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... Send *tina a private message | | | *tina's profile:Hi, I'm Stina! I've been an agony aunt here on Dear Cupid since July 2006 and became a site moderator the following November. I've not been able to be on here as much as I used to be, but that's because I've just started a new job. Hopefully I'll be able to be on here much more in the future. But for now, it's office work for me during the day!
Anyway, I grew up being very independent and because of that have always been able to work out problems in my life pretty well. My friends have often times come to me to help sort out what they should do in tough situations, as well. Hopefully I'll be able to help you out if you ever need advice, too! ^_^
As for who I "really" am - I'm 26, an atheist, and married. I live in beautiful Charm City, Murderland with my husband, our three hairless chinese crested pups (Ivy, Zoey, and Duncan), one smooshy floofhead dwarf hamster (Budgie; RIP Dr. Sushi T_T) and one huffy hedgehog (Nacho). I'm a quality assurance engineer and a graphic designer. My artwork has been shown all over the world including the US, France, Algeria, Australia and more. ^_^
I'm also addicted to cute animals, japanese pop culture, reggaeton, 80's hip hop and breakdancing (can't do it!, love to watch it!), experimental and avant garde films, food and tattoos (self designed).
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He's told me if I don't sleep with him, he'll do something nasty!! Help!
Q. my boyfriend asked me if i wanted sex i told him i didnt not right now weve only been going out for 3 months. he said if i didn't have it soon then he will do something nasty! i've tried to tell my mum and his mm but they won't help! can you h...
A. 18 June 2007: ***FYI to everyone***
This question is posted again with more info here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-told-him-i-want-to-end-it.html... (read in full...)
He's told me if I don't sleep with him, he'll do something nasty!! Help!
Q. my boyfriend asked me if i wanted sex i told him i didnt not right now weve only been going out for 3 months. he said if i didn't have it soon then he will do something nasty! i've tried to tell my mum and his mm but they won't help! can you h...
A. 18 June 2007: Hi Babiie,
I suggest you ditch the creep and ignore whatever it is that he might say about you. If he is threatening you with violence, talk to your mother again and notify your teachers. If you get rid of this jerk and don't feed in to what he'... (read in full...)
My Nan seems to love winding us all up... worried one day I'll say something hurtful!
Q. Ok this is more of a rant so I will apologise now. I just got off the phone with my Nan, my Dad's mum. She seems to love winding us all up. I know she only does it because she cares but I'm scared one day I'll say something hurtful to her. ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hi Yummy,
Your grandmother sounds a lot like mine, although mine is a bit more mean (at least it sounds like your grandmother is okay with your boyfriend, my grandmother called my husband the "scum of the world." lol)
Anyway, the way I get ar... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest fixes for acne?
Q. My sister is 15 years old and has acne breakouts. I was wondering if anyone has any at home remedies or advise on clearing it. She is always embarrassed about it and she also has the marks the acne leaves. I would like to find out a few things just ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hi there,
I suggest using Arbonne Clear Advantage system (soap, make-up remover, face lotion and vitamins.) My skin is EXTREMELY sensitive and this is the ONLY line of products that has worked for me - and I have tried everything else, includin... (read in full...)
She's told me her bf will be at our place a lot, when we get to this new flat. I don't like this. Any advice?
Q. so my friend and i are moving up north for college together. we are going to be living together in an apartment or house. my problem is her boyfriend is going to the same college we are and she has already told me that he will probably be over a ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
It is extremely important to have a roommate contract of sorts when you live with someone - this way it prevents any problems from occuring in the future.
What I would do is sit down and have a friendly conversation wit... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask him not to go to bars until I'm 21 aswell!?
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating when we were 17 and he has now just turned 21. I don't mind that he is able to drink and does when he can but I am concerned about him going to the bar. We made a promise to each other that we wouldn't go to bars ...
A. 14 June 2007: (Excuse me, in the first line I meant to write "don't think he *would* cheat.")... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask him not to go to bars until I'm 21 aswell!?
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating when we were 17 and he has now just turned 21. I don't mind that he is able to drink and does when he can but I am concerned about him going to the bar. We made a promise to each other that we wouldn't go to bars ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hi Babydoll,
First off, I think that's a load of bull that you don't think he won't cheat. You yourself said "We did this only because we do not want to put ourselves in any type of situation where mistakes could be made." So that statemen... (read in full...)
I dont know what to do, my partner is pregnant and still smoking! I'm healthy and getting sick of the smell!!
Q. My partner is pregnant and has not stopped smoking - she also drinks occasionally a few drinks at a time...i've kind of got my head round it a bit. However I live with her at her place and hate her smoking when i'm at home - nevermind being bad for ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hello Anonymous,
I think this woman needs to have a talk with her doctor about what her smoking could be doing to the fetus. Perhaps your doctor could have more of an influence on her since s/he would have a professional medical backgrou... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to marry her, but my parents dont! Help!
Q. I need help with my relationship between my partner and my parents. I am 35 year old divorced man. I got divorced about 4 years ago. I Cought my ex cheating. anyway, I have been going out with this new girl for 9 months now and we love each oth...
A. 14 June 2007: Sorry - third paragraph, second sentence should read, "..you want a family by the time you're *40*..."... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to marry her, but my parents dont! Help!
Q. I need help with my relationship between my partner and my parents. I am 35 year old divorced man. I got divorced about 4 years ago. I Cought my ex cheating. anyway, I have been going out with this new girl for 9 months now and we love each oth...
A. 14 June 2007: Anonymous,
You said "As them being my parents, I can not tell them to stay out of my life all the time." They don't have to stay out of your life, but they have to respect you if you tell them not to talk about your romantic relation... (read in full...)
Do you think I should let him see the "real" me?
Q. i'm currently living and working in another country. I moved to another country for various reasons (travel, find myself etc...) I met a great guy. We have been "together" for almost 6 months, although we never have officially called each other bo...
A. 8 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I don't understand...isn't this what you want? It seems like everything is all according to plan, in my opinion.
Do you want him to fall in love with you so he won't leave or something?... (read in full...)
I don't have a house or a family to support, so I send money to my ex to help her out, after all it IS my money to do with as I want!
Q. Ok, heres the situation. I am still in touch with my first girlfriend from 25 years ago. She lives in another country and we see each other every couple years or so. She is divorced and has 2 kids. I dated her before she married and had the kids, ...
A. 8 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I totally agree with what Roy has just stated, but thought I would add this, as well:
Sorry, but I think I am siding more with your girlfriend on this one. While it's your money and you can do what you want with it, why don't yo... (read in full...)
We're getting married soon but my boyfriend doesn't want my parents at the wedding, I WANT them there, what do I do???
Q. I have a question pertaining to my boyfriend (BF) and my family. First, my parents are from Thailand, but have lived in the U.S. the majority of their life (I was raised here). My BF (white), is not close to his family(abusive upbringing) and ...
A. 8 June 2007: Felixia,
Why in the world do you want to get married to someone like this? He sounds extremely controlling - to the point where you can't even talk with him about things that are very important to you. And what the heck does he mean that you... (read in full...)
He thinks he's not good enough for me because he's disabled! How do I prove to him that's not true??
Q. what do you do when your fiance thinks he is never good enough for you, just because he is disabled? how do i prove to him that i really love him for who he is?...
A. 7 June 2007: Hi Babydoll,
I think this is probably something that's going to have to evolve over time. Your fiance may think that way because he's been used to thinking that way for many, many years - that he's not good enough. (Not sure if he was born dis... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my boyfriend that I will never cheat on him again? I really don't want to stop trying! Please help.
Q. I really need help. I want to prove to my boyfriend that I will never cheat again and that I love him. I've tryed everything and I really, really don't want to stop trying. Please help me. emily-jo xx...
A. 7 June 2007: Hello Emily-Jo,
Well, earning someone's trust can be a very long process, and regaining someone's trust can be an even longer and harder process. In order to prove that you're not going to cheat, it's going to take more than just words - I'm sure... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I dont go to the nightclub with him he'll not like me as much. What should I do?
Q. this boy who i really like keeps askin me to go to nightclubs with him but the thing is thats really not my scene as im not really into dance music and drinking and im also too young an im afraid i wont get in. but im afraid if i dont go with him ...
A. 7 June 2007: Hello there,
I think you should suggest doing something other than going to the club. What about going some place where you can get to know each other better. Like going out to dinner and a movie, visiting a museum, going to lunch and taking a... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guys says "you're pushing me away?"
Q. What does it mean when a guys says youre pushing me away? but at the same time tells u he loves u but yet u rarely hear fom him? Its a longdistance realitionship beeen "together" for about 1month now....
A. 7 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
You don't give too many details, so it's hard to know why he's saying you're pushing him away. Could it be because you're coming across as being ultra needy? Do you always sound sad that you can't see him? Do you get upset if... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex and I'm too young to have a baby! What can I do??
Q. I have had unprotected sex and I'm young, too young to have a baby, its been a few weeks and I feel like I am, I'm worried to death because i cannot tell anyone, the thing is it only lasted a few min, and he didn't "come" at all, but pe, is a ...
A. 7 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I know you said you can't take a pregnancy test, but you should really do yourself a favor and go get one. Do you have a friend that could drive you to get one? Maybe ask if you could use the bathroom in the store, or go to a pub... (read in full...)
I cheated so I don't know who the father is! Boyfriend or the other guy!?
Q. i am pregnant but i cheated on my partner and fell pregnant around the same day i slept with the guy i cheated on him with but he said he never ejectulated inside me, whereas my boyfriend does every time we have sex plus i fell pregnant with him ...
A. 6 June 2007: Anonymous,
In my opinion you owe it to the baby to find out who the father is. More imporantly than your relationship is the health of your child. What if the other guy turns out to be the father and he has some sort of disease that runs in ... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex and he 'came' inside me! Will I get pregnant?
Q. Ok I am 14 years old and i had unprotected sex with a guy that i been with for 9 months, he told me he came in me, i dont know if i might be pregnent but this happened like a week ago, will i be pregnent???...
A. 6 June 2007: Anonymous,
Of course you could get pregnant if he came in you! Well, that is unless you're on some form of birth control.
I suggest taking a pregnancy test. If you're pregnant, you'll need to go to the doctor. You will obviously also n... (read in full...)
I had sex with two guys - now I don't know which is the father! Which could it be??
Q. I had sex with two different guys within days of each other, how likely is it that the most recent person is the father of my child. My due date is 13.6.7 and i had sex with him on the 20.9.6, but i cant remember the date my last period was, someone ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I don't think you'll be able to tell who is the father without having a DNA test performed. If you had sex with both of these guys within days of each other, it's going to be near impossible to tell just by calcuating days alone.
... (read in full...)
I don't want kids in my future but cannot get sterilization' surgery because of my age.I fear getting into relationships because I don't want a pregnancy. What can I do?
Q. katie Absintence cause problems? Hello- I am a 21 year old with a history of sex abuse. I really want a boyfriend and companionship and I would like to have sex but I absolutely do not ever ever ever ever want a kid, I have done soul searching a...
A. 6 June 2007: Hello there,
I recommend talking with your doctor about what other precautions you could take besides sterilization. BTW - when you say sterilization, do you mean getting your tubes tied? If that's what they don't want to do, then you could lo... (read in full...)
I like him a lot but not sure if "I love him'! What do I say to him when he tells me he loves me?
Q. I think my boyfriend is going to say "I love you" really soon but I am not really ready for something like this. I don't know if I am going to be able to say it back because these things are really hard for me to do. I like him alot but I am not to ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi Anonymous, I would tell him that you care very much for him, and that possibly in the future you may feel more for him (if you think that's true!). I would also probably give him a giant hug and kiss, that way he won't think he's being "as" ... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: "i might just consider getting one sleeve done." sweet!... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: Hey bubbloo, I work 10+ hours a day in an extremely conservative office environment and I love (well designed) tattoos. ;P I think that's a pretty broad generalization there to say that people who are into bikes are into tattoos and people who are ... (read in full...)
Can't seem to forget about my ex even though I've got a boyfriend!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for more than 2 yrs now. We are very much in love and he is the best guy I've ever met. Even so, I can not forget about my ex. I have been with my ex for 18 month but this was 6 years ago! We had a big fight and he ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I have a feeling you might be thinking something along the lines of "how could he move on from *me*?!" Sort of like he shouldn't want to be with anyone else, even though you should be able to. I don't think it's too uncommon... (read in full...)
I like him but he's scared of my big brother. What should I do?
Q. i'v been texting this guy almost daily and he tells me all these really sweet things but i'll ask him if he was drinkin that night and he'll say he was pretty drunk and when ever we see each other we always make out or somethin but but i think the ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
First off, I think you need to find a guy who doesn't drunk-text you sweet things. My opinion is that if he really liked you, he would want to tell you sweet things when he's sober.
Why would he be scared of your brother? Does y... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: Oh yeah - before you go getting tattoos all over the place and turn into "Spot," have you considered just concentrating on one area of your body? Such as a sleeve or chestplate? My friends and I agree that "Spots" look a bit silly... (I know you ... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi Jmac,
Depending on the tattoos they can either be hot or just, well, dumb. Like H.R. Giger work would be really nice if done well. And Sailor Jerry stuff could even look okay (even though it's done a lot.) But things like cartoon characte... (read in full...)
We moved in together as friends w/ benefits, but now I'm in love with him! I told him and he's become cold and distant (except when he wants sex)!
Q. I think I've made a big mistake. I've been living with a guy for the past 3 years now. At first we made an agreement that we'd be friends "with benefits." Over time, things changed (for me.) I fell in love with him and want more of a commitment ...
A. 5 June 2007: Happy to hear that you agree with most of us - I really think it'll be better for you this way. And it looks like you're already taking steps in the positive direction by looking at realtor.com! Don't forget that sometimes in the front of grocery ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he bailed on me for being "busy" but has time to see a band at a bar?!
Q. I just started dating this guy I met online. I sent him an email and asked him if he wanted to get together this weekend, like we had discussed earlier in the week. He said he was really busy right now and asked would it Ok if he called m...
A. 5 June 2007: You're welcome, If. ^_^
If you decide to go to the show with him, you will probably have fun, even if you don't like the band - getting to know him and seeing what he's like when he's out. Maybe you could see about going on another bike ride, to... (read in full...)
I suck my thumb in private and my dad said I look stupid! I don't see why I should stop, though - any opinions?
Q. This isn't really loved based but I need people's points of view. I'm 17 and I suck my thumb, only in private, I can't give up and I don't want to really as I don't see anything wrong with it. Lately, my dad has been telling me off for it and says ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hello there citizen,
Apart from your thumb maybe having germs on it, I don't see what the big deal is. Everyone has some kind of "quirk" and sucking your thumb is just your's. I know a girl who is 27 that still cannot sleep without her blankie.... (read in full...)
We moved in together as friends w/ benefits, but now I'm in love with him! I told him and he's become cold and distant (except when he wants sex)!
Q. I think I've made a big mistake. I've been living with a guy for the past 3 years now. At first we made an agreement that we'd be friends "with benefits." Over time, things changed (for me.) I fell in love with him and want more of a commitment ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I agree with DV1 - I think the best solution to this, since this guy obviously doesn't have the same feelings, is to distance yourself from him. In addition to asking friends if they would like to move in, I would start looking ... (read in full...)
Got my first proper date with an older guy on Friday... don't know what to wear or how to behave!
Q. i have my first proper date on friday night,and i am reali nevous i dont have a clue what to wear as i usually dress quite casually, and i dont wanna come on to slaggy either.i am very nervous aswell becuz hes a older than me and im not quite sure ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
What about a nice sundress with some strappy sandals? That's casual, but nice. I suggested yesterday for someone to check out http://anthropologie.com - they have lots of really nice sundresses, but they can be rather pricey. ... (read in full...)
Never in my life have I kept anything from her, if we get back together, in my eyes, she has a right to know everything, but I know it will destroy her, what do I do?
Q. I started seeing a girl 7 months ago, we have known each other for a bit, and completly fell in love. She came from a troubled childhood, and about a month ago, everything caught up with her, she told me she wanted a break. I'm no idiot, I realise ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hello there,
As much as it may hurt her, she is the one who broke up with you. You two were not together. For all you know, she may have done the same thing. Maybe after being with one or two guys, she realized just how special you were to ... (read in full...)
A four way problem, 3 boys and me - what do I do?
Q. im stuck between 3 boys i have like one from ages and been on and off with him for 3 yrs but its not going nowhere but i feel like i actually love this boy. the other one is very nice hes good lookin the lot but the thing is i havent lost my ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hi there Miss,
Okay, so here's how it is:
Boy #1 -- on/off relationship; you love him
Boy #2 -- may force you to have sex (a potential rapist)
Boy #3 -- just out of a relationship; may use you
I think the choice is obvious if you HAVE to... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he bailed on me for being "busy" but has time to see a band at a bar?!
Q. I just started dating this guy I met online. I sent him an email and asked him if he wanted to get together this weekend, like we had discussed earlier in the week. He said he was really busy right now and asked would it Ok if he called m...
A. 5 June 2007: Hello Ifshadow,
Maybe his schedule changed. The first thing I thought when I read this is - I think this is probably his way of asking you on a date, but he's just (really) rusty at this sort of thing. ^_^
If I were you, I'd go and meet him ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years now, and his flirting is really bothering me.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years now, and his flirting is really bothering me. I didn't usually care, but as time has passed and our seriousness has increased I don't appreciate it. He flirts with service people, people in other ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
"Is it okay to have the side flirty relationships?" My opinion is no. Especially if it's bothering you so much. To me, it seems like he may just be after the attention since he seems to flirt with whatever moves. I think he has s... (read in full...)
My mum had a smear test today and she said the pain was unbearable. Now I'm terrified to ever have one!
Q. Hi, this is for the girls to answer only! My mother has had her smear today - before today she had always said how 'unpainful' it was, there was just a little bit of discomfort and that is all. However, she came back from doctors today and said the...
A. 4 June 2007: Hello anonymous,
Good grief. It is not that bad. Just talk with your doctor about it and I'm sure you'll feel better. And the threshold for pain is different for everyone anyway. What your mom considers painful will not necessarily hurt you... (read in full...)
He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 4 June 2007: Like I said - Victoria's Secret or Fredricks of Hollywood. ^_~... (read in full...)
He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 4 June 2007: Hi Anonymous,
I know you said that you wanted guy's opinions, but I thought I'd answer anyway. Hope you don't mind!
If you're unsure of how to dress - you could fall back on the idea of wearing a little black dress. Black goes with almost... (read in full...)
She didn't want a one night stand, so I said fine. Now she's asking me on a date and I don't know if I should go!
Q. I slept with a girl I had met earlier the same night. We had been in a bar with others, got smashed, missed the last bus and she kindly let me share her taxi (and bed!) and started giving me the come-on, so I thought "Why not?" Just as we were get...
A. 4 June 2007: Hello Anonymous,
You said that you would go. So if I were you, I would stay true to my word - it's the least you can do so you don't end up being a total jerk to the girl. Afterall, she was up front with you about what she wanted. And who know... (read in full...)
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