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... Send *ELLULAH a private message | | | *ELLULAH's profile:Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.
I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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Any polite way to tell a friend she should not post semi-nude photos in the Internet?
Q. Is there any polite way to tell a friend that she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself, 53, in Lingerie on her facebook page?...
A. 25 January 2008: Hey, I am a regular on this site. And the one major thing I have noticed, is that when someone has something nasty to say. They uasually stay ANON. I dont mean you by the way, you were just concerned about your friend. I'm talking about the nasty ma... (read in full...)
I don't like how much time he spends with the boys. What can I do?
Q. I have been married for nine months. I am from a small town, but lived in a large city for awhile. I met my boyfriend, now husband, and moved to his small town with him ( from the city). We are now married and expecting our first baby. I do not mind ...
A. 24 January 2008: Dont worry,
When your baby is born and he has a few nights where he has had no sleep and he is tired. He will slow down, as well.
Dont forget your a little emotional at the moment, and the things that normally wouldnt bother you do. He sounds l... (read in full...)
In a relationship for two years, still happy with him... But there's somebody else. I don't know which one I want. How can I decide?
Q. I'm in a 2 year relationship with a lovely guy. He's caring and we have a lot in common in terms of our principles,and I would have always said that we loved each other and saw our future together. We have complete trust which I know is really ...
A. 24 January 2008: Sorry, but I dont agree.
The fact that you are even thinking about another guy, to my mind means you are not happy with the one you are with now. Also, this new guy may well turn out to be the love of your life, but you have doubts in your mind so I... (read in full...)
If he really loved me, wouldn't he break it off with her?
Q. OK... So, I'm a teenager, I won't specify my exact age [very private over the interweb], and one of my best friends and I have been sneaking around together. Let's call him Tom. Well, Tom and I found that our sexual connection is strong, and it's ...
A. 24 January 2008: Honey,
He is using you both I'm affraid. Why does he need to break it off with her, when he can click his fingers and you go running.
If this is all you think you are worth, then carry on. But if I were you, I would dump him and let the other gi... (read in full...)
The boy my sister likes is catching on to that fact, and now is trying to be physical, and is touching her. Please help!
Q. hey everyone. Well im asking for my sister. She came to me for advice and I don't know what to do. She is 13 and in the 7th grade. She liked some kid in her grade so she started to flirt with him. Well she came home today crying and when I asked her ...
A. 24 January 2008: Hi,
Perhaps you should talk to this guy on your own. Just tell him that although your little sister likes him, she is not at all ready for any of the other stuff. If you put it accross nicely, he may well respect that you are just looking out for ... (read in full...)
Do I trust him or not? I don't know what to think now.
Q. My boyfriend took an ex home with him from the pub last Saturday she claimed she was being hassled by some other bloke he should have put her in a taxi home nothing happened, but she did get into our bed, he slept in the spare room when he discovere...
A. 23 January 2008: Hi,
You do trust him, you already said that you dont think anything happened, what does he want from you blood.
I would be really fuming if my partner did that to me. So I dont think you, have acted unreasonable.
If you had been there and were mat... (read in full...)
Why do younger men fall for older women?
Q. Why do younger men fall for older women? This keeps happening to me, and lately a relationship with a man 9 years younger is getting quite serious... I am worried that this is just a passing fancy....
A. 23 January 2008: You lucky Girl. Just enjoy it I know I bloody well would.
Take it as you still that attractive to get one. Just dont think of it as long term, and if he loves you and stays then its a bonus.
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Is it legal for me to leave home?
Q. Im wondering because my best friends mum and dad are planning to move to california and they have invited me to go with them. Is it legal for me to leave my house is my mum agrees to it? Please tell me anything you know on it thanks...
A. 22 January 2008: Hi,
I think it would depend on your age. And how much your parents trust these friends of yours.
What a wonderfull oportunity though!
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I am so angry--he 's married and I am tempted to tell his wife!
Q. I broke up with my "boyfriend" three weeks ago after spending three months fighting with him about how he lied to me about being married. He told me after I told him that I loved him. I'm not stupid. He lied very well and I'm way too trusting and ...
A. 22 January 2008: Just because he Lied to you, doesnt make you the bad person. He was the one married and not you.
Should you tell his wife Emm! Thats a hard one.
No doubt he deserves it, but the chances are he will either 1, Deny it.
2, Make you out to be a slut... (read in full...)
55 Year old boyfriend that's married! Should I leave him?
Q. i am seening this man of the age 55 im am 20yr old male i love him he treats me so right that is when he isnt with his second wife and kids all his kids are older than me i know it sounds weird but wat can i do should i just walk away or stick it ...
A. 22 January 2008: Hi,
I really think that you should leave him. Not because of the age gap, but because he is married with children and living a lie. The chances of him leaving his little comfort zone are pretty slim.
You are a young gay man, with your whole li... (read in full...)
Should my friend get involved in broidering a date/call, since she acquainted us?
Q. On Saturday night I went to my friends birthday party. Her friend Jordan was there and we hit it off. He is flirty, fun and pretty cute. I went home that night and couldn't sleep...I was thinking of him. I haven't liked someone like that in a really ...
A. 22 January 2008: Hi,
I would just call, and make some excuse to meet up with him. If he says yes, you know that he likes you, Problem solved.
If he says No. His loss.
XX Good luck... (read in full...)
Any polite way to tell a friend she should not post semi-nude photos in the Internet?
Q. Is there any polite way to tell a friend that she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself, 53, in Lingerie on her facebook page?...
A. 22 January 2008: No,
Just tell her, she is going to make herself look Ridiculous. And as her good friend, you dont want people to laugh at her.
We both know where we are coming from dont we?
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Tellulah... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 22 January 2008: Hi,
Perhaps I came over as harsh towards you. I can understand it must be very difficult, and not as straight forward as it should be.
But if you have found evidence of what your husband is looking at. I would not go trying to find more of this, as... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down! Hubby wont leave! advice please?
Q. my marriage has broken down but my husband says he wont leave the house he wont talk to me about what we should do . what can i do ?...
A. 22 January 2008: Hi,
Do you have children, and thats why you need to stay in the house. If not, is it possible you could leave instead. Just until you can sort stuff out. It cant be a very nice Atmosphere for either of you.
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Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 22 January 2008: If you have five children, how would you like it if a guy has a porn piucture of one of them?
How do you know that your husband isn't selling phot's of his own kids on line.
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO!!!!!! Tell the police. This man needs locking up.
I w... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 21 January 2008: I am the mother of two children, and I love them both dearly. BUT... had I known how hard it is to bring them up on my own, I dont think I would have bothered, having any.
I know its easy to say, when you have them already, but its not the end of t... (read in full...)
Is my friend being minipulated, or do I have this wrong?
Q. Hi all, I have a question that I would like some veiws on. Yesterday afternoon, I met a friend and her husband in the pub and was invited to go back to dinner. This couple are our close friends,(he was left by his wife for another man) and we ofte...
A. 21 January 2008: Thanks all, especially Phil.
My partner is a man, so yes he would look at a girl dressed like that. He would only want me to dress like it, if it was for him only, at home. He actuallyt thought that I looked really nice when we went out. Even thou... (read in full...)
I made a terrible mistake! how can I prove I didn't mean this?, I am only 12
Q. my problem is my older sister will not talk to me at all because me and her 11 year old girl did some touching (you know) the thing is my older sister ha something similar to her happen when she was my age (11) she wont talk to me or my mom at all ...
A. 21 January 2008: I felt really sorry for you when I read this.
You are very young, and I think if you speak to most people, something will have happened in the past, that may be simular. So I shouldn't worry to much, about what has been said. The main thing is that... (read in full...)
My date received a begging message from her abusive ex and I'm scared of losing her, especially that she refuses to discuss this!
Q. im totally in love with a girl ive been dating for a few months now. i know she had a pretty hard time with her ex, and he was horrible to her; abusive, cheating, patronizing, and generally making her life pathetic. however, i found messages on her ...
A. 20 January 2008: Hi,
This is a really hard one, because she is probably very mixed up about her feelings. The trouble with being abused is the after effect that it has on your life.
You would think that once you get rid of a partner that is violent towards you, you... (read in full...)
We're trying to rescue him. Any ideas what we could do?
Q. I am the oldest of 3 (22), but I get on really well with brother who is the youngest (18). I know it sounds weird coming from his brother but before I left for my year backpacking this time last year, he was a really nice and caring person who ...
A. 20 January 2008: You sound like a very caring person to have as a brother. So you can help him a lot. All you need to do is to lead by example. Show him that not every girl is as bad as that. And dont forget his age, at 18 he is bound to be a little imature. My Baby ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about him looking at 'Granny Porn'?
Q. a few months ago i found about 20 videos in the recycle bin of the computer i share with my 24 year old boyfriend of porn featuring mature women. i thought this was a bit strange however i put it to the back of my mind. Recently I discovered tha...
A. 20 January 2008: Hey!! I'm 48 and still look good for my age. We dont all go to pot you know.
Only joking with you, dont worry its nothing. He is just going through a fad like the other aunt said.
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What can you do when you're in love with your husband's friend?
Q. what do you do when your married and you're in love with your husbands friend? I have been sleeping with his friend for almost a year and now he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to see me anymore and I can't stop thinking about him all day ...
A. 20 January 2008: You really dont know how lucky you are, that your hubby didnt find out. What a mess this would have caused.
Cant you get back on track with the one your married to. And if you are still pining for this other guy after a few weeks. I recon you shou... (read in full...)
What if the grass isn't greener on the other side?
Q. Need a little advice...it may be long. I apologize in advance, but it's best to tell the whole story. Okay, I am in over my head...I have this absolutely wonderful boyfriend who i would never deliberately hurt, but about a month ago a good...
A. 20 January 2008: You are asking the imposible. No one can wave a magic wand and tell you which one to go for, unfortunatly!.
You ask is it possible that grass wont be greener on the other side?.
You cant find this out until you take the leap. Then it may be to la... (read in full...)
Is it weired to call your Baby, the same name as your EX.
Q. Hi! I was just wondering-- my boyfriend and I are having a baby boy due this March, and my absolute favorite name that i have picked out just happens to be the name of this guy i used to hook up with... i want that name so bad but it's kind of ...
A. 18 January 2008: It is kind of weired, but if you really like the name and you other half has no objections. Why not?... (read in full...)
If your happy and you know it!!!
Q. I know this isn't a question, but I'm just happy =] I want the whole world to know!...
A. 18 January 2008: I moderated your mail. And it really made me smile. Its not often that you hear of someone being happy.
Stay that way XXX Tellulah... (read in full...)
I asked him if he'd like me to be thinner, and now I can't stand for him to see me naked. What can I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend. and he loves me too and wud never hurt me. We're both people who think looks don't matter in each other (but criticise our own looks constantly). He calls me beautiful but i think it's that 'i don't love you cos ur beautifu...
A. 18 January 2008: Its the age old mistake that us girls make. We want to ask our partners for the truth, but thats not what we really want to hear. We only want the truth if it's good.
They dont know that though do they?
I asked my Boyfriend one night. "Does my... (read in full...)
Politics is coming between us. What can I do?
Q. Help! I’m in a little trouble here with my wife and politics. I’m a republican and conservative and I plan on voting for a republican candidate in the primaries and eventually the November vote. My wife is a strong supporter of a certain candidate ...
A. 18 January 2008: I cant understand why you are arguing, over a lot of people with different policies that are all basically out for themselves anyway. I have only voted once in my life, and at 47 thats a lot of years i didnt bother. I know that the argument is that ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and pregnant. How do I run this by my family?
Q. Well..I am thirteen years old ..I am pregnant..I dont know how to tell my friends and especially family...Im not all that tight with my family...But we are getting alot of support from my boyfriends side of the family..I just dont know if i will ...
A. 18 January 2008: Back up and Fizz it? do you mean have a termination?.
I could sugar coat this and tell you dont worry it will all be OK. But quite honestly, even if your parents support you 100% of course it will effect you. Your only 13 for God's sake, what are ... (read in full...)
Why do I take this out on my Parents?.
Q. dear cupid i am a 17 years of age and currently have a phobia of not being able to defend my self and getting scared of people and the dark. this happened since i got stabbed and has gotten worser to the fact that my hands become paralaysed ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi,
You say that your hands freeze when you about to fight someone. Why are you fighting anyway?
I'm not surprised you are scared of all these things if you have been stabbed. I think anyone would be.
Perhaps you should go and see your doctor,... (read in full...)
Is my Male friend to old for this Girl?
Q. hi everyone i have a bit of a problem with my best mate i dont know what to do he is 36 nearly 37 and recently confided in me that he has been having a relationship (mainly just sexual) with a 16 year old... ok this sounds alot worse its making...
A. 18 January 2008: I think you know this is totally wrong. This Girl is much to young for him, and he is taking advantage of her.
If I were you, I would talk to him and tell him you dont approve and he should finnish it before anyone gets hurt. If he refuses, I woul... (read in full...)
I hit her, and now she cant forgive me?
Q. my wife said its over because i hit her i truly regret it but its done and i just want to know if shes serious ...
A. 18 January 2008: Have you ever hit her before? Why did you do it this time.
Coming from a violent relationship, and staying in it for years myself. I cant really blame her.
There is NO excuse to hit a Woman, no matter how mad she makes you.
If you dont want to... (read in full...)
Would a girl know that I like her with this kind of xmas gift?
Q. Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, ...
A. 17 January 2008: What a really lovely thing to do.
But in answer to your question!.
Some people need it spelling out that you like them. Why dont you just ask her out, on a date?. If she says no, then at least you know where you stand with her. Thats the worse th... (read in full...)
I find older men really sexy...is this normal?
Q. I'm 15 and I'm almost quite worried about myself. In the past few years Ive noticed I always get the hots for elder men. I dont mean old pensiors! But like men in their 30s and 40s, and I don't like anyone near my age at all. I just find older men ...
A. 16 January 2008: This question seems a bit strange to me, I wouldnt be surprised if it turned out to be a hoax.
Or it could be, that maybe all I can remember, of my teachers in those days, when I were your age, was how old and crumbly they all looked.
The thoug... (read in full...)
Can you dye your pubic hair?
Q. Can you dye your pubic hair? Mine's so light, I want it darker!...
A. 11 January 2008: Yes you can.
My mate dyed hers Red ,and shaved it into a heart for Valentine's day last year. It was a bit of a shock to her husband, he nearly fell over when he first saw it.... (read in full...)
How does a man feel if a woman he's with for the first time tells him of her desire and that she wants to be satisfied without delay? Should I feel so embarassed?
Q. I am feeling a bit embarrassed about something I did last night and would really like to know the opinions of some of you wise strangers. I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. I had told him up front that I did not want to rush into a ...
A. 11 January 2008: Here! Here.
Phil is absolutly right, you have done nothing slutty at all. Just a bit saucy. Which I think most men would love.
You go Girl!
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I need to boost my confidence!! Please help.
Q. I am going on holiday with my friends to cornwall to celebrate finishing our GCSES this July I am really worried, becuase although in some ways I can't wait, I am dreading going on the beach and everyone seeing me in a bikini. I am a size 8 and ...
A. 11 January 2008: Hi,
Be positive you can do loads. Starving yourself to get even thinner though, is not the answer.
You are a size 8, but you dont say how tall you are. I am only 5"1 and am over weight by 2 dress sizes, a size 12. So I cant see that you weight w... (read in full...)
What can I do for a romantic night in that won't cost a fortune?
Q. Hi, I am having a few problems with my partner at the moment, so in order to show him I love him I was to arrage a romantic night in... I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of what I could do that wouldn't cost a fortune thanks...
A. 10 January 2008: I agree with others.
A nice meal, and a couple of glasses of wine. And how about his favorite film. Even if you hate it, it will mean a lot if you watch it with him.
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Do you think it's ok for me to let my wife have another guy as her best friend??
Q. I'm 32 and my wife is 28. My wife and a good friend of mine (male friend) are good friends. I think it would be safe to say that they are best friends (which is totally okay by me). My friends say I'm crazy to "be okay" with this. I disagree, ...
A. 10 January 2008: Just because she is friends with the guy, does not mean she is having sex with him. That would be automatically asuming that she has no feelings for you what-so-ever.
If she is going out with him often,(more often than you are comfortable abou... (read in full...)
Do you think it's ok for me to let my wife have another guy as her best friend??
Q. I'm 32 and my wife is 28. My wife and a good friend of mine (male friend) are good friends. I think it would be safe to say that they are best friends (which is totally okay by me). My friends say I'm crazy to "be okay" with this. I disagree, ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
My Boyfriend has quite a few mates that I am trusted with. He knows that I love him and wouldnt go down that path. I often meet them for drinks without him, while he is sailing. One of them has recently become single, he is nice looking with... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 10 January 2008: Doesnt matter,
Confidence and personality, is what attracts the oposite sex. Unless your Superficial, then I guess you might have a preference, but then you might be missing out on a great partner, just because they have the wrong colour hair... (read in full...)
How can I stop him sending pictures on his phone?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps texting other girls. He has pictures of them and dirty messages which he sends and they send. He does not know I have seen them.....this time. I confronted him few months ago about them and he promised he would stop ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
I felt so sorry for you when I read through your letter. What a Bars***, to do this while you are expecting.
It would be bad enough at anytime, but this is awfull.
If you have asked him to stop and he wont there's not a lot you can do. You ... (read in full...)
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