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Hi,

STOP BULLYING!!! stopbullycide1@gmail.com

I am 21 years old and my luck in love has been terrible,

#1- Age 15- He was age 17- My first relationship lasted 3 weeks he finished with me for no reason! ( I think he was cheating)

#2- Age 16- He was age 20- We were so in love, we went on holiday together and then he just lost interest! We were together for 4 months

#3- Age 16 and 17- He was age 23- I loved him so much, he was into alot of drugs (im not) and did nothing but lie and cheat. Foolishly at age 18 i gave him a second chance where he said he wanted 2 get back together with me and then told me he got another girl pregnant when we were split up (WORST boyfriend ever) Then decided he actually didnt wanna be with me.

I have never had a valentines day! Ive been dumped before every single valentines day. But i always have faith and believe that one day the man of my dreams will come looking for me! I can encourage you and help the best i can.

... 2 years on...

I am now 20- I have had another 2 failed relationships since my last post but am now very happy with my prince charming.

.....1 year on.......

I am still with prince charming! We have had our issues just like everyone else but we work through them now 21... FINALLY!!! I had some flowers on valentines day delivered to work! It's the most romantic thing anyone's ever done for me I love him 3 I think I've figured this relationship thing out!

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A.   8 September 2012: I had the same problem,no had a unique idea. I brought the newspaper and took the crossword out, in the crossword I wrote. "you look so hot I want to 69 right now" Worked like a charm. We done 69, pleasured each other then had hot hot hot sex!... (read in full...)

How do I talk to my daughter without pushing her away?

Q.   Dear Cupid My daughter of 15 years is acting weird lately. I know she is sexually active, found used condom in her room. I want to make sure she is not pregnant. How do I bring up this subject without pushing her away from me. Already she hates me...

A.   8 September 2012: Ok so she's having sex-normal Her boyfriend is older than her-normal (mines 11 years older age is only a number) You probably acted wierd as a teenager. Ask your mum how she felt when you were a sexually active teen. If she is pregnant she... (read in full...)

Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?

Q.   This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...

A.   8 September 2012: Wouldn't bother me. Everyone needs sex. ... (read in full...)

Should I be scared about talking to random guys in a bar? Recent events have scared me

Q.   Hi, I was in a very strange situation tonight. I was just out for some leaving dinner and drinks for a friend who is emigrating.. There was a few of us, we went to a bar after dinner, i got talking 'having banter' with a guy at the bar, and late...

A.   8 September 2012: Maybe he already knew the guy and they had a problem with each other already. There is violence out there unfortunately, you just have to learn to accept it. I know it sounds like a bad answer but you do, you can't live life scared of violence beca... (read in full...)

I'm a plus size woman who has lost weight recently. Why has my Bf made no comments on my weight loss?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am a plus sized woman with an average sized boyfriend. He makes me feel so confident with myself and always shows so much respect for me. I have been starting to lose a sigificant amount of weight, and he hasn't mentioned an...

A.   8 September 2012: Congratulations on losing weight. Simple answer, he probably has not noticed or doesn't want to say anything, best thing to do is when you weigh yourself next tell him how much you have lost then he may feel better discussing it because you ... (read in full...)

Why do people find me odd?

Q.   Hy. I feel different right now as to what s wrong with me? Many people(especially my relatives) find my behaviour/personality odd. Really. .i dont know why they think im a bit strange. Im a nice person, caring, dont take any illegal substances, ...

A.   8 September 2012: Ok so sounds like shes having some sort of a mid life crisis. I'm the only girl with 3 brothers. The sun shines out of thier a**es and I'm the devils dirty wh*re! The best thing to do is embrace the fact that people think your different. When som... (read in full...)

All my friends throw doubt and scorn on me for me LDR and say nasty things. What to do about their words?

Q.   I have another question what do i do if my friends are giving ishh about my long distance relationship? like half of them would be like yeah you should give him a try and keep your realtionship and the other half is like you dont know what his doin...

A.   8 September 2012: They aren't very good friends... Tell them to support you or not say anything at all. You don't need thier input, but if anything does happen and u break up (god forbid this to happen) you can't cry on them about it.... (read in full...)

How can I get over my feelings about my facial discoloration? It makes me wonder what my wife sees in me.

Q.   Hi, I am a highly successful business executive and married to a very gorgeous woman. My problem is that i have a lot of discoloration on my skin especially on my face which i can remember i have always had as a kid. it hasn't stopped me from...

A.   8 September 2012: Your wife loves you. It doesnt matter what anybody's face looks like you still love them. Just imagine for example (god forbid) your beautiful wife was in an accident and she survived but with severe damage to her face. Would you still love her... (read in full...)

How should handle really rude, mean nasty insensitive aunt?

Q.   Last time I saw my aunt, I was in tears from being cruelly dumped by my boyfriend at the time. She ignored this at and proceeded to have a huge go at me for not futhering my education. I wasn't in the mood and depressed. Instead she yelled at me...

A.   8 September 2012: Don't go to see her. When she asks why, tell her what you think of her. Shame we can't pick our family eh!... (read in full...)

How else could we have a baby considering that I am HIV positive? My Bf is HIV negative..

Q.   my b/f want us to have a baby,and my problem is i m HIV positive and he is negative and we are so much inlove so please help us the is alternative to have a baby without infecting him please help me I am confused...

A.   8 September 2012: Adoption, simple.... (read in full...)

My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.

Q.   I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...

A.   18 June 2012: Book the next holiday yourself. Make it a couples romantic week or weekend so you can show her how amazing it is just you and her. Make it something she cannot invite her mother to. Such as a spa or something along those lines. Good luck pet x... (read in full...)

Should I make him happy and leave?

Q.   hello again, need help. my hubby is to friendly w/girls on facebook he has them sending him pics and flirting plus hes friends w/ ALL his ex`s. he tells me that me and the kids are 1 of the reasons why he wants to start drinking. i ask him fif he ...

A.   18 June 2012: Do not leave to make him happy! Leave for the sake of yourself and more importantly your children. I promise you will find happiness but you will not find it with him. He sounds like a horrible being and you should get out of there and never lo... (read in full...)

I don't want to let these insecurities and trust issues ruin my days anymore, and I need help finding a way to cope

Q.   I'm 21 years old, and I'm in a relationship that sort of popped up unexpectedly. I moved a few months back and began dating my roommate. We really hit it off, the first night we met I knew something great was about to happen, and after a few years ...

A.   18 June 2012: Hi Step 1: the past is the past for a reason, but you have some unresolved feelings that you need to face. She told you she has been with a co worker, if there was something going on now then she wouldn't have told you that. Relax and just loo... (read in full...)

How can I overcome this persistent fear that my young cousins will one day suffer pain?

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A.   18 June 2012: Hi, Had the same issue with my nephew. All people are different and come from different backgrounds. All told different things by parents etc. All you can do for all of your cousins is be a role model and teach them the right things to do. Teach... (read in full...)

He's not contributing financially in our live-in relationship...what should I do?

Q.   hi, so i have a question..., i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in a few months. we started out great, so loving, caring, and anything i wanted to do i got, but now its not like that, he doesn't give me a kiss hello when i see him, we sit on ...

A.   18 June 2012: Sell his stuff Good luck pet x... (read in full...)

My bf and I argue all the time now, and I am feeling more attracted to his best friend! What should I do?

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A.   18 June 2012: Run off with his best friend..,. Ha! Don't do that pet. If you don't like spending time with him then you are not happy, you either need to break up or have a massive chat with him. "air out your smalls" Tell him how you feel and ask him how... (read in full...)

He said he's into me 'just for the sex'...so why won't he get it on with me?

Q.   I have a question concerning my ex. We broke up 15 yrs ago. He was always my 'one that got away'. We got back in contact accidentally in december. We emailed back and forth, and he began to turn it sexual. Only subtly, nothing heavy. We exchanged ...

A.   18 June 2012: The one that got away... I have one of those... I think about him all the time... But hey! You know what they say, the best way to get over someone is get under someone else! What I'm trying to say is don't pursue it. We are always meant to h... (read in full...)

When we are both back in Canada and at opposite ends of the country...will it be worthwhile having LD relationship with her?

Q.   Hey guys, So I'm in Europe last week backpacking and my friends and i meet these women. Long story short I totally hit it off with this one woman who was also from Canada but a different province, but she is living in France for a year due to her j...

A.   18 June 2012: I know it's bad to answer a question with a question but... What do you think? I am a free spirit so my answe is (cheesy I know) follow your heart and totally block your head out, don't think about it just go with it. Call her and talk some mo... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend acting crazy?

Q.   Hi Dearcupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and care about each other very much. However, we have been having trust issues in our relationship, mostly because of our age difference. He is over ten years older than me,...

A.   18 June 2012: There is absolutely no reason for him to act this way! The past is the past for a reason. Tell him to either trust you or break up with u because this is NOT FAIR on him or you! I know it's hard, I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 32. All it ... (read in full...)

Do I fight for him or move on?

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A.   29 May 2012: Facebook breaks all good things up! Ask him out on a date and define the relationship between you, make it clear you like him and see where it goes, this girl could just be someone he has known from child hood, you don't know! Go on... Ask... (read in full...)

How do I ask her to formally become my girlfriend?

Q.   There is a girl that I have known for about 6 months, and we have been dating for about 4. It hasn't been all perfect, and i have done things that i in a million years never thought i would do. About 2 months, I had a hook up with an ex that ...

A.   29 May 2012: Believe it or not but this works!!! "will you be my girlfriend" Honestly my boyfriend asked me, I was 19 and he was 30 and were still together now. Good luck x... (read in full...)

Can I get my medical records changed/updated?

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A.   28 May 2012: Ask the doc him/her self, just explain you find it kinda an offensive word and would like the full condition name listed or even "defect" I have that at my docs. I have radialulnarsynostosis (arm bones knitted) and it says on thier screens ... (read in full...)

How do I make my family see that age, nationality and religion don't matter to us!

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A.   28 May 2012: Are you happy with this guy? Do you love him? Is he a decent man? Can you see a future with this man? Would you like to live with this guy? Do you know your man, warts and all? If you answered yes to the above questions then the ball is i... (read in full...)

I have found out A LOT of dirty secrets about my boyfriend!

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A.   28 May 2012: Unorthodox really but.... 1. Wait until he is out and sell his stuff 2. Tell him you are leaving him because you have found someone better 3. Do step 2 in front of people 4. Never look back 5. Move on and be happy 6. Forget that t... (read in full...)

34 and single, will I ever find the right guy for me?

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A.   28 May 2012: Try speed dating, everyone is there for the same reason and everyone is nervousr, go with a friend, if you don't find anyone, at least you can have a laugh Good luck x... (read in full...)

How do I introduce myself?

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A.   28 May 2012: Go to school looking really pretty and literally "accidentally" bump into him, drop something that your holding and see if he picks it up for you then say sorry, and smile sweetly, casually "bump" into him a few more times then introduce yourself, ... (read in full...)

How do we approach that first kiss?

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A.   28 May 2012: Kiss him on the cheek and it will just happen when you are both ready. Good luck x... (read in full...)

It is too soon! How do I tell her I need a break?

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Is it a positive sign if he "likes" or comments on my facebook?

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Is it a positive sign if he "likes" or comments on my facebook?

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My 2 boyfriends know about each other, but what do I do with both of them?

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A.   23 January 2011: I think you should be with them both as friends or break up with them both completely- Whichever is easier on your heart. Then you can either reflect on your 2 relationships and make a decision as to which one you love, or you can start a fresh wi... (read in full...)

Would watching gay porn bring out these feelings in me?

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A.   23 January 2011: Ok all you need to do is figure out what your sexual desires are because everyone is different. If you are finding yourself attracted to guys rather than girls you may be gay and that is NOTHING to be ashamed about. Talk to people about this to a ... (read in full...)

Would watching gay porn bring out these feelings in me?

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Birthday ideas please.

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A.   25 August 2007: Karaoke sounds good, a buffet, some punch, disco lights, bubble machine, smoke machine(all of this can be hired out) bouncy castle (fun if you are drunk or sober) pool party(a big paddling pool, or swimming pool) barbecue, all sorts.... (read in full...)

Birthday ideas please.

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Does anyone know the legal age?

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A.   25 August 2007: Wow thats a bit of an age gap, but the legal age here in england is 16 to have sex im not sure how it is anywhere else, just do what you feel comfortable with, just remember it is too early to settle down with someone of that age, you need to have a ... (read in full...)

Was he using me all the way through our relationship?? I have so many questions to ask him but I'm too scared! Help!

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A.   17 June 2007: If u dont ask u will never know hun, follow ur heart if u want him back then giv it a try x... (read in full...)

He's somewhat of a jock, always around the beautiful girls but why doesn't he have a girlfriend?

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A.   30 May 2007: Maybe thats what it is babes, or he could just want to be single, guys have a wierd way of thinking like that! lol try and talk to him see what he's feeling because as i always say, you will never know if you don't ask! xXx... (read in full...)

My 32 year old married boss has started giving me lifts home. I KNOW he wants to take it further!

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A.   29 May 2007: Never leave the one you love for the one you like cause the one you like will leave you for the one they love. xXx... (read in full...)

Is it normal that sex is painful the first few times?

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A.   29 May 2007: Its very normal you have to get used to it sorry babe! Try foreplay or lubricant, it might ease the pain a bit. xXx... (read in full...)

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