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*ilie
writes:i am married 6 months now and still vergin i need help?i am married after a story a nice story of love yes me and my hubsna ddecide to not made sex untill we marry cos i was vergine. our first night together he try but he get scared and comfused thinking he gonna hurt me and he wont we did try 3 more time but its still same we love eashathers so much but since that night i never try to ask him to try again i dont see that sad look on his face so i act lik its normal and i have no one to share with we are amazing together i only miss sex i think he too but he sacred it wont work again he is not vergine he been with 5 ex girlfriends and he is good he is not sick or any thing but he never been with vergin girl exept me so no ant one of us know how to deal with this problem we just keeping silent i wish there is a way to not be vergin without need of my husband like operation or somthing ll make it easy for him ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Had a friend with the same problem. Unfortunately, her husband admitted he was gay two years after their marriage. She divorced him. Seems that the husband thought that he could hide his homosexuality in a marriage but he was unable to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Hi Love,
You need to sit and talk with each other about your fears and his hun, He is scared that he will hurt you.
You have to spend some time holding and kissing each other getting very close, Dont be scared you have to relax. Make a night of it get a bottle of wine light some candles and spend time getting to no each others bodys, Im not saying then go for it, Do this a few times really get to no your husbands body and what turns him on and the same for you as well, It is good to no one another this way and the sex love after awhile will come naturally, You both just need to relax love, Hope things settle into place real soon love TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, rcn  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 I'm sorry this hasn't worked for you. The first sex after marriage is to seal the deal of being married.
If he's afraid, I'd talk to him about it. If all else fails, take control of the situation, and you direct it.
I'd never heard of this, but like they say, how can you miss what you've never had. I wish you luck.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (2 October 2007):
 Hi,
You really do need to relax about this. I very much doubt that there is anything wrong apart from the fear that you will be in pain. Its making him scared of making love to you.
Its not that bad, it may sting a little. But if you spend a lot of time beforehand kissing and cuddling it will be a lot easier. I am not suggesting that you get drunk, but maybe have a glass or two of wine with your dinner, and set the mood that way. Its a lot less daunting if you are relaxed. And once you have done it the first time, it will be great after that.
There is nothing better in the whole world than to make love with the person you adore.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (2 October 2007):
 You're gonna make it easier for both of you if you start communicating more and talk openly about it.Considering the fact that you are in marriage sex must not be the taboo subject anymore.There is an operation for gaining back the virginity but I never heard of the one you ask about...but after you start a disscusion about it with him you'll realize there's no need for such a thing.It hurts in the begining but after you try it few times more it's gonna get less painfull every next time (and maybe you lose it the very next time if you put up with a bit more pain than before).Excuse me for being that personall but have you ever masturbated?If yes you must know what turns you on so tell him to do that,more he makes you excited before penetrating more it gets pleasant experience for you.But my advice nr1 is to start a conversation about the subject as soon as possible-tonight if you can.
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