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reader, hello1  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 you should be talking about this with your mum. I been to America a few times, I loved it but wouldn't want to live there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI live in the uk
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 depends on how old the age of legal adulthood is where you live. For the U.S., it's 18. I'm legal to leave at any time I want.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 One more thing, be prepared, as a guest at your age, to pitch in and help by keeping your room clean, doing your own laundry and helping out around the house...
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (23 January 2008):
Don't forget the medical insurance. Hope that everything works out for you. Your certainly old enough to consider doing this, but like I said, it broke my heart to let a child go at this age. So don't be too surprised if your Mom says No, and don't be too hard on your Mom if she does. I hope things work out for the best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am 15 but they wont be moving till next year. So possibly when im 16. I will be able to pay for my flight & I will pay for my own foods if i get a job over there. Or if my mum sends money over or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): depends on your age. But here in the UK your parents do not have a legal obligation to look after you when you are 16. You can move out at 16 but will struggle to find somewhere to live and will find it really hard, trust me i moved away to go to collage and that was hard enough.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (22 January 2008):
How old are you Dear?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy teacher said its okay if my mum agrees
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): i think you should stay with your mum cos she would probibly be sad at you leaving. why not just visit them instead.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (22 January 2008):
Are you sure that they didn't just ask you to come and visit Dear?
Living with them in the US would be a huge proposition. The US doesn't have socialized medical care, so it would cost them quite a bit of money to take care of you, in the form of medical insurance - that's before considering airfare, food, lodgings and other normal expenses. They probably couldn't insure you unless you were adopted by them as well - I'm not sure that dependent children living with a separate, unrelated family can even be insured!
Would your Mum want to give you up? I had to let my son leave me at 15 for his old school back in Canada (his choice), when he actually could have stayed with me until he was finished school at 17. It nearly broke my heart! And, years later, he said he regretted not spending the last year before Uni with the rest of his family. I suspect that it seems like a lovely dream to you right now, and that it is a dream that is helping you deal with your BFF moving far away. I think that the reality will be that you would miss your Mom far more than you will miss your friend.
Get Mum to start looking for cheap airfares so that you can visit. There are all kinds of cheap ways to stay in touch, especially over the net. I raised my kids in three different countries, and my daughter is still BFF with her friend from Grade One at age 6 - they are 22 years old now! So, don't worry about losing your friendship! You won't be losing a friend, you'll be gaining a place to visit!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Well it all depends on your age. But i dont know california law but i reckon if you mum signed your living right to a guardian you could. But once again i dont know california law and your age
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reader, hello1 +, writes (22 January 2008):
in the UK I think you need permission if your under 18? I may be wrong. But yes it should be okay if your mum agrees.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Hi,
I think it would depend on your age. And how much your parents trust these friends of yours.
What a wonderfull oportunity though!
xx
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