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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 26 May 2007: I think that you need to be willing to give up your home for one near him. There is always a place to live halfway between. If you can find a location that suits all three of you, go for it. Otherwise, see if you can convince him to move. As long as ... (read in full...)
My husband threatens to take our son back to India if I do not become submissive! Should I change?
Q. Hello, My husband was a very nice guy when we married and when we moved from india to USA he couldnt get a decent job and started the trouble and he is very egoistic. now he is a piece of scrap. I have a 6 year old son, I earn and im a ...
A. 22 May 2007: Unless you are here on visas, or has dual citizenship, you don't have to worry about losing your son. I know very well how custody agreements work. He is bound by American civil law. That states that he would have to find true reasonable cause as to ... (read in full...)
I feel terribly trapped in my marriage of 13 years
Q. I feel terribly trapped in my marriage of 13 years and don't know whether I should go all out to get out of it now or just accept that I am where I am and see where things go. I feel the latter is just like giving up on life but have so little ...
A. 22 May 2007: If your husband isn't willing to go to bat for you with his family, there's a major problem here. Sex is almost a requirement in marraige. If a partner is being satisfied on all levels, then they should get out while they can. In this case, you need ... (read in full...)
I seem to have a scar line on the right side of my neck...
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a scar line on ma right side of the neck, it seems to make my neck like it has some sort of lump or is swollen compared to the left side, i went to the doctors and they tell me its nothing their, i would like to know doe...
A. 22 May 2007: It could be early signs of lymphoma. I know people who have gone to the doctor many times and had it go unnoticed. Give it a week or two, and if it's still there, and it gets worse, go back to the doctor, and scream your head off until they ... (read in full...)
Is this an unhealthy relationship?
Q. Was I right to leave? Last night my fiance and his roomates were up late drinking (he wasn't). After about an hour of them being loud, I just couldn't sleep (so was lying awake for about 3 hours). I told him that I was never able to sleep and he ...
A. 22 May 2007: If he took away your keys, he was doing it out of respect. He probably thought that you were too tired to drive, and wanted to keep you from having an accident. He obviously tried to rectify the situation by having his friends go downstairs, and you ... (read in full...)
I lashed out at him because he wasn't giving me enough attention.
Q. If you have lashed out on the guy that you have recently dated, sent unending emails and smses because they are not giving you attention. Then they dump you and now you feel stupid, childish and regret, what could be the next step a person take. ...
A. 22 May 2007: You have to realize that everyone has things going on in their lives. It's possible that he lost someone, or that something caused his life to take a turn for the worst. He may be trying to spare you of feeling bad with him, or maybe he needs to ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to take things slow, mainly due to social and cultural pressure.
Q. As a male member of a dominant male society, i have got used to this behavior where a guy enters in to a relationship with a girl, tries to get as much out of her as possible and once that phase is over, just starts abusing her. Is this normal for ...
A. 22 May 2007: Abuse in any relationship is not normal. I don't know any society that would condone the abuse of women for any reason. It's not normal to get used to something like that. Women are something to be respected and loved, not abused. I don't think that ... (read in full...)
My husband is more atttached to his family and my in laws than me...
Q. hey i am 25 year old female. i am experiencing a problem in my married life, my husband loves me a lot and he takes good care of me but i am from a good wealthy family and after marriage money matters are not going good for us because of my ...
A. 22 May 2007: If he's talking to your family more often than you are, you need to voice your concerns. If he chose his business over you, that was his decision. It seems like it's time to walk away.
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What does it mean when someone you have been chatting to on the internet for a while, suddenly turns round and says he secretly likes you?
Q. What does it mean when someone you have been chatting to on the internet for a while, suddenly turns round and says he secretly likes you. I replied that it wasnt a secret now, then he left 6 kisses straight afterwards. I have never thought of...
A. 22 May 2007: He may be getting an "ecrush". These can be difficult to deal with, because you've never actually met. Tell him that it's impossible to fall for someone that you've never really met.
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The the old fashioned family morals still be adhered to in today's society?
Q. I have this idea of building a family of my own where everyone does what they are supposed to and by mutual co-operation, like a wife cooks, a husband earns, etc. without telling anybody or controlling/disciplining anybody. It seems that i am quite ...
A. 22 May 2007: Although a family can be considered a team, nobody should be stuck doing one thing all the time. Life can be hectic. Suppose your wife is out, and the kids need to eat? What happens then? When you have a family, it's about working together to get ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him this?
Q. how do i tell my fiance that im not sure about marrying him because he cant keep a job?...
A. 22 May 2007: If you don't tell him now, you're not going to break his heart, but you're going to lose him completely. He may just have bad luck, or he may have some issue that I don't know about, but either case, you need to tell him now. One part of marraige is ... (read in full...)
I love my guy, but had to get sex with someone else out of my system, I'm racked with guilt what should I do!?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am ABSOLUTELY head over heals in love with my boyfriend. He is perfect in every way: he listens to me, hes educated, romantic, caring, thoughtful. all of that. this is my longest relationship and it seems like the stars aligned fo...
A. 22 May 2007: You need to tell him. You made your choice to betray his trust. You should have realized that there would consequences from your actions. The longer you wait to tell him, the more damage it's going to do to his heart. The longer you wait, the less ... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get, to get the guy!?
Q. I like a guy friend and i'm pretty sure he likes me too. i don't know what to do now. my friend says play hard to get but i'm not sure if i should. i can trust most of u so what do you think? ...
A. 22 May 2007: As a guy, I can tell you, don't play hard to get. A lot of girls that I've met feel the need to play games, for no apparent reason at all. The truth about guys is simple - if you play any kind of games, expect that door to be closed. If you like ... (read in full...)
Should I wait around for him to make up his mind, or should I let him go ?
Q. Ok. Here's the deal. About 2 months ago, I began to like a very good friend of mine. I'll call him 'Pete'. I've known him two years now. There's a problem though. Him and my other friend were dating for 4 years and broke it off recently, maybe ...
A. 22 May 2007: As much as it may hurt, I think that you should be the better person and let him be happy. Let them have another go at their relationship, and if it doesn't work out, step up to the plate. Just let him know that he'll have another chance with you, ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to him that we should break up?
Q. I've been with someone for about eight years. The last two years we've been on rough waters. We've talked to try to work things out several times, and nothing ever changes. I've decided it's time to part our separate ways, but he always wants to ...
A. 22 May 2007: I know that you may not want to leave your new house, but sometimes that's the only way. If you can, sell it for a little more, and find something different. The only way that you're going to get through to him a this point are actions.
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How do I move on from my ex love?
Q. Please help me. My boyfriend, who I loved dearly, broke up with me almost five months ago. I heard he had met someone else ( we were long distance and he lives in another country) and was seeing her. I was so devastated. We had been trying t...
A. 22 May 2007: You have closure- he's move on to someone else. You can't make a person love you, and therefore shouldn't waste your energy and effort in trying. The best thing that you can do is give yourself time, then give dating another go when you're ready.
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My e-crush unexpectedly called me his gf! I want to be happy, but I feel weird. Why?
Q. Hello, I have a strange problem. I'm a young woman living in Canada, and for the past 3 years I've had feelings for this man that I met while on vacation in France. We met, traded numbers and addresses, and became penpals. I developed a weir...
A. 22 May 2007: He probably got the wrong idea, especially if you stayed at his house. Make it clear that you just wanted a friend. If you don't feel any spark, there is no point in pursuing it.
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I'm 18 hes 22, would it be holding him back or inappropriate to date him ?
Q. i have just started seeing a guy who is really lovely however he is only just 18 and im 22 this year. Is this weird or inappropriate? he looks and acts older than he is and all his mates are older than him but i am concerned people will think im...
A. 22 May 2007: If you like him, pursue him. If he is good to you, and you enjoy being around him, the age gap shouldn't matter. It's a small gap, at that.
Best wishes,
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He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 22 May 2007: I think that you need to give yourself an ultimatum. How important is where you're living at the moment? A hard thing about love is giving up time and place for our partner. It sounds like he's so boxed in, that it would be hard for him to move. You ... (read in full...)
How can I get to meet a nice girl? I've been single for 5 years now.
Q. I, need advice on how to get a girlfriend. Can any ladies out there help. I'm 29 and have been single for over 5 years now. But the fact is , that i never get to meet them. I never meet any through friends, as half of my friends have never had a ...
A. 21 May 2007: Just be yourself. I try to date girls who share my interests, or are as passionate at what they do in their lives as I am to music. If you go to the gym, find a girl who likes to run or work out in the morning. Look around for someone who shares ... (read in full...)
How can I be with my boyfriend when the money is tight and the visas are causing a problem?
Q. well here it is. I met a guy when i was working abroad and what was supposed to be a fling became a full on relationship and we fell for each other. I have since returned home and have been back for nearly a year. Somehow we have managed to keep the ...
A. 21 May 2007: Be patient. If you have to, work as many hours as possible, and wire him money to get a visa. It's going to take a lot of time, and patience, but I'm more than certain that you have what it takes to make it through. Best of luck,
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How do I tell my family that I want to spend the rest of my life with my girlfriend? She is a bit older and I'm afraid they might not approve?
Q. Hey everyone! Iam a 21 male and my GF is 24! We are already talking about spending the rest of our lives together. Her family knows about me but my parents do not know about her. Only my sister does. I want to tell my parents about her but I dont ...
A. 21 May 2007: You're a 24 year old male, which means that it's all about your own decision. If your parents aren't happy with it, then they're missing out on a new daughter-in-law. If they love you and support you, they'll come around, even if it takes a little ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking that my boyfriend will leave me for someone better. How can I stop thinking like this?
Q. this is a question to guys. ive been with my boyfriend for about 4 and a half years now. we live together and have a small baby. this is going to sound stupid but no matter how much he tells me he loves me and cares for me i just dont believe...
A. 21 May 2007: It sounds like you don't WANT to believe him. Sometimes all you can do is take things for face value, and let them happen. Life's occurrences are beyond everyone's control, so let it run it's course. Keep the faith and everything wil be fine.
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Out of the blue-she tells me she wants a break! I have no idea what to say, think or feel, I'm just hurt! Help!
Q. I have a serious problem, my girlfriend has recently told me that she wants to take a break to have space and to think if she really wants to be with me, she has also told me that she has become really flirty and doesnt want to hurt me and wants to ...
A. 21 May 2007: This is a very difficult point that most people have encountered in a relationship. She seems to have a curiousity that couldn't be satisfied while in a relationship. It seems like she is taking the path of dating around for a long time. If you're ... (read in full...)
When he touches me I think he likes me but he says "he's just horny!" Any advice?
Q. Ok well, I fancy this guy big time, and he would keep touching me, like dragging his hand up my leg and i get really happy coz its like yay u like me back, but he would say later, then he was just horny, god it hurts, and i tell him its unfair...
A. 21 May 2007: Tell him to stop. If he doesn't, you have the right to take action.
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How do I stop being a sloppy kisser?
Q. my boyfriend said im a sloppy kisser how can i stop it? ...
A. 21 May 2007: Let him lead for a while, and you'll pick up on it. Kissing is something that takes time to be good at.
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I'm pregnant and my bf won't speak to me! I haven't told my parents - what do I do?
Q. Hey - I found out i was pregnant last week and just told my boyfriend 3 days ago. We've been going out for about a year now and I'm so scared he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. Ever since I told him, he hasn't contacted me once. I ...
A. 21 May 2007: You must tell your parents. From there, it's your responsibility to take legal action against him, and force him to take responsibility for his child. You also need to be in contact with his parents and let them know what's going on.
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I have a bf and the ex is in town! Would it be harmless to continue seeing my ex over the next few weeks or would be a betrayal of my boyfriend?
Q. I'm currently in a happy, fufilling relationship that's lasted for almost a year. I have no desire for this relationship to end. I've never, ever been unfaithful before, but last night i cheated on my boyfriend. The reason i did was because an e...
A. 21 May 2007: You've betrayed your boyfriend's trust. If you felt it necessary to be with someone else, you wouldn't be with your boyfriend. The best thing that you can do at this time is to break up with your boyfriend and let him get on with his life. Nobody ... (read in full...)
We used to have a healthy sex life, now six months later it's the opposite! What is the problem?
Q. Dar Cupid, My boyfriend and I used to have a very healthy sex life. We would make love up to three times a day at times. No I am lucky if I get it three times a week. We used to be so spontanious, but seem to have lost it. We're only been tog...
A. 21 May 2007: You may be different people than you were six months ago. Think about what made you two happy before. When he gets home, try giving him a kiss that will blow his socks off, lock the door, hit the lights, and I guarantee you that he'll come around.
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When my bf goes away to visit his kids, I'm going to miss him terribly! What can I do?
Q. I've been going out with my bf who has been in the army for nearly a year now. I think the world of him. He has kids from a pre relationship and obviously wants to see them when he can. In July, he will go away for six weeks on leave. He is gonna se...
A. 21 May 2007: Part of relationships is accepting the responsibilities and life that your partner has. Make the best of the time you guys have together, and write him while he's away. It will make him feel loved.
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Can you tell if a guy gets hard if he's wearing jeans?
Q. Me and my guy were making out and I was on top of him and grinding a little bit into him and he was wearing jeans and I kept trying to see if he was hard but I don't think he was. Maybe I'm just too ugly or something. It made me feel like crap! I ...
A. 21 May 2007: I'm going to give away a little guy secret. I'll put it in the best way that I can without too many details. Although it may seem like it feels good, guys are sensitive down there, especially when they go from quiet to erection... To keep people ... (read in full...)
What does a guy really mean when he says "I'm busy?"
Q. what is man really saying when he says "i'm busy"? ...
A. 21 May 2007: When a guy says he's busy, it means he's really frustrated about something, and he's trying to spare you from hearing about it. Depending on the tone in his voice, it can also mean that he's upset with you about something, and needs time to sort it ... (read in full...)
He is old fashioned and expects me to do EVERYTHING around the house just because he has a full time job. Is this what marriage is supposed to be like?
Q. Further to my previous questions, I am at yet another hurdle in my relationship.... my partner just worked a 7 x day week, and came home last night, tired, hungry and cranky, he mentioned the fact that he had not eaten a thing ALL day and needed ...
A. 21 May 2007: This is not normal at all. If he says that he's old fashioned, he's full of bs. I was raised by my grandfather, and I was taught that a woman was something to be appreciated. I was always taught that if a woman offered to cook dinner, accept only on ... (read in full...)
He never calls me, but appearantly he talks to other girls on the phone. And he lied about being at his aunt's. What do I do?
Q. alright im going out with this guy since december 30th 2006. it is not may 20th 2007. we are in love...well i love him and he said he loves me. in school we hug and kiss. he hugs other girls and im ok with that cause you know just being nice and ...
A. 21 May 2007: He's playing games. You should dump him and find someone better.
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Why is my period blood always brown?
Q. ok this question is for the girls out there and I am sorry if this is gross but why is my period blood always brown? It didnt used to be, it used to be very red but for the past three months it has been a brownish color. Should I be worried? ...
A. 21 May 2007: Blood red is almost a pigment of brown. When it dries out completely, it looks almost exactly like brown. You don't need to worry.
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How do I make it clear to him that we should break up?
Q. I've been with someone for about eight years. The last two years we've been on rough waters. We've talked to try to work things out several times, and nothing ever changes. I've decided it's time to part our separate ways, but he always wants to ...
A. 21 May 2007: All you can do is tell him. Make your concerns known. If you can convince him to make the breakup a mutual thing, then you'll spare a lot of ill-feelings toward each other, not to mention hold onto a possible friendship.
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He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 21 May 2007: Express your concerns to him. I have a suspicion that he's waiting for you to take action. A rule among guys is to let girls make most of the decisions. At this point, it seems as if he spends all of his available time with you, regardless of how ... (read in full...)
How can I feel happy with my life even though my parents see me as unsuccessful?
Q. my father doesn't accept me as a grown up person who is able to make money by doing a job and working hard. He would accept me only if i was a businessmen. Because of this i kind of hate myself for being just an average worker who slogs out to earn ...
A. 21 May 2007: Parents always have high expectations for their offspring. A lot of times, these demands may seem impossible. The best thing for you to do is not worry about what they want. You are your own person, and you're going to make your own choices. If they ... (read in full...)
How do I ask the guy at work out?
Q. i need some advice. see theres this guy at work i really like.....i think he likes me but im not completely sure. i was thinking about asking him out and i don't know how to kinda feel him out first or how to ask him out for that matter. plea...
A. 21 May 2007: Before you jump to asking him out, why not strike up a conversation with him. Get to know him a little bit before you waste the time or the money going out on a date. It's better going into a date knowing that the other person is interested. It ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to catch an STD from not wearing underwear?
Q. This has been 2 years ago. It was at my graduation and I bought a dress without washing it, b/c the next day was my big day. I went commando without wearing underwear because if i wore my underwear the people will see the shape of my underwear ...
A. 21 May 2007: It depends what you're going to be in contact with. A while back, a woman in a company had gonhorrea, and she sat on a seat. One of her blisters popped, and it got on the seat, without her realizing it. It was a unisex bathroom, and before the day ... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding out if my bf is a virgin? How do I tell him that I'm not?
Q. Hey there:) Basically I'm 16 and my boyfriend of 2 months is 18, and he lives quite far away and we have exams at the moment so haven't seen each other as much as we would have wanted. As we haven't spent too much time with him I haven't bee...
A. 21 May 2007: Be up front and ask him about his experiences. As a potential partner, it's your right to know. You also need to wait, otherwise he could get into serious trouble.
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Why do I always talk to my parents about my girlfriend?
Q. For some reason after everytime I see my girlfriend when I return home I have to let off steam and talk to parents about her. The thing is most of the stuff I say is not neccesary but other things are. I think I have gotten into habbit but there are ...
A. 21 May 2007: It's all about degree of comfort. If you feel comfortable around your parents, it's natural to want to blow off steam with them. There may be a degree of discomfort in being open with your girlfriend. Try and figure out if you're uncomfortable being ... (read in full...)
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