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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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Is it my pride or something else that's making me leave her?
Q. i met this girl 4 months before i had to go study over seas. I was everything in her life. Her first proper boyfriend. I ws gone for 15 months. We always talked on the phone and internet. I cheated on her couple of times when i was gone. When i came ...
A. 24 July 2008: You guys both cheated on each other. If you really loved each other, you guys would have been dedicated to each other, no matter how far apart you were. I don't see my girlfriend as much as I would like, but when we're together, we make the best of ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my date that I may not be ready to date him just yet?
Q. I have a date this weekend with a great guy (an acquaintance, not a friend), but I realize that I may not be quite ready to date anyone after ending a very serious relationship that lasted 5 years (my ex and I were both civilized about it, but there ...
A. 24 July 2008: Tell him that you're still getting over your last relationship. I might still suggest going on the date, because you never know if he could be that person that might turn your whole world around. The last relationship might have been God's way of ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to give my long distance boyfriend a great time?
Q. hey my long distance boyfriend will be coming to visit me soon but i dont know how to go about when he gets here..as in what do i do,i want him to have the best time ever.....
A. 23 July 2008: It's about compromise. Know how much time you've got to work with. I'm not in a long distance relationship, but both of us work a lot. We make a few days a week for each other, whether it's a few minutes, a few hours, or a few days. Figure out a ... (read in full...)
I said I love you, and he bolted, should I keep it to myself next time?
Q. Please tell me why it is when a woman tells a man she loves him even if its in the early stages-he then dumps her? I can understand him getting scared but who has said anyone can make him move in marry heror be exclusive etc -no one can make them ...
A. 3 July 2008: Telling someone that early on can be scary. It's something that one needs to build up to. Guys like to enjoy the new relationship for a long time before they're ready to express that kind of strong emotion. He probably felt like you were already ... (read in full...)
I kept asking, found out she had sex with another man, now I am hurting, please help?
Q. I dated a girl for about a year. We decided to end it because we were both going to be apart from eachother because of college. About four months ago we decided to get back together. At first, it was the greatest thing that has happened to me. ...
A. 3 July 2008: The lowest thing that you can do to someone is to date their best friend. If she did that, and cheated on you, I'm sorry to say, she never respected you in the first place. The heart can only ache for so long before it forces itself to move on. Give ... (read in full...)
He asked for my number, now he's missing in action, should I forget him?
Q. So this guy approached me in a club at the weekend, he chatted to me for ages was really nice, the convo was easy not over the top and I wasn't drapping myself round his neck, he spent time talking to my friend about me (she got the vibe he really ...
A. 3 July 2008: I think he may just be busy. There's also a thing guys do, though. Guys don't want girls thinking that they have to be the center of their universe. Because of that, they say that they're busy, or try to find something to do to not look needy...
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I think I luv him, but he shows no interest, what should I do?
Q. im 16 and my boyfriend is 18 im really attached to him and its like never spend time with me but only one time i really love him but i dont know what to do...
A. 3 July 2008: In the U.S., a 16 yr. old dating an 18 yr. old can be very dangerous water to tread in. I would put things on hold until you turn 18, because there's the risk that things might go to far. If you guys end up having sex, instead of landing in your ... (read in full...)
How to I Stop Having Urges to Self-Injure?
Q. I know this isn't a romance question but maybe you can help me anyway. Over the last year I've been having more trouble dealing with my problems in healthy ways, and when I am overwhelmed my knee jerk thought is to hurt myself, to cut myself ...
A. 9 November 2007: It's something that I fight through every day. If it really comes to it, get large rubber bands, and flick them on your wrists. It hurts, but it won't cause any permanent damage. I'm not going to feed you the crap that they tell you in counseling. ... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with her, but now she's dating her crush! Do I tell her how I feel?
Q. Hey people, yesterday, the girl with whom i am madly in love (we'll call her Jane) got asked out by her crush, and she said yes. Naturally, this saddens me, but I just dont know what to do... I have been told my numerous friends that I should tell ...
A. 4 October 2007: If she thinks of you as a friend:
The best thing that you can do as a friend is let her be happy. If you're in love with her, true love is letting her be happy, even with it's someone else.
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No friends, family, and I really miss my mother who died a couple of years back. I'm not living, just existing. How can I change this?
Q. i'm 29 years old and have no friends or family,my mother died a couple of years ago and i miss her so much she was my best friend and i could talk to her about anything now i feel so alone i never see anyone as i live out in the country and only ...
A. 4 October 2007: The first thing that you need to do is take a deep breath. The funny thing about life is that things grow and change. Think about it like this-things are changing in your life, bringing you challenges. You can either beat those challenges, or you ... (read in full...)
Help! My boyfriend has a crush on my best friend!
Q. I recently found notes on facebook between my boyfriend of eight months and my best friend about how he had developed a crush on her and thinks shes the prettiest girl he knows. He says it was just a week that he had a crush on her and doesn't mean ...
A. 4 October 2007: It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. It seems like you're the definite option in his life, and he doesn't want to lose you, because the other girls might not work out. I have been in this situation, and the best thing that you can do is ... (read in full...)
How do you win back someone you've dumped?
Q. Just a quick question, has anyone reading this ever dumped anyone and realised they have made a mistake? And how did you win the person back? ...
A. 4 October 2007: Do you really feel that you made a mistake, or is it that you're afraid of being single? Why did you dump this person? I would take those questions into consideration. Before you consider trying to get them back, you need to look at it from their ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a guy I like out? I'm scared of rejection.
Q. Hi there is this guy who i like, and im good mates with him,he is 27 and im 22, and he is one of the managers of mcdonalds in town,where i live,im very good mates with one of the other young managers their too, but i like the 27 year old. ive...
A. 5 September 2007: I agree with the above statement. Get to know the person that you're going to be on a date with. You don't want to jump right into a relationship with someone who could or could not end up to be a Ted Bundy... Remember, looks are only one thing... ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him. Whats the best way to react?
Q. The man that I was dated the previous months now is always occupied with his work and his own matters. Although I have called him some times and seems interested to get out with me he doesn't eventually arrange a date. Sometimes he called me but I ...
A. 5 September 2007: I'm in the same boat as him. What it comes down to is lack of time. He's not trying to offend you, or drive you away. In this day and age, a lot of people get a job, not foreseeing that they could be taken advantage of by the place that they're ... (read in full...)
My ex left me for someone else but is saying she was only friends with him back then. Its all gone wrong for her and she wants back. What should I do?
Q. Ok to cut a long story short 6 months ago my gf left me for another guy(someone that i know) it crushed me completly, anyway after 6 months of no contact she calls and we talk and then we arranged to meet. When we met it was really emotional...
A. 5 September 2007: I may come out sounding a little harsh here, but I'm going to bottom line it for you. She chose you as second best to another guy. That's all you'll ever be, no matter how bad she makes him sound. She might also be playing a game also, making him ... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend likes his friend. Am I overreacting?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now, and he has never shown any signs of infidelity. Lately, though, I have this strange feeling that maybe he has feelings for a friend of his. I have had this feeling since march, and ...
A. 5 September 2007: I wouldn't worry about it. If he's telling you about his friends, he's trying to share a part of his life with you. If he's inviting her to places where he knows you're at also, maybe he's trying to drop a hint. It seems like he wants you two to get ... (read in full...)
Can cheaters really change??
Q. hi, I have a boyfriend that i really love, can't imegine a life without him. He loves me too but he has been cheating on me but like in our country its normal for boys/girls to cheat on each other. All i want to know is we talked about it and he ...
A. 3 September 2007: I don't think I can comprehend how cheating on one's partner is normal. It doesn't sound that way to me. Part of me wants to believe that people can change, but part of me knows that cheaters rarely change their ways.
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I've told her we are too young to have a baby but she got mad and said I am breaking her heart!!
Q. My girlfriend and I are 19 and she wants to have a baby with me. I'm not ready and she knows it. We both still live with our parents and can hardly even afford to go to school. I tried talking to her and explaining why it's too soon and she got mad ...
A. 3 September 2007: You definitely did the right thing. When you're going to have a baby, you've got to have a place for the baby to stay, and food to feed it, and clothes to keep it warm. It sounds like she's not thinking everything through, and there's nothing that ... (read in full...)
I was abused in the past and I found out my guy watches porn. What should I do or say about it?
Q. I have been with my man for 7 years gonna get married well about 9 years ago i was abused for a sexually abused for a year he has always surported, me but now i have found that he watches porn when i go bed. it makes my skin crawl and he doesnt ...
A. 3 September 2007: If he's not pushing you into sex, then don't worry about it. He at least waited until you were in bed to watch it, which means he respects you enough to wait. Guys have needs to, and if they're not being met, he's got his right to satisfy him in a ... (read in full...)
We have an 8 yr age gap. Will problems occur in the future like my girlfriend says?
Q. Hi! I am 25 years old guy in love with a girl who is 17 years old. I don't want to loose her at any cost. Now the only problem that worries her is the age difference being to 8 years which she says could have problems in future which might lead to ...
A. 3 September 2007: I would wait to date her until she's 18. There may be a difference in maturity level, especially at her age. She's young, and probably doesn't want to be tied down to one person... Take it slow... DV1... (read in full...)
My new guy is not quite divorced yet. Is it ok to date him?
Q. Hi, I need advice. I am currently seeing a really great guy who although he says he is seperated from his wife and at the point of divorce is still living in the house with her. He says they have separate rooms and he is always with me. I don't ...
A. 21 August 2007: No. That situation will get ugly...
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My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay?
Q. My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay? Why does he want me to do this? I asked him won't this hurt you and he said your fingers aren't that big it will feel ...
A. 13 August 2007: Not at all... The rectum is a form a stimulation for the male. It's not really my thing, but it's supposed to work...
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My future mother in law criticises me and is very tactile with her son... should I worry?
Q. I am getting concerned over my future mother in laws behaviour. My boyfriend is 20 and his mother is 40. She is generally ok but makes a lot of personal remarks about the way I look which are not very nice - like my hair is frizzy or my clothes ...
A. 11 August 2007: Not to be gross, but it seems that there may be some sort of incestuous thing between your boyfriend and his mom... My family members or friends would never come near the shower while I was in it...
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She knows I love her and told me that I'm not her type and that she can't go out with fat dudes!
Q. I'm 15 and I have absolutely never had a girl friend. I am 6'0, 190 pounds and I'm not that attractive. I'm in love with my best friend and me and her are really close, she tells me everything. We're always on the phone and always together. She ...
A. 11 August 2007: I've given the same advice I've given to you. It may sound harsh, but it's worked many a time. Take the fat that you have, and turn it into muscle. Stop picking up the phone every time she calls. Stop spending time on her, and invest that time into ... (read in full...)
Was this RAPE?
Q. Around 10 months ago I was out with an old friend from school and she met 2 of her friends which were 2 lads that I did not really know but had seen around the area a couple of times. They got pretty drunk and at first I didn't touch any drink but ...
A. 11 August 2007: If you said no, this was rape!! Do a rape kit with the police, and press charges!
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I don't know whether it's a wind up, her messing about or she wants me to ask her out.
Q. I recently told a friend how I feel about her and she said she has feeling for me to... we took it to the next level and slept together but then she started bein funny with me the next day and said she feels guilty cause she has a boyfriend but this ...
A. 5 August 2007: Tell her that she needs to stop leading you on, and I think that if you can, talk to her boyfriend. He deserves to know how his girlfriend is acting towards other guys...
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We are suppose to get married next year but how can I get past feeling hurt and betrayed?
Q. My boyfriend's ex-wife called me and told me that my boyfriend may have another child and that he is going to court next month about it. When I asked him about it he said he was waiting for the right time to tell me. We are suppose to get married ...
A. 4 August 2007: That's a huge secret. If he's keeping that secret, he'll keep more in the future. It definitely should put things into doubt. I would cancel plans for a wedding for the time being...
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SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 23 July 2007: I'm interested in being a mod...
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I have a violent bf who treats me like dirt behind closed doors! Any advice?
Q. I'm in a three-year relationship with a guy five years my senior. He's great in public, always kind to me, my family and friends plus very affectionate but behind closed doors it's like he's had a personality change. He treats me like dirt, forcing ...
A. 21 July 2007: Get away from him. Pack your bags and move somewhere quickly. Drain your accounts and open new ones, and change your phone number.
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My teacher split up with his partner...should I make a move?
Q. Hi its me again remember before when i said i was in love with my teacher and that he was in a LTR...? Well now they have split up and i really wanted make a move but i don't have the guts because i know almost for sure he'll push me away and thin...
A. 21 July 2007: If you tried that, he would lose everything.
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My bf wants me to be more 'sexually adventurous'...is this a good thing or what?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months wants me to be more sexual with him, is that bad? he wants me to do a lot more sexual positions as well as go down on him a lot more than I do. I dont want to disappoint him so Last night we did it in the middle of the ...
A. 21 July 2007: It really depends on what you want out of the relationship. If you're curious, have any kind of desire, and/or willing to do things for him, then go for it. If these things aren't what both of you want, then it doesn't matter what he wants. Do it ... (read in full...)
Our families hate each other and now that we are engaged-his mother has freaked out. What should we do?
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs and we are crazy about eachother. The only problem is our families- they dont like eachother, and dont want me and my boyfriend to be together. Recently, we have decided to get engaged, but when...
A. 21 July 2007: As long as you two are happy, it doesn't matter. If he's listening to his parents about the wedding, he hasn't grown up yet, and he's not ready to be engaged. It sounds like you need a man and not a little mama's boy.
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His friends told lies and now he's broken up with me!
Q. What do you do when your long term boyfriend breaks it off, (for stupid reasons of course) and doesn't want to talk to you, based on something his "friends" said. When in reality they aren't his friends, and want to have a threesome with you. Very ...
A. 21 July 2007: Move on. That's all you can do. I know that it may be hard, but if he was able to break up with you that quickly, then he never cared about you in the first place. I listen to the concerns of my friends over the girls I date, but I always make the ... (read in full...)
I am finding out that some of my boyfriend's friends are cheating on their girlfriends, how do I know my boyfriend isn't doing it too?
Q. I am finding out that some of my boyfriend's friends are cheating on their girlfriends. How do I know if my boyfriend will be just like them? Are there signs to look for? I have never thought of him doing this to me but with some of his frien...
A. 21 July 2007: Unless he gives you some sort of reason to worry, don't think about it. Just because somebody does something doesn't mean that he's going to do it too... Just try and be loving to him. If he doesn't want to be with you, I'm sure that he would have ... (read in full...)
I mentioned how my ex was hot and now my GF is feeling insecure
Q. hi..me and my gf are together for 7mths now. one day when she was at my place, she saw my ex's pics..i said she used to be hot. i didnt know she was gonna feel insecure about it.. then after so long..she got insecure and started using what ...
A. 13 July 2007: You broke rule number one: don't talk about your ex with your current girlfriend...
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I fell in love with my bf because of his personality. Even though I feel guilty afterwards, is it okay to notice and flirt w/ others?
Q. Is it okay to notice other guys when I'm out with my boyfriend or just by myself? I think he's beautiful in his own way but not attractive in the "standard" sense of what you see in the media so I feel guilty when I notice guys that don't look like ...
A. 9 July 2007: Guys don't mind if you look at other guys as long as you don't cheat... Flirting is a whole different story... Flirting with another guy in front of your boyfriend is a quick way to being single again...
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What's the quickest way to lose weight?
Q. I have watched so many videos and seen so many pictures of skinny people that makes me want to lose weight I'm a size 12 and want to know the quickest way of losing weight; I saw a size 0 and want to go to a size 6. I'm only small so fat doesn't ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm on the Vince McMahon/Triple H diet... When you're hungry, you snack or eat a small snack about 8-12 times a day. No large meals, just anytime you get hungry, eat something small, like a small fruit salad for breakfast, or an open face turkey ... (read in full...)
The distance is causing trouble. How do I get through this?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 3 years.my boyfriend loves me and i do the same.but for the past 1year we are sharing a long distance relationship.so i feel lonely at times when he's not around me!as a result i get irritated over small things and ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm seeing a girl from another state right now... I don't understand why people fight over it. What you guys need to realize is that it makes the time that you get to see each other that much sweeter. You've got the phone, e-mail, Myspace, webcams, ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop spying on me?
Q. My boyfriend of 1.5 yr won't stop spying on me. He takes my cell phone without my knowledge and reads texts, goes through my recent calls. We have an otherwise great relationship. I want him to trust me. I have done nothing to betray him, yet ...
A. 9 July 2007: You're not safe. Get out of that relationship immediately, because it will only get worse.
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Why does my boyfriend hardly ever want to spend time with me any more?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 an have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, but lately he doesn't seem to want to spend time with me, seems he would rather be out with his mates. I really love him and it hurts that I hardly get to spend time with him anymore. ...
A. 9 July 2007: He's probably coming up on his 18th birthday, which generally means graduation... He knows that his friends may move on, but that you'll make more of an effort to see him later. Let him enjoy his time with his friends. After graduation, I'm sure ... (read in full...)
He treats me like crap. What should I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been togeather for 6 years. i luv him alot. But i wonder if he really luvs me.He never takes me anywhere or buys me anything. If I ask him for anthing including sex. Its always NO! Whats the big deal, Id do anything for him. ...
A. 9 July 2007: It sounds like you aren't happy. If he's quick to say no to sex, or doesn't spend time or money on you, it's really not worth sticking around. It may be hard, but the best thing that you can do for yourself is to get rid of him and move on to better ... (read in full...)
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