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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?.
Q. Hi all, Would like your thoughts on this subject. Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?. I remember when we first used to kiss and cuddle and it was like melting in his arms. The sex was the best ever, and we couldnt lea...
A. 23 May 2007: With anything in life, things are exciting at first. After a while of seeing the same thing over and over, the flame dies. The problem that I see with most couples is that they would rather spend more time thinking about it, or arguing about it, ... (read in full...)
A discussion about having future kids, has caused a problem with us! How do we get beyond this?
Q. Hi there, I could do with some advice before I destroy the best thing thats ever happened to me. A month ago I met the most amazing guy and we just clicked, he lives about 90 miles away but when we see each other and talk we get on amazingly and ...
A. 23 May 2007: If he hasn't been in a relationship before, then the best thing that you can do is take baby steps. Don't scare him away. He may want kids, but he may also have a fear of getting his hopes up thinking that he might have found a girl who wants to be ... (read in full...)
I really like him... how could I get him to notice me? How can get him to talk to me? Any tips?
Q. i'm totally, utterly, and hopelessly in love with a guy i have never said 2 words to. everyone told me "it's just lust, you'll get over it"... i've "liked" him for 5 years! and actually know who he was for 1 of those.... i've just been too shy to e...
A. 23 May 2007: What you have is called puppy love. You're attracted to his looks. Most guys are attracted to shy girls. Just go up and introduce yourself. Tell him that you had seen him a couple times in mutual situations with friends, but you never got to strike ... (read in full...)
I am experiencing negative emotions about my married guy. Will this destroy what we have?
Q. I have a boyfriend. He's married man and i love him very much. The problem is i understand there's nothing he could do that would be like dating a normal single guy. but i cannot live without him and i believe he loves me too. We have been togeth...
A. 23 May 2007: If he's got a family with kids, the best thing that you can do is find someone else. I know that you may love him, but it's wrong to break up a family for your own selfish desires.
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We broke up. But I want her back..how long should I wait before contacting her?
Q. i was living with my first girlfriend for 2 years and i love her to death. We lived in a really small apartment though (couldn't afford more room), I felt it was becoming too strained and we should live apart. She broke up with me citing she had ...
A. 23 May 2007: At this time, you're both hurt. If she's got a new boyfriend already, then he's either a rebound, or they were together at the same time that you were together. If she's moved on, don't waste any more emotion or energy on her. Tell yourself that you ... (read in full...)
We've decided to take a break..should he and I be in contact or not at all?
Q. I've been dating "Ben" for a year and three months. We started out having the ideal relationship, it's been an amazing relationship, there's just 'something' there. Anyways, the past couple of months have been rocky for us. He's been working a l...
A. 23 May 2007: When he says that he has no intention of dating anyone, what he's REALLY saying is: "Please wait for me. I'm going to work it all out." HAve faith in him. If you thought that your relationship was that amazing, are you willing to sacrifice that ... (read in full...)
Is it worth taking the risk to date your best friend?
Q. i like my best friend. if he likes me is it even worth going out because i really like being best friends and talking like 24/7 and i dont want to ruin that. but if we break up then there could be a possibility tht we arnt friends anymore....
A. 23 May 2007: It's a huge risk. It's worth it though. A big lesson in relationships that work out is being together with your best friend. You two know each other inside and out, so you're prepared for the little things. I've only been in one relationship with my ... (read in full...)
A month ago, he found out from others that I like him.He hasn't made any move so am I wasting my time ?
Q. Dear Cupid, A little while back, I wrote to you asking for advice on my newest crush, Ethan. Well, now, there's kind of a new problem involving him. I might just be flipping out over nothing, but this is something that's really got me pretty wo...
A. 23 May 2007: In this case, if he knows, and has taken no action to confront it, you're most likely out of luck. Go up to him and try confronting him about it.
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As soon as I told my ex how I felt he stopped talking to me! Am I too late to get back with him!?
Q. Recently I have realised that I am in love with my ex boyfriend. He is not only my ex but he was my best friend for 7 years, we were boyfriend and girlfriend for the first four of those years. To make a long story short, he loved me for all of ...
A. 23 May 2007: In a way, you are being selfish. It's really hard when a girl rejects you, then out of the blue, she decides that maybe, you are worth it. You probably injured both his heart and his pride, and it's more than natural for him to be reluctant to deal ... (read in full...)
As soon as I told my ex how I felt he stopped talking to me! Am I too late to get back with him!?
Q. Recently I have realised that I am in love with my ex boyfriend. He is not only my ex but he was my best friend for 7 years, we were boyfriend and girlfriend for the first four of those years. To make a long story short, he loved me for all of ...
A. 23 May 2007: In a way, you are being selfish. It's really hard when a girl rejects you, then out of the blue, she decides that maybe, you are worth it. You probably injured both his heart and his pride, and it's more than natural for him to be reluctant to deal ... (read in full...)
He is texting his old gf..does he still have feelings for her?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for the last two years and we are getting on great. but i have recently discovered that he is texting his old girlfried on and off. they went out for four years and had a bad break up (she cheated on him), ...
A. 23 May 2007: If it helps... I'm not attracted to my ex girlfriend anymore, but I've been thinking about her a lot lately. He may be in the same train of thought that I'm in. Right now, I'm just wondering how she's doing, and trying to establish a friendship ... (read in full...)
Im circumcised and have this odd bruise, 2 months later another appeared under the scar any advice ?
Q. hey im circumsised and within the last year something weird is happened on my forskin i got a odd probaly 1cm by 1cm brown dot on it (like a bruise) and so i left it thinking it was a bruise it didnt go away then like 2 months later i noticed ...
A. 23 May 2007: At this point, you must see a doctor. The knife that they might have used may not have been clean, and could cause infection or disease. I know that it's weird, but if it means keeping your health, go to a doctor.
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He is so possesive, accused me of cheating, and then went and cheated himself!!! Help!!
Q. Hi!Im a married woman with my bf for almost 6 years. When we were gf bf he cheated on me and it really hurts. since i love him so much i forgive him. He always telling me a bad words,he insist me that i cheated him where in fact i didnt. When we ...
A. 23 May 2007: You're definitely right with this decision. If he doesn't love and respect you enough not to cheat on you, why should you waste your time on him? Getting defensive, placing blame, and accusing a partner of things is a surefire sign that they are ... (read in full...)
I'm his first serious relationship, he wants to be with me but wants to date others for a bit!!!!!
Q. I have been dating this male who I am very close with and we are both serious. Im 22 and he is 20. He sees me as his soul mate and we are both in love and he cares for me. We have good communication and I trust him. One day he told me that he wants ...
A. 23 May 2007: It sounds like right now, he wants to get some experience under his belt. For the time being, I would let him go, and when he's ready to commit, let him find you.
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I think hes taken call waiting off his phone and lied about it!!!
Q. Is this a little weird and suspicious? My b/f and i both have the same cell phone service provider. Regarding call waiting--you know when you call someone and there is a distinctive ring telling you the person is on the phone. Well for a few m...
A. 23 May 2007: You are overanalyzing. I'm suprised that he would rather talk to someone else on the phone rather than his girlfriend. I would be a little bothered by that, and if it continues, say something immediately.
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He doesn't want to call us bf-gf anymore after over 2 years! How could he fall out of love with me soooo fast?
Q. I and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 1/2 years. In the beginning it was great, we always used to spend time together. He did little romantic things for me, we would talk to each other on the phone hours and hours. We then moved in ...
A. 23 May 2007: He seems to have fallen in love with someone else. At this point, you can either let yourself keep getting hurt, or you can walk away.
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I'm unhappily married but attracted to a female colleague. What am I to do?
Q. I'm 40, married (and as usual - unhappy, married with kid 7y) I'm staying with her only b'cos of kid. My parents were divorced and it was very hard for me (I lived with father) I have problem with my colleage. She is so young (30), nice, bright...
A. 23 May 2007: If you're unhappy, then all you're going to do in your marraige is breed more unhappiness. You should end it and spare you both a bad outcome. Tell your wife that you are unhappy, but try to part ways on a good foot, especially because there is a ... (read in full...)
Seeing my Mother's abuse has caused me trouble in my own relationship! Any advice?
Q. i have been a very defensive person in my relationship and i think that it has something to do with the fact that my mother was beat by her bloke when i was little its causing me a lot of grief in my relationship does anyone know if there is a way ...
A. 23 May 2007: Your mother's abuse was obviously something that haunts you. If you want to be in a relationship, just think to yourself that you want to give someone the opposite.
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He's treating me the same awful way he treated his ex! Is he cheating on me too?
Q. Before me and my boyfreind were together he would call me every day, txt me goodnite, send me sweet messages, compliment me, talk to me all the time. he has changed a lot since we have been officially together, he hardly ever calls me or does those ...
A. 23 May 2007: It sounds like he's fallen out of love with you. You need to be upfront with him, and tell him that you have needs. If he's not willing to meet them, there's always another person out there who is.
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Is his watching porn caused his lack of sexual interest in me?
Q. My 30 yr old bf likes to watch porn featuring 50 yr old women. He said it has nothing to do with how attracted he is to me, but lately has not been able to perform sexually. Im really afraid he doesn't find me sexually attractive and is just with me ...
A. 23 May 2007: It's not out of the question that he may have fantasies about older women. Almost every couple I know openly admits to watching porn together. It's a way to learn new things to please your partner. He may also just like older women, and this is ... (read in full...)
He is texting his old gf..does he still have feelings for her?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for the last two years and we are getting on great. but i have recently discovered that he is texting his old girlfried on and off. they went out for four years and had a bad break up (she cheated on him), ...
A. 23 May 2007: It's not unnatural for people to be in communication with their exes. He may be trying to establish a friendship, so that he can have closure, and so that she can go into her marraige not feeling negative about her past. Unless he's hiding his ... (read in full...)
My oral/hand techniques doesn't make him orgasm! It just hurts him..does anyone have tips?
Q. hi, i have a new boyfriend who is a lot more experienced than me. i feel like i am letting him down as i cannot make him cum through oral/manual(hand)sex. if i try for to long it justs starts to hurt him. anyone got any tips? thanks...
A. 23 May 2007: My group(composed of both males and females) all agree that the guy's greatest pleasure parts are at the base of the shaft, and at the tip. It's where all of the nerve endings are located. If you apply pressure at the base(bottom) of the shaft, or ... (read in full...)
My friends thinks I have done something wrong..by liking a guy who has a gf already! Should I feel bad for feeling this way?
Q. Ok so me and my friend have fallen out cause of a boy in a way cause she doesnt want me talking about him and i think i may love him, but he has a gf and sometimes it seems as though he likes me. Now i feel real bad should i? when basically ive done ...
A. 23 May 2007: It's not bad to have feelings for anyone. As long as you don't act on feelings for someone who is already taken, it's perfectly ok.
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An old sex buddy contacted me after he and his gf broke up. Does he want to use me for sex, again?
Q. can anyone tell me what does it mean when a old sex buddy who you told ages ago that you fancy him and he rejected you by saying he doesnt see you as a girlfriend , then gets a girlfriend then breaks up with her a few months later and texts ...
A. 23 May 2007: Yes, he does.
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He's moving to another state because of his job. Should we end this relationship or continue?
Q. I met a young man in March 2007 and since we have been dating and establishing a wonderful relationship. His job recently informed him that he would be relocating to Louisiana and we currently live in Texas. My question is do you think this ...
A. 23 May 2007: If you care about him, that's up to you. Are you willing to travel and/or relocate for him? If he's really worth it, you could sacrifice something and move with him, or near him for that matter.
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My friends tease and call my bf gay! He hates it. I dislike it too...what should I do?
Q. ok so my boyfriend doesn't like to hear about my past cuz i wuz a little slut and had sex alot and he nos i don't want to hear about his past cuz he had sex a couple times but when ever my friends pick on him and say he gay he tells me to walk away ...
A. 23 May 2007: You two are really young to already have done so much. I could understand why he wouldn't want to hear about it. If he doesn't want to know, don't force him to hear it. If they're your friends, they should respect the person that you care about.
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What kind of women do men like?Moral, level headed girls or blondes who are sexually adventurous?
Q. what kind of women do men like? i am pretty, intelligent and fairly well educated. i am a quiet well spoken sort of person. my boyfriends ex's all seem to be loud mouthed and a little slutty with few morals he told me he likes 'proper blo...
A. 23 May 2007: Every guy is different. Some guys just want someone to enjoy a night with, others want commitment. There's no general consensus on what guys what. Everyone has their own opinion. If he says that he wants a proper blond, it probably means that he ... (read in full...)
He treats me good-I treat him like crap. Am I a bad gf?
Q. am i a bad girlfriend? My boy-friend of 2 1/2 years going on 3 is always so good to me, he treats me very good, he has gotten me so spoiled by given me anything i want but every day at school i will just keep on pushin, slappin, hitting him and i ...
A. 23 May 2007: It seems to me that you're unsure how to express happiness, and therefore resort to an easy emotion - anger. I think that you two should take a break, and you should figure out what's going on in your heart and mind. When you don't question your ... (read in full...)
He puts me down..I want to leave but I'm scared to. I need some good advice on how to deal with all this!
Q. i met my now husband when i was 15 and now been with him 13yrs.we have got threw many hard times together.ova the past few years though weve grown apart,i still love him with all my heart.the problem is that he has become very distant,possibly ...
A. 23 May 2007: Negativity isn't something that you should accept in your life. If you're not happy, start looking at apartments, based upon what you can afford. From here, if you're really that unhappy, get out of the relationship, and find something that will ... (read in full...)
I am a bit worried because I think some of the substance got on my clothes and hair. Could I be infected with this?
Q. Today at school I did a sewer lab in Chemistry. I am a bit worried that I caught a disease, because in this lab we deal with microorganisms, pee, and fecal matter. We run tests on these. I am a bit worried because I think some of the substance got ...
A. 23 May 2007: Air kills most bacteria, and as long as you wash yourself with warm water, you probably don't need to worry.
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My gf's mom is very controlling and I'm afraid my gf will end up the same! Is there anything I can do?
Q. Yes I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years this month and I really enjoy everthing about her when she doesn't hold back. We enjoy the same things and really enjoy each others company when nothing is hanging over our heads.There is some problems ...
A. 22 May 2007: It shouldn't really matter whether your parents like each other or not. They're not involved in the relationship. Just because someone's parents are one way doesn't mean that you should expect the same from your partner. If you love her, have faith ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so rubbish at calling us girls ??
Q. Does anyone have an answer why guys never call their girlfriends? My boyfriend calls me once a week (when he feels like hanging out) ... and when I tell him it bothers me he saiz "But honey,if I called you all the time,what would we talk about all ...
A. 22 May 2007: I do the same thing. I call a girl at max twice a week. Guys hate talking on the phone. Guys prefer to talk in person, where we can see you and appreciate the conversation. It's also about space. The way girls are today, if you give call them more ... (read in full...)
Is full of poo or is it actually possible that he is being the logical and smart one out of the two of us?
Q. ok so i meet this guy through mutaul friends it wasnt planned , and i wasnt looking for anything or even thought anything of him but bam we hit it off like right away he took me home that day and he asked for my number so i gave it to him and 2 days ...
A. 22 May 2007: I know this may sound crazy, but-wait for him. If you really like him, wait. I know that you two aren't going to see each other a lot, but if he's even telling his family about you, it's something special. I believe in love at first sight, and I'm ... (read in full...)
I'm still finding it hard to get over a boyfriend who broke up with me a year ago.
Q. Dear cupid, I'm still finding it hard to get over a boyfriend who broke up with me a year ago. Our relationship was very serious from the outset and he told me he loved me after two weeks. I felt the same way and things were going great until he t...
A. 22 May 2007: From the sound of it, he's scared of commitment. He's calling you in the middle of the night because he feels alone, and you're the person that makes him feel better. He knows that he loves you, but I don't think that he's prepared for his own ... (read in full...)
I think things would have gone further, but we haven't spoken about it. What should I do?
Q. Ok, so earlier in the year a 'friend' came up to see me after ages of not seeing each other, the thing is I told her that i had feelings for her and basically I don't think the feelings were returned when I told her. So when she came up to see me I ...
A. 22 May 2007: Don't get your hopes up yet. A lot of girls I know like to hold hands with guys that they're not even interested in. It's more a sign of comfort with the other person than anything. When she comes up, tell her that one way or the other, you really ... (read in full...)
Two days after fooling around together he got back with his ex! I feel used!
Q. ok...well..i met this guy awhile ago...and after getting to know each other..we realized that we had feelings for each other..but we decided ignore them because he was currently in a relationship with one of my really close friends. this guy and i ...
A. 22 May 2007: All you can do at this point is pick up the pieces and move on. You'll find someone.
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My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 22 May 2007: That's not your problem. Put his stuff outside, and wish him the best. He needs to realize that his actions have consequences. It's not your fault. He chose to do these things, understanding the possibility of no longer going to school. It's on him. ... (read in full...)
We've grown apart after a month and now he's hanging out w/ his ex!
Q. im 15 and i've been going out with my boyfriend now for about a month... we met on a school trip and at this point he had a gf... when we got back he sent me a letter sayin how he couldnt stop thinking about me and how he had ending it with his ...
A. 22 May 2007: Don't assume anything without calling him and voicing your concerns. Let him know that you support him being friends with his ex, but you're worried that you're going to lose him. It will work itself out.
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My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 22 May 2007: I know that this sounds harsh, but it seems like Sam needs a shock to wake him up. Put his stuff outside the door, and wish him the best.
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He says he's depressed b/c of us and thinks about breaking up but doesn't actually want to. Should I just get out now?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half; we moved in together about 7months ago. Lately we have been going through a rough patch. I know that I have had trust issues due to past experiences and that has been the root of most ...
A. 22 May 2007: I just got out of a relationship which ended because of this same reason. My ex had been abused in more ways than one, and said that she wasn't ready to trust people. She gave me a shot, and we broke up almost every other day. She would tell me she ... (read in full...)
My husband threatens to take our son back to India if I do not become submissive! Should I change?
Q. Hello, My husband was a very nice guy when we married and when we moved from india to USA he couldnt get a decent job and started the trouble and he is very egoistic. now he is a piece of scrap. I have a 6 year old son, I earn and im a ...
A. 22 May 2007: Unless you are here on visas, or has dual citizenship, you don't have to worry about losing your son. I know very well how custody agreements work. He is bound by American civil law. That states that he would have to find true reasonable cause as to ... (read in full...)
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