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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me because he is depressed. He has a lot of stuff going on with his family and the 2 jobs he works. He said it is not fair for me to be in a relationship like this since he can't see me as often as we both would like. He said its not fair to me that he can't come over for dinner like he used too or take me out on a Saturday. I have told him I support everything he does with his 2 jobs and I have never once complained about his work schedule, and he knows it. We still talk everyday (quite a few times) and see each other at least once a week. He still says I love you. He is really not one of those jerky guys. He is traditional and respectful. I know he is going through something right now and all I can think of is being supportive. I just don't understand why we are on a break when nothing has changed at all. What can I do to help him? How can I be his girlfriend again, even though it feels like I never stopped?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Hi Tellulah,
Thanks for your reply. I have told him that I don't want to end the relationship and I do not want to ever be with anyone else. He keeps saying if it's meant to be it's meant to be. It definitly is meant to be with how we met and how are family knows each other. It really is an ironic story. The second time we when on a date we both knew that we would marry each other. It was the strangest feeling in the world to just know but I still feel like that. He even told me he doesn't want this break up!! Makes no sense. Any other advice?
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Hi,
It sounds like he is giving you the oportunity to get out of the relationship. Probably because he feels guilty that you are never with him, and he doesnt have the time to spend with you. Its very sad but kind of sweet.
Have you sat down and told him that you dont want your relationship to end. Maybe you could explain that you dont mind waiting till he sorts himself out.
Other than that, if he still feels that way, you have no choice but to leave him alone. Backing off for a while might help. If he is worried that you will meet another man, it may jolt him out of his depresion.
I hope it works out OK for you XX
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