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My past is coming back to haunt me.....

Q.   I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...

A.   27 October 2011: Pretty sure your husband woulda twigged you wasnt a virgin when he 'took your virginity'? if you know what im saying? If not then he obv doesnt know about how that goes down, unless you told him you...well broke yourself in. Maybe after 10 years its ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend lasts so long. Is this normal?

Q.   Please don't judge me because of my question, as I'm still only a (legal) teenager, But me and my boyfriend so far have only had sex twice, and well is it normal for on the second time him to last so long? he lasted for 30-40 mins, but I thought ...

A.   27 March 2011: Well, first time round im sure he was a bit nervous even if hes had sex before, different girl, so i'm guessing second time round he had a clearer head and prob could concentrate on what he was doing to you rather than what you where doing to him, ... (read in full...)

I'm shy around girls. How can I change this?

Q.   This question will probably be very hard to answer. I have huge problems talking to girls, whether they are good-looking or not. I never know what to say or how to be charming and sweet etc. I also have problems talking to guys (making new frie...

A.   27 March 2011: I've always been shy around girls more so when i was in school no particular reason just am, one of those things mate at the end of the day how many girls are out there? you'll eventually meet girls who even though you think your shy you wont have a ... (read in full...)

Is it normal that I still visit my friend's grave?

Q.   is it normal that I still visit my best friends grave even though hes been gone for 8 years he died of leukemia and my friends say that its not healthy to think about the deacesed, but im happy and talk to him even though he cant hear me I like to ...

A.   28 March 2008: I think i would do the same, anybody who says you have a problem obviously hasnt got a friend they are that comited too. Its nice to see people who carrying on loving after the pass is made, id want my friends to visit me if anything where to ... (read in full...)

How do I get my friends to stop...?????

Q.   My best friends have a problem. I know I should support them but I just can't... they have tried to stop it... but it kicks her in the ass because they want it more after they quit. I swear I'm not doing that little game where the friends I ta...

A.   26 March 2008: Im a smoker, ive tried before and it is hard, temptaion is a harsh mistress, especially with something so available. Its one of those things where pretty much the only way youll quit is if you yourself wants to quit. Trying to make your friends quit ... (read in full...)

I want to try alcohol! Will I become an alcoholic?

Q.   I've never really drank alcohol before, but for some reason now I want to try it. In the past, I've only had a few sips. I never want to become an alcoholic, so I'm put off drinking it incase I like it a bit too much! Am I being stupid? How to you ...

A.   18 March 2008: Alcohol is one of those things thats great at the time, but come morning, or when youve got your head in the toilet being sick, you say youll never do it again. I seriously doubt youd get addicted, just dont over do it, especially consider... (read in full...)

When you were single, how long did you usually have to wait before you found somebody? I miss companionship... and sex.

Q.   I just want to ask any aunts/uncles who are 16 - 24: When you were single, how long did you usually have to wait before you found somebody? I was in a long relationship just over a year ago, and I've been single since! I haven't had a rela...

A.   22 February 2008: Its taken me a year and a half to start seeing another girl, which happened recently, there where a few girls i got close too inbetween but nothing happened, i just didnt click with the other girls. Maybe your problem has something to do with this, ... (read in full...)

I'm circumcised. Will it make sex less plearurable?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have decided to start having full sex. I've been circumcised and hear this dulls sensation. I've practised with a condom and orgasm ok, but will it be the same during intercourse-i'll need plenty friction but want to be ...

A.   19 February 2008: Well, youll be surprised how little friction you need, masterbation and sex feel differently, im circumcised and ive never had a problem. Even if you feel you cant ejaculate when being gentle, which i doubt you will, then just dont worry about it, ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to check girls out??

Q.   I'm a 19-year-old senior in high school, and I'm always finding myself constantly looking at the girls' boobs, checking out their butts, and wondering about whether they masturbate, or not. Could someone tell me if this is normal?...

A.   19 February 2008: Funnily enough we where talking about this at our weekend session. We where saying that no matter how hard you try, you either find yourself looking, or fighting the urge to look. Its just being male. Just dont make it too obvious :)... (read in full...)

Can you help me overcome my shyness and get more physical with my gf??

Q.   I am sooooo shy but only around my gf. We've been going out for 7 months... and we havnt even kissed or hugged yet! Whats wrong with me? I was just with my gf and one of my friends goes up and hugs her jokingly! I really want to get more phy...

A.   19 February 2008: Your young! your new to it all. 7 months is a long time, but then when your younger relationships are different. Trust me, the first time is always the hardest, if you feel embarrased doing it infront of friends or anything, just wait till your ... (read in full...)

I opened my heart in a letter, now I feel like a fool!

Q.   I wrote a girl a letter this past week telling her how special she meant to me. Considering she hasn't written back, I'm assuming she must be freaking out. I am such an Idiot!!! For once, I've decided to pour out my heart to someone I like and ...

A.   19 February 2008: Youve done what i never could. Ive written letters before, but never got round to delivering them. Yea ok you might feel a bit down because she hasnt replied etc. But dont think about it just for this girl, think about when you get a girl who ... (read in full...)

Why do bald men in suits turn me on?

Q.   Okay im 13 and i am really concerned as the only people i tend to fancy are around 35-50 years old and i dunno why but bald people wearing suits kinda turn me on! its soo embarrising as there is a certain teacher who fits this bill at school and he ...

A.   19 February 2008: Everybody has thier turn ons, youll be surprised at what some people consider a turn on. Its a personal thing, and completely normal. As for going red, stuttering, and not being able to think of something to say...most people have those situations, ... (read in full...)

My BF wakes up with an erection. What's up with that?

Q.   My b/f sometimes wakes up with a huge erection but insists that he's "not in the mood" for sex and though it puts me in the mood, I really can't get him interested so we just end up cuddling and talking and eventually his erection goes away. But I ...

A.   13 February 2008: Morning Glory.... (read in full...)

I touch myself alot...would a guy be able to tell??

Q.   Um, I'm just worried, I touch myself quite a lot and I know that's not really a bad thing, is it? But I just wondered, I'm a virgin but when I have sex for the first time will the guy be able to tell that I touched myself?...

A.   11 February 2008: any boy who thinks bad because of that, he is a hippocryt. Personally i dont see why girls are so secrative about it, we sure arnt, it doesnt bother us. Have fun!... (read in full...)

Getting rid of excess skin.

Q.   Dear cupid I am 17 years of age, 5"10 and would like to know is their any way of getting rid of excess skin or as others call it flabs without the use of surgery? This happen when i lost weight quickly and shows up when i sit down. please help m...

A.   5 February 2008: Eat right, exersise, only thing you can do. Dont go into this starving yourself thing, just makes you look skinny and you wouldnt want to go showing it off. By the sounds of it your like what i used to be like, but then i worked for 8 months and ... (read in full...)

If your happy and you know it!!!

Q.   I know this isn't a question, but I'm just happy =] I want the whole world to know!...

A.   18 January 2008: 16 year old...friday night...british...happy...wonder what youve got planned for tonight! Have a good'un... (read in full...)

Can you dye your pubic hair?

Q.   Can you dye your pubic hair? Mine's so light, I want it darker!...

A.   11 January 2008: Dont see anything stopping you, as its been said try find a sesitive skin dye or something, just so you dont cause any irritation down there ;) Good luck and have fun!... (read in full...)

Should I be pregnant at this age?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend has had sex without a condom loads off times in the past month to hav a baby because last year we found out i was pregnant but got an abortion because we was not ready but now i dont no if i am pregnant now because i hav just ...

A.   8 January 2008: Having a baby at such a young age is not a good idea in my opinion. For one thing you wont have time for an education at the start, unless you allow somebody to care for your child straight away which isnt really fair on the baby, and your ... (read in full...)

The second condom split but he did not ejaculate, does it still mean risk of pregnancy?

Q.   i had sex with my boyfriend today the first time we did it he ejeculated and he changed the condom to a fresh 1 but when we started again he didnt ejeculate again but the condom split does that mean i can still get pregnant and would i need a ...

A.   7 January 2008: There is a chance you can still get pregnant without ejaculation, by Pre-cum. 'Pre-ejaculate, also known as pre-cum, is the liquid that seeps from the tip of the penis during sexual excitement before ejaculation happens. This fluid helps coats th... (read in full...)

What can be done to dismiss the pain of first-time sex, apart from using lubricant? Is something wrong with me?

Q.   My bf and I have been together for a while...I'm a virgin, but he is not. We want to have sex and are ready, but everytime we have tried it really hurts me. I know it's supposed to hurt some the first time, but this is pretty bad...and he can only ...

A.   7 January 2008: Foreplay. Let him 'losen' you up with tongue and fingers, this will not only get you used to there but also will turn you on and make you wet, just get as aroused as possible before trying, and just take it slow, and make sure ... (read in full...)

She consented to sex but is now crying rape

Q.   My friend was telling me this story about him and it has made me a bit confused. He and his girlfriend had sex for the first time a few days ago. He asked her if she wanted to have sex (they were both sober) and asked her every now and then if ...

A.   7 January 2008: Well really if she does try to charge him for rape its going to be his word against hers. Im sure theres ways by looking at any signs of a struggle or resistance from clothing or bodily damage (bruises etc). There has to be tell tale signs wh... (read in full...)

Is this rape? Should I forgive him?

Q.   I met this guy 8 years ago, I was madly in love with him however, it turned out he was gay! it took me a couple of years to get over him. I have then moved on with my life and moved into a differnt province. I lost touch with him about 5 years ago. ...

A.   7 January 2008: Thought id quickly dig something up for you before i leave Theres some information on other date rape drugs, after reading it its more likely to be one of those (if any) than MDMA by the sounds of your s... (read in full...)

Is this rape? Should I forgive him?

Q.   I met this guy 8 years ago, I was madly in love with him however, it turned out he was gay! it took me a couple of years to get over him. I have then moved on with my life and moved into a differnt province. I lost touch with him about 5 years ago. ...

A.   7 January 2008: Hello, i havent got much time to read the whole thing but ive recently been doing alot of research on drugs so i can help you out with the drug part. MDMA (Pure form of Extacy) is one of the common 'date rape' drugs, Now, you said you felt like you ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to wait til your 18 to lose your virginity or do anything sexual?

Q.   is it ok to wait til your 18 or so or at uni to lose your virginity or do anything sexual (other than kissing)? p.s i live in uk where everyone has sex before 16 [rolls eyes] id like everyones personal oipinions please, also not "don't be press...

A.   7 January 2008: Sex is an each to thier own thing, wait as long as you want. When the time comes youll know it. And your correct, i was 14 when i lost mine, but, if i could have gone back i would have waited, so ive been and made my mistake. I think when people ... (read in full...)

Had unprotected sex while drunk and took the morning after pill, I'm still scared though.

Q.   i slept with a boy when i was drunk and i dont think we used any protection. i took the moring after pill about 48 hours after it happend. i havent had my period, although mine are always all over the place. please help i am so scared!...

A.   7 January 2008: The morning after pill can be taken up to 72 hours after, but with each day the chance of success get lower (not sure on how much) Only thing i can say is dont leave it too late before doing a test (i think im right in thinking they can wrongly say ... (read in full...)

I'm having white pimples around my penis and scroteum, what is this??

Q.   hi I need help, Im 15. i started growing pubic hair around late twelves and its neva been a problem. but recently i have noticed samml white pimples at the base of the pubic hair and around the base of the penis and scroteum. i havent had sex so it ...

A.   5 January 2008: Ive seen questions like this from time to time, people give the answer of its to do with hair folicles (not sure on spelling)and things like ingrown hairs and if not then its just the way your skin goes, by that i mean its not an infection or ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be involved with anyone using drugs, but I can't let him go either. What should I do?

Q.   There Is A Boy In My Life At The Moment We Arent Going Out As Such But Are Really Close And He Has Asked Me To Staer Going Out With Him I Dont Know What To Do because He Promised Me He Wouldnt Smoke Skunk And Have Joints Or Bongs No More,...

A.   3 January 2008: You gotta remember, drugs to people who take them are say, a hobbie (they arnt but lets use it as an example) lets say you enjoyed horse riding, but he didnt like horses, and asked you to give it up, what would you say? (Also youve got to think ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend lies about watching porn

Q.   I know that my boyfriend watches porn sometime back. But when I asked whether he still watches, he denied. But I discovered from his browsing history, he still watches on a regular basis, at least once a week. He told me these are pop up sites. But ...

A.   26 December 2007: What should you do? Well, think, what has he done? Its no big secret that pretty much any boy (or girl for that matter) enjoys pleasuring themselves. I think that people in relationships see porn as a 'he prefers the girls in the movie than m... (read in full...)

What are the laws on oral sex?

Q.   Hey, im really confused... i'm 15 and my bf is 17... is it illegal if we have oral sex, as I'm under the age of consent, but he's over it? Thanks!...

A.   26 December 2007: Your under the age of consent, meaning anything sexually you do is illegal. Simple as that. My advise to you is wait untill your 16, for 2 reasons, 1)If by the time your 16 you still want to do it, then that means your sure. and 2)If hes still ... (read in full...)

Why do I look ok at home but different at school etc?

Q.   i am 14 year 10 when i look at myself in the mirror at home i am happy with my appearance.but when i look at myself elsewhere like at school i always think i look really ugly and foul.why do i look diffrent i know it is a silly question is it to do ...

A.   18 December 2007: it could be lighting, the light could bring out 'flaws' in your make up etc, natural light really brings out your skins appearance. Happens all the time to me ill look in a mirror and think 'god my skin looks bad' but hey, happens to everybody now ... (read in full...)

Are people interested in dating a mixed-race person?

Q.   Are people interested in dating a mixed race person? the reason i ask is i am a mixed race girl , 23 years old , a virgin never had a boyfriend or date and i don't know why . my father white and my mother black. any way i would mind being with som...

A.   14 December 2007: Well, around where i live mixed race girls are considered to be very appealing, i for one love mixed race girls. But individual people have different tastes, some only like white, some only like black, some like asian, etc etc. So really i wouldnt ... (read in full...)

Poll question. How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Q.   Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person?...

A.   29 November 2007: 14, guess it what happens when your around sexually active people while getting drunk. Wish i didnt lose it then but hey, nothing i can do about that now.... (read in full...)

Can sex be a way of saying "I love you"? How? What makes it such?

Q.   My boyfiend and I are both virgins. We have talked about sex and decided we are ready for it. Can sex be a way of saying "I love you"? How? What makes it such? ...

A.   28 November 2007: Sex can say i love you, depending on what type of person you are, some people dont take sex seriously, meaning they dont feel anything for the people they have sex with, basicly they do it for fun. On the other hand some people dont like to give ... (read in full...)

I'm stressing about leaving school, but I don't leave til 2009!

Q.   ok i am 14 in year 10 and stressing about leaving school in 2009.i really dont want to leave school thinking i might not see some of my freinds again really upsets me how can i get over this i shouldnt have to worry about this for like a year yet!...

A.   26 November 2007: Wow, i thought you only felt like that after you had left :P i know i did. It happens to EVERYONE, and theres lots of ways around it, yes you wont see your friends as much, maybe only at weekends, but as you get older you lose time for friends as it ... (read in full...)

She said she could not come to lunch with me today but offered to meet up next week. Is she trying to avoid me?

Q.   hi. today i asked my crush if she wanted to go for lunch. she said that she couldnt today but offered to meet up next week. We get on well together andwork together in our practical groups and i'll walk her home. do you think that she is tryi...

A.   24 November 2007: i doubt it, if she puts off the meet up next week then she might be. Gotta not always think of the worst, just because she said she cant meet up this time doesnt mean she doesnt want too. Just keep an eye on it, if she keeps putting it off then shes ... (read in full...)

Can pre-cum get you pregant??

Q.   I want to really know.. can you get pregant by pre cum? ...

A.   24 November 2007: K just want to say something on this debate. I already knew this but we had a sexual health class at college today, and precum is potent with sperm, Hence why if you attempt to put a condom on the wrong way round you shoudnt use it. Pre-Cum DOES ... (read in full...)

How do I make a girl go crazy for me?

Q.   How do I make a girl to go crazy for me???...

A.   24 November 2007: Proberly the easiest question to answer. Be yourself.... (read in full...)

If a guy passes on sex, does it mean he isn't that interested?

Q.   I am dating a japanese guy and I'm Australian living in Tokyo, it's so difficult, I have invited him over the last three nights but he hasn't come over, all legitimate excuses but if a guy passes on sex, does it mean he isn't that interested?...

A.   24 November 2007: Not at all. Obviously im not in the know about thier culture but the way i see it is the guys that dont want to have sex straight off are the good ones. I know alot of girls who say 'he used me' meaning he was all up for the sex but when a ... (read in full...)

How do I avoid losing my friend?

Q.   okay well i have a little problem atm. Im 17 and theres this girl 15 lets call her lucy, who i have known all my life. we have always been so close, and she comes to me when she has a problem and she can also keep me smiling even when im down. and ...

A.   26 October 2007: These things happen. Especially if you have a cuddly relationship, the fact is 'Lucy' proberly feels that she isnt your special girl anymore, that your girlfriend is, which is true. But the fact is you can still be best friends but i dont think by ... (read in full...)

Looking for an MSN relationship. How do I get into one? Please advise.

Q.   im looking to meet someone over the internet then talk over msn. i dont want to meet them, im just looking to get some reationship exp, does anyone know any good places to meet people on the net?...

A.   23 October 2007: I wouldnt advise it, while you think your getting relationship Exp, really your not. its sort of like, playing football with your friends, then going to play in a major leauge side, its completely different, alot harder etc. But as brooke said, ... (read in full...)

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