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I ended up in bed with my friend's dad last week. Should I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid, I ended up in bed with my friend's dad last Thursday night. Basically, I do some secretarial work for him at his office a few days a week, and last Thursday night we were working late and after I joined him and a few of his colleague...
A. 25 November 2012: Yes, absolutely you should. It's going to come out anyway, so deal with the consequences now... Don't use the alcohol as an excuse though... ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone to have lingering feelings for an ex in the beginning of a relationship?
Q. I am in a relationship right now, we've been dating exclusively from the beginning for about three months (with a break), then after three months, we decided to be commit further with a long-term bf/gf relationship, and now it's been seven months. ...
A. 25 November 2012: You were a rebound, there to feed his ego... ... (read in full...)
My husband has a drinking problem, and I'm unhappy in my marriage.
Q. I am mostly unhappy in my marriage. I am 27 in a 10 year relationship with 3 kids. My husband has a drinking a problem which he recognizes. He tries to improve and he does, but when he falls back it is horrible. He is a controlling manipulator. ...
A. 25 November 2012: He's got responsibilities, and he's not ready to own up to his mistakes. It's not really the alcohol. Alcohol tends to bring out that part of us that we hide by inhibiting the wall of sorts that we put up to stop that part of us... You should ... (read in full...)
Someone told my wife I cheated on her and the girl is pregnant. It never happened but my wife believes it.
Q. well my wife and i are going throw some tough times it seem that some of her ferends told her that i cheated on her and that the women is now peregent the thing is my wife live in the pilipens and we have w 3year old baby girl we just got marred ...
A. 25 November 2012: She's a gold digger. Put all your money into hidden places, and leave a dollar in the account that she knows about. I bet she made the situation up. If she didn't, then whoever is trying to get her to believe the story wants her for himself...... (read in full...)
Should I propose for a second time? Thoughts please!!
Q. What a god damn cliche I'm about to spew, but it's the truth and I need guidance. Girl moves next door in 5th grade, boy befriends girl. They become best friends by the summer before 6th grade and continue this sexually frustrating relationship ...
A. 25 November 2012: I wouldn't propose yet. She'll let you know when she's ready for marriage. Why not just enjoy her company in the meantime? You don't have to be married to love each other... Sounds like you have this whole way you want things to go instead of ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife about her sudden, and welcome changes in sexual behavior?
Q. I am 32 and my wife is 28. She is a very moderate woman. Recently we went on for a long drive and we had some sexy talks coming in. she indicated about having a threesome and I joined her in the talk. it was very nice. while the way she told she...
A. 25 November 2012: That book is evil... She probably read that, or just decided to try something new. Just relax and enjoy...... (read in full...)
My friend is coming to me with advice, and I don't know what to say to her?
Q. My friend split from her first boyfriend a month ago, they were together for 15 months and she is obviously finding it hard to deal with. She has recently said she is starting to feel abit better and realising she can move on, however she messaged ...
A. 25 November 2012: I know where you're coming from. You move on, and you get on with your life, but then you see that they've really moved on, and you realize that you really hadn't, that you'd just been keeping yourself busy... He might not be trying to be in a ... (read in full...)
I have very high standards regarding what I find attractive, I mean ridiculousy high. Considering the fact I'm not exactly a prize material myself, it's not really fair and maybe even unhealthy. How do I lower them?
Q. I've been thinking about what caused my mind to be wired like this and I think it's because I've been bombarded with beauty since I was a kid. As long as I can remember my mom talked to me about what it meant to be beautiful and always point...
A. 25 November 2012: It sounds like you've set high standards for what you want to be, and because you aren't meeting them, you expect someone else to... By them meeting those standards, it makes you feel like the person you were with would make you worthy of being with ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and I really like a guy at school. How do I get to know him better without outing myself?
Q. Hi, well where do I begin with this. I am Gay and I've known since I was thirteen (15 now) and I'm not out. I've always been a little feminine but not so much that i'd personally say it was obvious i was gay but i feel my whole school year knows ...
A. 25 November 2012: I would ask people about him in an indirect way...... (read in full...)
Does my bf want me or am I just there to fill his emotional need when he wants me?
Q. Hi, I'm in a Long distance relationship. We have been going out for 5 months, we were together for the first 2 months and Long distance for the past 3 months. The first month if LDR was great, we would text and call each other all the time, he...
A. 25 November 2012: I just got out of an ldr where all of the above just happened... You're coming across as needy and clingy because he doesn't know the difference between that and you trying to make it work... Break up and move on. LDR's leave a crater in your life ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on this boy but he's not in any of my classes. Is there anything I can do about this?
Q. So, I have a huge crush on a kid that was in all my classes last year and toward the end of the year, I felt like he was starting to like me too. He would tease me and be mean and joke with me a lot. But, this year, he's not in any of my classes....
A. 25 November 2012: Find a time to have a soda or hit a movie sometime outside of classes... We're in 2012, so technology is wonderful as well... ... (read in full...)
Is this healthy? is she game playing? My Controlling girlfriend keeps giving me ultimatums or threatens that we'll break up
Q. I have a girlfriend and I'm soon to be divorced with my estranged wife. My girlfriend has been acting weird lately.... She gives me ultimatums to do X or we break up. When I don't do X, she gives me the complete silent treatment and ignores all ...
A. 25 November 2012: RUN AWAY!!!... (read in full...)
Help me to be reasonable and rational about this matter please? My Bf wants me to use Birth Control Pills but I think it's risky.
Q. I have been seeing this guy almost for a year. We are thinking about starting to have a future together soon. We are no longer use condoms every time after we became exclusive and came clean to each other about STD history and all. We sometime...
A. 25 November 2012: I think the pluses outweigh the minuses...... (read in full...)
He thinks he should "be alone". Does anyone have any advice or insight about the way he broke up and why after 11 months?
Q. We're both 44 and divorced. We've been dating about 11 months. We get along well, enjoy hanging out and his kids really like me a lot. All is going well. We tell each other "I love you". While my house was being finished I lived with him and t...
A. 25 November 2012: Either he slept with his ex, or he has unresolved issues and hasn't really moved on from that... Sounds like his ex also is trying to control his emotions even though they're no longer together. She's miserable, and she's using his kids as emotional ... (read in full...)
Should I believe that my bf is not attracted to this young woman who is going to be his room-mate soon?
Q. My bf and I have lived together for the last year or so, and our roommate split suddenly and we needed someone who could move in asap and afford to pay rent. Unfortunately, this wound up being my high school friend (this was honestly the only opt...
A. 25 November 2012: I'd just give him the benefit of the doubt. If he messes up, then react, but until then, no worries... ... (read in full...)
How do I deal or forget her past sexual experience? Because I really love this girl and don't want to lose her
Q. Okay well I have been dating this girl for 2 months and i have really started to love her she is the first girl i have ever wanted to say i love you to but when i start to think about her past with all of the men she has slept with it really ...
A. 25 November 2012: Forget about the past and accept it. If you guys like each other, then deal with the present and the future... ... (read in full...)
Should I let my girlfriend hang out with her ex?
Q. My girl friend has this guyfriend she likes to hang out with she has had some sexual relations with him once b4 but sometimes i feel like im not all the man she needs even tho she says i am i dont feel like i am because she still hangs out with him ...
A. 25 November 2012: She's going to do what she wants to do. If she ends up cheating with him, drop her and find a new one. There are plenty of women out there... If they're friends, it's cool, but also be very wary, because she's probably got some unresolved ... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable over his ex...
Q. Hi and thank you I've been with someone for 7 months we are exclusive. He's good to me, treats me well except when it comes to his ex which he claims there "just friends". I have been trying hard to believe it BUT my intuition is telling me other...
A. 25 November 2012: I agree. I think there are a lot of unsettled feelings there, and that you're doing nothing but getting caught in the middle. There's no part of this where you win. My advice would be to put everything on hold and concentrate on you until he's ready ... (read in full...)
Family dinner with the guy I'm dating. How do I make it less awkward?
Q. I would like feedback and advice to my issue because I seem to be stressing over this more than I need to. I am a 25 year old female and about to graduate with my Masters. I have been dating this man who is hardworking and has a big heart becaus...
A. 25 November 2012: I'm short, and I'm extremely social, and it's not to compensate for my height. Most short people don't compensate, we just have massive ego's, and believe that we deserve to be the center of attention, even those of us with a good heart. We're ... (read in full...)
Advise please: experiencing strong attraction to a married teacher!
Q. I am 16 years old and I have really strong feelings for one of my teachers... I've had these feelings for almost 4 years now. He taught my 8th grade science class and then I had him again for 9th grade bio. His wife also teaches in my school but ...
A. 25 November 2012: You need to not pursue this. Just sayin'.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I can't talk and its causing problems in our relationship
Q. Greetings to all of you, I am finding it difficult to adapt to my boyfriend's way of being. He's a very susceptible person and feels offended very easily. Moreover, I'm the type of person who likes to speak to clear out our differences but ...
A. 25 November 2012: The thing is... you can ask him to talk all you want, and he's never going to want to. If you try and box him in and make him talk, he's just going to say: "I'm ok" or something to make you think everything is ok. Stop seeking him for approval, and ... (read in full...)
I accidentally touched my friends breast and now she's angry at me
Q. hey all, so the other day, me and my bestie were sitting in the bus next to each other. we were kinda laughing and pinching the hell out of each-other but things got down hill when i ''ACCIDENTALLY'' touched her breast while we were pinching...
A. 25 November 2012: There's nothing more you can do. At this point, every time you apologize, it just feeds her ego more... Don't need her so much, and if she comes back into your life, it's all gravy. If she doesn't come back, no worries, there are always more people ... (read in full...)
I feel like he sees me as a mom not a lover!
Q. I'm engaged to the man of my dreams but recently our sex life hasn't been good. I've tried everything I can think of to spice things up and he really seems to enjoy it when we do have sex but it's not making him want to more often. I recently lost ...
A. 25 November 2012: I'm sorry to say it, but he feels like you're too clingy and obsessive, when in fact, you're just trying to show that you care by giving him attention... He doesn't know how to tell the difference, and probably never will... ... (read in full...)
Does he not make a move on me because I'm a client
Q. Hi, I am not very good in judging people. I need help in this department. There is this one guy i fancy. He is an assistant of my Marketing Manager. Technically, I am their client. When we first know each other, it was nothing and strictly busi...
A. 25 November 2012: He probably realized that it would be unprofessional, or could be very bad if things go wrong, because he'll still have to deal with you on a regular basis... He did the right thing for both of you...... (read in full...)
What would you do if your significant other said their ex's name during sex?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 3 years. The other night we were in the middle of sex and she said another man's name. More importantly it was her ex's name. She tried to play it off like it didn't happen. Has anyone been in this situation ...
A. 21 November 2012: It wasn't an accident. She's not over her ex... ... (read in full...)
Would you stay with your husband for monetary reasons only
Q. My friend has decided to stay with her husband for monetary reasons despite not being happy with him. He makes six times as much as her and she is barely getting by at her low income job. She got laid off from a great job and so did many others ...
A. 19 November 2012: I would still end it... ... (read in full...)
What would you do if your significant other said their ex's name during sex?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 3 years. The other night we were in the middle of sex and she said another man's name. More importantly it was her ex's name. She tried to play it off like it didn't happen. Has anyone been in this situation ...
A. 19 November 2012: I'd end the relationship... He's not over his ex...
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How can I boost my confidence and lose the nervous before this first date?
Q. Hi. I have a date this week with this drop dead gorgeous man who i met online, Im sooo nervous I'm even thinking of cancelling! I've had dates before but I am so shy its cringeworthy, i just don't have any confidence! I really like him and I would ...
A. 19 November 2012: Just go and have a good time. If you don't have any expectations, you'll have no reason to be nervous. Nobody is out of your league. You're only going to get as good as you think you can get...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't very affectionate. Should I be worried?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year now is no longer very affectionate. He says he isn't muchy gushy and doesn't like kissing. He just did it to make me be with him in the beginning of the relationship. Whenever I want to talk about our relationship, he ...
A. 16 November 2012: It sounds like there's an underlying issue... Did you guys start dating as soon as he got out of another relationship? He might have been hurt pretty badly and might be holding a lot in... Work with him. It's either that, or he's fallen out of love ... (read in full...)
Want to follow my plans but I also love my boyfriend who doesn't share my passion, where's the compromise?
Q. I have this dream of going off to developing countries and making a difference to people out there - you know it might sound extreme but I've already done the training in teaching and as a nurse. I'd love to specialise in paediatrics, intensive ...
A. 16 November 2012: It seems like you've already made your decision... Maybe you guys could put things on hold while you go do what you need to do. I'm not going to sugar coat it, you're probably going to lose him.... I think that you'll get a lot of fulfillment out of ... (read in full...)
So worried about what will happen if we break up. Will I find anyone else?
Q. I am 28 years old and I think I might lose my first girlfriend. She was the first woman I've ever been with. I lost my virginity to her. But lately we haven't been getting along so well. I'm so worried what will happen if we break up. I may never ...
A. 16 November 2012: It sounds like you've got to work on yourself. You can't make someone your world. You need to be happy with the person looking back in the mirror, and you can't expect anyone in this life to complete the pieces of what you're missing in yourself. ... (read in full...)
Are the intentions of this man innocent?
Q. I am attracted to a man who happens to be married but will not ever do more than occasionally think about him. He has always been kind of flirtatious and he gives me vibes and looks of admiration. I always hear his wife criticizing him over the ...
A. 15 November 2012: It doesn't matter what's going on with their marriage. It's not your business. If he has an issue with how his wife is acting, it's his job as the man to give her the single man speech and then work things out. I would just distance yourself before ... (read in full...)
Is this a good way to keep her on her toes and interested?
Q. Hello everyone I just wanted some insight! So I've recently started dating my ex of a few years ago and since then we've both matured and have learned a lot since then. I am very happy to be dating her and her vise versa, we connect really well and ...
A. 15 November 2012: Absolutely... Live your life, and occasionally text her, but be you and do what you do on a daily basis... If she wants to be with you, she'll find a way to fit into your life...
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Why does he protect me?
Q. Second week at work and I have had issues with some people. This man at work who is usually very quiet, he's a old school man, he doesn't get involved with office politics. I just found out that behind my back he has been protecting me. tell...
A. 15 November 2012: He sounds like me. He's cold to everyone, but he does the right thing when it counts the most.... (read in full...)
Are these comments innuendo, and do they show he's comfortable with me?
Q. I am friends with a man who I have known for a few years. Because we are on a committee together I sent him a text once saying that this particular bush had been cut back because he had complained about it and his reply was 'i must admit I lik...
A. 15 November 2012: It's innuendo. Don't read anything into it...... (read in full...)
He's a white supremacist but I am not white. So how will he feel about our unborn child?
Q. This is going to sound ridiculous I am non white but my BF is a white supremacist, did time in prison, which is where he picked up the ideology. He wears a Thors pendant, follows asatru and all that. He thinks whites are superior to blacks, but ...
A. 15 November 2012: You need to talk to him about this... Immediately...... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lied about something trivial but now I'm afraid I can't trust her
Q. My girlfriend lied to me on an issue that really isn't a big deal but it's causing me some problems with trust. A couple months ago we almost broke up, had a big fight, and then we decided to make up and fix our relationship. It was her who came...
A. 15 November 2012: I would have someone who's still on her friends list see what she's posting... Most likely, she's cheating, and is ashamed of it. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend claims that I have control issues
Q. My boyfriend is 17 years old, and I'm 15. We've been dating for a year and 3 months. Here in the past few months, we've been arguing and fighting a lot. He claims that I'm "obsessive and controlling" for the fact that I get upset when he goes with ...
A. 15 November 2012: I think it's not going to work... sorry.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't satisfy me sexually, and it is making want sex with is brother.
Q. Dear. Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and have lived with him and his brother the entire time. I love my life the way it is and I love my boyfriend. I want to spend the rest of my life with him,but he can't satisfy me sexually. I ...
A. 15 November 2012: You need to end the relationship now, before you do some serious damage, or you need to move out, before you also do serious damage... ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy who has a girlfriend
Q. I've been seeing someone for a while now and we both seem to really like each other. The only problem is.. he has a girlfriend. He's never once mentioned breaking up with her, in fact he tells me nothing about her. I don't even know her name. Any ...
A. 15 November 2012: Is he going to break up with her? HELL NO! Why would he do that when you're proving that you're ok with him having two women... Also, it says something about you that you're completely uncaring about his girlfriend's feelings, and might want to ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can trust him, anymore.
Q. me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years now and he cheated on me right after i found out i was preganat and he new but one night his ex girl friend texted him and he told her to never text or call him and that i was preganat and we were ...
A. 15 November 2012: Run away. Don't walk. if you can fly, or drive, or ride a motorcycle, or moped, make it happen.... (read in full...)
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