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51-59,
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writes: I met a guy last year online and we instantly clicked. We started dating and discovered we had a lot of things in common and the subject of marriage came up quickly. He proposed to me within a month after meeting me. To make a long story short, because of my unfounded insecurity issues, we broke up last winter but reconnected as best friends a couple of months later when the woman that he had started to date turned psycho on him and tried to kill him back in March of this year. We started talking on the phone twice a day and he spent the night at my house at least 3 times a week. I fell back in love with him and I want to pick up where we left off but he told me that although he thinks that I am a wonderful woman and that we are more closer now than when we were dating,and that he loves me too, he isn't interested in a romantic relationship with anyone right now because of the "psycho" incident and because he recently accepted a very stressful job that requires him to work 12-14 hr work days 6 days a week, (he's a head football coach and athletic coordinator for a high school). He said this doesn't leave him anytime for himself let alone time to date anyone. Since football season's started, I don't hear from him but once every 4 or 5 days and I see him once every 3 weeks. He swears he's not seeing anyone else but my old insecurities or resurfacing again. He is a great guy and when he accepted the job he told me that after football season, he should have a little more free time to spend with me but this is the best that he can do now as his job is very important to him. Should I A)Keep my mouth shut, accept our relationship as it stands now and just wait until football season is over or B) Confront him and tell him that I really need to hear and see him a little more often or C)Should I start looking for someone who is available to give me the attention and love that I need now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): C is definately the best option. This guy has been very honest with you as to what his intentions are, which are to be a good friend to you and not expect anything more than that.
I think that was his way of saying he really wants to stay single and that he hopes that you will move on and find happiness, so do it, there is a whole world waiting for you out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): Honey this man is using you as a booty call. We all MAKE time for the things that are important to us, trust me.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 C.
So what!! His job is important, so are you. Why cant he make more time for you even if he does have to work a lot of hours. Sorry honey but I smell a rat.
You sound really lovely, dont wait for this guy. Find a man that will give you a future.
What happens when the next season starts, do you get droped like a hot potato?.
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