my husband for the 25 years is using escort services. My husband is self employed ,he not a nine until 5 man. There are alot of unexplained afternoon mobile numbers on his bill, when he dails these numbers they seem to follow a patter... (181 words)

I don't think my g/f is into me anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - me and my girlfriend have been togeather for 3 yrs now she use to like sex with me.but now im not so sure it went from 1 to 2 times a week to once or twice a month.she use to b relly tight t even now when we do it . its still loose even after a month of not having sex.she you ... (92 words)

G/f dumped me after she lost weight saying we aren't equals!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4463 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I really need help. my girlfriend of 4 years dumped me about a week back. this girl meant everything to me, I thought she was my soulmate. I've travelled around the country for this girl because of her job, disregarding my ambitions for hers. when we first met she weighed ... (149 words)

I want to combine all of our fetishes into one night. Suggestions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my Gf have recentally shared with each other about our fetishes. She has a rape and bondage fetish, and i have a diaper fetish. When I found out about her fetish I was fully accepting and I'm willing to play the part to pleasure her. But when she found out about mine, sh... (96 words)

She thinks I only want her because I can't have her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl two years ago, We both broke up with our present prteners for each other. She ended up getting back with hers but coming back to me again. The past six months have been an LDR. I saw her last weekend for the first time in six months. I went to kiss her a... (152 words)

How do I tell my family I'm dating a woman 28 years older than me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4451 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hope someone can help, I got talking to someone on a internet chatroom and we have a lot in common. After chatting for a while we both wanted to meet each other and we did and got on really well together, only thing is that she's 55 and i'm 27, thats one hell of an a... (117 words)

Do I go for the one who is growing on me or the one who is a year older?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - hi. there is this boy, that is in the class below me. he told me that he loves me awhile ago, i told him that i didn't like him. however now that we are chatting more, i think he is growing on me, but he is not the nicest and hottest boy in my school and if i do go out with... (150 words)

I had hoped that he would feel the pain of being dumped and now that he has, I feel guilty!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Please let this question go up i need some help :( Ok a stupid question but please hear me out. How can I make myself feel better for something that I didnt cause? I'll explain. On St Stephens day/Boxing day A guy i was dating for five months stopped texting me and le... (226 words)

Should I be straightforward and tell him its up to him if we should keep dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - After our second date, I heard from him on day four saying that he's been busy as he went out of town on business and will be there for three weeks. He texted me and emailed me few times afterwards, and I replied and didn't show that I'm upset about him not contacting me. In ... (196 words)

Have you ever got in a relationship with someone, knowing beforehand it probably wasn't going to workout, just so you could have sex with that person?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Have you ever started a relationship with someone, knowing all-well that it probably wouldn't workout anyways, just so you could have sex with that person? I'm curious because from what I've observed among friends and acquaintances - and people in general - is that most sin... (153 words)

Everything seemed perfect before I got pregnant!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi cupids! im getting a bit fed up and stressed out with this now if im honest! my boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years, because i was only 15 and he was 22, it was difficult to spend time with each other at first! but our families soon came round and ... (569 words)

I feel like I'm second best and not what he wants!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I could really do with some good advice on this my boyfriend of 11 months and I were talking. A couple of nights ago we were fwbs first I said to him. It feels like I like him more than he likes me he said it isn't true its just how he is so I asked him if he was ... (207 words)

Do people often settle for less when they marry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I haven't been on here in ages, but hey - I'm kinda tipsy and that's when I ask my questions best! So I'm meant to be getting married and meant to be really happy but heaps has gone wrong with that soooo... Do you guys think people sell themselves short? I dunno, my fiance ... (91 words)

Is there a way of asking a guy if he's tested and free of all those things?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Sort of embarrassed to ask this, but has been on my mind. So months ago I signed up on a site where I met a man from another country. We have skyped before and talk virtually everyday Now he's told me, he and his boyfriend have an open relationship going on. And so they like to ... (164 words)

I feel I've made some awesome progress in the week we have been broken up!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend broke up with me saying we need to see other people because we started dating when we were 14. I am 22 now, thats 8 years and we are eachothers first relationship. but i know it has more to do with the fact i was very very immature she did all the mans jobs like ... (518 words)

Should I Continue to Converse with Her ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay im in college right now and i met this really nice girl who goes to my former high school. She is 18 and was suppose to graduate with my class of 2011, but her parents are military such as mine and i guess she somehow ended up as a junior this school year in hs. We first ... (517 words)

Is this my gut talking or my insecurities?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating Mr. K for 7 months now and he is pretty great, however, I have some concerns. When I met him, he is was transitioning from California back to Chicago and he was being reinstated with his old job with the police department. So I paid for most of our ... (299 words)

What hope is there for this girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Bit of a long story so please bare with me. Met my girlfriend at work 5 years ago, she was an Assistant Manager of 21, I was a 38 year old employee. Despite the age difference we hit it off straight away and started dating almost immediately. During the first few months we ... (983 words)

Should I block my ex? He broke up with me because he didn't like the present I gave him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - On December 2010 I got dumped by my boyfriend. We'd been really good friends a few years before we started dating and then I feel like when we started dating we moved way too fast. Then on Christmas I got him a present and he said he didn't like it, and then the next day told... (325 words)

Is it alright to invite my friend's ex boyfriend to a dance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so i wanna ask my guy friend to a dance and i also like him... but my friend used to go out with him but not really since it only lasted a day but she broke up with him cause she didn't see him that way. Now recently she decided she liked him again but he doesn't see her ... (80 words)

People only seem to see me as an acquaintance, but never as a friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel I have come to the realization that I'm just the acquaintance to everyone. I'm a nice, respectable guy. I enjoy hanging out with people, and people enjoy hanging out with me. Sure, I'm a bit introverted, but people I know have accepted me for who I am. It just feels ... (184 words)

Sent my boyfriend a fancy picture of myself and he compared me to someone else

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, As a new year resolution I told my boyfriend that I was going to take better care of myself.. Do my hair better and wear makeup, because usually I go without any makeup. He never complains about how I look as he himself is a pretty low maintenance guy. I woke up... (357 words)

28, single and lost

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4449 days ago

28 January 2012 (F) age 36-40 - Hi, I'm 28 soon and a single lady. I've never dated, have no sexual experience, nor any really. I feel quite alone in finding a partner and a bit lost. Most of the guys I've liked have been 10-15 years older, I feel comfortable and share the same personality, interests and ... (84 words)

My ex-girlfriend and I still like one another but she has a boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4470 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I really need help with this situation and it would mean a lot if I can get as many responses as I can, thank you. So me and my ex been broken up for about a half a year, we broke up once which was for 4 months and then we got back together but I was immature and resented man... (315 words)

Is she interested in me and how can I maintain a connection until she's ready?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4464 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - hi i have 2 questions. do u think this girl is interested in me? And how can i flirt with her on facebook and thru texts to keep her interested until shes ready for dating? ok im going to give you guys the backstory now, Im 16 years old turning 17 soon and shes turning... (550 words)

Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the beginning now things have really s... (249 words)

Is it possible to date without playing any games?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4465 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Is it possible to date without playing games? I read all this dating advice and it seems like nothing but a game with sexist rules. A game that doesn't seem fun at all. It's described in many ways: as a "push-pull dynamic", a "dance" or a "chase" where men are the pursuers and ... (544 words)

Could this be abuse?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits at me and calls me names?... (57 words)

My B/f says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break! Is that even possible? And he watched porn the very next night!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

28 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So my boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty much every night for the past week to the point where he can't cum. He says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break, which we both agreed to under certain conditions: he not watch porn, and I don't use my ... (88 words)

My wife says she no longer enjoys sex but she's unwilling to try new things

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4470 days ago

28 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been with my wife for a total of 5 years and until recently, our sex life was pretty decent, but as of late, she has stated that she does not get anything out of it. I have done some research and understand what she means, but she is unwilling to try some differen... (103 words)