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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 5 June 2007: It seems like he's got your best interests at heart. You're not ready to be with him, as you've got issues. He's doing the right thing-letting you go. When you REALLY love someone, you know what's best for them, and you know when they need space to ... (read in full...)
How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 29 May 2007: I have a feeling that he'll be getting in touch with you. Wait for him for a few months, and if you don't hear anything, move on. I don't think that you'll need to worry about it. When he gets into contact with you, ask him to listen for a little ... (read in full...)
I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother.
Q. I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother. I have known him since elementry school and even back then I really liked him, He is a freshman like me so at first when I became friends with his little sister it was kinda awkward ...
A. 29 May 2007: There's only one way to find out, and that's to pull him aside and ask him.
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Should I throw a party for him as a surprise for his birthday?
Q. my boyfriends birthday is coming soon, and i want to make it special because his last two birthdays have not been so great! im thinking along the lines of a surprise. should i throw the party at his place? he has two roommates, who love throwing ...
A. 29 May 2007: Beware of letting guys help plan parties. They don't always know when to draw the line, and may try to get him a stripper. I would go it alone. If you can, sneak a peek at his phone(in this case, it's ok), and call everyone on it, and tell them ... (read in full...)
How would someone get into there 30's and still be single and never married?
Q. How would someone get into there 30's and still be single and never married? why would they have a lot of (short term) failed relationships? is it just bad luck or is there something wrong with them?...
A. 29 May 2007: The rate of divorce is at an all-time high. A lot of people are trying to avoid it by not getting married at all. Another problem going on is the popularity of sex buddies, and dating around, which has instilled a fear of commitment into people.
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How do I stop myself being jealous about his ex's??
Q. How do I get over my bf's past? I am 23 and he is 34 and has had a lot of girlfriends. We have been together for nearly 5 years we live together and have a young baby when i met him i knew he had a past- we met through a friend of mine who was...
A. 29 May 2007: If he's had a baby with you, and made an effort to stop being neglectful, than he loves you. Don't punish him for his past. He's trying to change, and not a lot of people that you will meet will even try to do that.
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Her guilt is eating me alive but I DON'T want to get back with her.
Q. Hello! I asked a question a while back: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-22-lesbian-and-in-a-relationship-with.html Anyway. Here's a followup, and a new problem. I managed to leave my girlfriend, but now she won't stop calling me and sending m...
A. 29 May 2007: Sometimes, you just need to stand your ground. Eventually, the phone calls will stop. If she's the one that cheated, you have no reason to feel guilty. Good job.
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The wrong boy likes me!
Q. hi i am 14 and i like this boy in my class but one of his close mates likes me and i dont know what to do should i tell him how i feel or just ignore the boy who like me?...
A. 29 May 2007: If you're not interested in someone, ignore them, unless they address you about it. If he asks you about it, be kind, and be honest, and tell him that you're not interested.
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I'm been with my boyfriend for almost 3 months now and want to initiate foreplay. Any tips?
Q. dear cupid !! i have been with my boyfriend for 3 months nearly now and the sexual tension between us gets reeally high . However, we have not done any foreplay or anything and i do not know how to start it and wandered if you have any ideas xx...
A. 29 May 2007: First, understand what foreplay means. Foreplay is the first part of sex. If you're ready for that, just go for it. Make sure you communicate with him during. If he doesn't know how far you want to go, or know your boundaries, and he goes too far, ... (read in full...)
Too shy..too scared of rejection! So how can I make a move on him?
Q. i am quite a shy person... when guys i am attracted to talk to me i usually freeze up and make a total and utter fool of myself. But on the same hand, i have never had any problem taking to "guy friends"... it's odd. Maybe it's just the idea of ...
A. 29 May 2007: Since he's a guy, you really don't have much to get stressed about. Guys are really easy to approach. If he's smiling at you, then you can tell right off the bat that he would listen when you introduced yourself. Go up and say that you've seen him ... (read in full...)
She doesn't really like me so why can't I just get over her?
Q. Well for a starter im 13 and i like this girl and i keep putting myself down i have never really asked her out but my friends did behind my back but she says like eww or she will tell me later i know she will never date me but i cant get over her i ...
A. 29 May 2007: Don't waste any more time on her. There is a girl out there for you. I know that you're disappointed, but you'll be better in time.
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Confused over two guys! One I have feelings with-one I can have a future with..which one is best?
Q. ok so I'm dating this guy who was dating someone else at the time he figured out I liked him. About a month later he leaves his girlfriend and on the same day asks me out... saying he didn't think he would have asked so soon but... anyway he hugs ...
A. 29 May 2007: Slow down, you're going to be ok. It sounds like he's someone who just needs a lot of attention. You're going to be ok, I promise. Leave him be for a while, and don't let all of his drama get you down. Try going on a simple date with your teammate, ... (read in full...)
Dilemma about telling a good buddy.. he's dating his old gf!
Q. I was with a guy on and off for three years, it was always ending because he was very jealous and controlling. It ended for good three months ago, partly because he was no longer interested in having a relationship with me because of our up and down ...
A. 29 May 2007: There's that whole friends rule. If he breaks it off, they're no longer friends, and it's ok to date him.
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Hate his promiscuous past! How do I move on from this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I find myself having a hard time accepting his permiscuous past. I find it hard to forget somethings he has told me about his past with other guys. Is this normal? Is this a sign that it wont work? How do ...
A. 29 May 2007: If he loves you, and wants a future with YOU, then don't worry about it. Why make him suffer for what's in the past? As long as he didn't hurt anyone or commit a crime, it shouldn't be treated like a stigma.
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Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when you're with someone else?
Q. Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when are you in a relationship with someone else?...
A. 29 May 2007: As long as you're not:
1) Having sex with them
2) Flirting to make them think that you want to have sex with them
3) Making out with them
4) Giving your number to them
5) Going on dates with them
As long as none of that is going on, don't w... (read in full...)
Should I call him or just leave it?
Q. I was talking to this guy for a while like for 6 months.I started to have feelings towards him.Then he started talking to my friends which got me mad.He also started to give me mixed signals which even got me more mad.He would call me at 2:30 am ...
A. 29 May 2007: Let him come to you. If he doesn't, keep your chin up, you'll be ok.
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Should I tell her we shouldn't be friends any more?
Q. ok heres the thing , i felt like ive always been bi but didnt realize there was a definition to my sexuality until the age of 13 i think, im 17 never had a boy/girlfriend, mi best friend is a girl and i dont know how to explain it but... i get these ...
A. 29 May 2007: It sounds like you don't love her like a sister, but like a crush. You can either deal with your feelings and maintain the friendship, or you can cut her out of your life. Those are your only choices.
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How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 29 May 2007: It seems like he just needs space for a while, and if you love him, you'll respect that. That doesn't mean go and date/sleep with someone else. If you love him wholeheartedly, you will wait for him, unless he says otherwise.
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Any ideas on what to do for my boyfriend's birthday? I would like to do something very unique.
Q. I need some ideas to make my boyfriends birthday special. He's gonna be 17. I want to do something unique, not just a take him out to eat at a nice restaurant kind of thing. Any ideas? I would like ideas for just me and him, or things I could do ...
A. 29 May 2007: Ask his friends and family what his hobbies are. Look for something that he really likes to do. For example, if he wrestling, get him tickets to next year's Wrestlemania... You get the idea. Just prove to him that you listen. The best gift that you ... (read in full...)
My husband says he is burnt out in our marriage...
Q. I need some help with my marriage..To give you an idea of my relationship: Hubby is 37 I am 32..we have 2 girls 4, 9. We have been together for 11 years...married for 6. My husband recently told me he is burnt out on our marriage..the rest of ...
A. 29 May 2007: If you stay in the same house as him, yes, you are. Get a divorce immediately, and start looking for a place of your own. If you can, ask him to help fund your new place out of respect to the way it ended. Next, start looking for a new partner, ... (read in full...)
My wife says she loves me like a brother and it's tearing me apart.
Q. What is wrong with my wife? I love my wife very much. I love her as a person and adore her physically. I am very warm and affectionate to her. However, I do not feel that physical bond towards me. She says she loves me but so does more so like a b...
A. 29 May 2007: When you aren't getting satisfied by your partner, the best thing to do is part ways. I think that it's time for you two to get a divorce so that you can find someone who's willing to give you what you need.
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I asked her out and she said she'd tell me the next day. It this her way of politely saying no?
Q. i asked out this girl i really like to go catch a movie with me. she asked me questions about when i wanna go, and if we're goin alone etc. she said she'll tell me the next day coz she might be busy. i cant help think that's a excuse or nice ...
A. 29 May 2007: Don't ask her about it. If she doesn't mention it tomorrow, she's not interested.
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I discovered that my mother masturbates, what should I do?
Q. i discovered that my mother masturbates herself , what should i do?...
A. 29 May 2007: Don't worry about it.
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Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married?
Q. Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married? I'm not with anyone at the moment, and I know that I need to get a better job and a house, but the feeling has been overwhelming me lately, and I don't know if I'm wrong ...
A. 29 May 2007: I would move on searching. Having a baby is everything to me. Part of being with someone's partner is knowing that a future exists with them, whether close, or a long distance away. I'm with a woman that never wants a baby, I couldn't in my right ... (read in full...)
I've never had a boy like me so I don't know the signs, do you think he likes me?
Q. well there is this guy that i really admire!! he is really nice and funny and good looking. there is a local club that we go to. me and a few friends go in and have a chat and chill out. this guy is always in the club and he always sits alone. he ...
A. 29 May 2007: It sounds like he has a crush on you. If he's fishing for compliments, he's probably trying to figure out if you find him attractive.
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This is meant to be a "no strings" relationship but I think he's falling for me.
Q. I have this no strings attached sexual relationship with this guy for over a year. He's the one who said he wasn't ready for a committed relationship, and now we see each other very infrequently, and have sex at his place. I started to fall for him ...
A. 29 May 2007: It sounds like you're both falling for each other. If he's falling for you, and you're falling for him, maybe it's time for a change of pace.
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Is he really that upset with me?
Q. Right, basically I was with this guy for 3 months, and we were friends for about a year and a half before. He sent me a drunken email, saying how he liked me and we started to go out. He never used to push me into anything, but started to get a ...
A. 29 May 2007: You should stop wasting any kind of emotion on him, and make yourself happy with someone else, or through some other means.
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Can you love someone as a friend?
Q. can you love someone as a friend???...
A. 29 May 2007: Yes, you can. There are different types and levels of love.
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My wife and I want to try out some new ways which are exciting but extremely pleasureable sex wise, any ideas?
Q. me and my wife have been married for 7yrs this summer and been going out together since we were 16. We have always had a really good sex life and still at the age of 33 we still have sex between 3-5 times a week even though we have 2 kids. One is 17 ...
A. 28 May 2007: They make self-help sex videos for couples in need of new ideas...
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General Flirting or Interested?
Q. General Flirting or Interested? I am confused about a work colleague who is showing classic flirting signals which I am very flattered about as I am attracted to him. However, he is quite a flirty person in general so am I reading too much...
A. 28 May 2007: Yes. Ask him.
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My boyfriend never gets any "strange" phone calls, should I be worried?
Q. my b/f doesnt get any strange phone calls. Usually if his phone rings, i can tell who he is talking to. And he doesnt keep any girls names in his phone either. Should i possibly believe he is forwarding some calls to another number? He rarel...
A. 28 May 2007: You should stop overthinking things. You have a faithful boyfriend, and shouldn't be doubting things like this. It sounds like you're looking for a reason to break up with him.
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He said he really liked me so why is he sitting on the fence?
Q. Im so torn at what to do...An old flame and i have begun talking and him and his g.f have recently broke up...When he was with her he was tellin me he always wanted me and he loves me n such. Now hes saying hes too scared to get involved with me cuz ...
A. 28 May 2007: You have to stop being selfish. The man just had his heart stomped in, and he's not ready. Give him time to heal. If he confessed his love to you, and asked you to wait, what more could you possibly want? It may take months. If you REALLY love him, ... (read in full...)
He's told me he isn't looking for just sex but he isn't looking for a relationship either, where do I go from here?
Q. I like a guy who i work with and he has told me he likes me back i leave the job in August as i am a temp so i dont have to worry about working with him. I spent the friday just gone at his new house just talking for hours and kissing and just ...
A. 28 May 2007: You can't go anywhere with it. He's a dead end, and you deserve better.
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He said ASKING him to make love to me is a turn off...
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. When I want to make love, I usually tell him in words. He tells me now that this is a turn off for him and that I should just start kissing him or something but the whole reason I don't do that is because ...
A. 28 May 2007: If you have to ask him to make love to you, he's losing attraction. When he says to just do things, yet rejects you, he's proving that he's not attracted to you anymore. You're not getting what you need, and it's time for you to look elsewhere.
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The guy I cared about is now married to someone else...
Q. The guy I cared about is now married to someone else, I knew that I was never going to marry him. I am linked to him on a professional basis and only contact him when absolutely necessary and that's by e-mail. The first time we saw each other face ...
A. 28 May 2007: He's probably trying to make you feel guilty for not wanting to marry him. All you can do is move on, and hope that one day, you're ready to commit yourself to someone.
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How can I get my wife to feel more sexually attracted to me?
Q. my wife has told me she does not feel sexualy attracted to me anymore how can we get over this?...
A. 28 May 2007: You can divorce her. That's pretty much your only option, because you can't live with a person who can't satisfy you anymore.
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Should the man have more rights than a woman in a relationship?
Q. is it fair when a guy gives him self more rights than a girl as to be more controlling or to give him self the privlige to do things that he would not allow his girlfriend to do?...
A. 28 May 2007: No, it's not fair.
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What can I do to ask my crush out? Should I take the initiative here or what?
Q. Ok my crush knows I like him and I think he hates me, my friends say he dosent but I dont know what to do. should i forget about him or see if he asks me out or whatever? ...
A. 28 May 2007: The only way you're going to find out the truth is to ask him. If you like him, pull him aside and talk to him. The worst that you can do is say no.
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How can I make my girlfriend feel more confident about herself?
Q. me and my gf have been together for a year and 2months now. We have known each other all our lives and have always been close friends. We started having sex about 7 months now but when we do she will never take her bra off, sometimes she doesnt like ...
A. 28 May 2007: Tell her that you think that she's beautiful, and that you're proud to show her off to everyone...
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Do you think his "me time" is excessive or am I being paranoid here?
Q. hi, well, I am new to this but need to ask all of you out there whether I am going mad. I am happily married with 2 small kids and love the majority of my life. However, my husband has stated that he "needs" to go out at least 3 - 4 evenings a week ...
A. 28 May 2007: If he's going to Ibiza without you, there is a major problem. If you don't already know this, it's an entire island whose sole income revolves around parties. He should be taking you with him. Get a baby sitter and go out with him... Otherwise, ... (read in full...)
I'm so nervous about asking him out, any tips?
Q. Hello. I am 16 years old and I am female. I was hoping somebody here could offer me some advice. I have known a male friend for over 6 years now, and I want to ask him out. He asked me out when we were 13, but I didn't feel ready for a relatio...
A. 28 May 2007: Guys are really easy to approach in conversation. Pull him aside, and tell him everything.
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I am really at the end of my tether with my daughter's father...
Q. I have done so much for my daughter's father and I'm getting the end of the stick. I still care for him however, he's with another woman who I know he will do the same thing to her (cheat, use her, live in babysitter, pay his bills, etc). I am...
A. 28 May 2007: Take a polygraph and a drug test, and have proof to back your statements. Don't speak out of turn with the judge, and everything will go fine.
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When I masturbate it's absolute agony, can any of the agony uncles help here?
Q. Hi guys. I have an embarrassing question coming up and i'm hoping some of the guys may be able to help me out. A little while ago, I wasn't able to pull my foreskin over the head of my penis while erect, then after research I found out that s...
A. 28 May 2007: I don't have a foreskin, but, I do wonder why you feel it necessare to pull the skin up? Just be gentle with your privates, and experiment touching yourself from the bottom of the shaft to the top. You'll be ok.
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Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married?
Q. Is it wrong at the age of 22 to have the desire to have a baby and get married? I'm not with anyone at the moment, and I know that I need to get a better job and a house, but the feeling has been overwhelming me lately, and I don't know if I'm wrong ...
A. 28 May 2007: India, I'm actually a guy looking for a girl... I'm trying to get back in school, so I can get paid better money to do what I like. I really want to find that special girl to fall in love with. I want a baby so bad that I'm aching inside, because ... (read in full...)
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