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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 30 May 2007: Wait a minute, this is rich. Let me see if I understand this: your boyfriend has been acting up? Your boyfriend? Good way to get the attention off of yourself. You're just as guilty, if not more, than he is. He's not a toy to be played with. You ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married?
Q. Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married? I'm not with anyone at the moment, and I know that I need to get a better job and a house, but the feeling has been overwhelming me lately, and I don't know if I'm wrong ...
A. 29 May 2007: I would move on searching. Having a baby is everything to me. Part of being with someone's partner is knowing that a future exists with them, whether close, or a long distance away. I'm with a woman that never wants a baby, I couldn't in my right ... (read in full...)
When I masturbate it's absolute agony, can any of the agony uncles help here?
Q. Hi guys. I have an embarrassing question coming up and i'm hoping some of the guys may be able to help me out. A little while ago, I wasn't able to pull my foreskin over the head of my penis while erect, then after research I found out that s...
A. 28 May 2007: I don't have a foreskin, but, I do wonder why you feel it necessare to pull the skin up? Just be gentle with your privates, and experiment touching yourself from the bottom of the shaft to the top. You'll be ok.
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I'm confused, am I bi?
Q. I think im bisexual. How can I tell, I really fancy fit boys but I find girls really atractive. Im quite an art person and enjoy drawing naked people men and women.So am I bi? ...
A. 28 May 2007: It sounds like you're bi or bi-curious.
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Why did he tell the person on his phone he was out with his mates when he was in with me?
Q. Im gay and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. Last night on the phone he told whoever rang him he was out with work mates and not me. He told me it was his mate who was out bowling. Now I'm wondering why he said that and ...
A. 28 May 2007: That's a guy sign for: "he's cheating on you".
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I have never had sex but masturbate a lot, will this make me loose?
Q. im a young girl with a really high sex drive. i can get horny anywhere, and everywhere. suprisingly i haven't had sex!! this is because me and my boyfriend want to have a white wedding. i have been masterbating a lot (with one finger), will this ...
A. 28 May 2007: It will if you've been using a dildo.
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How do I get rid of this hair around my belly button?
Q. I have a hairy belly and I'm a girl. it's not extremely hairy, it's like every other girl, but because I'm Asian and have black hair you can see the hair. It looks really terrible. I love wearing short tops that show my belly but I can't because ...
A. 28 May 2007: I'm a guy, but I figure, since we both have belly buttons, I can help. I shave mine using gel. Just do it gently.
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We both have problems with the age difference but we can't seem to stay away from each other.
Q. Dear Cupid I am involoved with a 22 year old male, we 'gel' I am 45 He feels that it is morally wrong, while I think that at some point he will decide that I am to old for him.- we both have issues around our age, him in particular as he lives wi...
A. 28 May 2007: If you two like each other, who cares about the age? You are two legal, consenting adults. He's over the age of 21, which means that he's more adult than young adult. If you keep finding each other, than you love each other, and love always wins ... (read in full...)
He's married and getting really serious about me, where do you see this going?
Q. i met a guy online i knew was married, all we used to do is chat now i have been to see him twice and we went too far now he wants me to meet him again. I was on holiday abroad recently and he was on the phone at least 3 times a day. i have seen ...
A. 28 May 2007: Until he is divorced, you should do nothing. It's not your right to destroy a family. He's got a wife and kids, and if you don't like his wife, at least respect her and her kids.
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What's the best way to tell my boyfriend I don't want to be with him anymore?
Q. me and my boyfriend used to date a couple of years back and we have just recently got back together and he has changed too much, it was fine for the first two weeks of us getting together but now its all changed he always wants sex and i dont enjoy ...
A. 28 May 2007: Tell him outright. Do it in a nice way. The longer you wait, the more hurt he is going to be.
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He said it's his work that's stopping him from seeing me so much but now he won't let me come round to his house. What's going on?
Q. Dear Cupid, me and my bf have been going out for two years, one year after we started dating he got promoted to the post of manager. since then he's just changed he doesn't come to see me anymore, and he just keeps making excuses ...
A. 28 May 2007: It sounds like he's had a change of heart. Don't invest any more feelings into him. You'll be fine, but it's time to move on to someone better.
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I love him more than my boyfriend but he's married but only for a visa, what do I do?
Q. i have been going out with a guy for about a year and a half now, suddenly an old friend of mine and i get back in contact but it turns out he is married and we fell in love with each other knowing we always had a special feeling from before.he told ...
A. 28 May 2007: If it was a marraige based only on a visa, tell his wife about it. She should have no problem with it. She's probably dating herself.
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I don't feel comfortable having sex with my boyfriend because I'm so thin.
Q. Hi, I am 27 and weigh about 40. I am very thin but healthy but I dont feel comfortable when me and my boyfriend have sex.He says he enjoy himself but I cant stop thinking that he is lying. He just dont wanna hurt my feelings....
A. 28 May 2007: If he said he enjoyed it, he did. Guys aren't like girls, where they lie about the experience. Guys I know have told girls outright that they were horrible in bed. It's good for a young girl to be healthy, but thin. If you don't feel comfortable ... (read in full...)
How do you pick yourself up after the rejection of being left for another woman?
Q. How do you pick yourself up after the rejection of being left for another woman when you actually havent done anything wrong but because the other woman is having his baby? Why do i feel like it was all my fault and i should have been a better ...
A. 28 May 2007: It has nothing to do with you. He was unfaithful, and a baby came out of it. You're not worthless, and you'll find someone new. Wake up tomorrow and wait for better things.
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How do you ask your boyfriend to use viagra or some other drug, without humiliating him?
Q. How do you ask your boyfriend to use viagra or some other drug, without humiliating him? My bf is the nicest, sweetest guy but his erection is not that hard, it just kinda flops back against his abdomen instead of 'standing to attention' (for want ...
A. 28 May 2007: If you love him, and he loves you, he'll do anything to satisfy you. Voice your concerns. The longer you go without telling him, the more hurt and embarrassed he's going to be. Relationships are all about communication.
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I don't know if I want to be with my husband any more, we're both moving in different directions.
Q. im a lil frustraded and i need help.ok me and my husband have been together since i was 16{now im 20} and hes the only man that ive ever trusted, hes my high school sweet heart my first and only love. We split up for about a year cause he joined ...
A. 28 May 2007: It sounds like you never were sure about marrying him in the first place. You need to let him know that your feelings have changed, and that you want a divorce. The longer you wait, the more hurt you're going to do to him.
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I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. Just to recap on my earlier questions: I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do? He still wants to be friends...should I or shouldn't I? From these questions i have received many hel...
A. 28 May 2007: If he left you, he doesn't respect you. Move on with your life.
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Do men ever look at college or high school girls in a sexual way?
Q. I'm wondering about something that only a man can answer, or maybe a really knowledgeable woman. I'm wondering what it's like for married men or even just older men to look at high school and college girls. Assuming these girls are attractive and ...
A. 28 May 2007: Guys still are allowed to look. A happily married couple can still look and be attracted to the opposite sex. Guys definitely notice younger women in a sexual way. When a man is married, he may look, but isn't supposed to give it a second thought, ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with me or not?
Q. I'm pretty thick when it comes to deciphering if someone is flirting with me or not, so I'm asking for help here! There's this guy I know, and him pursuing a relationship with me would be a little ridiculous due to the circumstances we're both ...
A. 28 May 2007: He was flirting.
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Cheating on my bulimic depressed wife! I want to move on but I miss my children! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I am stuck. I have a bulimic, depressed wife of 13 years and 4 kids under 12. I have wanted to leave her badly as I have become so frustrated over the years, but the kids and her need me. Now I have slipped into another relationship with a ...
A. 28 May 2007: Being married means for richer, for poorer, for good times, and for bad. If you're wife isn't happy, maybe you may be the cause. Girls generally can figure out what's going on without you telling them. You should divorce her if you're both that ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 28 May 2007: It seems like you're willing to hurt a whole lot of people. You're willing for him to lose his wife, his kids, and possibly everything, just to be with you? That's extremely selfish. That's not even mentioning that fact that you're willing to ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on him but he's scared of getting hurt!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have this crush on a boy in my class. I think he likes me too, because he stares at me, talks about me alot, etc., but the problem is, a year ago he broke up with this girl who was using him, and they had sex, which i guess was all ...
A. 28 May 2007: Be there for him, and become his best friend. Once you've earned his trust, take it slowly. Have a talk with him after some time has passed, and tell him that you want him as a partner, one who will stick around in your life. If you both want the ... (read in full...)
I masturbate, thinking about... myself!
Q. Do you think it's weird to masterbate thinking about yourself? I can have an orgasm when I think about myself wearing sexy clothing - my boyfriend can't believe I'm not thinking about having sex when I masterbate - does anyone else think of other ...
A. 28 May 2007: Sure, I think of being on stage playing music. I've also thought about myself at my best. It's not that you're attracted to yourself, but to the potential best that you can reach, and it brings out competive instinct, which can turn into sexual ... (read in full...)
We're getting married, BUT he's on kinky sex dating sites and doesn't want me for sex!
Q. my boyfriend is wonderful but when I starded my relation with him i found that he was inside of a lot of kinky sex datings sites (he said it was part of his past)suddenly he has some strange behavoir (i am sure he doesnt have time for see anybody ...
A. 28 May 2007: Part of being married to someone is satisfying their needs. Do not get locked into a marraige where you can never be wholly satisfied!! :)
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Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married?
Q. Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married? I'm not with anyone at the moment, and I know that I need to get a better job and a house, but the feeling has been overwhelming me lately, and I don't know if I'm wrong ...
A. 28 May 2007: India, I'm actually a guy looking for a girl... I'm trying to get back in school, so I can get paid better money to do what I like. I really want to find that special girl to fall in love with. I want a baby so bad that I'm aching inside, because ... (read in full...)
I recently had an affair but now he's dumped me and I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. I recently had an affair. It was very intense and I thought we both loved each other deeply. I was preparing to leave my partner for him and them abruptly he finished it, claiming he couldn't destroy my family. He wanted to remain friends ...
A. 28 May 2007: He's probably hurt. I understand that you're hurting, but he is still the person you thought that he was. He had the right to say that to you. You broke his trust and disrespected him in one of the most hurtful ways. The truth is that you're ... (read in full...)
is there a way your boyfriend touches you that helps you know how he deeply feels
Q. This may seem like a strange question .. is there a way your boyfriend touches you that helps you know how he deeply feels ? for example, he might touch your face a lot or he likes to put his hand on your leg, does different way of touching or place...
A. 28 May 2007: If he brushes his hand across your face, or through your hair, that's special...
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I am 18 and very attracted to a 36 year old man who I know is interested in me as well... is it crazy?
Q. I am 18 and very attracted to a 36 year old man who I know is interested in me as well... is it crazy? ...
A. 28 May 2007: You have to know what you're gettnig yourself into. He's an older man, and therefore in a different mental mindstate. You're young, and want to go out and party and he probably wants to get married, settle down, have kids, and stay in...
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My girlfriends are so bitchy to me because I have always liked football!
Q. Sorry for the length! I'm a girl and I love football and I've always been into it since I was little. Obviously this always made me popular with the guys and I've got loads of mates who are guys, who I really get on well with. I've had no problems ...
A. 28 May 2007: Don't even bother with them. They're making fun of you because they're jealous that they're not getting any attention from the right sex. Tell them to quit wasting their time with you and start worrying about getting attention from guys, or trying ... (read in full...)
Do we have a chance at getting back together? I really thought he was the love of my life and I don't want to let go.
Q. I can send you the whole story if it will help to give better advice. This past week my bf of 2 1/2 years broke up w/ me. He said he was bored although I had no indication anything was wrong. I was never given any info about how he was feeling and ...
A. 28 May 2007: I agree. If he was bored, and it took you that long to pick up on it, you shouldn't be suprised. When you have a partner, you need to be in constant communication with their feelings. If he was really like your best friend, you would have taken the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him but I would NEVER do that! I'm at the end of my tether with this, what can I do to prove I'm not?
Q. I am a 24 year old girl who is having trouble with my on off boyfriend i love him loads but he keeps breaking up with me because he thinks i am cheating on him i have never cheated and never would but he just doesnt believe a word i say, how can i ...
A. 28 May 2007: I agree with Jamer... If he doesn't trust you, it's pointless. At the same time, Eve's right about you taking the guy's number. That wasn't necessarily the smartest move. You shouldn't be taking guys' numbers when you're in a relationship. That's ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but just lately I've been having lesbian tendancies... I'm so confused.
Q. Im straight and have a boyfriend but lately i have beeen thinking about being a lesbian i look at pictures of naked women and feel the need to masturbate. after i have masturbated i feel dirty but i still like boys :S im confused please help tara x...
A. 28 May 2007: It seems like your hormones are starting to kick in. You're at a normal age for curiousity. You may be bi-curious, bi, or just in hormonal overdrive...
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I recently had an affair but now he's dumped me and I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. I recently had an affair. It was very intense and I thought we both loved each other deeply. I was preparing to leave my partner for him and them abruptly he finished it, claiming he couldn't destroy my family. He wanted to remain friends ...
A. 28 May 2007: When you love someone, sometimes it's better to let them go. He probably realized that.
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Why did he kiss me for so long when I know he doesn't like me in that way?
Q. Recently I had a passionate kiss with my best friend that lasted hours. My friend kept pulling him away because she was drunk and stuff, but he kept coming back to me. But I know he doesn't like me in that way...so why would he kiss me for so ...
A. 28 May 2007: They say when people get drunk, their ability to control what they feel inside gets lost. Maybe he does like you, or maybe he thought that you were someone else. The only way to find out is to talk to your friend about it. If you can fall in love ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant but don't know if I want this baby... I'm not ready to have kids yet.
Q. Hey, so im 6 month pregnant and getting a ban on my ex for abusing me, i feel real bad as if IM in the wrong for him abusing me? but as many people said he was putting my baby in danger, im thinking about letting him come to the next scan with me ...
A. 28 May 2007: I think that you should have the baby and put it up for adoption, to a family that's ready to take care of it. Your ex should NOT be present, or have a say at all as far as you and/or the baby are concerned.
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Has he got this sort of body language wrong and the bloke is just being friendly.
Q. I asked my husband the other day that if a woman he knew winked at him what would he think and he said 'I would think she wants to know me more, she fancies me'. I asked him what he thought if a bloke winked at me and he said 'I would worry'. He ...
A. 28 May 2007: Unless he makes a move, don't even worry about it. Let it roll off your back, unless he takes some sort of innappropriate action.
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Why do I never feel like having sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and things are great but i never feel like having sex... other sexual acts are ok... but wen it comes to sex i never really feel like it. its not that hes bad in bed coz he's really good but i just never ...
A. 28 May 2007: My girl friends told me that this is common among a lot of women. Women don't generally have a high sex drive. Always remember, just because you're not in the mood, doesn't meant that mood can change. Are you attracted to your boyfriend? That could ... (read in full...)
I can't just stop liking him. He's so perfect... one in a million. What do you think I should do?!?
Q. Ummm well my sister has this friend Ray. And I really like him. Majorly. Everything he does is completely awesome. But he is probably the least liked guy at my school, simply because of the way he dresses. He doesn't really care about that and ...
A. 28 May 2007: I think that you should get to know him now. You don't have to see him every day to be in a relationship with each other. A little space is good, plus you won't be giving a chance for success if things don't work out.
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What are the signs of falling out of love with someone?
Q. HI i am in a bit of a dilema. My husband and i have been married for 2 yrs and 3mths, but we've known each other for 4yrs. I am not happy any more. My husband and I want different things in life! I am 23 and he is 32 he wants kids, and i dont (not ...
A. 28 May 2007: You two are complete opposites. It's definitely an age difference issue. It's not always the case, but he's already matured in a way that you haven't yet. You're young, which is why you want to do all of the things that he doesn't. You two should ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is trying to steal my bloke! I don't want to fall out with her so what do I do?
Q. Hi! I really need some help with this, so I'm going to do my best to keep everything straight so you don't get confused...lol Ok, so I have this best friend, we've been friends since preschool, and we're both now 27. I'll just call her J. Ok, ...
A. 27 May 2007: Don't bother with her. She's NOT your friend. She's not worth the time of talking to. What she's done in the past is unforgivable.
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My girlfriend is trying to steal my bloke! I don't want to fall out with her so what do I do?
Q. Hi! I really need some help with this, so I'm going to do my best to keep everything straight so you don't get confused...lol Ok, so I have this best friend, we've been friends since preschool, and we're both now 27. I'll just call her J. Ok, ...
A. 27 May 2007: There should be no; "I'm not sure." She had sex with your ex-boyfriend? You don't need anything else to go on. She's NOT your friend. Period.
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How do I tell my husband I KNOW he's been cheating on me?
Q. I have just found out my husband is cheating on me. I have computer eveidence so I am sure. I hurt so much. How do i tell him i know the truth?...
A. 27 May 2007: Tell him that you're busy, and that you can't pick him up. When he gets home, have the pictures in a place that he's going to see them.
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What tips can you give me about making sex better for my boyfriend and I?
Q. Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly six months and we have started to try and have sex. I can make him come by blow jobs but so far he has only given me handjobs. These used to be very intense for me but recently I just haven't got ...
A. 27 May 2007: You two have to satisfy each other. Try different modes of foreplay. If he's moving in a way that hurts, or doesn't feel right, you need to lead him.
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My girlfriend is trying to steal my bloke! I don't want to fall out with her so what do I do?
Q. Hi! I really need some help with this, so I'm going to do my best to keep everything straight so you don't get confused...lol Ok, so I have this best friend, we've been friends since preschool, and we're both now 27. I'll just call her J. Ok, ...
A. 27 May 2007: She's jealous of you, and you need to get her out of your life. If she's willing to hurt you to get what she wants, she's not your friend.
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How do I tell my husband I KNOW he's been cheating on me?
Q. I have just found out my husband is cheating on me. I have computer eveidence so I am sure. I hurt so much. How do i tell him i know the truth?...
A. 27 May 2007: Print out the evidence, and when he comes in, calmly put it in front of him and walk out. Pack your bags, and move on to a better future.
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