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... Send *tina a private message | | | *tina's profile:Hi, I'm Stina! I've been an agony aunt here on Dear Cupid since July 2006 and became a site moderator the following November. I've not been able to be on here as much as I used to be, but that's because I've just started a new job. Hopefully I'll be able to be on here much more in the future. But for now, it's office work for me during the day!
Anyway, I grew up being very independent and because of that have always been able to work out problems in my life pretty well. My friends have often times come to me to help sort out what they should do in tough situations, as well. Hopefully I'll be able to help you out if you ever need advice, too! ^_^
As for who I "really" am - I'm 26, an atheist, and married. I live in beautiful Charm City, Murderland with my husband, our three hairless chinese crested pups (Ivy, Zoey, and Duncan), one smooshy floofhead dwarf hamster (Budgie; RIP Dr. Sushi T_T) and one huffy hedgehog (Nacho). I'm a quality assurance engineer and a graphic designer. My artwork has been shown all over the world including the US, France, Algeria, Australia and more. ^_^
I'm also addicted to cute animals, japanese pop culture, reggaeton, 80's hip hop and breakdancing (can't do it!, love to watch it!), experimental and avant garde films, food and tattoos (self designed).
If anyone cares to see a "real" picture of me, you can see one here: http://sushi-and-pears.livejournal.com/profile (Check out my uber-cool snob nose! haha) I'm posting this in hopes that other aunts/uncles will post their pictures. I'm always interested to see what all of us actually looks like! ^_^
I have a myspace and a livejournal, so if you want to know anymore about me for some reason I'll post the links. (If you'd like to add me as a friend on either of these, please just message me here or on either site! I've made my accounts private to keep out the weirdos.)
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I text her twice and she didn't reply...I'm nervous I will never see her again...
Q. This may take a while but I'll try my best to explain my story. The's this girl who I really like and i used to go to school with. she is still there as she's in the year below. She's really friendly and sweet but, she's also really shy. I asked he...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anon,
If you're nervous about calling her since you guys spoke a while ago, you could try texting her again. Just say something simple like about how you were thinking about her and wondered how she was doing. Short and sweet. If you get ... (read in full...)
He's Insatiable!!! Help!
Q. i'm losing my sex drive and i have no idea why. It's also getting to the point where my boyfriend is asking me questions as to what is going on and i have no real answer for him, we have discussed it and he told me that he would ideally like to ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hello Anon,
A lot of times girls don't have a good sex drive because they are on birth control. Maybe this is what's happened with you. And it really doesn't have to fade as soon as you start taking birth control, either - it could be up to a ... (read in full...)
I wasnt interested, now I am hes found someone else, what can I do ?
Q. i met this wonderful boy about 2 weeks back.. at first i didnt know what to do, but he was quick wit, fun and charming. i really liked him and coz i was mending a brokenheart i didnt want to go out with him despite him asking me out almost ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Girl,
Let me start out first by asking you a question: Are you sure that you really like him, or do you just want him because now he might become unavailable? Seriously think about that.
Now, if you really do want him and he is not in a r... (read in full...)
This guy and I have had past issues... so should I allow him in my life as more than a friend?
Q. Ok so my best friend gave this guy my phone number and I've been talking to this guy on the phone since mid-April. I'm 17 and he's 19. He asked me out a month later after meeting me for the first time (I live a hour away from him). I said yes, but ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I think it would be best to hold off having him as more than a friend at this point. It sounds like you're too unsure. When people start relationships with one another, it should be a positive, happy, and fun experience! What you have... (read in full...)
I text her twice and she didn't reply...I'm nervous I will never see her again...
Q. This may take a while but I'll try my best to explain my story. The's this girl who I really like and i used to go to school with. she is still there as she's in the year below. She's really friendly and sweet but, she's also really shy. I asked he...
A. 13 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
I agree with Abacadaba. She could also just be bad at getting back to people, you know how it can be with people sometimes.
If you guys had nice conversations before, then perhaps you should call her up again instead of text ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy get up and leave ?
Q. This is not a big problem compared to some of the other things that I read on this site but here is my problem. There is a guy in my circle of friends who seems nice, I do not know him really well but everytime I come into the room or sit down with ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
That is sort of strange. There could be lot of different reasons for that, too. The first couple things that came to mind were 1) that he likes you and kind of doesn't know what to do/how to act because he gets self concious... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me into getting his name tattooed on me!
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years is pressurising me a lot to get his name tattooed on my breasts or butts. he insists that this is a definite way of expressing my love for him. i am not sure of social and/or clinical affects of this. i love him deeply ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
It's one thing if you want to get a tattoo, but it's another if it's a lover's name. Even if you wanted to do it I would advise against it. It's just a bad idea and for obvious reasons.
Did you know many times tattoo artists w... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I wont leave her, shes so jealous and insecure!!
Q. I have been engaged for a few months now and my fiancee's jealousy is becoming worse. I have never given her any reason to be suspicious of me, although I do speak to female friends on MSN. She knew my password and would sometimes go on my account ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
I agree with some of the other aunts that you two should attend couples counseling. There's no reason for *either* of you to become destroyed souls. That's not what loving and caring relationships are all about.
Now, the way ... (read in full...)
Why won't he just go away???
Q. what can i do? my ex keeps finding ways to get in touch with me and when he does he makes me feel worthless, that he didn't fancy me for a long time when we were together which is why he went back with other girls, this makes me feel so low ...
A. 12 September 2006: Ah, okay now this is making more sense. He is jealous and hurt. That's what usually happens during a break-up; however, it doesn't seem like he's able to cope with his feelings.
Listen, you are not making him look "stupid." Right now he is at... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my parents are chaining me down...Help!!!
Q. Hi i have a problem and need some advice to feel better. I have 2 older siblings than me, and I'm 23, however I am "at the moment" more finacially stable then they are. I am the youngest, and am the only kid at home and i live at home because ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
Well, the positive side of this situation is that you realize that they are holding you back and you don't deserve it.
I have several suggestions, and because I think this is more than just a problem with going on holiday, I'll mo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt trust me because of his past, how can I make him see im different ??
Q. my boyfriend doesnt trust me, his ex hurt him so badly(cheated on him with his best friend) i dont know how to make him see that ill never hurt him and he can trust me.. ive spoken to him about it, but its always the same... every time i g...
A. 12 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
You can't tell him that you won't do anything - it's not going to do anything. What you need to do is what you already have been doing - just stay honest with him. After he sees this then he will realize that he has nothing ... (read in full...)
Why won't he just go away???
Q. what can i do? my ex keeps finding ways to get in touch with me and when he does he makes me feel worthless, that he didn't fancy me for a long time when we were together which is why he went back with other girls, this makes me feel so low ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
The first thing that I was going to tell you was to stop answering his phone calls. The more you ignore him, the more he'll get bored with playing this disgusting game of his. But then when I read that he even stops by your hou... (read in full...)
The skid marks on his boxer shorts is turning me off. He says it stings to wipe his bum...what is his problem?
Q. Iv got a slight problem here and i welcome any help that i can get.My partner is a wonderful man and is very good with the kids but i am quickly going off him. He doesn't wipe his bum properly because he has loads of skid marks in his boxers! I am ...
A. 8 September 2006: Anonymous,
Seriously - get this man some baby wipes so that wiping doesn't 'sting' and tell him to get to the doctor because that doesn't even sound normal!
Maybe it stings because it's infected down there from lack of wiping! (Maybe he has he... (read in full...)
I read her diary, and now all the stuff about her sex life bothers me!
Q. Hey I've been seeing this girl now for about 5 months and have recently moved in with her (quick i kno but if we didnt we would have to break up). I recently read her diary and found somethings that greatly disturbed me and one thing in perticular ...
A. 8 September 2006: Anonymous,
Excuse me, but what really matters is not her past when you weren't even involved with her, but that you dove straight into her personal life by reading her diary! I find that more disturbing than a girl exploring her sexualit... (read in full...)
Is his request normal ?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to call out my ex boyfriends name when we are having sex. i find this uncomfortable. is this normal? ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
Regardless of what he wants you to do, if it makes you uncomfortable then don't do it.
But now about the actual request: At first I found his request strange, but then I actually thought that maybe he gets turned on by being abus... (read in full...)
Shall I stop my pill while my bf is away for 6 months ?
Q. My boyfriend's going away for six months, do you think it's a good idea to stop my pill? (Note: I'm not going to be unfaithful to him)...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Personally, I would stay on the pill because your body is used to the cycle for now and coming off would throw it for a loop. Plus there's no harm in staying on the pill at all and it's better safe than sorry if anything were to happen (... (read in full...)
Should I get involved in an online relationship?
Q. i have met a lovely man over the internet tonight but not sure whether to start a relationship with him or just stay friends. I have never had a relationship before i am thirty seven and i was looking after my sick nan up until three years ago. Not ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
I'm a little confused as to whether or not you met him on the internet tonight or if you met a guy from the internet in person tonight.
If you haven't met him in real life, I think it would be really nice for you to go out and se... (read in full...)
He won't connect with my kids, and he calls them names! What do I do?
Q. hi, I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my partner has never really connected to my 2 children, at first I ignored this but as time has gone on I no longer can, Our relationship: he has his money and I have mine (his choice) he pays ...
A. 8 September 2006: Sorry - I should clarify - when I said go to counseling, I meant couples counseling. If he doesn't want to go, you should still go yourself so you can figure out your own feelings about this, etc. ... (read in full...)
He won't connect with my kids, and he calls them names! What do I do?
Q. hi, I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my partner has never really connected to my 2 children, at first I ignored this but as time has gone on I no longer can, Our relationship: he has his money and I have mine (his choice) he pays ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Marcia Me,
Oh, how horrible! Why does this man think he can act this way? He obviously lacks respect for not only your children but ultimately you. Didn't he realize that you and your children are a *family* and he can't just leave 2/3 of y... (read in full...)
Worried the guy I used to date will try and ruin my reputation!
Q. Ok Ill try to make it short. I used to date this guy like 3 months ago and i have stoped talking to him for that time. well last week we kinda started with fight over emails and then we softed it up.. so he was telling me how he still feels we could ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi LiLKiss,
I know someone who was in your exact position. What she did was just ignore the guy. Just cut off all contact with him and that girlfriend of his. She is obviously in denial and he obviously isn't finished with the lies. You did ... (read in full...)
How can I determine his honesty or is it once a cheater always a cheater ?
Q. After a year of dating exclusively my ex admitted to cheating once, while on a 'boys night' seven months into the relationship. He said he felt like crap and didn't know how to tell me. I could feel something was wrong-so the relationship declined ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
First I need to say that you shouldn't even consider the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater." Those are just empty words. That's what people spout out when they don't know what else to say or when they don't really understa... (read in full...)
I asked her to tell me a secret, she did but was it a joke ?
Q. Was in bed with my gf last week and we were chatting. She then asked me to tell her a secret, after being pushed for a while I told her something that happened to me in my childhood, I then asked her the same her reply in a stone-cold serious face ...
A. 8 September 2006: Hello Anon,
I agree with the anonymous poster below, however I think it should be reversed. It is extremely important that you talk to her FIRST. You absolutly need to know if she was joking or not - I don't think I have to explain why, right? ... (read in full...)
I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams but I don't want to break up either - help!
Q. I am feeling really sad right now :( A few weeks ago I met this guy and we hit it off instantly. We started dating and I grew to like him a lot- he was so nice and sweet, treated me well, was gorgeous...But then he was offered a place to live ove...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anon,
If neither of you want to break up and it's not an option to go live where he will be, you could always try a long distance relationship. They don't always work, but it's always worth a try.
I know two people who have had long distanc... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep pestering me for sex when we broke up 4 years ago!?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 years ago. In those 4 years he has kept in touch with me. He always wants to have sex with me. Why wont he move on? He broke up with me! What should I do?...
A. 8 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I agree with Martini (although I'm a little bit nicer like Lostandalone! hee hee). The only thing you can do is ignore him. The more you do it, the more he's going to know you mean what you say. If you keep having sex with him, he'... (read in full...)
I passed wind and my boyfriend dumped me!!!
Q. My fella has finished with me because i accidently passed wind!I said i was sorry but he wouldn't listen,he said i was disgusting.I really miss him,what shall i do?...
A. 7 September 2006: Hi Anonymous,
Wow - that is a really stupid reason to dump someone. I'm assuming that he never does that? Anon, you are really lucky that you had the advantage of knowing what kind of person this guy is before your relationship progress... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my lip, should it be doing this ?
Q. dear cupid i have a problem with my lip, if i look at the mirror closely i can see part of it beat/move and that part also has a lump when i take pictures it shows, but when i showed it to my parents they said its nothing and now when i saw it be...
A. 7 September 2006: Hey Anonymous,
It just might be a nerve which means that there's nothing wrong. My friend has something similar - a little part of skin the size of a pencil tip that "beats" up and down right next to her nose. She freaked out and went to the d... (read in full...)
Can you really be in love with two people at the same time?
Q. Is it truly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? or is that just something people say when they're afraid to admit how they truly feel, or are scared to say they don't love their partner anymore? I always thought that it wasn't ...
A. 7 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
I think it's possible to have feelings for two people, but to be in love with them both? I don't think that's possible. And it seems to me that you already know why.
I think this girl sounds rather insensitive. If... (read in full...)
She asked me who is the prettiest of her friends and I told her. Now I am regretting it!
Q. i was in bed with my girlfriend about 2 months ago, she was asking me lots of questions about her female friends, who is prettiest e.t.c bar a couple of questions i could only answer with 1 girl's name as she wouldnt let me just pick her the whole ...
A. 7 September 2006: I don't understand why you answered her question at all (???). And it was stupid of her to ask that - what is she trying to do - cause drama? Sure sounds like it. I would just try to avoid anything that comes up about that friend of hers and keep ... (read in full...)
Has any one used birth control call NuvaRing?
Q. So I was wondering if any of you females out there have used the birth control called the NuvaRing. Before I try this new method, I was wanted to know other's opionions on it. I'm a little scared about using it. So what do you think of the NuvaRing?...
A. 6 September 2006: Hey - I don't know if you're going to see this but I figured I'd post anyway.
Hey Heavens,
I use the ring and it's great! I've been using it for about a year and it's so wonderful not having to take a pill everyday; much more convenient. I'v... (read in full...)
Should I tell his dad that I still like his son ?
Q. hello, i am 16 and went out wiv this boy for 5 months then we broke up cos we wanted to consentrate on our exams, i havent seen him since and that once about 3 months ago. i still like him and i am good friends with his dad cos i see him at my ho...
A. 1 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
If you guys broke up on good terms, then maybe it would be nice of you to call him up and forget the whole talking to his dad thing? I'm sure he'd probably like to hear from you if you had a good time together. At least then you... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me ? what do you reckon ?
Q. Hi can u help me can sum one tell me if this lad i like likes me becasue i cant tell well. i was out last night clubbin with my mate her lad n my crush and all of thier fireiends and then my crush comes and sits next to me and we start chatting and ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Hollie, I don't know about love you, but it definitly sounds like he likes you! Why don't you find out if he wants to do something just the two of you next time you see him out with your friends? If he says no, then at least you know and can... (read in full...)
Hes not so good in the workplace, does this mean hes bad relationship material ?
Q. No one is perfect? I met a guy from my working place, his working attitude is not so good, kind of messy and sluggish at times. He likes me, I hestiate cos Im worried that he can't be a good lover, since he is irresponsible in work, shall I give h...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Anon, Everyone is different so I can't really answer that question. But I suggest going on a couple of dates with him to find out what he's like when not at work. Get to know him on another level. Just because he's messy at work doesn't mea... (read in full...)
My husbands friend flirts with me, could there be a real attraction?
Q. Hi. I'm really unsure as to how my husbands friend feels towards me. He's single. He keeps eye contact and flirts with me when he's drunk. Every time I see him, he makes comments about my clothes, not bad or good, just comments on my boots or coat ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hey Anonymous, I think it's a little of both: he's drunk and then allows his real feelings to show. And as much as this might flatter you, it's extremely disrespectful toward you and your husband; he shouldn't be rubbing your "coat" like that... (read in full...)
Why cant he accept that we are over, is it because he loves me or simply cant face rejection!?
Q. Iv broken up with my lover because i felt our relationship wasn't going anywhere.We were together for over 3 years but he lacked intimacy,even though i showed him what i wanted he appeared uncomfortable and he only got really affectionate when sex ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Anonymous, After three years - or any amount of time - your guy shouldn't have been acting that way. He should have wanted to cuddle with you and do those sorts of things that couples do. Also I find it strange that he wanted to be with you, ... (read in full...)
I'm a week late, could I be pregnant?
Q. well i had unprotected sex when i was ovulating, about 5 days after i started spotting i took 3 pregnancy test but all are negative, and i'm almost a week late for my period. pregnant? ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Anonymous, Yes, there is a chance that you might be pregnant. But, sometimes if you're stressing out over something or sick they will be late, too. Or if you've stopped taking the pill recently it might have thrown your monthly cycle fo... (read in full...)
He is married and I am in love, what should I do?
Q. I am 16 and i am in love with this guy that is a lot older than me, i dont know what to do because i see him a lot and when i see him he turns me on, but he is married. I have tried to forget about him but when i see him again it starts all over. ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Anonymous, In order to get rid of these feelings, you need to try and stop all contact with him. Getting emotionally attached to a married man is not something you want to have to deal with. You will end up ruining his life, his wife's life ... (read in full...)
What nicknames do guys like to be called?
Q. What nicknames do guys like to be called? Girls get called names like babe and sexy etc. But what do guys like to be called? Thanks...
A. 1 September 2006: Ponungalungb - lol! I always just used cute variations of names or something that just sounded cute altogether (words that don't actually exist. heh heh). I always thought "manly" things sounded rather cheesy and canned. Be creative and fun... (read in full...)
A death in the family and he is not being supportive?
Q. I have just had a death in the family my 6 year old cousin died of an epileptic fit and i am finding it hard to cope with it and when i ask for support from my partner he just says that i am being stupid whats done is done but this death is really ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hi Anon, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my deepest sympathies. Now I guess it's on to the actual post... Not to be supportive of him, but I'm just trying to figure out why he'd be like this... Maybe seeing you upset ... (read in full...)
What is the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis size?...
A. 31 August 2006: Geez, I just realized that I answered that for only the heterosexual side of the question. But what Ariel said covers all people! Words of wisdom. heh heh :)... (read in full...)
What is the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis size?...
A. 31 August 2006: Okay, hopefully this isn't too graphic (I can't believe it is, though): Hey Anon, It really doesn't matter what the average size is. As long as it's at least 3 inches, you're good to go -- that's because first three inches of a woman's vagina... (read in full...)
He has no respect for me and has threatened me with a gun but I still want a relationship with him!!!
Q. I feel that he has no respect for me whatsoever. One day when we were discussing he mentioned his sexual activities with his ex-girlfriend. Even the day after, I tried to make him understand that he should apologize for what he said and he kept ...
A. 31 August 2006: Hi Sushi,
Plain and simple - walk away from this guy.
You need to leave him because he sounds like he's mentally unstable and dangerous. You don't want to end up finding out that his gun threats were real. And you don't want to be pulled int... (read in full...)
Am I just being silly or am I right to be jealous ?
Q. HELP! I don't know whats wrong, my relationship has been a little up and down recently and I am extremely confused. At a party the other nite a girl was all over my boyfriend, everyone the party noticed and said it to me, there are photo;s too. this ...
A. 31 August 2006: Hi Anon,
This is my take on things: your boyfriend should have said something in the beginning that he already had a girlfriend. It's one thing to talk to someone and have a good time, but it has definitly crossed that border when kissing ... (read in full...)
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