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Did I say something wrong? What else was I supposed to say? I don't understand why she reacted like that.

Q.   Hey weird fight with my girlfriend the other day and I am so confused. what is the appropriate response in this sort of situation: We went to a party at a mutual friends house. One of the guys there brought along a new girlfriend to introduce ...

A.   15 January 2008: Hi. Maybe she thought that you were flirting with her or thinking of her in a sexual/pervy way. But een if she did think that she didn't have to react like that. She should've taken it as a compliment. This random customer at work told me I look... (read in full...)

How can I forget about appearance and concentrate on what's on the inside?

Q.   i think i am a fairly pretty 16 year old girl but i am dating an ugly guy. i love him a lot, but i cant help feeling ashamed around him. i am disgusted in myself. i must get over this feeling becoz we love each other and we get on really well, its ...

A.   12 March 2007: Ok, look at things from his eyes. How do you think he would feel if he knew what you thought of his appearance? I am sure he would be hurt and disheartened by this and his self esteem will suffer. Does he notice that you are ashamed of him? If so ... (read in full...)

Am I always horny??

Q.   ok i got a little bit of a dumb embarassing problem now. Why am i always so horny?? Its terrible! Well i am a 15 year old chick and i always find i'm wet after a day at school. Surely i'm not horny!!! but then why so much discharge? I even wanna we...

A.   7 March 2007: Like Rhythmandblues said go to see a doctor. This is for the sake of your health so you should take good advice on board and not try to dismiss it over the advise a 13 year old (who doesn't know any better) has given you. An infection is not ... (read in full...)

We are not having sex because of his dirty underwear, how do I resolve this??

Q.   You may remember when I asked the following question here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husbands-unwashed-dirty-underwear.html Well, I've tried talking to him about the issue, but he keeps on insisting "Don't wash my undies, if they'...

A.   7 March 2007: Scare him out of it. Expalin to him how unhygienic (sp) it is and maybe make up a story. Say you found a story on the internet or in the newspaper about a similar guy and he got a horrible infection...or ask a doctor if there really is a chance of ... (read in full...)

Got a party this weekend, but suddenly broke out in spots!! Any ideas for quick reduction!!

Q.   I've got a party coming up this weekend, and have suddenly broken out in spots! Anyone got any tips to get rid of them, or at least reduce the redness, quickly?...

A.   7 March 2007: Toothpaste dries them out, but then you're left with a scab and the redness is still there. All I can think of now is foundation. Cover it up with foundation (liquid or mousse)and it should be less visible. There was this advert I saw on the tv ... (read in full...)

What are the features that girls look for in a boy/man that makes him sexy?

Q.   hello agony aunts this question goes to all the girls/women who are agony aunt, men feel free to answer if u wnt what are the features that girls look for in a boy/man that makes him sexy or peng?? i need help as some girls on msn say im g...

A.   7 March 2007: Peng? Never heard that one before lol. Well all women/girls are different so I can only say what I look for. And also if one girl says you look good another girl might disagree but thats with everything really. No one ever agrees with everything ... (read in full...)

My friends all have the wrong idea about me because I gave a friend head 3 times!!!!

Q.   Recently i gave my friend head three times and we kept it a secret. I really like him, hes very good looking but thats not just why. hes also my friends ex, so that wasnt good. any way it all came out this week, and im so imbarrased becau...

A.   6 March 2007: Ok well I'm glad you have learned your lesson from this and I hope you don't do anything like this again. Right...are all your friends male? Do you only have one group of friends that you hang out with? Until this dies down (which it will) you're ... (read in full...)

Has anyone got tips or exercises for firming up my flabby arms?

Q.   Right guys, I am not fat I am a healthy size 12/14 but I hate my arms they just seem so fat at the top. Has anyone got any tips on how to lose weight on top of my arms? xx ...

A.   6 March 2007: Lifting weights. Not the big huge ones, just the smaller kind. You're in the UK so why don't you get an Argos catalogue and look for the kind you need. And just keep doing that in the mornings or in the night. Whenever you have time really. W... (read in full...)

What is your definition of love?

Q.   My question is short and concise; What is love? I know that there is no text book definition of love, and that there's no right or wrong answer to that. I've always wondering and was just thinking what everybody else here thought. Thanks. ...

A.   6 March 2007: My definition of love (you might not agree) is when: you think about the person when you wake up in the morning. They are still on your mind during the day and they are the last person you think of before you go to sleep at night. You would do ... (read in full...)

am i being paranoid into thinking he wanted to change the sheets in order to be able to use them with someone else?

Q.   I was with my b.f over the weekend..he is able to do laundry at a relative's house b/c they have a washer and dryer..he said oh if we are going out, might as well stop over there and put the sheets (off the bed) in and wash them. And my b/f knew he ...

A.   6 March 2007: Yeah you are being a little paranoid. He was just innocently changing the sheets, that's all there is to it. Nothing more. Don't look into things too much you'll only cause yourself unecessary stress. Always look for the positive in these ... (read in full...)

I don't get her actions at all and it really confuses me???

Q.   Hello I wonder if anyone could be of assistance please, (for all who are unaware) I have previously posted two questions with regards to the situation that I’m in at the minute. Basically I have liked this girl for two years, we have been grea...

A.   6 March 2007: I ate it when I text people and they don't text back. :) But since you knew she didn't have credit you should've called instead of texting. Why don't you call her and talk to her and get into conversation and casually bring up the possibility of you ... (read in full...)

Is my mum right?

Q.   My mum says if you have sex just after you finished your period you cant get pregnant as its already released the egg, im not sure this is true, does any one know if this is true...

A.   5 March 2007: Possible but I wouldn't swear by it and see it as a 100% true fact. You probably still can get pregnant. Yes there are times when you are less likely to get pregnant but there are NO definate times where it is impossible to get pregnant. There is ... (read in full...)

I have always fantacised about my Gf's sister, but Im not sure if what happend was just her being playful and if I should say anything ?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for four years now. Over christmas we went to her family house. Her sister whom is 26 and I'm 23 is always very pleasent to me. I have always fantacised about her. I would love to have sex with her. I know that I ...

A.   4 March 2007: I think your girlfriends sister is getting too close for comfort. Wether she's doing it innocently or intentionally, there is a line you draw when it is your sister's boyfriend. Please stay away from her and don't do anything to encourage her ... (read in full...)

How can I get over the fact that my bf likes breast implants!!?

Q.   I'm completely turned off by my boyfriend because he likes Anna Nicole Smith's breast implants! I sent him pictures as a joke because I found them absolutely horrific, and when he wouldn't comment on them I asked him why. He finally told me he can ...

A.   3 March 2007: Why are you so angry about this? What is so wrong with breast implants? It is a choice some women choose to make and it's hardly a new thing to say that men like boobs. Fake or natural men like boobs. If your boyfriend likes boobs (even if they are ... (read in full...)

My fiance went to the doctors for a check up. According to him this 'hot' female doctor smiled when she touched his penis! The nerve!

Q.   Am I being unreasonable? My fiance told me that this summer (before we got together) he went to a female doctor to get things checked out down there and he said that she was hot and she put her hand around his thing and smiled. Just picturing it ...

A.   3 March 2007: Well as a female I'd rather not know and I'd rather him keep that sort of thing to himself. So I understand how you're feeling., you're not being unreasonable. But it was before you got together so you can't be angry at him for that. He shouldn't ... (read in full...)

I want to go out with her and I really like her but I can't have my friends finding out! What should I do?

Q.   Hi...I like this girl and i know she likes me (that way) and i want to go for it with her...but i dont want the people at school and my friends to know about it....i just cant be dealing with that right now..and i dont want to ask her not to tell ...

A.   3 March 2007: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-quickly-let-go-of-my-hand-when.html Read that and you'll have an idea of how she'll probably feel about being kept a secret. If I was with a guy, either we're together properly or not at all. If you don't want... (read in full...)

This boy says he loves me but he's ugly, I would get slagged off my mates if I went out with him, what do I do?

Q.   Hiyah well theres this boy and he told my mate that he said he loves me. The only thing iz .. he's ugly and i know that sounds so bad and shallow but i would get sooo slagged for going out with him what do i do?? Please Reply, Babyemm xx...

A.   2 March 2007: Well if you don't like him don't go out with him. Tell him you don't fancy him because...you're not looking for a relationship right now. He'll understand. If you do like him, and if you like him a lot then stuff what your friends think and do what... (read in full...)

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Q.   Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...

A.   2 March 2007: I do like this site, I think it's great. I needed some advice way back in September and I got some excellent advice here. And I just felt a whole lot better about the whole thing. And whenever I have problems now and I feel like I have no one to ... (read in full...)

It's not even strawberry blonde!

Q.   Why do people in the UK often call blond men "gingers"? They don`t call blond women "gingers". They don`t call dark haired men "redheads". Whats the big beef? Just because blond hair has flecks of ginger, well thats the same with women as well. ...

A.   1 March 2007: A name is just a name. No need to analyse the truths behind it or study the origins of it. Hair is hair. Its not really important. There are bigger and better things to spend your time thinking about.... (read in full...)

Erm... I hoovered up my sister's hamster by mistake!!!! Do I get her another one without saying or do I come clean?

Q.   ok now this may sound funny to some people (my friends have found it hilarious!!) but i feel so guilty! My sister turned 11 the other day and for her birthday my parents bought her a little hamster which she called Splodge (dont ask me why). ...

A.   1 March 2007: I have to admit, this is a bit funny but....anyway if it was me I'd come clean and just break the sad news to her. And promise to do ANYTHING she asks of me to make it up to her. Sit her down and tell her the truth. Or plan B, the dishonest way.... (read in full...)

wot does it mean when a girl says shes given me her heart????

Q.   wot does it mean when a girl says shes given me her heart????...

A.   1 March 2007: It probably means she loves you, cares about you, feels an emotional attachment to you and wants you to do the same. Its a really sweet thing to say. (Provided that she means it of course).... (read in full...)

Why do women prefer dark-haired men?

Q.   Why do women in the UK always praise dark hair? Has it become something that women say regardless. I never hear a woman , or extremely rarely, who says she prefers blond hair on men. I have seen two surveys done in the UK in the last four ...

A.   1 March 2007: I think you're thinking about this wayyyy too much. Stop worrying about the colour of peoples hair. It doesn't make much of a difference. Hair is hair. Everyone has their preferences. Also, don't follow statistics, they are at times highly ... (read in full...)

Hey everyone! What sort of compliments do women like to get? I need to know so I can charm the ladies in conversation.

Q.   hi! i wanted to know what knid of compliments women like and can anyone give me some ideas of stuff to come up with in conversation with this girl i like?...

A.   28 February 2007: I like compliments on my outfit. Women put a lot of effort into looking good, especially for a first date and its like the ultimate reward for all the hard work if you just say "Wow, you look gorgeous" Say that as soon as you say the first hello and ... (read in full...)

He quickly let go of my hand when he saw her coming. Do you think he's ashamed of me?

Q.   hey im 16 and my bf is to. i have been wiv him for roughly 2 months. we go 2 the same school and today we were walking down the corridor with r arms round eachother as usual and we saw one of his teachers walking down the corridor up ahead. and my b...

A.   28 February 2007: No I don't think he's ashamed of you I just think he's a bit immature. It really shouldn't matter what the teacher thinks but maybe he just doesn't want to be embarrassed. I'm sure you're a great girl and any guy that has you should count his lucky ... (read in full...)

Is these advice sites for real?

Q.   NEED ASSURANCE FROM AGONY AUNTS.. I came across some material that said that some of the information or questions that are posted on sites like this (dearcupid.org) are made up so as to make them popular. Also the information displayed is not...

A.   28 February 2007: What are you talking about? Who told you all this stuff?This is an advice site where different people give advice to people who need it. The reliability of it all depends on ones opinion. A lot of people including myself, find this website useful. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriends relationship with her mum really annoys me, its so childish!!!

Q.   I really hate my girlfriend and her mums relationship with one another. They are far too close and irritating. Whenever Im round my gfs house I get uncomftable when her mum comes in because they are giggling and jokey and try and embarass me. ...

A.   28 February 2007: You've just described a scene I'd love to be in with my own mother. Sadly she's deceased. Their relationship sounds great and they sound like really fun people. I almost wish I was there. I know it might make you feel out of place but, you know what ... (read in full...)

My ex secretly filmed us having sex and put it online! My new bf now calls me a slag! What can I do??

Q.   hay really need help im 22 and ive just found out 2 years ago some guy filmed me and him having sex and took pictures with out my consent god knows how i didnt see the camra or owt! but now there all over the internet i dont know what to do? people ...

A.   27 February 2007: That boyfriend of yours is totally out of order! It was filmed without your consent and you were not aware of the camera! How dare he call you a slag knowing that that was the situation?! I don't think you should continue the realtionship with him, ... (read in full...)

Shes Fakeing A Period The Day before i met her what does it mean

Q.   Shes Fakeing A Period The Day before i met her what does it mean? i'm meeting my new girlfriend tomoz (27th) first time shes staying over shes 16 shes had sex she told. she put of comein over for a whilie and tomoz seems to be day shes willin 2 st...

A.   26 February 2007: Yeah she could be on her period. Periods don't always work like clockwork, sometimes they are irregular. Either that or she isn't ready for sex with you yet. You should be understanding and give her time, but you said you've done that so don't ... (read in full...)

How can I look more cool and with it? Any tips?

Q.   I need help. I look crap. Every time I go out I always look like a real tool (I'm a guy by the way). I can't gel my hair properly, I have a crap dress sense. I look nerdy basically compared to the rest of my friends. Can anyone help, please?...

A.   26 February 2007: You say you don't look with it compared to your friends ever thought of asking them for some tips? Or are you too embarrassed? If so do like Ponungalungb said and buy some sort of male fashion magazine and try out some of the looks in there that you ... (read in full...)

How effective is emergency contraception?

Q.   How effective is emergency contraception? Last night I had sex for first time and it was going great until my bf realised the condom had come off and had lodged itself right up at my cervix! He didn't come cos he realised before that condom had come ...

A.   25 February 2007: I'm not sure but... I think eggs are microscopic so I don't think you'd be able to see it. :) Well as long as you took it very soon after unprotected sex then you should be fine. 84% sounds good to me but you might be one of the unfortunate ones... (read in full...)

My mom is always so nasty to me, I hate her she's a bitch! I don't know what to do?

Q.   Someone please help me...please I really need some help...my mother is seriously pissing me off more than lately. I always go to my room and never want to talk to her just to avoid her bitching and complaining. Sometimes I want to fight her or jus...

A.   24 February 2007: Also I'd like to add, your mother does love you. She is only trying to protect you and stop you from making the same 'mistakes' she did. she may not be going about it in the right way but her intentions are good. I know you love your mother too and ... (read in full...)

My mom is always so nasty to me, I hate her she's a bitch! I don't know what to do?

Q.   Someone please help me...please I really need some help...my mother is seriously pissing me off more than lately. I always go to my room and never want to talk to her just to avoid her bitching and complaining. Sometimes I want to fight her or jus...

A.   24 February 2007: The best thing you can do is just prove her wrong. go to school, graduate, get a decent job and don't drop out for any boyfriends. Try and improve your grades somehow to 'shut her up' or to get her off your case. Good or better grades will be a sort ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to give a gift card to someone instead of an actual gift?

Q.   Hi..I wanted to ask if giving a gift card instead of an actual gift is considered good form. Because, in my opinion, it is very impersonal and shows that you couldn't be bothered enough to take the time to put some thought into getting the person ...

A.   24 February 2007: I totally agree with you there about it being impersonal. It doesn't really show that you put a lot of thought and effort into getting something for the person. If I was getting a gift from someone I would prefer them to give me a gift card along ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend raped me and I don't know what to do about it, I feel so dirty.

Q.   Help me please i thought he loved me im 14 and my 15 year old boyfriend Raped me :'( i havnt told anyone what shud i do i thought he loved me, He was walkin me home and he suggested we go the long way round so we have longer to talk and then he ...

A.   24 February 2007: NO it is NOT your fault. You cannot be blamed for his wrong actions. DO NOT blame yourself for this. You can still prove him guilty. Forensic testing will prove what he did to you. Do you still have the clothes that you wore on the day? Especially ... (read in full...)

When I'm kissing him, what can I do with my hands???

Q.   hi i havnt been kissing lads long and i don't really no what to do with my hands whn me and m bf are french kissing and stuff they usually just run through his hair but i wanna do sumthin more sumthin a little different whn he kisses me he runs his ...

A.   23 February 2007: I suggest watching some soppy movies and taking notes. lol OR if you prefer...place both your hands on his lower back or on his waist. OR place one or two hands on his jaw and using one hand stroke affectionately. OR place one hand on the back of h... (read in full...)

My boyfriend raped me and I don't know what to do about it, I feel so dirty.

Q.   Help me please i thought he loved me im 14 and my 15 year old boyfriend Raped me :'( i havnt told anyone what shud i do i thought he loved me, He was walkin me home and he suggested we go the long way round so we have longer to talk and then he ...

A.   23 February 2007: Tell the police and tell your parents. This is a serious crime and a complete violation of you. He should be punished for what he did. I cannot believe he laughed afterwards. He really needs help. I was nearly raped once but luckilly I managed to r... (read in full...)

How can I stop masturbating? This is really serious!

Q.   Im 39yrs old and a virgin, my problem is i masturbate a lot, 3/4 times a day sometimes it can be more to the point im sore, anyway reason im posting here is i need advice, i have a major problem which is scaring me and upsetting friends or losing ...

A.   23 February 2007: No you have not offended me at all, if you need help, you need help. All you've done is explained your problem. I am not going to get offended about that. It is difficult to advise you here since you've already been to see the professionals. I ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to become pregnant when you're on your period?

Q.   At the risk of sounding really stupid is it possible to become pregnant when you are on your period? i have always thought it was the same as when your not but my bf says it isnt. is the chance less likely? am i wrong? or is he? xxx...

A.   23 February 2007: I don't have a problem my dear anon female. I simply stated my opinion. You stated yours. Granted, I should've worded it better I admit...but thats just what I think, like it or lump it. Good for you if sex is better while you're on your period. All ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to become pregnant when you're on your period?

Q.   At the risk of sounding really stupid is it possible to become pregnant when you are on your period? i have always thought it was the same as when your not but my bf says it isnt. is the chance less likely? am i wrong? or is he? xxx...

A.   22 February 2007: Also, I don't know about anyone else but...having sex while you're on your period is pretty gross (in my opinion). It would put me right off if I was a guy, and I'd never be in the mood for it during my period anyway. I shudder at the thought! ewww. ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to become pregnant when you're on your period?

Q.   At the risk of sounding really stupid is it possible to become pregnant when you are on your period? i have always thought it was the same as when your not but my bf says it isnt. is the chance less likely? am i wrong? or is he? xxx...

A.   22 February 2007: http://www.epigee.org/menstruation/sex.html http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/pregnantduringperiod.html "Can you get pregnant during your period? The debate on whether or not a woman can get pregnant during her period has been going on for dec... (read in full...)

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