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... Send *tina a private message | | | *tina's profile:Hi, I'm Stina! I've been an agony aunt here on Dear Cupid since July 2006 and became a site moderator the following November. I've not been able to be on here as much as I used to be, but that's because I've just started a new job. Hopefully I'll be able to be on here much more in the future. But for now, it's office work for me during the day!
Anyway, I grew up being very independent and because of that have always been able to work out problems in my life pretty well. My friends have often times come to me to help sort out what they should do in tough situations, as well. Hopefully I'll be able to help you out if you ever need advice, too! ^_^
As for who I "really" am - I'm 26, an atheist, and married. I live in beautiful Charm City, Murderland with my husband, our three hairless chinese crested pups (Ivy, Zoey, and Duncan), one smooshy floofhead dwarf hamster (Budgie; RIP Dr. Sushi T_T) and one huffy hedgehog (Nacho). I'm a quality assurance engineer and a graphic designer. My artwork has been shown all over the world including the US, France, Algeria, Australia and more. ^_^
I'm also addicted to cute animals, japanese pop culture, reggaeton, 80's hip hop and breakdancing (can't do it!, love to watch it!), experimental and avant garde films, food and tattoos (self designed).
If anyone cares to see a "real" picture of me, you can see one here: http://sushi-and-pears.livejournal.com/profile (Check out my uber-cool snob nose! haha) I'm posting this in hopes that other aunts/uncles will post their pictures. I'm always interested to see what all of us actually looks like! ^_^
I have a myspace and a livejournal, so if you want to know anymore about me for some reason I'll post the links. (If you'd like to add me as a friend on either of these, please just message me here or on either site! I've made my accounts private to keep out the weirdos.)
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Is it normal for a guy of 22 to act a bit of pervert in public ??
Q. This may sound like a really daft question!! I've had just one serious boyfriend and have only just got serious with him a few months ago. We went on a foreign holiday, but it felt like he is a real perve whilst away - constantly feeling my bum ...
A. 19 September 2006: Hello Anon,
Wow - this guy reminds me of someone that I dated!
Maybe a short description of my experience will help you out a bit: At first, the relationship was good. He was really nice, sweet, and seemed to put me first. But then it's li... (read in full...)
My Long distance guy proposed, but I've Cheated!!!
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the last 6 months, now he has proposed. but I cheated on him, with this guy at my school I am still seeing him and I think my feelings are divided, I'm actualy supposed to meet his ...
A. 19 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I read that you feel like you should leave because of what you've done. I agree with you, but don't you realize it's more than that? It's what you're *still* doing.
Having feelings for more than one person can be a hard spot to be ... (read in full...)
He made me feel so cr*p, trouble is we share the same friends and will see each other at Uni.. How will I cope ?
Q. hi, my bf of almost 2 yrs split from me a couple of months ago. we're at uni and lived together there for 1yr. To begin he was slightly geeky but a sweet guy, but he is now obsessed with being cool. He cheated in a club one night and on returnin...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Anon,
My own personal opinion is that you shouldn't even bother giving this guy the time of day. What he did to you was more than uncaring, and that's not what "friends" do to one another. Do any of your other friends make you feel this hor... (read in full...)
Will the pill fix period pains? But will I put on weight?
Q. I get realy heavy painful periods and i have had advice from people saying 2 go on the pill as i am sexually active anyway but its very rarely i would, but is it true that people gain weight from this?? please help i dont like suffering from painful ...
A. 18 September 2006: In addition to what I previously wrote, I thought I should mention that I hardly get cramps after being on bc for so long, too. I know most of my friends don't have them as bad or don't have them at all after being on bc. You might want to give ... (read in full...)
Says he loves me but a year and a half on he STILL won't meet me!
Q. I have talked on the phone with this guy for a year and a half. I am friends with his brother and that is how we connected. He has been away at college, but he has been back in town for several months. He says that he loves me, but is just too ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I have to agree with Dr. Pete. Who on earth would not want to see the person he loves? Shy or not, I imagine that anyone who cared about you would want to see you by now.
In my opinion, you should go out and find someone who want... (read in full...)
Will the pill fix period pains? But will I put on weight?
Q. I get realy heavy painful periods and i have had advice from people saying 2 go on the pill as i am sexually active anyway but its very rarely i would, but is it true that people gain weight from this?? please help i dont like suffering from painful ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Well, sometimes people do put on weight from taking the pill, but that doesn't mean that you specifically would. People's bodies are all different and react differently to the pill.
My doctor told me that the reason most women put o... (read in full...)
She is in Paris being smug while I decided to finish up at school
Q. Hi everyone, So my girlfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. We met at the end of high school and maintained the relationship throughout college (we did the long distance thing for a year as we went to different colleg...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Scott,
I agree with Wendy. If you've spoken with her and she says that she feels like she will want to date others in the future, then I think that it's time to let go of each other. It seems like you both know that this is probably the end.... (read in full...)
My wife spends alot of money on her parents, at the cost of our family, I dont feel this is right, Any advice ?
Q. I'm married and blessed with a son, my problem is that me and my wife cannot seems to agree on the fiancial support to give to her parents. I feel that she spends a lot of money on her parents at the cost of our family but her position is that her ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Jude,
To an extent, she does have an obligation to her parents, but if it's taking away from the needs of your family then I think something needs to be done. That shouldn't be happening.
I think that since all of you are involved, you al... (read in full...)
He doesnt like sleeping in the same bed as me and I dont know why!!!
Q. the boy i like feels uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed as me and dont understand why he wont talk to me about it and its proper makein me feel depressed please help me ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi Anon,
There are a lot of reasons why he might not like sleeping in the same bed. Are you even dating? I can't really tell from your post. These are what I came up with of why he doesn't want to talk about it:
- He might not think he kno... (read in full...)
How do I really tell if my teacher likes me and if he does..how do we move things forward?
Q. Hi, I am 17 and really like a teacher at my school. he is just turned 23 and and was a student teacher here last year too. We started getting on really well during a school trip at the end of last year but i don't know if he feels the same w...
A. 16 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Look, if you plan on doing anything with your teacher, wait until he's not your teacher anymore - when you graduate. Doing anything with him now could mean his job and would probably destroy getting any most other teaching professi... (read in full...)
Do I go for my ex gf's best friend or not?
Q. Hello, well me and the girl i was seeing broke up a week ago, and im really starting to like her best friend, the girl i was seeing noticed we where getting closer and asked 'i see you and .... are getting close' then i said to her that i wouldnt ...
A. 16 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Well this can be a pretty difficult situation. I can imagine that you don't want to hurt your ex, but you still want to move on, right?
Because you and your ex just broke up about a week ago, she might just be saying that it wouldn't... (read in full...)
My bf has to marry his ex gf because he got her pregnant. It's tearing me apart!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend early this year, but we have known eachother all our lives. He breaks up with me because he has a moral duty to an ex girlfriend he got pregnant. He now has to marry her. My boyfriend comes from a strict christian...
A. 16 September 2006: Hi Anon,
There's nothing you can really do to help him because this was his decision to get back together with her. Trying to comfort him might make him keep strong feelings for you, and would do quite the opposite of what you're hoping for. I ... (read in full...)
We are meeting up for sex and we have phone, sex too. Now he wants me to urinate on him...is this normal?
Q. Im seeing this guy who we meet up every couple of weeks to have sex and we call each other during the week to have phone sex, but he asked me to urinate on him, im fine with this i think its fun but is this normal??? x ...
A. 16 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Well some people have fetishes, like the both of you, and some people don't. But is it normal, you ask? To some people it might be, to others it may be the furthest thing from normal. So I guess you could say it's normal for the both... (read in full...)
I like this guy a lot but haven't told him. Now he's dating someone else and set me up with his friend! what can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm a very shy person and I haven't had any relation ship for a long time (a few years). Now I fell in love with a friend. I don't know if he understood that I like him that much. But yesterday during a party he tried to make a match between me ...
A. 16 September 2006: Hello Leilah,
Well, since your friend is with someone else now and you don't know how to act, maybe some time away from him would help you be able to clear your mind and figure out what you should do. Or maybe even time away from him would he... (read in full...)
My bf is a homebody-I love excitement and going places. I am bored..so what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. While I am 22 and he is 24, I feel like as a couple we are 80 yrs old! Just to paint a picture of our current situation...We both recently graduated college and he got a job and now lives 2hrs away ...
A. 16 September 2006: Hi thislove,
I think that if he's unwilling to compromise and go out, then you have a problem. It's one thing to always do what he wants to do if you have no problem with it, but you obiously do and he doesn't really seem like he's going to start... (read in full...)
Does every guy really watch porn ?
Q. Is it possible to not watch porn as a guy? My bf told me he's not interested at these things. He admitted he was curious about it when he was 16, but he absolutely shows no interest about it now. I love him very much and I'm lucky that I found so...
A. 15 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I think everyone watches porn at some point in his/her life. But not everyone "needs" to watch it.
If your boyfriend says he doesn't look at it, then he probably doesn't. I know my husband doesn't look at it. He stopped shortly ... (read in full...)
Question about DNA and would a dad have exactly the same as his son ??
Q. hello, well my question is for a friend that is in need. she wanted to know if someone slept with their boyfriends dad and got pregnant will they have the same dna? would it be hard to know if its the dad or son? weird I know. how would that go ...
A. 15 September 2006: Hi Worried,
I did a quick search online and tried to find the answer to your question. Here is what I found out (all the sites basically said the same thing):
Q: There are two possible fathers, and they are related. Is this a problem?
If t... (read in full...)
Since going to college, I feel like I've abandoned my mother with my abusive father
Q. my mother and i have suffered abuse at the hands of my father. and it's not just something that's happened once or twice (not saying that once or twice is justified). it's happened numerous times. i am away at college now, have been for the past ...
A. 15 September 2006: You're welcome, anon. I'm glad that my posts were able to help you out. This is probably a very scary situation for your mother, and it's good that you are so strong and loving. Take care.... (read in full...)
Ive started dating my ex, but what concerns me is hes shorter than me!!
Q. I have recently started seeing an ex-boyfriend again who I have been on and off with for 3 years, during which we lived together for one year. I ended the relationship because I had a lot of guy friends and he kept getting really jealous. Now we ...
A. 15 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Your question grabbed my attention because my husband is shorter than me (except I like shorter guys. heh). Listen, don't let it bother you that he is shorter - it really doesn't have anything to do with what kind of person he is, as y... (read in full...)
Since going to college, I feel like I've abandoned my mother with my abusive father
Q. my mother and i have suffered abuse at the hands of my father. and it's not just something that's happened once or twice (not saying that once or twice is justified). it's happened numerous times. i am away at college now, have been for the past ...
A. 15 September 2006: Hi again,
I actually looked up some numbers - I'm not sure where you live, but if it's in the US, your mom can call:
The Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, this organization has counselors on call that can help her figure out a saf... (read in full...)
Since going to college, I feel like I've abandoned my mother with my abusive father
Q. my mother and i have suffered abuse at the hands of my father. and it's not just something that's happened once or twice (not saying that once or twice is justified). it's happened numerous times. i am away at college now, have been for the past ...
A. 15 September 2006: Hi Anon,
It's a really good thing that you were able to escape from that house - now it's your mother's turn.
I have a feeling that she thinks she is stuck there. Either because he has made her feel so bad about herself that she feels there ... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: Adding to my last post:
*or if it's legal in your area, you could sit his stuff outside the house and let him pick it up whenever it's convenient. But still have someone with you - like a group of friends. Just incase things get heated.*... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: Oh, this man sounds absolutly awful! I wasn't sure how serious you had tried to talk with him. HD, I would seriously get away from this man. He is dragging you down, and fast. Please, do whatever it takes to get out of this situation before he ... (read in full...)
Why don't I have a boyfriend???
Q. hi ive had boyfriends before but bot very serious and i havent had one in nearly a year most of my friends have got boyfriends. im not an ugly girl i might not be the prettiest out of evry 1 but even my mates who most lads think arent nice have ...
A. 14 September 2006: Hi Anon,
You aren't doing anything "wrong" - in fact it seems just the opposite -- you sound nice and self confident. And self-confidence is a great quality that is hard to have for some people.
Listen, you don't want to just settle for anyon... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm pregnant without the test???
Q. how can i tell if i am pregnant without taking the test?...
A. 14 September 2006: Hi Anon,
Without a test (and even with an over the counter test) it's hard to determine if you're pregnant for sure. A lot of symptoms of pregnancy can be symptoms of other things such as too much stress, etc.
Here is a website that bre... (read in full...)
Is my wife's friendship crossing the line???
Q. Is my wife's friendship crossing the line? My wife and I have been married for 7 years. She has a male friend and they have been friends since childhood. When he was in high school he had several girlfriends and was heterosexual then. During co...
A. 14 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
My thoughts are that your wife should not be doing this (I and married and also have gay friends - they never lay a hand on me). I believe if you are uncomfortable with this, then your wife should have the heart to stop. She sho... (read in full...)
After 36 years together, my bf's parent's split up. Now my bf seems uninterested in marriage at all! Any thoughts on this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend over a year and a half, he's 36 and I'm 25, we already own a house together and I want us to get married one day. But his parents split up this year on my birthday after 36 years of marriage and he doesn't seem to ...
A. 14 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
Seems to me that this is just one of those situations in which you're just going to have to give him time.
After seeing his parents split up, it really doesn't make marriage seem to appealing to him. He's just most likely depr... (read in full...)
We've talked on the phone for 18 months...but he doesn't want to me me! What's wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked on the phone for 18 months;he says he loves me but doesn't want to meet?...
A. 14 September 2006: Sorry - I just saw that you wrote you only talked to him on the phone and you didn't mention talking to him online at all. May I ask how you met him if it wasn't online?
All the same, I still think the best decision would be to cut contact ... (read in full...)
We've talked on the phone for 18 months...but he doesn't want to me me! What's wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked on the phone for 18 months;he says he loves me but doesn't want to meet?...
A. 14 September 2006: Hello Anon,
There really isn't too much to go by from what you post. But honestly, even the title of this made me weary of this boyfriend of yours.
I think that him not wanting to meet after 18 months is a huge warning signal. If you've only ... (read in full...)
His ex will not leave us alone, its really upsetting me, all I want to do his make him happy!!
Q. Please help me, I am 22 years old and am seeing a man that is 8 years my senior. He has four kids and an ex that just wont leave us alone. I have to put up with her constant threats and this is really getting me down. But most of all whats rea...
A. 14 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I agree with everyone else. You don't deserve to be with someone like that. He's lucky that you have put up with him as long as you have.
It's not healthy for someone so sensitive to be with someone who is so angry all the time. A... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: Hello,
Well I actually have heard of couples sleeping in seperate beds before. It's actually not that uncommon. But since that's not your only problem, I would say something is definitly going on in your husband's mind and things are not as g... (read in full...)
I text her twice and she didn't reply...I'm nervous I will never see her again...
Q. This may take a while but I'll try my best to explain my story. The's this girl who I really like and i used to go to school with. she is still there as she's in the year below. She's really friendly and sweet but, she's also really shy. I asked he...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anon,
If you're nervous about calling her since you guys spoke a while ago, you could try texting her again. Just say something simple like about how you were thinking about her and wondered how she was doing. Short and sweet. If you get ... (read in full...)
He is inconsiderate and snaps at me when I'm only trying to help...
Q. hiya right im wondering if you can help me... me and my boyfriend are going through a rough patch at the moment he is very inconsiderate towards me and feels that i am telling him what to do (which in ways i am but only to keep him out of trouble) i ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hey Baby (lol),
You sound like a very caring and concerned girl. That's great that you want to help out your boyfriend and keep him out of trouble, but the problem with that is that he doesn't seem to think he needs any help.
Sometimes in ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about flirting with "her" in my face or leave it alone?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 3 months. We're incredibly happy together at the moment, and We've both come to terms with eachother's faults and learned to accept them as part of eachother's personality. For example, he has always been a major ...
A. 13 September 2006: Oh, and I just saw that you wrote "We had an argument a week ago because of my behaviour..." Anonymous, you aren't the one with any behavior issues. Your boyfriend is the one who has problems behaving a good/loyal boyfriend should. You are ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about flirting with "her" in my face or leave it alone?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 3 months. We're incredibly happy together at the moment, and We've both come to terms with eachother's faults and learned to accept them as part of eachother's personality. For example, he has always been a major ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hey Anonymous,
Your boyfriend has an exclusive relationship with you and therefore should not be throwing things down this girls shirt, let alone discuss his penis size with her. That is extremely disrespectful to you, moreso that you are righ... (read in full...)
She is in Paris being smug while I decided to finish up at school
Q. Hi everyone, So my girlfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. We met at the end of high school and maintained the relationship throughout college (we did the long distance thing for a year as we went to different colleg...
A. 13 September 2006: sorry, in the first sentence of the second paragraph, i mean to write "...having as much *fun* as she seems to be having."... (read in full...)
She is in Paris being smug while I decided to finish up at school
Q. Hi everyone, So my girlfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. We met at the end of high school and maintained the relationship throughout college (we did the long distance thing for a year as we went to different colleg...
A. 13 September 2006: sorry, in the first sentence of the second paragraph, i mean to write "...having as much *fun* as she seems to be having."... (read in full...)
She is in Paris being smug while I decided to finish up at school
Q. Hi everyone, So my girlfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. We met at the end of high school and maintained the relationship throughout college (we did the long distance thing for a year as we went to different colleg...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Scott,
Listen, your girlfriend is in a new place and is happy exploring and making new friends. She is just having a good time, getting out, making friends, and seeing the place she's always wanted to live in. Be happy for her - she's wh... (read in full...)
What is this bump in the middle of my breasts ??
Q. hi, im 15 and found a kind of raised lump in between my boobs. its right in the middle of each breast. what is this, it doesnt hurt when i push it, it just feels like a normal bump. could it be breast cancer or what do u think it is? ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I would really go to the doctor if I were you. I don't think anyone's going to be able to determine what you have over this site. And if someone does suggest something, you should still really visit a doctor. You don't want to be told ... (read in full...)
He is unable to be emotionally on the level with me, because he's been hurt before... How can I get him to open up like he did with his ex's!!
Q. Hello! Here's my concern- My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. We temporarily live in separate cities (Philly and NYC) and both just graduated from college. We have an AWESOME relationship. However, my problem is that his othe...
A. 13 September 2006: Hi Anon,
I know that you don't want to hear this, but "give it time" is exactly what you're going to have to do. And, it seems to me that at this point in time there really is pretty good communication between the two of you. You know his past... (read in full...)
He's Insatiable!!! Help!
Q. i'm losing my sex drive and i have no idea why. It's also getting to the point where my boyfriend is asking me questions as to what is going on and i have no real answer for him, we have discussed it and he told me that he would ideally like to ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hello Anon,
A lot of times girls don't have a good sex drive because they are on birth control. Maybe this is what's happened with you. And it really doesn't have to fade as soon as you start taking birth control, either - it could be up to a ... (read in full...)
I text her twice and she didn't reply...I'm nervous I will never see her again...
Q. This may take a while but I'll try my best to explain my story. The's this girl who I really like and i used to go to school with. she is still there as she's in the year below. She's really friendly and sweet but, she's also really shy. I asked he...
A. 13 September 2006: Hello Anonymous,
I agree with Abacadaba. She could also just be bad at getting back to people, you know how it can be with people sometimes.
If you guys had nice conversations before, then perhaps you should call her up again instead of text ... (read in full...)
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