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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house.
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice. My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house. I'm not sure because I don't know why he came up with the idea. He said he would do one for me in ...
A. 31 May 2007: Do you want all of his friends seeing you in that fashion? If you're proud to show off to everyone, go for it. I personally wouldn't do it. Your body is a private thing until you're ready to share it... If you put it up, everyone he knows will see ... (read in full...)
We broke up and now I find it very difficult to trust men.
Q. My ex boyfriend was really popular with girls and when I was with him people were always telling me that he was cheating on me. I used to get really upset about it, cry about it and was really disbelieving of them. But then when I broke up with him ...
A. 31 May 2007: Don't let the past dictate your future. People are not all the same. You can't judge everyone based on the actions of one person. Take some time to heal, then get back up on your horse and try again... :)
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I lost his number and asked him for it again but he said no.
Q. i don't no what to do? help ok i really like a guy at work and i heard he likes me so i gave him my number and he text me so i could have his number i was so happy. He's 22 and im turnin 17 next month and don't worry he knows. but i deleted his nu...
A. 31 May 2007: Did he know your age up front? If he didn't, that's probably the reason. Guys generally worry about the age, because if you have sex with him, he goes to jail.
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I have a gut feeling my husband may be cheating on me...
Q. i need some advice i normally wouldnt do this but i have no idea what to think!i think my husband is sending me lil signals that hes cheating on me or that he has cheated on me. Well lets see hes in iraq and he use to call me like all the time and ...
A. 31 May 2007: As of last week, the government put a stop to military members who are away using the internet to communicate...
It's a safety precaution being taken. If he's doing something to try and please you, be happy about that. Don't read anything else into... (read in full...)
A question for the agony uncles... Can breasts be tooooo big???
Q. Hey... This is a question for the guys i suppose. I was wondering if breasts can be tooo big? I have huge breasts but have heard that more than a handful is too much and theres much more than a handful. Im small in proportion to them. Hmm its been ...
A. 31 May 2007: I think so... There's that whole big breast fetish thing, but I personally think so. I think that smaller ones are more attractive...
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He watches porn and 'gets off', every morning! Is this why we don't have sex?
Q. My bf and i have been together for 3 years now. We hardly have sex. He has a habit of watching porn and getting off in the morning. Could that be one of the reason why we hardly have sex? We had talked about this matter.His answer was because he is ...
A. 31 May 2007: Either way, my answer remains the same. You deserve someone who desires you, as well as loves you.
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Do guys like to kiss girls who give blow jobs?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know what everyone thinks of kissing girls that give bj to boys? do men all think that kissing them is like kissing the private part of the person they gave bj to or is it not? also do their mouth taste awful then...
A. 31 May 2007: As long as she's brushing her teeth, and using mouthwash...
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I get really emotional over my body - help!
Q. I really need to talk to someone who understands how it feels to get really emotional over their bodies. Can someone talk to me, please? ...
A. 31 May 2007: I get upset when I don't reach my physical goals. When I get upset, I do my best to work harder to reach my expectations...
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Do i tell him how i feel, wait it out, or just leave him alone?
Q. Well, I have a friend that i really have strong feeling for and who I would like to be more than just friends with. But the problem is that he has a girlfriend. Now, as his friend he tells me that she is not the one for him but never made an attempt ...
A. 31 May 2007: Never read more into something until you have definite proof. If he's still with this girl, he's obviously trying to salvage the relationship. Right now, he's taken, and it's appropriate to back off. Although you have feelings, he's taken, and all ... (read in full...)
Should I forget them or concentrate on being a friend to them both?
Q. I'm like these two guys who both like me too. They have both asked me out but I don't know who I like more. It's weird because they are both not my usual type but I have fallen for them. I know that if I go out with one I don't want to lose the ...
A. 31 May 2007: You need to decide if you like them solely based on looks. I would suggest being a friend to both of them first. A true relationship is first based on friendship. If you're still stuck, I would find someone else, and walk away from both of them.
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Is college fun, is it too much work, or what?
Q. I want as many opinions as I can get so anyone who has something to say, even if it's just a little comment, please respond. I'm just wondering what people think of college. I will be graduating soon and I want to keep in contact with some of my ...
A. 31 May 2007: College is like anything in life- it's what you put into it. If you work hard, you'll get good grades, and learn a lot. There's a chance to have fun, but it's all about balance. What you'll realize about after high school is how quickly old friends ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him the truth that I lied but I don't know if it'll make the situation better or worse. HELP!!!
Q. Hi...Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and we just had a son together. The problem is that we live 20 mins from each other and I barely ever see him and when we have plans to see each other it's very rare he'll come over. ...
A. 31 May 2007: You made a BIG mistake. It's one thing to say that you're busy, or that you don't want to see him, but you basically told him that you've moved on. He probably thinks that you're with your ex. If you go back to him, he's most likely going to assume ... (read in full...)
I just broke up completely with my boyfriend and I wanted to know if I did the right thing?
Q. ok well I just broke up completely with my boyfriend and I wanted to know if I did the right thing. we have been going on and off for about 9 months and i do love him but he does not know how to treet a girl thinking that hes all that and that he ...
A. 31 May 2007: You did the right thing. Controlling people have difficulty with change. He's saying something to get back into control of the situation. If you say yes, you're giving him control again. There is someone out there that will come to you in time.
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My wife's dad died last night, how can I help my wife through this?
Q. ok i hope you can help me out here. i'm 33 and my wife is 32. She lost her dad last night and it very upset. I know she's grieving and everything but I've really never seen her like this before. last night when we got back from the hospital we went ...
A. 31 May 2007: Death is a hard time for us- mainly because we're losing something important to us. It's kind of selfish, but we really cry because we won't have the same thing in our life anymore. All you can do is be there for her. Hold her, and let her talk. ... (read in full...)
There's this guy friend I've had feelings for, for a very long time now.
Q. There's this guy friend I've had feelings for, for a very long time now. I told him about this quite a while ago, but he didn't feel the same way, so we just stayed friends. Since then, I've pretended I've gone off him, but I really haven't. It's b...
A. 31 May 2007: Your friend's sexuality isn't an issue, here. One big lesson in life is that people change over time. It may be that he's going out of his way to cheer you up, because he realized that you got your hopes up. He also may have changed. Sit him down, ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's very well endowed. Will it hurt to have sex?
Q. I'm wondering... I am a virgin and I have a partner which is really big in size, he's well above average. Will it hurt me more than if he was smaller ? I'm kinda scared....
A. 31 May 2007: Take things slowly. Make sure that you're relaxed. You may want to try lubrication. Communicate with him, and let him know what hurts, and what doesn't. You'll be ok.
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My girlfriend and I are going to have sex for the first time this weekend.
Q. Me and my gf have been together for 7 months have have decided that on saturday night when i stop over that we will have sex for the first time, we are both virgins btw. We are incredibly close as we have been best friends for many years, have have ...
A. 31 May 2007: Congratulations on finding the right person. Take things slowly. Make sure to get the right protection. What you do is based on what she communicates to you. Don't be nervous, just enjoy each others' presence, and make sure to satisfy her first.
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He dumped me and I was getting over it and then...he texts me saying he misses me! What should I do?
Q. he dumped me last week monday. i was devastated. i was then convinced that it was over until he sms, then later called, to tell that he had made a mistake and that he misses me. i was on the process of getting over him and i was doing well until he ...
A. 30 May 2007: I know that it hurts. It's going to for a while, even if you get back together. You need to be able to be ok without him before you can be with him again... Don't rush back to him, because he'll feel like he has control over your feelings. Don't ... (read in full...)
Mom found a condom wrapper in my bedroom. She now says my bf and I are not allowed to be alone together, here! Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?
Q. Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she ...
A. 30 May 2007: She's being more than reasonable. You're too young to be having sex, especially under her roof. What if you get pregnant?
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He fingered me and I bled! Is this normal?
Q. hey everyone,i just have a little question...my boyfriend and i decided to get a little intimate a few days ago...things were going well..then he decided to finger me..when he did this, there was a little sign of blood on his hand..later that day,i ...
A. 30 May 2007: You may have broken your hymen, and dried blood might be becoming moist from sweat.
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He says he was mean to me, because he 'did' like me! I am confused..any advice?
Q. i am reali confused. a guy i always knew liked me just asked me out but i've neva been out with any1 and in the past he was mean to be because he likes me and was afraid. i reali confused please help!...
A. 30 May 2007: A lot of guys these days don't know how to show their feelings, and end up substituting one feeling for another. If he likes you, give him a shot, but keep on guard, just in case he's playing a game. If he starts acting weird, get rid of him.
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He's taken so I told him so I wouldn't see him. anymore..because I had strong feelings for him. Now all he does is text me constantly and flirts with me! What's going on here?
Q. I fancy this guy who's taken. So that I didn't mess up anything for him and his girl, I told him that I had feelings stronger than friendship for him and therefore I couldn't see him for a while until these feelings had gone ( which I thought ...
A. 30 May 2007: It sounds like he was looking for action on the side... I would tell her immediately.
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I have a growth problem and I'm short--it stops me from asking girls out. What can I do?
Q. i'm not sure what to do, i'm 16 and i'm debating to ask this girl out in my year. The thing is i have a growth problem (i'm about a head and a bit shorter than average) and it's always stopped asking any girls out because i'm worried she will just ...
A. 30 May 2007: I'm five foot even, and I've dated girls a foot and a half taller! They care about you, not your height. Taller girls have a hard time finding guys, because taller guys generally go for shorter women...
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He talks about this one girl he used to date...a lot. Now she's moving to our town! Should I be concerned?
Q. I have been seeing this man for almost 9 months but we have known eachother for ten years as we used to be neighbors when we were both married, we have 6 kids between us. we get along great we laugh and have a great time together I love him very ...
A. 30 May 2007: Voice your concerns to him immediately. If he starts acting funny, pack your backs, put the divorce papers on the table, get custody of the kids, and leave. Unless all that happens, trust in him.
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Do guys like to kiss girls who give blow jobs?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know what everyone thinks of kissing girls that give bj to boys? do men all think that kissing them is like kissing the private part of the person they gave bj to or is it not? also do their mouth taste awful then...
A. 30 May 2007: I definitely wouldn't...
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My large breasts are sooo uncomforatble! What should I do about it?
Q. Lately ive been feeling very self concious about my breasts. Im 17 and im a G cup.. but im small in comparison with my breasts, i wear size 10 clothes. I dont have any bras that fit and feel really uncomfortable. My question is.. can breasts be too ...
A. 30 May 2007: A lot of my friends have gone through breast reduction surgeries. If you're unhappy with them, talk to your parents about looking at this option.
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He has two of us girls, chasing him. Will he text me while the other gf is visiting him?
Q. He rings me to go out for a drink, he walks me home after, kisses and heavy pets me, but I wont go all the way. he has another female friend who he met the same time as me, she is staying with him for 1 weeks holiday, and he has just spent the last ...
A. 30 May 2007: He may not be serious about her. Just wait it out, and give him the benefit of the doubt. If he chooses her, move on. You'll deserve better! :)
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We swapped phone numbers but he hasn't called me, yet when he sees me, he's pretty attentive! What's up with this guy?
Q. I met a boy last week who I really like and thought liked me. We swapped numbers and he said he wanted to take me out for a drink. He was really nice to me and kept kissing me but I know he had been drinking. Anyway, a week later and he still has...
A. 30 May 2007: He may be afraid of commitment,or he may just be having a really crazy week. I think that we've all been through that. Give him the benefit of the doubt.
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I have decided to break up with my bf! Am I making the right choice?
Q. I want to break-up with me boyfriend. We have been together a year and a half and I put up with a lot of crap in the begining of our relationship (him getting drunk and taking it out on me) Although we have resolved this problem now (and for the ...
A. 30 May 2007: I think that you need to be given time and space to deal with your miscarraige. Go to your husband, and cry on his shoulder. He may be dealing with it in his own way. There's always a possibility of re-igniting love for two people who love each ... (read in full...)
Bf pressured me to give him head and said he's return the favor but he didn't! How can I ever trust him again?
Q. im 17 my boyfriend is 31 he got me 2 give him head i didnt really want to but he said he would do it back to me and he didnt . how can i trust him...
A. 30 May 2007: If you say no, and he keeps pushing you, that's called rape. It's your body. Find someone else, because he's a sleazebag.
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Has this relationship gone as far as it can? Any views?
Q. Hi Guys - My partner and I had been together nearly 4 years when things started to go wrong. That was last summer and since then I'd had mixed feelings about the relationship. He has two sons aged 13 and 17 and my son is 11. I started looking ...
A. 30 May 2007: Just because he's content with his life, doesn't mean that he doesn't have the urge to try new things. Try asking him to get a relative to watch the kids, and go on a trip, just the two of you. He'll change, I promise.
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I moved overseas w/ my bf of several months - he just broke up w/ me and said we can live together as friends!
Q. My boyfriend and I met in September and we hit it of immediately. He was then offered a dream role overseas so he left to pursue it 6 weeks later. In December I moved over to be with him and we moved in straight together - yes far too soon but we ...
A. 30 May 2007: He broke up with you through an e-mail? How cold!! Move back home, and pick up where you left off!
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My ex won't let me see our little boy! I'm afraid our son will get the wrong idea if I take her to court! Help!
Q. Okay - my ex broke up with me. We've got a little boy that i love dearly. She moved about 400 k\m away from me. I pay maintenance, but she doesn't want me to see him. Now the thing is if I take her to court, my son might get the feeling that I w...
A. 30 May 2007: He's your son, and until you prove that you're incapable of being a parent, you have legal right to see him. If she keeps him away, she can and will be punished for kidnapping and harboring a minor, regardless of the fact that it's hers.
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She called me weak and said I grovelled. Then she said she was joking! I broke up w/ her - is this what she really wanted?
Q. Sorry for posting this again but I'd hoped to get a better response. I'm struggling to get over this and maybe someone out there can help me out. I need to know if I was wrong here. I went out with a girl for 6 months, during the first 3-4, s...
A. 30 May 2007: It sounds like she was just using you to boost her ego! If she hasn't gone out of her way to contact you or save the relationship, forget about her!!
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Invited to the ex's house to visit. She spent the whole time flirting with her new bf-was she playing a cruel game with me?
Q. Ok, i'm confused and need an unbiased response. My now ex-fiance and i split a year ago. Shortly after that i asked that i still see her 3yr old daughter to whom i became very attached and the child to me. She advised that wouldnt be appropriate and ...
A. 30 May 2007: It takes a big man to stick around in the life of a child who wasn't even yours. A big risk in getting involved in someone's life when they already have always exists. It shows that you're the bigger person. Ask her not to flirt with him in your ... (read in full...)
He has a hard time trusting me now because I lied about liking another guy...any advice?
Q. I need your advise. My boyfirend and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have had our ups and downs, I guess like any relationship. Last year we almost broke up, I was having doubts about us and instead of talking with him and opening up I ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you keep lying to him, you're proving him right. Why are you so afraid to look himin the eyes and tell him how you feel? He's your partner, and he deserves that much!
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He watches porn and 'gets off', every morning! Is this why we don't have sex?
Q. My bf and i have been together for 3 years now. We hardly have sex. He has a habit of watching porn and getting off in the morning. Could that be one of the reason why we hardly have sex? We had talked about this matter.His answer was because he is ...
A. 30 May 2007: I think that the truth is that he's really not attracted to you. You deserve better! I think that he sounds like a sleazebag. He's addicted to porn and women who he doesn't have to ever see again.
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Big decision--do I go to the club I hate, with my friends or on a work trip?
Q. hi i know this sounds like an unimportant question but i need some help!! its my last exam for uni tomoro so all my friends have organised a night out before we all go home for summer. But its also a works trip tomoro night which i desperately wa...
A. 30 May 2007: Do both... Get together early, then leave at the end of the night. Stop by long enough to finish a soda, then give everyone a hug, and tell them you'll call them.
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She's had threesomes, a lot of past sex partners, and told me I can show our home made porn clip to anyone! What's her problem?
Q. I've been dating this girl for six months now and have a few doubts about her. I am just being old fashioned and silly? She's 25 and I am 30. Here's why: 20 or so sexual partners in 9 years. Can’t give an exact figure. Didn’t always go all th...
A. 30 May 2007: That's a big NO WAY from me!! This girl is WAY too permiscuous for you! You'll get hurt over and over if you decide to go through with this!
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Can two people who genuinely care and love each other make their relationship work even if they are living two seperate lives?
Q. My girlfriend of three years and I have recently split. It has completely devasted me as I thought of her as my future wife. After putting the pieces together, I have come to the conclusion that the biggest reason for the break-up was because we are ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you love her, take your car, or take a bus, and get down to see her. If you make an effort, she'll come get you. Stop looking for an excuse. The only way you can save your relationship is to fight like hell. Prove to this girl that you're worth ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 30 May 2007: Wait a minute, this is rich. Let me see if I understand this: your boyfriend has been acting up? Your boyfriend? Good way to get the attention off of yourself. You're just as guilty, if not more, than he is. He's not a toy to be played with. You ... (read in full...)
Can two people who genuinely care and love each other make their relationship work even if they are living two seperate lives?
Q. My girlfriend of three years and I have recently split. It has completely devasted me as I thought of her as my future wife. After putting the pieces together, I have come to the conclusion that the biggest reason for the break-up was because we are ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you guys let your work or your school get in the way of your relationship, then you never had a strong one to begin with. If you really loved each other, you would both go to your occupation/school during the day, then see each other during the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 28 May 2007: It seems like you're willing to hurt a whole lot of people. You're willing for him to lose his wife, his kids, and possibly everything, just to be with you? That's extremely selfish. That's not even mentioning that fact that you're willing to ... (read in full...)
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