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Hey Everyone,
My names Myesha aka Myp, Chitza or LaLeila
i became an "Agony Aunt" on Dear Cupid because helping people is something that i love... it gives me great satisfaction to know that advice i might have given could help someone in need.
i currently reside in the bay area, caliornia... u s of a.[YEE!]
im single but i've got my eye on someone, and on top of that my first true love and i are still in love but not together due to bad timing, bad situations, and first time fuck ups lmao were still frends and have been through a lot. i love art, im a painter, sculptor, singer, dancer, designer, entrepreneur and future business mogul lol i love money, not so much for materialistic reasons but for the security of it.... ive been poor [not a good look]. im a compassionate individual but i speak it like i peek it... ill tell you like it is. im extremely self aware, independent and ambitous and i love to listen and be heard so if you want to talk hit me up!!!
Much love and happiness
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I lost my best friend because I started to date her ex-boyfriend, now I am so sad, and I think I want to break up with my boyfriend to regain her friendship, should I?
Q. my best friends and i have been friends for 2.5 years. we have done alot of things together and gone through alot. we even live under the same apartment. her very first love, i was the cupid who match made them. both of them lasted for about ...
A. 21 August 2008: okay im sorry i know that your in pain and you want your friend back but i dont know if shell ever forgive you, that was the one thing that would totally obliterate your friendship. if my bestfriend started dating my ex... not just my ex but my ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he does decide to settle with me that he'll stay faithful?
Q. Ok for a long while my cousin has tried to get me with her bf of two years' ((who I went to school with)) brother....and about a month and a half ago they introduced us. Turns out I went to school with the brother too. He had just dissappeared after ...
A. 10 August 2008: haha i agree with bluntasaspoon, i normally wouldnt say keep on keepin on, but shes right, sounds lke hes fallin for you. The key with boys like that is to let them think everything is their idea... dont pressure him, let him come to you. as for the ... (read in full...)
Why are horrible people happier?!
Q. at school there is this one girl who is centre of attention. shes pretty and popular. however, she is downright mean. the other day she thought it would be funny to spill a cup of hot chocolate into my desk that had some of my belongings. i knwo she ...
A. 9 August 2008: ooo girl.... theres a reason girls like that are popular and consistently happy (or appear to be), they dont care about others feelings or belongings. People like that dont have any respect, if i was in your position i'd be more than infuriated that ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about sex - I just feel so exposed!
Q. Hi there. I'm a virgin and am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 6 months, who isn't (and who's pretty experienced). I've watched a fair amount of pornography and read a lot about sex, so I'm pretty clued-up about it. But.. I'm really nervo...
A. 9 August 2008: i know exatly how you feel.. when i was a virgin it all jus seemed so intimate and vulnerable. totally opening yourself to someone else sounds terrifying. However pornography, i have to admit, is not an an accurate depiction of what happens between ... (read in full...)
Is she the right one for me?
Q. Hi all, I have a question to ask and desperately need some suggestions! I have been dating this girl for 6 years now, yes that long and we have decided to move to another country to improve our standards in life. All is getting better and bette...
A. 9 August 2008: rule#1 never marry someone youre not in love with....
everything else falls by the wayside
and there is a diference between loving somebody and being in love with somebody so evealuate your relationship and make that delineation
if ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that this girl is going to ruin my life, and there doesn't seem anything I can do to stop it! Please help.
Q. Hey all! Me and my girlfriend were going out for three months when i found out she was cheating on me. We talked it over and decided to stay together. We continued going out for another three months and then she dumped me for a different guy (not ...
A. 9 August 2008: a bit far.... youre kidding
shes friggin psychotic!!! get a restraining order immediately! if she keeps bothering you or your (potential)girlfriend file charges for harassment, and if it
continues file stalking charges.... so on and so forth ... (read in full...)
After several, awful relationships, I met and moved in with a very nice, caring, wealthy man, but he has changed, no sex drive, no romantic overtures, I am unhappy, but with four kids, I can't leave, what do I do, he tries to change but then reverts,
Q. I moved in with my partner last year and since living together, he has changed from someone who was romantic affectionate to someone who sleeps and has a low sex drive. My past relationships were awful, i was married for 13 years to a man who always ...
A. 3 August 2008: well compared to your past relationships hes friggin prince charming! however just in general hes probably the most boring partner ive heard about. if hes not bein what you need then id say leave him, but if you cant do that i suggest you take your ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, my boyfriend is abusive, I'm afraid and don't know what to do.
Q. well to put a long story short. i have been with my boyfriend since my 14th birthday and i was 15 in may, 17 months i have been in the relationship and for about 9 of it it has been terrible. i have wanted to end it but i cant cos he says if i do i ...
A. 6 October 2007: Nobody deserves what your being put through!, Never stay with a person who doesnt make you happy, especially one thats abusive. Hes beaten you and raped you, just the fact that your asking for help shows that you know in your heart that this isnt ... (read in full...)
But what does strawberry flavored lubricant mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I have trouble having sex. He can't fit inside me. Some of my friends tell me to use lubricant. At the drugstore, I saw a whole bunch of kinds. I bought a strawberry flavored one because it smells goo. But what does strawberry ...
A. 6 September 2007: im not going to tell you your too young to have sex because if u feel like ur ready than perhaps u r, however be careful and use condoms always, birthcontrol isnt enough.
strawberry flavored lubricant jus means the lubricant tastes like strawber... (read in full...)
Can I get on the pill even though I am only 15?
Q. I will be 16 in about 5 months. I dont want to wait to have sex with my boyfriend of almost a year until then but under no circumstances will i have sex without doubling up on contraception. So my question is, will the doctor give me a prescription ...
A. 26 August 2007: go to the local planned parenthood office, everything should be confidential and as long as youre over 12 they should give you everything u need... best of luck -Myesha... (read in full...)
His FRIEND asked me to the ball and it was HIM I wanted to go with...
Q. I really like a guy in my year at school, but sometimes I hate him so much! It all started at the begining of the year, I was new, and he seemed REALLY into me. All the signs pointed that he liked me, he was always talking to me and smiling and touc...
A. 16 August 2007: no it was perfect, it wasnt crap at all. :] dont be scared, it sounds as though hes just as nervous as you, so take a deep breath and relax. I truly wish u the best of luck, and ur absolutely welcome. :) let me kno how it goes -Myesha... (read in full...)
His FRIEND asked me to the ball and it was HIM I wanted to go with...
Q. I really like a guy in my year at school, but sometimes I hate him so much! It all started at the begining of the year, I was new, and he seemed REALLY into me. All the signs pointed that he liked me, he was always talking to me and smiling and touc...
A. 15 August 2007: he sounds confused, with you and himself, if ur leaving at the end of the year then u really have nothing to lose tell him how u feel and if he doesnt like you the same way then at least youll kno. If you cant ask why hes ignoring you then ask him ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and my bf asked me to move in with him. Is this a good idea?
Q. Im almost 16 my boyfriend is 17. We've been together quite a while now and both our familys seem to approve. However my boyfriend is having abit of problems at home and is soon getting his own flat. I have also been having a bit of trouble with my ...
A. 14 August 2007: My nother did this when she was 16 and stayed with the guy for 5 years, My english teacher did this also so its not unusual. Its up to you, if it feels right go for it, jus make sure if things dont work out u still have a place at home. I understand ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Anti-spam technology now live :-)
Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 14 August 2007: THANK U!! [HUGS]
ur awesome
-Myesha... (read in full...)
How long after you take drugs can you give blood?
Q. heyy its my birthday in a week, and now since they lowered the age to give blood my mom wants me to give. I'm all for it, but the problem is around june i smoked some weed, i'm wondering how long i have to wait before i can give blood? and what ...
A. 14 August 2007: marijuana usually leaves ur system within 30 days on average, double check though, u should b ok if june was the last time but i highly suggest visiting the site Penta linked u too best of luck -Myesha... (read in full...)
His FRIEND asked me to the ball and it was HIM I wanted to go with...
Q. I really like a guy in my year at school, but sometimes I hate him so much! It all started at the begining of the year, I was new, and he seemed REALLY into me. All the signs pointed that he liked me, he was always talking to me and smiling and touc...
A. 14 August 2007: i doubt he hates you, theres really no valid reason and that seems more than a bit extreme[eek]. Perhaps he was nervous, u wont kno until u ask... i kno that seems mortifying but if u ask in a confident charming way then u wont look or feel as ... (read in full...)
His FRIEND asked me to the ball and it was HIM I wanted to go with...
Q. I really like a guy in my year at school, but sometimes I hate him so much! It all started at the begining of the year, I was new, and he seemed REALLY into me. All the signs pointed that he liked me, he was always talking to me and smiling and touc...
A. 12 August 2007: Ask him what his problem is? maybe he thinks that since u danced with his friend for the ball that u like his friend more than him. U just need to communicate, if u like him tell him how u feel, it seems to me that everyone knows but him, and hes ... (read in full...)
I was hoping I could get some women's advice who have had a tummy tuck procedure?
Q. I got really fat and bad stretch marks and loose skin when I had my 1st baby. I am pregnant with my 2nd. I don't want any more children after this and my stomach is so gross, I was hoping I could get some women's advice who have had a tummy tuck ...
A. 11 August 2007: to be honest the only person who can give you really great professionally informative advice on a tummy tuck, is the surgeon performing the operation. However my mothers friend had a tummy tuck and it looked great.
best of luck
-Myesha... (read in full...)
What kind of game is this guy playing with me?
Q. I dont Understand him at all...A couple days ago he wanted me to sneak out of the house so I could spend the night with him...I didnt sneak out of the house because I wuz to afraid...SO today when I check my myspace friends I find out that he had ...
A. 10 August 2007: Why dont u do just that? Ask him why hes acting strange.
Sounds to me like he was tryna get u to sneak outta the house for a booty call and then decided that since u werent cooperating hed jus cut contact. But i dont kno the guy so i cant give you ... (read in full...)
What does the word 'freak' mean?
Q. what does a FREAK mean? I hear people used this term a lot at school, and saying it to people....
A. 10 August 2007: well the definition varies, however where i live (california) its used as a term to describe someone who is sexually adventurous or "kinky", or a person who is renowned for there sexual prowess.
best of luck
-Myesha... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 9 August 2007: somenes paying you to have sex, then horny guys watch. To the general populus thats legal prostitution. Plus, you become the object of fantasy which really pisses women off, cuz there husbands and boyfriends are imagining having sex with u, not with ... (read in full...)
Have i been broken in?
Q. Iv'e Had Sex...But I didnt Bleed...I Just Wanted To Know...Weather Or Not I Have Been 'broke in'...Thank You...
A. 9 August 2007: some girls hymens break before they ever have sex, for instance if you play a lot of sports or dance. Some girls bleed and its really painful others have no blood and it doesnt hurt at all, everyones different but if youve had intercourse then ur ... (read in full...)
Am I gay, straight, or just gender confused?
Q. Hi, I'm having a bit of a tough time. I feel attracted to guys physically and emotionally, but since I was 5 I've imagined dating girls. I was a bit of a tomboy and use to pretend to be a boy. Recently I've been attracted to one girl in particular. ...
A. 9 August 2007: u might jus be bi, if u like girls and guys
-Myesha... (read in full...)
We're both dating other people but still want each other; should we cheat on our partners?
Q. I have been knowing a boy for about 5 years. We used to like each other but then went different ways. He now has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. We still like each other so he asked me to cheat on my boyfriend with him. I don't know what to ...
A. 8 August 2007: if u want him more then ur bf then BREAK-UP with your bf, cheating is wrong and i dont encourage u to do it, but if u like him more then ur bf then like i said dump the bf.
-Myesha... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 8 August 2007: ive got one too, some lady from nigeria...they claim
thx for lettin us kno about the reoccurence
-Myesha... (read in full...)
There's an 8 year old boy next door to me and he's emotionally neglected and I hear screaming; what can I do to help him?
Q. i know this is not love or reletionship advice but i need to know what ppl think i have no where eles to turn. I need real help the boy next door well i know he is not treated right not hit bbut shout at alot and i never see him have hugs or kisses ...
A. 8 August 2007: yeah u could offer to babysit, jus being a part of his life will help with the neglect and abandonment issues. idk what they call it in the UK but here in the US we call it CPS or child protective services, if suspect abuse or neglect call ur equiv... (read in full...)
My friend gave me oral sex and I returned the favour; does this make me a lesbian?
Q. i'm not too sure whether i'm a lesbian or not because i slept around my friends house the other night. we had to sleep in the same bed as there wasn't anywhere else to sleep and we both slept naked. about an hour after we'd gone to bed, i got woken...
A. 8 August 2007: not necesarrily, u could be bi unless u jus dont care for guys at all
-Myesha... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 8 August 2007: good suff
-Myesha... (read in full...)
He knows that I hate porn... so when he came home with two videos on his mobile phone I hit the roof!
Q. Hi..... I have a little prblem.. It may seem silly to most but to me its a big deal.. I hate porn or any form relating to porn weather its a girl stripping or full sex I just hate it. My views on this is if a guy or a lassie has pron in thei...
A. 8 August 2007: ok wll he needs to respect your wishes and get over his macho trip. If u dont like it then you need to have a long talk about where u draw the lines in your relationship and whats acceptable to both of you. If he cant respect your request and jus ... (read in full...)
I'm furious about pornography!
Q. The statement that some women make that they have no problem with their man watching porn as they know he CHOOSES to be with them seems ridiculus to me...Dont these women realise that their man probbly has as much chance of being with a porn star as ...
A. 8 August 2007: ahhh tellulah and dr. pete said just about all of it. Ok first off, why do u care? if u dont want ur man watchin porn thats your business, your prerogative and your personal issue. I cant say i want my man to watch porn but in all honesty it doesnt ... (read in full...)
I'm too young to have sex, but my boyfriend wants to
Q. Hello I'm 15 Years Old 16 Soon And Am Scared Too Have Sex I Really Like This Boy But We Are Not Goiny Out We Have Done Everything Apart From Sex But I Think He Is Using Me Is There Any Advice You Could Give Me x...
A. 8 August 2007: ok first off yall aint even in a relationship and hes already tryin to get the goodies, BAD SIGN!!!!!
second if he really likes you he'll wait if you tell him youre not ready, sleeping with him wont make him like you, this is a hit it and quit it s... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex while pregnant?
Q. Hello everyone :) currently i am in my 2 week wait, and yes it is killing me. I have 6 more days to go to see if my period comes. My husband will be back from a business trip on friday, so we would want to have sex, would it be safe for the implated ...
A. 8 August 2007: usually u can have sex till ur in ur third trimester, however if u've had previous issues with pregnancy/miscarriage u should probably ask ur doctor.
best of luck,
if ur preg then CONGRATS!!
-Myesha... (read in full...)
My mom's friend's son stares at my chest, what should I say?
Q. My mom's friend has a son. He is 3 years older than me. I see him a lot. Whenever I'm around him, I feel uncomfortable. He always stares at my chest. Should I say something to him? If so, what should I say?...
A. 8 August 2007: If you want to say something then just be really forward, it usually scares them off. Just say what's on your mind..."Do you HAVE to stare at my chest/boobs/tits all the time? My face is north of that region..." or "Why do you keep staring at my ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex before I'm married?
Q. Okay I need help from all the other Christians!! I have a problem and it is really worrying me. I am a Christian and I really want to wait until I am married to have sex, but, I am worried that I will be tempted. And I want to do the right thing by ...
A. 6 August 2007: its up to you, i personally think it has more to do with love then it does with marriage because in my mind love is basically an emotional marriage. I understand ur predicament though, religion or "temptation" so to speak. I would be worried ... (read in full...)
Could I be a lesbian?
Q. me and my bestfriend were having a sleep over at her house the other night. she is bisexual, and i have been confused on if im straight, or if im lesbian. ok so we were sleeping on her bed. and we ended up talking about experimenting. s...
A. 6 August 2007: sounds like your bi to me, just because u like lesbian sex doesnt mean u cant enjoy traditional man-woman intercourse, u dont have to choose between straight and lesbian. best of luck, message me if u wanna talk :] -Myesha... (read in full...)
I get jealous when the girl I like flirts with other guys
Q. I get jealous of someone I'm not even going out with. There is this girl that I like, who I've flirted with regularly for a few months, and there was a chance of a relationship one time. Now it's kind've filtered off, but I still like her, and ej...
A. 31 July 2007: you're normal, jus jealous cuz u like her... ask her out!
-Myesha... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin at 18 because i want to wait for the right person, is this a silly idea?
Q. Hi, I'm a virgin at 18, because I'm waiting for the right person to have my first time with. Do you think this is a silly thing to do, and that I should have done it differently? I've had the opportunity to, but would rather have it with another ...
A. 31 July 2007: no its not silly at all, waiting for the right person is great. they dont necessarily have to be someone ur going to marry, but they should definitely be someone u have some kind of emotional connection with. Matter of fact i hope u lose it before u ... (read in full...)
I feel desperately lonely
Q. At the age of 17 i feel desperatly lonely in life. as a male i feel this is a odd trend. what can i do to erradicate this feeling......
A. 31 July 2007: call up a friend and go to the movies, go loiter, or play video games or read the dictionary, if ur lonely ask that girl (or boy) u like out, or call up ur friends and go do something, the only way to get rid of the lonely feeling is not to be ... (read in full...)
We have had sex five times and she still has not had an orgasm.
Q. Hi, im 15, and have had sex with my girfriend 5 times. And so far, i have not been able to get her to have an orgasam. I think this is because i cum first. I am getting very frustrated, And it feels like i am letting her down. How can I "last ...
A. 31 July 2007: quite frankly its easier for a girl to have an orgasm when shes masturbating by herself bcuz she knows what she likes, that has nothing to do with you being a good partner or not. But the other two are right foreplay prepares her for u and gets her ... (read in full...)
I masturbate and search up porn. I really want to stop.
Q. Hi guys. I know that what I am going to say is kind of not right because I am only 12, but as part of puberty we all get sexual feelings. And so do I. I have dreams about having sex, I masturbate and search up porn. I really want to stop. I really ...
A. 31 July 2007: theres nothing wrong with that its completely normal and natural, most girls start masturbating around your age or even earlier. However be careful with the porn u can get computer viruses...
best of luck
-Myesha... (read in full...)
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