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... Send *tina a private message | | | *tina's profile:Hi, I'm Stina! I've been an agony aunt here on Dear Cupid since July 2006 and became a site moderator the following November. I've not been able to be on here as much as I used to be, but that's because I've just started a new job. Hopefully I'll be able to be on here much more in the future. But for now, it's office work for me during the day!
Anyway, I grew up being very independent and because of that have always been able to work out problems in my life pretty well. My friends have often times come to me to help sort out what they should do in tough situations, as well. Hopefully I'll be able to help you out if you ever need advice, too! ^_^
As for who I "really" am - I'm 26, an atheist, and married. I live in beautiful Charm City, Murderland with my husband, our three hairless chinese crested pups (Ivy, Zoey, and Duncan), one smooshy floofhead dwarf hamster (Budgie; RIP Dr. Sushi T_T) and one huffy hedgehog (Nacho). I'm a quality assurance engineer and a graphic designer. My artwork has been shown all over the world including the US, France, Algeria, Australia and more. ^_^
I'm also addicted to cute animals, japanese pop culture, reggaeton, 80's hip hop and breakdancing (can't do it!, love to watch it!), experimental and avant garde films, food and tattoos (self designed).
If anyone cares to see a "real" picture of me, you can see one here: http://sushi-and-pears.livejournal.com/profile (Check out my uber-cool snob nose! haha) I'm posting this in hopes that other aunts/uncles will post their pictures. I'm always interested to see what all of us actually looks like! ^_^
I have a myspace and a livejournal, so if you want to know anymore about me for some reason I'll post the links. (If you'd like to add me as a friend on either of these, please just message me here or on either site! I've made my accounts private to keep out the weirdos.)
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I know he got me a hideous present for Christmas!
Q. I know what my husband got me for Christmas (he left it on his dresser) and it is hideous earring that I wouldn't be caught dead in. Should I hint to him that I hate gold jewelry, or hearts with hopes that he will return it for another gift, or ...
A. 20 December 2006: Hi Blondie,
This is always a hard spot to be in because you probably don't want to hurt his feelings or anything. If I were you, I would tell him that I didn't really care for it when I got it as a gift (but obviously you're still apprecia... (read in full...)
What are the pros/cons of circumcision? We're trying to decide what's best for our baby.
Q. Hi, I have a question for the uncircumcised men here. I'm American so I am most used to circumcised men, but I moved to the UK and have a British husband. We're expecting our first child (boy), and so this topic has come up. My husband doesn't ...
A. 20 December 2006: Hi Anon,
I did a little research online and this is what I came up with:
***Pros***
- Circumcision lowers your son’s chances of getting a urinary tract infection (UTI) in the first year of life.
- Although a rare condition, cancer of the... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 20 December 2006: I would also like to wish everyone happy holidays!! I also want to say that a lot of you guys have really helped me out with some very tricky problems I've faced recently, and I want to say how thankful I am. :) I hope that I've helped some of ... (read in full...)
I'm Anxious about him getting a text from his ex on New Years Eve!!!
Q. Should i be mad if on New Years Eve, my b/f receievs a text from an ex OR excuses himself a few minutes after midnight to avoid me seeing a text from a girl and to avoid me getting mad about it? I am feeling anxious about it coming up. Last year on ...
A. 20 December 2006: Hey Anon,
I can understand how it would be annoying if your guy got a text from an ex, but I don't think it's anything to worry about - especially since you two have been together for so long. Plus since he's going to be with you, maybe he could... (read in full...)
I moved to Spain with my nasty second husband. I want to move back to England, but all my ties are in Spain.
Q. I live in Spain with my second husband and all my ties are here. My husand turns very nasty when he has had a drink. He dos´nt hit me but he says very horrible things about me and my two daughters. I am now getting to a point I am so fed up of it. I ...
A. 20 December 2006: Hi Anon,
First of all start saving as much money as you can right now.
Okay - now about your husband's drinking problem. Have you tried to talk to him about it? Like I mean a serious conversation while he's sober? Does he realize that he ... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 20 December 2006: Yeah, since this is a help site, there's no real problem here. Since it's more of a discussion, you should post on the forums or else go to pro-choice and pro-life websites to see their arguments. That's the reason I answered the way I did at the ... (read in full...)
We had sex..no condom-now my period is 3 days late! Am I pregnant?
Q. Well my and my boyfriend had sex without a condom but he didnt ejaculate or anything but my period was suppose to start 3 to 4 days ago! Could be pregnant or am i over reacting? Please Answer As Soon As Possible!...
A. 20 December 2006: Hi Anon,
Even if your boyfriend didnt ejaculate, there is always pre-cum, which can't even really be seen but has enough sperm to potentially impregnant people sometimes. Like the other aunt, I suggest that you get a pregnancy test. Sometime... (read in full...)
It's possible, I'm pregnant...can alcohol consumption over xmas...affect the embryo?
Q. i really need some advice. My partner and I want a child, and we havent used contraception for almost 2 yrs and unfortunately no baby - yet. I am due on my period on 27th december. Being christmas I want to go out and celebrate with my friends, but ...
A. 19 December 2006: Hi Anon,
On the upside of things, I have heard that drinking anything (or eating anything, for that matter) earlier than 8 weeks into the pregnancy has virtually no affect on the embryo. BUT DOUBLE CHECK WITH YOUR DOCTOR!!!!
If I were you... (read in full...)
Why don't parents respect their children and learn how to communicate instead of dominate?!
Q. When will parents ever learn? Huh? When will they learn? When will they learn that nagging and having a go at their children doesn't help? How about some encouragement? How about some praise for the little achievements and improvements that have ...
A. 19 December 2006: Hi there Anon,
It sounds like there are a lot of problems that need to be addressed in the post you've written. I think that a lot could be gained if you and your parents attended family counseling. Here, you would all be able to work out issu... (read in full...)
My parents are on track to ruining our relationship because they think he is below my social status!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a little over a year and I love him to pieces. I cannot imagine life without him, and he loves me just as much. We are planning on being with eachother for a long time. So, it breaks my heart that my parents, especially ...
A. 19 December 2006: Hi there anon,
You sound like I did when I was dating my now husband! He had pink liberty spikes and wore studded leather jackets, tight jeans and boots. And it didn't help that he blasted '77 UK punk out of his car whenever he pulled up to ou... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend I've fallen for her, or keep it to myself?
Q. I've fallen big time for one of my best freinds, We've knowen each other for years, do I keep my feelings to myself or tell her and risk loosing her as a freind...
A. 18 December 2006: (BTW - if she is already involved in a relationship, don't say anything to her about it. And if she becomes single again, then that's great! But don't try to break up a relationship she's in, either. I know you're probably thinking "duh!," but ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend I've fallen for her, or keep it to myself?
Q. I've fallen big time for one of my best freinds, We've knowen each other for years, do I keep my feelings to myself or tell her and risk loosing her as a freind...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi there Anonymous,
If you two are close friends, then you falling for her and her knowing about it shouldn't affect the relationship on a serious level. I think that afterwards, if she doesn't feel as comfortable around you, then it would be... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 18 December 2006: Anon,
Why does it matter what anyone else thinks? If you're facing this question in life - all that matters is what you and your partner think. If you can't come to a conclusion, then you two should probably be talking to a professional about ho... (read in full...)
Am I likely to be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex a week b4 i was supposed to ovulate and 4 days b4 too. am i more likely to be pregnant than not be. i do not need to worry about sexually transmitted infections as he hasnt had sex with any1 since me as i was his first. help ...
A. 18 December 2006: I have to add that if you are pregnant and don't want the baby, then you can still have it and give it up for adoption, of course. (I know before it sounded like I mean abortion was the only other option. I know you probably knew that wasn't ... (read in full...)
Am I likely to be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex a week b4 i was supposed to ovulate and 4 days b4 too. am i more likely to be pregnant than not be. i do not need to worry about sexually transmitted infections as he hasnt had sex with any1 since me as i was his first. help ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi Anon,
If you had unprotected sex, then there is a chance that you could get pregnant. However, you are more likely to get pregnant within 6 days of ovulation. And the two days before ovulation and the day your actual cycle begins are when you... (read in full...)
Stop my period!!
Q. I'm on the pill, is there a way to stop a period from starting? I have a special week coming up and it conflicts with a certain unwanted visitor? ...
A. 18 December 2006: Anon,
If you skip the sugar pills (the ones you take during the week of your period) and take only the ones with the hormones in them the whole time w/ no break, you won't get your period. (Same thing goes with the ring - if you take the old one ... (read in full...)
He went on MySpace for the first time...should I be concerned?
Q. If you were talking to your significant other on the phone and asked them what they were doing and they said just playing around on the computer and they said they went on myspace for the first time....would you be concerned? I said to my b/f, try...
A. 18 December 2006: my avatar is mamegoma! 3 but it's so cute that i want to eat it, so maybe it could be considered a sushi bit... ;P... (read in full...)
He went on MySpace for the first time...should I be concerned?
Q. If you were talking to your significant other on the phone and asked them what they were doing and they said just playing around on the computer and they said they went on myspace for the first time....would you be concerned? I said to my b/f, try...
A. 17 December 2006: Hi Anon,
My husband and I (and pretty much all of my friends, too) have myspace accounts. I don't think that there's anything wrong with having, pesonally. It's nice to have to keep in touch with friends and family that don't live in the area... (read in full...)
For xmas..what do you give a bf who is financially stable and can anything he wants?
Q. what is a best gift for my boyfriend, he can have everything what he want because he is stable in his money., but i still wanted to give him something on x'mas any suggest?...
A. 16 December 2006: Hey Anon,
You could give him something that money couldn't buy. What about a collage of your pictures together? Like from throughout your relationship. It would be nice to have all of those memories framed to look at whenever he wants. Plus it... (read in full...)
When one refers to an LD relationship--how far are we talking?
Q. When people refer to 'long distance relationships' how far are they actually talking about?...
A. 16 December 2006: Anon,
It's different for every relationship. For someone with very few choices of transportation, living 30 mins away from a partner could be considered a long distance relationship. For other couples, long distance could mean halfway around t... (read in full...)
I would like to get my boyfriend's 7 year old son a Christmas present - any thoughts?
Q. Hi everyone... I'm with my boyf nearly a year now and he's got a 7 year old son that he see's twice a week with out fail and I don't have a problem with that. I've met him a few times at family do's etc and he's a lovely little guy and I w...
A. 15 December 2006: Hi Anon,
I think that's a really good idea. If you give him movie tickets, then he can still sort of pick his present! It will be a fun time for him, too, and give him good memories (which is probably better than a tangible gift, anyway).... (read in full...)
She dumped but says she wants NO relationship with anyone else. What does that mean?
Q. My Girlfiend of 15 month's just hate's us fighting and on saturday night she slept out i hated it. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/was-it-a-man-talking-in-the-background.html link to the saturday night thing now she's dumped me say...
A. 15 December 2006: Hi Anon,
I don't know if you're the same person who posted this question (link below), but I responded to it. I thought it might be you because this situation sounds a lot like the one in the link (along w/ hugging a teddy bear and talking ... (read in full...)
Gf is cutting her hair/ piercing her tongue and I hate it! Is she doing doing it so I won't like her anymore?
Q. My Girlfriend is haveing her hair cut and tonque pierced she know's i hate them. do u think she's cuting that long sexy hair and have her tonque done to try Change so i will not like her no more? she dumped me 3 day's ago i've seen her every da...
A. 15 December 2006: Hi Anon,
This is what I think:
Fight 1: You don't give too many details, but by the looks of it, it seems like she wanted to be left alone. If you kept asking to walk her to the door, she could have interpreted this as nagging, and the... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We're on myspace - add us www.myspace.com/dearcupid
Q. DearCupid is now on myspace - not quite sure what I'm going to do with the page but please add: www.myspace.com/dearcupid To your friends list :-) A. (site guy)...
A. 15 December 2006: oh, cool! i'm glad that you've decided to get a myspace for DC, andrew. :) did you end up making a personal one for you, too?
i'll have to add DC to my myspace friends when I get home.... (read in full...)
I would like to get my boyfriend's 7 year old son a Christmas present - any thoughts?
Q. Hi everyone... I'm with my boyf nearly a year now and he's got a 7 year old son that he see's twice a week with out fail and I don't have a problem with that. I've met him a few times at family do's etc and he's a lovely little guy and I w...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi again anon,
Have you tried to talk to your boyfriend about it? Maybe he would be able to tell you what his son would like. That way you would get him something that he really wants for sure, and if your boyfriend has any objections for any ... (read in full...)
I would like to get my boyfriend's 7 year old son a Christmas present - any thoughts?
Q. Hi everyone... I'm with my boyf nearly a year now and he's got a 7 year old son that he see's twice a week with out fail and I don't have a problem with that. I've met him a few times at family do's etc and he's a lovely little guy and I w...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi there,
I think David has a great idea. I actually did this with my little cousin when she was about the same age as your boyfriend's son. She ran around the store and picked out two of her favorite toys and I bought them for her. She real... (read in full...)
Is there better contraception then the pill?
Q. I have sex with my boyfriend. and I use the pill and he uses the condom. so two protections. but my main concern is, sometimes i forget to take the pill for a while. and take it later in the morning then as soon as i get up. could i get pre...
A. 13 December 2006: (BTW - if you forget to take a pill, then it is possible to get pregnant. In the info pack that comes with your pill there is a section on what to do when you've missed a pill and it covers if you can get pregnant and how likely it is. If you were ... (read in full...)
Is there better contraception then the pill?
Q. I have sex with my boyfriend. and I use the pill and he uses the condom. so two protections. but my main concern is, sometimes i forget to take the pill for a while. and take it later in the morning then as soon as i get up. could i get pre...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi Anon,
You could get the shot or use the ring. Neither of these has to be "taken" on a daily basis, so it's really convenient. The ring is put in for three weeks out of the month and taken out on the fourth week (when you have your period).... (read in full...)
How do I hint that I would like to move in with him?
Q. just how can you hint to a guy that you would like to move in with him?...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi Anon,
If you're comfortable enough to want to live together, you should feel comfortable enough to talk to him about it. If you just tell him you think it'd be a good idea and why, then you can see how he feels. It's a lot better to be open ... (read in full...)
The ring thing??
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I have each got a pre-engagement ring, but there is some confusion as to where the ring is supposed to be worn. I say on the wedding finger of the left hand, and he says on the wedding finger of the right hand, saying ...
A. 13 December 2006: * "because all that matters is what it symbolizes" - I mean all that matters is what the actual *ring* symbolizes to *you*!... (read in full...)
The ring thing??
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I have each got a pre-engagement ring, but there is some confusion as to where the ring is supposed to be worn. I say on the wedding finger of the left hand, and he says on the wedding finger of the right hand, saying ...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi Anon,
I think that's really sweet!
Even though you said you're going to wear it on your right hand, I don't really see a problem with it on any hand (or finger, really). If you wear it on your wedding ring finger, then at least people wil... (read in full...)
Shots, pills, patches...what's the best birth control?
Q. birth control Hi, I was wondering if some of the women out there could help me out? I have thought it out carefully and decided I want to go on birth control. However, how do I get it? What's the most convenient, in your opinion? I hear there are...
A. 12 December 2006: Hi Anon,
I agree with the poster below about the ring - it's convenient because you don't need to take it everyday since you change it once a month. The pill is good, too, though and most of my friends just stick with that.
I would definitly ... (read in full...)
Why would I tell this peson, I didn't love them ...when I really do!
Q. Have you ever told someone who you really loved and said that you didnt love them but you do but you told them that you didnt even tho you do? If you do love the person but you tell them that you dont to there face but you didnt mean it (and i d...
A. 12 December 2006: Hey there Anon,
So let me get this straight - you're lying about loving someone? No, I personally have never done that. I think before you go telling someone you love them, that you should really mean it.
If you're telling someone you don'... (read in full...)
My brother and I had tough times...was I right to say what I did to him?
Q. Let me start at the begining here... I'm the middle child with 2 brothers. My younger brother D. has always been sort of overlooked by my family, and after he graduated highschool he started some really self distructive behavior, like stealing, d...
A. 11 December 2006: Hi there anon,
"Was I wrong to say what I did?" No - how can you be wrong for voicing how you feel? What you were doing was supposed to be a positive move in the relationship. In my opinion, I think that it was a good move. It showed him that... (read in full...)
She says "if only you were...taller" - I think that's messed up! What should I do about this?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im having a little bit of a problem here. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for some time now and she seems to complain or lead on that "if only you were a little bit taller..." because she is about an inch taller than me. ...
A. 11 December 2006: Hello Anon,
I agree with you, I think that is pretty messed up. I can't imagine why she'd think to say that to you - it's not like you can do anything about it. And even if you could, then I still think it would unfair of her to say anything... (read in full...)
Do tender breasts, bloody discharge and headaches mean...I am pregnant?
Q. i am on the pill and after my week off i forgot to take it for a few days and i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend a few times when i was drunk.my period is not due for another few days but iv been getting a bloody discharge and my breasts are ...
A. 11 December 2006: Hi Jen,
I agree with Camille - go ahead and get a home pregnancy test to make sure you aren't pregnant if you think there's a chance of it. It could be pms, but it could be pregnancy, too.
Sometimes when an egg attaches itself to the inside li... (read in full...)
I'm rethinking why I broke it off with my boyfriend. Should I do something about it now?
Q. Hi Feel really awful - I recently broke off after 3 months with a guy because he hadn't called for a week - we live 150 miles apart. I had been told by a female friend at the start of dating him that he had a bad reputation for chasing women, a...
A. 11 December 2006: Hi anon :)
Well, look at it this way - at least he knows how you feel about him - that you'd still like to get together. I can understand how you feel right now. Just try to relax about the situation. Maybe if you spend time doing other th... (read in full...)
Do you think I could be a model?
Q. I'm 14 years old and 5ft 7, I've got striking eyes and cupids-bow(or whatever it's called) lips, i've got prominent cheek bones and know how to pose for photographs. I'm often told I could be a model, but I've got a reasonably big nose, VERY VER...
A. 9 December 2006: Hi Anon,
"Do you think I could be a model?" No, not if you never go through with contracts! Until you go through with one and/or go to an agency, then you'll never go anywhere. Next time you have a chance to model for something, go do it so yo... (read in full...)
I'm rethinking why I broke it off with my boyfriend. Should I do something about it now?
Q. Hi Feel really awful - I recently broke off after 3 months with a guy because he hadn't called for a week - we live 150 miles apart. I had been told by a female friend at the start of dating him that he had a bad reputation for chasing women, a...
A. 8 December 2006: Hello again Anon,
Well it sounds like you have already talked to him and gotten his perspective of things. While it may be him just being defensive, that's not to say that it's totally over. You mentioned that you guys might be at the same par... (read in full...)
I'm rethinking why I broke it off with my boyfriend. Should I do something about it now?
Q. Hi Feel really awful - I recently broke off after 3 months with a guy because he hadn't called for a week - we live 150 miles apart. I had been told by a female friend at the start of dating him that he had a bad reputation for chasing women, a...
A. 8 December 2006: Hi there,
I think that you should probably call this guy and tell him what's going on. I think you should tell him what's on your mind and let him know where you want things to go with him. I think that you should also talk to each other ab... (read in full...)
I dont want to say yes
Q. i get calls on my mobile every lunch time by this girl in the year below. i'm 16 she's 15. she tells me she loves me. she knows exactly what i get for lunch which is spooky! she's is nuts about me. but say's she wants to meet me. she wont tell me ...
A. 8 December 2006: Hi Anon,
If this girl likes you enough to stop playing games and talk to you in person, that's when I think it would be a good idea to actually get together with her. I agree - I think it's spooky that she knows what you get for lunch. Instead ... (read in full...)
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