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... Send *ELLULAH a private message | | | *ELLULAH's profile:Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.
I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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He stopped texting, but I've caught him looking at me! I've also seen his buddy giving me strange stares. What's this mean?
Q. i'm 16 and there's this guy who texted me everyday for a period of time. but now he has stopped, but i've caught him looking at me several times already. either that or i've caught his good buddy staring strangely at me. what does this mean?...
A. 5 October 2007: It means, you must be stunning and everyone fancies you. Or they cant make up their minds who should go for it.... (read in full...)
Boys will be boys: My boyfriend has serious hygiene issues! How can I bring this up to him?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner (whom i have a 3month old baby with) for nearly 4 years now. Since the beginning I noticed I would have to mention to him to bathe, brush his teeth, etc, as I noticed he would simply not do these things. ...
A. 5 October 2007: Tell him the truth!
Just say "look love, you know I really love you, but I need to tell you to wash all the time". And as an adult I feel you should do this anyway.
If that doesnt work tell him one of your best looking friends said he was "a Minge... (read in full...)
I think he bought the new computer just to look for porn! He's trying to hide what he does, but I found out. I feel betrayed!
Q. I know you have heard this a thousand times before. I have just discovered tha my partner has been looking for porn. I know that guys do this sometimes, but what is really scaring me is I think he has set up a separate profile on our computer and ...
A. 5 October 2007: HI,
This is really hard, because the honesty is not there for you anymore, and you are thinking that he may be looking at all sorts of bad things.
Has he ever looked at porn before, that you know of?. He may just be looking at the usual type of ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I showed another guy my nipple ring?
Q. Dear Cupid I have been going out with my adoreable boyfriend for nearly a year now and things are brilliant however, I tend to get a bit too drunk when i am out with my girlfriends and last weekend I showed some random guy my nipple ring. ...
A. 5 October 2007: Keep it to yourself, you will only cause suspicion. It was harmless, just a silly drunken moment.... (read in full...)
My daughter has turned her back on her family in favour of an older man! What should I do?
Q. Help me my daughter 19 previously a loving member of our family has found a 34 boyfrind(manfriend) who has whisked her away to live in a flat with him. We have never met him, and although we tried to reason with her, and then just resorted to being ...
A. 5 October 2007: Hi,
I really feel for you, but she is right she is a grown up and there is nothing you can do to stop her being with him.
But any man worth his salt that wanted to see a girl that young, would want the approval of her family. He is already stopping... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to accept the situation or not.
Q. I met a guy last year online and we instantly clicked. We started dating and discovered we had a lot of things in common and the subject of marriage came up quickly. He proposed to me within a month after meeting me. To make a long story short, ...
A. 5 October 2007: C.
So what!! His job is important, so are you. Why cant he make more time for you even if he does have to work a lot of hours. Sorry honey but I smell a rat.
You sound really lovely, dont wait for this guy. Find a man that will give you a future. ... (read in full...)
I think he cheated, but it was a year ago, how do I get to the truth?
Q. I suspect that my spouse cheated before we got married. We've only been married a little over a year but shortly after we got married there was some references made towards him cheating, he was very secretive about his cell phone and calls. I went ...
A. 5 October 2007: Hi,
If you did find out, what action would you take?. What good would it do?. Wont it destroy the trust that you have, and make you wonder what he is doing all the time. I am not saying that its not important, but you could destroy what you have... (read in full...)
I'm scared of have sex with my bf plz help!
Q. I'm 14 and my bf is 16 we've been dating for nearly a year and we both wana take our relation ship to the next level we both wana have sex but im scared to and he knows this, hes been trying to help me get over my fear it's been like 2 months but im ...
A. 5 October 2007: Hi Honey,
If your that scared then your not ready. Ask him to wait a while longer till you feel comfortable, and it will happen naturally. Your only 14 so whats the rush?.
If your worried that it will hurt, it does a little but its not that bad... (read in full...)
She is Bi polar and won't accept it.
Q. Is it wrong for a married man to ask a younger female worker if she is interested(she has just been divorced)?The female in the marriage is Bi-Polar and wont accept her condition....
A. 5 October 2007: I am sure you already know its not dont you?.
Your Married and your wife is suffering from Bi-Polar (depresion). So you turniing your back on her, and getting to-gether with another girl could tip her over the edge.
If you really believe that she... (read in full...)
Is he with me just cause it is convenient, or does he really care?
Q. Here is a good one. I am 46, been with the same guy for 13 months. We get along so well, but the problem is he isnt in love with me.He has been up and down lately with feelings, and when I bring up what his future plans are he says he doesnt know. ...
A. 4 October 2007: Hi,
They both sound totally selfish. She must be learning the tricks of the trade from her father.
What astounds me is that you have put up with it. Are you in-love with this man?. I can think of no other reason why you would put up with that rub... (read in full...)
I lied to my girlfriend about my age. How can I tell her the truth without losing her?
Q. what has age difference got to do with marrage? i am a man at 24, but all through my life i have been making friends with people who are older than i am, and now i want to get married, and the girl i have fallen in love with is five years older th...
A. 4 October 2007: Tell her the truth silly.
Its not like you are 19 is it?.
5 years is nothing, I am 4 years older than my partner, and we are really happy.
XX... (read in full...)
I want to divorce my wife and marry her sister
Q. i had a chance to be with and tell my wife's sister that i am in love with her, but didn't. know i feel depressed and feel i've missed out on opportunity to be with someone that i have fallen in love with and love with all my heart. My wife and i ...
A. 4 October 2007: What kind of a sister would do that. Its just sick. Of all the women in the world you go for one in the same family. I have a feeling that whatever anyone on here says you will go ahead.
All i can say is "what goes around comes around"... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and fancy a boy who is 11 ~ Is this wrong?
Q. I am a 15 year old girl and fancy a boy in who is 11. Would it be wrong if we went out? ...
A. 4 October 2007: Of course it would. He is far to young for you at this age.... (read in full...)
We are supposedly 'on a break', but the relationship really hasn't changed. I want to officially be his girlfriend again
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me because he is depressed. He has a lot of stuff going on with his family and the 2 jobs he works. He said it is not fair for me to be in a relationship like this since he can't see me as often as we both would like. He ...
A. 4 October 2007: Hi,
It sounds like he is giving you the oportunity to get out of the relationship. Probably because he feels guilty that you are never with him, and he doesnt have the time to spend with you. Its very sad but kind of sweet.
Have you sat down and... (read in full...)
I kissed a friend on the cheek and my boyfriend wont let it go
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. We really do love each other and care about each other. However, we've been having issues. We have a mutual close friend (call him Charles), that I am very close to. I hadn't seen him in awhile and du...
A. 4 October 2007: Tell him to grow up!!
If thats the only thing that you have ever done wrong (kiss a mate on the cheek) there is something wrong with him, to make you feel this way.
Its because you keep saying sorry and trying to make it up to him!! What do you h... (read in full...)
I'm curious about the "party" my BF went to.
Q. Hallo everyone! My BF went for this B-party in a Hotel Room in New York city with 15 other guys this saturday. Didn't directly tell me what happened over there, except, that he didn't do anything wrong that would hurt me ... and that he didn't c...
A. 4 October 2007: Hi,
My boyfriend went to one, before he was with me. And he says there were girls there they could have sex with if they wanted to. And all sorts of stuff went on.
The trouble is that your boyfriend has been swept along with it, and joined in. I do... (read in full...)
How do I keep my online friend?
Q. hi i need some advice as i am going CRAZY about this at the moment.. so i have been seing this girl online for about 3 months now and things have been going well but this week she told me that i have been trying to contact her too much and that it ...
A. 4 October 2007: Ohh right,
Well in that case, I would back of for a while and see if she makes contact with you. As the previous aunt said "she may miss your contact" and could make her realise that your not at her heels.
Hope it goes OK. XX... (read in full...)
She wants me to "get over her", but I can't.
Q. Please don't judge this situation 'cos I don't understand it myself. I went out with a girl six months ago. We had a good time but after a month her ex and the dad of her kid wanted her back. She said that she felt it derserved one more try. Over ...
A. 4 October 2007: Hi Honey,
I am afraid that Dr Pete is right, she is definatly trying to tell you its over.
Take his advice, and dont wait for her. You sound like a nice person, and you need to spend time worrying about yourself rather than her.
You will mend, t... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my new feelings. Should I persue this?
Q. hey all... bit of a dilemma lol.. i am gay and i recently met a girl who is also gay. im 18 and she is 23, we got on really well.. and i started to fall for her. One night i was out with friends and her friends and i told her best mate...
A. 4 October 2007: Blimey, you are mixed up.
Firstly, you say you are gay. So you either are?, in which case you just have a crush. Or your not and you are bi-sexual. The girl may also have mixed feelings, and is coming to terms with this as well.
I have quite a ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my online friend?
Q. hi i need some advice as i am going CRAZY about this at the moment.. so i have been seing this girl online for about 3 months now and things have been going well but this week she told me that i have been trying to contact her too much and that it ...
A. 4 October 2007: Hi,
I am a bit confused. When you say you are seeing her online, does this mean you havnt actually met her in person?.... (read in full...)
An old friend of mine is very sick..what should I do?
Q. I know this is a very difficult question to answer but I would appreciate people views. We’re both 18 almost 19 now. All the way through primary school form age 5 to age 13/14 I was very close friends with this girl Ann we never had a falling ou...
A. 3 October 2007: Hi Darling,
I have been in exactly the same postion as you. My friend Gilly lost her battle against cancer almost 12 years ago.
It took me a while to pluck up the courage to see her, and I was scared I would cry when I did.
But I cannot tell ... (read in full...)
This man left me because he made another girl pregant. After months he emails saying they lost the pregnancy. He knows I want him back. Should I go back?
Q. A man i was madly in love with left me a few months ago because he made another girl pregnant. I still am not over it and cry everyday asking why? He did leave me and said he would give it a try with this girl because he did have feelings for her ...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi honey,
Why would you want to?. This guy walked out on you for another girl. Granted it was a godd reason, But he made her pregnant whilst he was seeing you.
This Guy is a cheat, and cared nothing for your feelings. I can understand that he did n... (read in full...)
We have been married for six months, but I am still a virgin
Q. i am married 6 months now and still vergin i need help? i am married after a story a nice story of love yes me and my hubsna ddecide to not made sex untill we marry cos i was vergine. our first night together he try but he get scared and comfused...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi,
You really do need to relax about this. I very much doubt that there is anything wrong apart from the fear that you will be in pain. Its making him scared of making love to you.
Its not that bad, it may sting a little. But if you spend a ... (read in full...)
Together 18 years. He cheated on me and I can't forgive. What do I do from here?
Q. Dear All I have read loads of question /amswers on this site on affairs and alcholics and agree with every one when advised to get out. Well I did get out,but he left me we were together 18yrs i found out he was cheating tryed to forgivre but c...
A. 2 October 2007: Honey,
You are ignoring the advice you are being given, and that sadly is to give up. Its hard I know, even when you know the guy is no good, he is a cheater and a drunk. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life pining for a man on self... (read in full...)
I feel like everything is going wrong but I'm falling for someone - who's married!
Q. What can I do to take my mind of my situation? I'm very stresses out, I got a layoff from my last job and still haven't been able to find a new one... My bills are racking up and already borrowed about 5k from my parent which I am not proud of... ...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi,
Well your not helping yourself are you?. Sorry I dont mean to be harsh, but the married Girl will not help the dilema you are in, it will only make you feel worse. What happens when she decides to stay with her husband, which she probably will... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than I am (and he's married)
Q. I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than i am and he's married. I can't tear myself away from this guy and it's killing me inside that i feel this way about someone who has a wife and a family and is way passed my age. Yeah I know I ...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi Honey,
Your falling into the same old trap that a lot of girls do. Even in the most remote posibility that he is telling the truth. He is married with a family. And let me tell you that even if you did get together you are heading for a lot of p... (read in full...)
Should I see him tonight?
Q. Hi I really need advice with this ASAP to decide if i shoud go see my bf tonight and talk bout this Have already spoken to him bout this earlier but find it easier to speak in person even tho im worried i might cry We have been together for 18 ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Is there no way you could go to Canada with him, if it got serious I mean.
You do need to talk, and put your feelings on the table. After all its all very well worrying about his career and future, but what about yours?.
You have needs as wel... (read in full...)
He insults my family and friends! Why??
Q. why does he insult my family and friends, or make cruel remarks, jokes about them. and even gets angry this happens on most days. i get so upset and down about it.This has been going on for over four years and i do not live with him, but have ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
He sounds a bit of a bully. Is he trying to make you feel bad all the time, because if he is, it's genrally a sign of insecurity in himself.
Tell him to stop and dont do it again. If he does, I would finish with him permanant. You dont want a m... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from BOREDOM! Any advice?
Q. Not really a relationship question, but more of a problem exacerbated by breaking up. I'm so bored! HELP ME! It's monday. I don't have college. It's raining. I don't have the car. My old friends who lived nearby have gone to univeristy. All ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Get a job.
Not only will you get a bit of money, but you can meet new people and maybe make some new friends.
Its no good sitting on your bum waiting for it to come to you. It wont will it?.
I know it can be hard, when you break up and fee... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and he want to still date..but cut down on the time we spend together. Is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend and i are having a baby and we've only been dating 6 months. i got pregnant the first night. Now he says he wants a normal relationship where he has his feedom still, cause hes 21 and im 27. He doesnt want to move in together yet and ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Maybe its just a bit of a shock, and he just wants to back off a bit. This doesnt mean completely.
Give him time and I am sure it will work out OK. At 21 its rather young for a guy to have that much responsibility. And they are not well kno... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to trim her hairy private area?
Q. My lady friend is rather hairy around her private area, how could i ask her to trim it without wrecking any further chances?...
A. 1 October 2007: This is a tricky one. And I cant think of any way but to be honest.
At first I thought if you looked at girls in a mag together, you could mention that they look nice. But then she may think you dont fancy her, and are interested in porn. Or what... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away from this friend from 20 yrs ago as he is married with kids?
Q. I recently met my best friend from high school after 20 years. I was his first love and he was really in love with me but I never knew about it. He is currently married with kids but says he is not happy in his marriage. Tables have turned around ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Yes it is hard to find these days but not impossible.
This Guy has already put his cards on the table and said he will not divorce, so what is the point of being with him. And anyway that's rubbish why would he lose his kids? He would still be... (read in full...)
Why did this guy stop calling me?
Q. well there is this male and we have been dating for about 12 days now and i really like him we both like the same ice cream and music. he was real sweet and we would have great convo and he was so wise and mature for a 23 yr old. I am still a virgin ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Sorry but the other guys are right. Sounds like he knew he wasnt going to get what he wanted, so you have been treated like cr**. Forgive him? this guy needs a kick where the sun dont shine.
Move on and find a better guyXX... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a married woman at work and she feels the same. How do we proceed?
Q. Im Male 28! I've been friendly with a girl I work with for a few years. She is in her early 40's married and has children. She has recently declared her marriage is over and has been for a year unoffically. I really like her alot. I stopped...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Your right you cant help who you fall in love with but how you handle it is of the utmost importance. Honesty to both hurt parties should be the most important thing, its also the hardest. You dont have to be blunt to them and let them know ever... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me if I would have an orgy, which I'm anxious to try but don't know what to do.
Q. my boyfriend recenty asked me if i would have an orji. me and 3 other boys. i am quite anxious to try it and would like to give it a go but i wouldnt know what to do... i am ready for sex have done it tons of times but i dont know whether it would ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi,
Sorry but he cant think much of you to even ask you to do it.
You say you are ready for sex and you have done it loads of times. Well all I can say that to even concider this at your age shows you are not.
... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex. Now she does drugs and binge drinks! What do you think of this email I sent her?
Q. below is a copy of the email i have sent my wife who had come back for a week then left me again for her ex after she did not come home at night.this is hurting me so much sorry if am beening a pain but we have a young kid and all i want is for t...
A. 28 September 2007: Hi,
Are you the Guy I replied to the other day. If you are you sounded so positive when we last comunicated. Its a shame that you once again feel this way. Maybe its because its finally coming to a close, and you know she is not coming back.
I rea... (read in full...)
How do I change my resurfaced feelings about a wonderful wife?
Q. How do I change my resurfaced feelings about a wonderful wife? I hope I can keep this short, but it is complicated. I would love to hear comments from people like Mandy7 and happytochat. My wife and I were both once divorced. Both of us had had only...
A. 27 September 2007: Wow, you both sound like you have a wonderfull relationship. How lucky are you to have a life like this.
I cant say I really understand why you would spoil it over things that happened years ago. So what we all make mistakes dont we?. Do I soun... (read in full...)
My wife left me and our son, we got back together, she cheated on me and is now doing coke! What should I do?
Q. my wife walked out on me and my son 7 months ago. Six weeks ago, she meet a new guy which up set me so much as i did not know i still loved. Anyway, two weeks ago i asked her back to make a go of things and she said yes. Everything was so great. I...
A. 26 September 2007: No I dont think that its fair. She is his mum and she has a right. However, if she shows any sign of being under the influence of drugs then I agree with you. Perhaps you could get her mum to be there at the same time, so you wouldnt have to worry. ... (read in full...)
My wife left me and our son, we got back together, she cheated on me and is now doing coke! What should I do?
Q. my wife walked out on me and my son 7 months ago. Six weeks ago, she meet a new guy which up set me so much as i did not know i still loved. Anyway, two weeks ago i asked her back to make a go of things and she said yes. Everything was so great. I...
A. 26 September 2007: Sometimes though, what you think would be the best thing for you can turn out to be the worse. I understand that you want your family to be together, but at what cost to your little boy. Is it fair for him to see her come back for a while then go ... (read in full...)
He left me for his ex and mother of his two children the day after our miscarriage! How do I get him back?
Q. Hi everyone, im going through hell. i have just broken up with my bfriend, he has left me to move back in with is ex. we find out i had a miscarriage on the tuesday and on the wed he moved out with his two kids, who i helped surport. They loved me...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi,
This guy is not worth your tears. I am not sure why you would want someone that has treated you so terrible. Are the children hers as well?.
Darling, its hard being in love with someone that, deep down you know is a complete sh**. You are in l... (read in full...)
My wife left me and our son, we got back together, she cheated on me and is now doing coke! What should I do?
Q. my wife walked out on me and my son 7 months ago. Six weeks ago, she meet a new guy which up set me so much as i did not know i still loved. Anyway, two weeks ago i asked her back to make a go of things and she said yes. Everything was so great. I...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi,
I am really sorry, but if she loved you she would'nt have done this.
Your son is a very lucky little boy to have such a great dad. I know how hard it must be for you but, I would not have her back. How do you know she has been doing coke wit... (read in full...)
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