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Why doesn't my gf want to meet my parents? Any ideas?

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to meet my parents is she hiding something?...

A.   14 January 2007: i was the same. its nothing to do with her hiding something she will just be mega nervous. once she sees them she will feel fine, but the bit leading up to it is awful. she may feel the same for a few more times but she will eventually get used to ... (read in full...)

He left a naughty note for me, but his mum found it. Help!!

Q.   i gave my boyfriend a JOKINGLY naughty note like i totally didnt mean any of it and he knew that and he took it jokingly. because we both agreed to no sex before we're married. and he accidently left the note on his kitchen table and his mom found ...

A.   14 January 2007: hmm me and my boyfriend are finding problems, before i was 16 my nan found a condom packet and acused me of having sex, when all it was, was me and my friend was messing about blowing them up. but i could see where my nan was coming from, i mean if ... (read in full...)

My friend is worried about the shape of her vagina!

Q.   I am writing on behalf of a friend who is very worried about the shape of her 'bits'. She shaves because she is very hairy and she is scared to go into showers with other girls because everything hangs down. She feels a bit of a freak. What can she ...

A.   12 January 2007: everyone has a different shape vagina, i'm sure no one will stare or even look at it, because if they did and said something to someone, they will probably call her a lesbian for looking! thats what teenagers are like, very inmature sometimes. tell ... (read in full...)

I was really upset when we broke up, but i was in tears wen i heard about this gal! Should I tell him?

Q.   Me and my bf were together for 7 months then he ended it because we were apparntly too close. So now we are both single, 14 and see eachother around school. He gives me hugs and kisses and that... but its nice beacuse i like attention from him! But ...

A.   12 January 2007: this guy sounds like someone i once knew. i'll tell you why i think he finished with you, its nothing to do with being 'too close', lads at that age like different girls every now and again and like someone new, he had what he wanted from you and ... (read in full...)

I wouldn't sleep with him and now--he won't speak to me! Are all guys like this?

Q.   i didnt slept with him! now he doesnt really talk to me! is he a Dic* or are most lads like this? i did really like him but im a virgin! but he didnt no that! is it my fault iv pushed him away (im nearly 18 in case u wanted 2 know)...

A.   12 January 2007: first off you haven't pushed him away! all he was thinking about was sex. don't do anything your not comfortable with just to please a man. he obviously didn't care how you felt and when you said no to sex he was off looking for another girl to ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and feel ready for a bf, then when I actually have one I freak out and dump him!

Q.   Hi..... well im a 12 yr old girl 13 this yr and ever since ive started secondary school i've only had one bf but i dumped him the next day cuz i totally freaked out:S:S and the same happend in junior school. i had a bf but i couldn't talk to...

A.   11 January 2007: first off relax! only go out with guys you know really well, because then you will know what to talk about. talk to the guy you go out with like a girlfriend. when you are with him don't get worried or stressed out wondering what to talk about, if ... (read in full...)

Im only 13 and watching porn sites. Is this normal?

Q.   I need some help. I've been looking at porn sites, but i'm only 13. i do it almost everyday, but a few weeks ago i stopped. Just last week i' starting to view them again. is this normal?...

A.   11 January 2007: hiya hunny, its tottaly normal for you to be interested in sex and look at it. lets put it this way its better that you watch it than do it at 13. watch it by all means but don't let it become an obsesion. it may make you feel good to watch porn... (read in full...)

I get turned on by naked chicks more than men.. scared I may become a lesbian!

Q.   I'm a female and not a lesbian but i get turned on seeing women naked than seeing men naked. What the heck is wrong with me!?? This is very unlikely for a woman but i do get excited when i see women's breast and women in bikinis (only those you ...

A.   11 January 2007: yeah, i sometimes get turned on by seeing naked women and i am tottaly straight. i think its normal to get turned on by women. there is nothing wrong with you don't worry. ... (read in full...)

We're both 13 and we've had protected sex. I'm scared of pregnancy and STD's though. Any advice?

Q.   im 13 should i have protected sex with my bf and we both luv each other i mean its been 3 months he is 13 and we r both ready for anything im just scared ill get pregnant or will get stds...

A.   11 January 2007: when i was 13 i tried having sex but it didn't work for me i wasn't physically ready,your first time is nearly always difficult and you will worry about things like pregnancy and stds. if you use a condom you should be fine! you may think you are ... (read in full...)

Im 18, she's 13. I'm not thinking about sex but I want to know how to love her without her getting scared.

Q.   Hey fellow romantics, I know a lot if most of you will feel Im in the wrong but that is not my question here. Ive been in relationships before and Im falling in love with a girl who is 13 and im 18. The question is that since we are both honestly ...

A.   4 January 2007: i used to go out with a guy at 18 when i was 13. sadly there wasn't love only lust, are you sure thats not what your feeling? no matter what people say you are not in the wrong, to love someone 13 or 113. talk to her about it. tell her you would ... (read in full...)

I don't like sex, but he's pushing me even though i'm ill. What can I do?

Q.   Hi, My Husband says that if i don't sleep with him, then i don't love him. I don't like sex, but he does get at least twice a week. i also recently had a back operation which makes things a bit difficult, but he doesn't see it that way. If i am sick ...

A.   4 January 2007: this is emotional black mail. don't let him say things like this. tell him of you loved me you would let me get better and stop obsessing about sex. tell him to wait or if he can't get out and find a prostitute and tell him not to come back. it may ... (read in full...)

My bf said we're getting too close and has decided to ignore me! Why is he like this?

Q.   Ive been with this boy for nearly 7 months we are both 14 and he told me we are getting to close! I think this will lead us to breaking up but i dont wont to! I went to school today and he told my best mate that he was not going to talk 2 me! So we ...

A.   4 January 2007: i know its hard but get rid of him,this guy is no good for you, you deserve much better than this put it in one word 'crap'. he's trying to make you run after him and make you speak first and begg him to talk. please hunny don't! thats all he wants ... (read in full...)

I am 14, and showing no signs of puberty. What should I do?

Q.   im 14 years old and show no sign of puberty. what should i do...

A.   2 January 2007: i do apologize i didn't realise you were male... (read in full...)

Is my wife cheating on me with her cousin!

Q.   This past year my wife of 13yrs went alone on a vacation trip to visit her male cousin in South America. A month later I found a reply email sent from him, in Spanish, to her that he can not be her lover because of the distance but if they get ...

A.   30 December 2006: send the guy another e-mail asking if you thought the sex was good the last time i saw you, if he replies yes then you know she has had sex with him. same as dinaleila i don't believe in spying but this is a good reason to. good luck *hugs* xxx... (read in full...)

My ex told them we had sex, but I haven't

Q.   all my freinds think i've had sex, even my guy freinds, cause thats what my ex told them. Now the guy i really like has asked me out but he thinks i've doen it and keeps saying things towards us having sex. I know that i'd wait a long time to do it ...

A.   30 December 2006: don't do anything your not ready to do! as for the stupid ex that told everyone you had sex well he's very immature. tell everyone you haven't had sex yet and you wouldn't with that other guy because he wasn't good enough for you then you have the ... (read in full...)

She's 7 months pregnant..does anyone know of good sex positions to try?

Q.   Me and my wife are expecting our first child (she's 7 months pregnant). Lately she has been asking me if I still find her pretty, attractive etc. and I say yes of course I do. Though if she was convinced then she wouldn't keep asking. I've concluded ...

A.   30 December 2006: try entering her from behind side by side that will not harm the baby or you or her. it should be a comfortable position. good luck with your new baby xxxx... (read in full...)

Why doesn't she want to have full sex with me... after two whole years!?

Q.   Dear cupid, why doesn't my gf want to have full sex with me? i am a 21yr old guy and my gf is 20, we have been going out for nearly 2 years and get on great except with sex. we have being doing oral and masturbation and nearly everything except for ...

A.   30 December 2006: it may be painfull for her, try buying some lube and see if it helps with the pain, give her time, she will eventually want it.... (read in full...)

His response to my text message really freaked me out! What do you think?

Q.   I have a friend who texts me every day and we talk about anything. He's told me that he really likes me before and I told him that I like him too as a friend, but yesterday I sent him a text message saying; " okay I just got to the gym, I'll text ...

A.   29 December 2006: just ask him, its the only way you will find out. good luck hun xxxx... (read in full...)

I am 14, and showing no signs of puberty. What should I do?

Q.   im 14 years old and show no sign of puberty. what should i do...

A.   29 December 2006: do you have any pubic hair what so ever? if you do you are showing signs of puberty. any breasts budding? this is also a sign. if you mean litteraly there are no signs go and see the doctor, he/ she can prescribe pills to help speed up the ... (read in full...)

How can I tell if I'm good in bed?

Q.   Hi my name is Lizzie and I'm 21 and I'd like to know how can you tell if your any good in bed and if you're a good kisser. My friend recently got told she was a quote "lousy f***" and i thought this was horrible and it started me thinking have ot...

A.   29 December 2006: just say to the guy, am i good in bed? once you get it off your chest you will be fine, its not a hard question to ask. i asked my bf the same question actually and he told me what he thought. your guy will probably not come out with your bad at f... (read in full...)

He's been giving hint that he wants us to be more

Q.   im am a 17 year old girl and i been sleeping with a 29 year old guy i made it clear to him he is only a booty call as i have a high sex drive and it get so bad i cant consentrate at school recently he been giving hint that he wants us to be more ...

A.   29 December 2006: invite him round as a friend first and see how the family reacts to that. if they like him start dating if they don't then you can still date him if you want its your choice! my mum is 33 and my step dad is 50 and my grandparents didn't approve, ... (read in full...)

I've got my arm round her... what do I do next?

Q.   jus a quick question which only needs a simple answer, when im with this girl i really like and she really like me we get to the point where we're sitting down, i've got my arm around her and shes laying on me. i think she is waiting for me to make ...

A.   28 December 2006: gently stroke her hairline its very sexy, kiss her forehead or neck, lift her head up with your hand and gently kiss her then pull away look her in the eyes, smile and then go in for a deep soulful kiss. good luck dont be nervous!... (read in full...)

Does it hurt the first time you get fingered?

Q.   Hi, I'm 17 and I have never been fingered. I was woundering does it hurt the first time you get fingerd?...

A.   27 December 2006: nope it doesn't hurt. try it yourself before he goes to do it. you may be tight and if your not relaxed and all tensed it may hurt. just chill relax and enjoy, if it hurts tell him.... (read in full...)

I like him but my Mom says he is bad news! What should I do now?

Q.   i like this guy but my mom and friends say he is bad news, but i still like him...what do i do???...

A.   27 December 2006: my parents say the same about me and my boyfriend just because he smokes. they tell me to get rid of him but i just follow my heart, i love him he's done close sexual thimgs with me and he's the first so i'm not just going to get rid of him. you ... (read in full...)

What can I do to have a flat stomach?

Q.   I'm a teenage girl who is (i'll be honest!) not very attractive! But i know i'd be much happier with the way i look if i could just lose the weight on my stomach. I'm 5"4 ish and I weigh about 10 stone. I'm not that overweight on the rest of my ...

A.   27 December 2006: your really not that over weight. if you don't want to do much exercise you don't have to, to loose weight. if you can walk to school (thats if you don't) and just cut down on portion sizes. cut out chocolate and crisps and drink 6-8 glasses of ... (read in full...)

How do you let a guy know you like him... without saying so?

Q.   Hi cupids, I've never been one to wear my heart on my sleeve, and some people have even called me cold and secretive in my emotions. It's true I don't open up very well to other people and I find it difficult to convey my feelings in words to othe...

A.   27 December 2006: personally i would just come straight out with it, if you did you may feel better. the confidence you give off may get his attention, do little things like ask for his number, call him to say good morning. compliment his clothes or aftershave. he ... (read in full...)

It hurts me to think he lies about masturbating!

Q.   I am 22 years old and my fiance is 24. We have a healthy relationship, sexual and other. I understand it is normal to masterbate, everyone does it. But it hurts my feelings when he does it and lies about it, and covers it up. He never just does ...

A.   27 December 2006: no i don't think you have anything to worry about. he might be embarrassed of the fact that he mastrubates. if he has these videos take them off him and say watch me instead get more kinky in the bedroom he may then forget about his videos and magz ... (read in full...)

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