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writes:Well..I am thirteen years old ..I am pregnant..I dont know how to tell my friends and especially family...Im not all that tight with my family...But we are getting alot of support from my boyfriends side of the family..I just dont know if i will get any fom mine..I don't know how hard it is to be a mom even tho i love kids and i really enjoy beig around them..Do you think it will be hard on me! Will it distroy my life? Is so can i always get back up and fiz it.. Any advice?! Reply to this Question |
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reader, carmendy +, writes (9 October 2008):
Wow that is BIG! I just had a baby and thought I could handle it all! babies take up all your time I have felt distant from many of my friends I cant go out at the drop of a hat anymore. But babiesa are a beautifull thing, more happines than anything but say good bye to your childhood... I have a very close family and they watch him once in a wile so I can have some time to myself, Yet you still feel guilty for leaving them even if it's with a family member... Think hard about this one you are soooo young and you'll never get it back!
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reader, yushi  +, writes (8 October 2008):
are you sure your pregnant?? well if you are then tell your friends first they'll give you some advise... after that see the school nurse or somthing. Later on tell your parents. They might take it horribly and get sooo angry at you or not... what ever the result is good luck. I know its gonna get scary but the sooner the better beacuse if they find out them selves it will be much much much worse.
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reader, ALILEE  +, writes (9 August 2008):
sweetie defently tell ur mum she will love u no matter what and want the best for u and ur baby so let her no and things should be alot easier i really dont think u will need a job just yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): ok.you have something almost no other 13 year old preagnant girl has..her boyfriends family support. this is a good thing.First of all just sit down with them and just let it out slowly but dont beat around the bush. you need to tell them soon cause you will need prenaelty care and you will need to start eating healthier. then you need to get a job. you can get on at food city or any other fast food place if you explain your situation. then cant turn you down just because you are preagnant so in oder to keep that from happening call first,talk to the manager and tell him oyur age and you want the job for responsiblty and he says to come meet with him go and if he takes one look at you and turns you down you will know why and tell him that you know its against the law for him not to hire you just cause your preggers. thats all i have to say but please be careful
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reader, XoXokalynbabyXoXo  +, writes (6 July 2008):
okay..
hi this is kalyn =]
I am thirteen as well
and i love kids and i really
would love to be pregnant.
My advice would be to keep it!
See i would be pregnant rite now of it werent for my mom.
I am afraid at what she would think of me and stuff.
Well if you do keep it please can you keep me updated and email me and tell me hw it feels to be pregnant and such..
I really would love to know... i would be grateful
And if i were in ur situation i would sit my mom or dad or whoever ur going to tell that ur pregnant and very sorry for doing what you did.
And that u will raise this baby as well as u cn (if u keep it)
and also go to school! and put them in daycare or have ur mom or dad watch it or ur boyfriends side of the family watch it. i hope for the best for you! and please e-mail me! i would be very happy =]
my e-mail is [email address blocked]
and do u have a myspace?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): I also require help or advice, i'm 5 weeks pregnant and also 13, i don't have a clue what to do,who to tell or what to say. Will keeping it ruin my life or will it help me to grow up, i'm scared and didn't realise their were other 13 year olds who were pregnant, please try and give me advice on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Maybe it would help if your boyfriend came with you when you told your parents. You need their support and if you don't try, you won't get.
It won't be easy being a mother at such a young age and that is why you need to find support now. But it will only ruin your life if you let it.
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (18 January 2008):
 Back up and Fizz it? do you mean have a termination?.
I could sugar coat this and tell you dont worry it will all be OK. But quite honestly, even if your parents support you 100% of course it will effect you. Your only 13 for God's sake, what are you thinking.
Listen honey! Having a baby is really hard work, even when you are older and there are two of you. The likely hood of this guy sticking around for the next 20 years is pretty remote. You will be facing bringing this child up on your own eventually.
You need advice from your Mum, and Dad. Tell them what has happened, and if they are any kind of parents they will help.
No one can tell you whether or not to go ahead with this pregnancy. I'm sure you will get lots of advice with arguments on both sides.
But your just a child yourself, and you have so much ahead of you. There are lots of things you will miss out on if you have a baby.
Please take care. XX
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reader, dollparts +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I agree with mandy 100% You really really need to think about this before having it and you really should talk to your family hun of even just your mum to start with you know? and yeah if you need to talk just message me
(hugs) - Emily
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
Oh dear my heart goes out to you, You havent even stopped growing yourself yet, My I wish this was easy but its not. Have you talked with your b/fs parents about your fears sweetheart as you most definatly need to talk to someone, Plus your family really should no, I can see why you havent told them as you said your not that close but surely they would be wanting to no and help. I suppose angry as well in the light of your age. Boy I have a daughter and I hope when she is 13 she can come to me with anything, Just to think of you going through this brought a tear to my eye. Hunny its not easy being a parent it is really hard work it does take up all of your time, And at your age its going to be alot harder as you are still growing your hormones are all over the place. You need to see a doctor as soon as possible to get support and guidence. I felt I was to young at 19 and when my son came along love him I did but boy was it hard work a big shock to the system, You need support have you a family planning clinic in your area as they are there for alot of things some young girls dont realise, They are there to offer support and to talk with you about all sorts of opptions to help. I cant say enough that at this moment you need all the support and help you can get. Sweetheart if you need to talk message me anytime to let me no how things are going be it good or bad please do im only to happy to help PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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