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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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Is it possible to be addicted to another human being??
Q. can anyone help me please? I have been in love with my ex-husband since I was 15 (I am now 39). We had many break-ups due to his violence and alcoholism. I am now separated from him a year and a half but he still goes through my mind every single d...
A. 24 May 2007: Yes, it is. When you're with someone that long, you expect that the person will be there always. Has he tried getting help? A year and a half is a long time to be separated. You need to stop keeping things on a thread, and decide whether or not to ... (read in full...)
Has he dumped me?
Q. Hi all, I have been in a romantic affair with a lovely man for 9 months. He was the one doing all the running, and gave me a lot. I never gave him the pleasure of an answer as to how serious we were, and he kept asking me whether I would marry hi...
A. 24 May 2007: He wasn't calling to ask about your flu. Really. He had something else on his mind, and he kept losing the courage that he worked up to talk to you. The ball is in your court right now. I just got out of a relationship where the girl was ... (read in full...)
I've just recently caught my partner cheating and have thrown him out.
Q. I've just recently caught my partner cheating and have thrown him out. He now says it was a big mistake and wants us to work it out. i have children from a previous relationship and they are refusing to be in the same space as him and dont like him ...
A. 24 May 2007: Congratulations, you made the right choice. If he cheated on you, he doesn't love you, and doesn't respect you. I think that same old: "I made a mistake" line is nothing short of bs. Getting into bed with someone is a choice. He could have chosen ... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrongor should I dump him??
Q. ok, I have a boyfriend and i dont know what he is doing half of the time and he does not call me or e-mail me at all. I feel like im doing somethink wrong. Maybe i should not be with him. What do you think?...
A. 24 May 2007: Sometimes there's a reason why guys get distant. Instead of thinking only of yourself, ask him what's going on. When you really love someone, you have to be willing to put yourself aside and just listen. It seems like he's either not ready to commit ... (read in full...)
She's never been kissed before so how do I tell her I have feelings??
Q. Ok sorry if this is long but it's kinda compicated. I'l try to make it short. Ok about 6 months ago i met this woman in the pub she had been in afew times before but i'd never really spoke to her. Anyway most people know each other around here so ...
A. 24 May 2007: Tell her that you're falling for her, and that you can't change how you're feeling. Be a friend to her first, and foremost, because friends make the best couples. Ask her to give you a chance, and be willing to take baby steps. If she says yes, let ... (read in full...)
Things are great...except I hardly ever feel like having sex with my bf!!!
Q. hey, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and things are great... except when it gets to the bedroom.. i can be sexually involved with him... but i hardly ever feel like actually having sex. I know this isnt normal but i would like to know if ...
A. 24 May 2007: It's natural for women to want sex less than men. Men have a much higher sex drive. The question is, do you find your boyfriend sexually attractive? If he doesn't satisfy all of your needs, you should let him go, before you do a lot of damage.
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Why would he stare if he didnt like me??
Q. I really like this guy, but i havent told him. Yesterday, we were sitting around with a couple of people. From the side of my eye, i caught him staring at me. I looked back, smiled, and he kept looking, even after i turned away. I think this is a ...
A. 24 May 2007: He's probably interested. At the same time, be on your guard until you know what his intentions are. He could have an obsession problem... If it's true attraction, that's great.
Good luck,
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How do I drop a hint to my married co-worker, that I really him?
Q. I work with a manager who is about 48 yrs old. I like him a lot for his maturity, confidence, and sincere pride in his job and life. I'm a 20 yr old girl, but feel like he is someone I could get along really well with. I don't know if he likes me ...
A. 24 May 2007: Don't say a word to him. You're going to open up a can of worms.
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How do I stop my fiancees accusations, that I do things intentionally to annoy him?
Q. my fiancee thinks that im always up to something or doing something intentional agst him. But that is not true at all. For example, he cannot find the digital camera which I have put somewhere and I dont know where it is myself and am honest with ...
A. 24 May 2007: He probably won't. If he can't take your words for face value, then he can't trust you. You need to walk away and find someone that will. Stop settling.
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Attraction for my neglectful bf has waned! An old friend has caught my eye..he treats me great! what should I do?
Q. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I am seeing a guy who is still very much in the "one of the boys" phase, if his mates arrive when we have plans he includes them, even in a special dinner. After two months the little things he used to do ...
A. 24 May 2007: You need to break up with your boyfriend, and take a chance. Although there is risk, there is no love like being in love with your best friend. They know all of your insecurities, and interests, and will work around you better. Go for it. If he says ... (read in full...)
His gf dumped him and now--he rarely talks to me! What's going on here?
Q. Im going crazy!! Plz any advice is soo welcome here...brutial honesty sure beats tellin me what i want to hear!! Ok...me and my ex started chattin few weeks ago and he said all the right stuff (i luv u n miss u..never luv another more then i luv u) ...
A. 24 May 2007: Right now, he's changing his life to be with you. You're not sacrificing anything, but he is, and you need to give him time to adjust. It's not fair for you to expect so much, when he's already showing major change. Give him space. He obviously ... (read in full...)
Despite the abuse, she wants to make a go of it with the ex. Should I give this up?
Q. I was told that a workmate fancied me. I vowed to myself that I'd play it cool as she's got a child from a previous relationship in which she also suffered abuse. I wanted to get to know her properly first before anything else happened and also to ...
A. 24 May 2007: Unfortunately, this isn't a situation that you can fight for her in. She has a child, and if she's got it's best intentions at heart, you need to not be selfish. Respect her wishes, and move on to better waters.
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Does my gf not value my opinions? Any advice?
Q. I was left feeling felt un-needed, Last night i spent over an hour helping my girlfriend sort out a problem.... not a huge one but still... The problem was: She has work today for a temping agency and at the same time she has a job interview......
A. 24 May 2007: She does, but you need to be willing understand that yours isn't the be-all-end-all. There's an old saying that goes: "You can lead a camel from the desert to water, but you can't make him drink". People are going to get advice, but in the end, ... (read in full...)
I am feeling insecure because I have a younger husband..afraid I will lose him? Any advice?
Q. i am in my mid 30s, female. I have 2 kids and i got divorce long back. now i am happly married again to a younger man who is 6 years younger to me. we also have a year old son. but my problem is that i feel insecure of my marriage, coz my ...
A. 24 May 2007: Does he act loving to you? If he comes home to YOU every night, and not someone else, you have nothing to be insecure about. If you're the one he chooses to come home to, he's chosen to make you his world, and nobody else. Instead of spending your ... (read in full...)
I write out my feelings when I feel sad. Why can't the guy I'm dating could read my texts and realise that I'm hurting and I need his attention?
Q. when i am frustrated I have a tendency to scribe, i mean sending out sms and letters and notes... to the people especially the ones i am dating. What i have realised is that the more i scribe is the more i push them away, or its the more they do not ...
A. 24 May 2007: Guys aren't always good at picking up on things. If you have to, say it really loud, but in his presence. If you get his attention, he'll listen. You have to remind him that you have needs, and that he's not fulfilling them.
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He was no good for me! How do I get back my worthiness after being with him?
Q. I think my standards have dropped since being with a guy who was not good for me. How can I regain my standards and think that I am still worth what I once thought I was worth?...
A. 24 May 2007: Look in the mirror, and be happy with what you see. That takes time. Don't be in a rush to get back into a relationship just yet. Take a few months, and figure out what makes you happy. When you know what makes you happy, find someone who shares the ... (read in full...)
My in laws hate me and my husband doesn't stand up for me! Is this right?
Q. Hi - from the outset of my long (18 year) relationship with my husband (i have been married for 13) I have been relentlessly put down and bullied by my parents in law. This has ranged from making derogatory comments about my hair and my weight ( I ...
A. 24 May 2007: If your husband isn't willing to go to bat for you, and defend your honor, you need to walk away right now. A husband's job is to protect his wife and be good to her. If he's not, divorce him and find someone better.
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The other woman has his baby and wants my husband back! How do I deal with this?
Q. me and my husband have been together for a lil over a year and he has a baby by another woman and this other woman hates me and wants him back and during christmas she brought him over to see him but the whole time they were talking together and he ...
A. 24 May 2007: If they won't even talk in front of you, something is definitely up. I think that it's about time to walk away.
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Married one year and he has give me oral, only 3 times! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I've been with my my husband for a little over a year and he's only given me oral pleasure 3 times. He wont talk about it with me or anything. I give him oral pleasure all the time and as soon as i bring him giving me oral pleasure he ignores me. ...
A. 24 May 2007: You need to go to your husband and tell him that your needs aren't being met. Don't do anything for him until he's willing to do the same for you.
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Found out she was kissing another guy. Is this why she keeps asking for "breaks"?
Q. Me and my girlfriend started dating at the end of our 9th grade year, but the next year she moved 2 hours away. Since then we have still been together and in about 2 and a half weeks it will be 3 years since we started dating. Recently though she ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think the truth is this: She's not ready for any kind of commmitment. Now that she's in a new place, she probably wants to be able to flirt with random people, and test the waters. You, on the other hand, have different needs, and I think it's ... (read in full...)
Either this guy is not interested or he's very unsure! What should I do about this?
Q. Thank you to all who respond. I am dating a few men right now. There is one I like quite a bit. Mostly we email...I did ask if he would like to get together. The pattern is that I do not hear from him for a few days and then he emails back with a ...
A. 24 May 2007: You have to understand that just because someone is busy a lot doesn't mean that they're not thinking of you. If he takes the time out to apologize, it shows that you were on his mind. If he was making no attempt, then he wouldn't be interested. If ... (read in full...)
We're drifting apart and my husband says he's burned out! But I don't want a divorce...any advice?
Q. Hi, I am wondering if my marriage is going to survive. My husband and I have been drifting apart for sometime now. Now, he say he is burn out on the marriage and thinks we should both go and find our own happiness. Divorce has come up to, but ...
A. 24 May 2007: A relationship can't be one-sided. If he's not getting satisfied in the marraige, it's best if you walk away.
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Our marriage hit a rough patch and I cheated! Should I tell my husband?
Q. my husband is overseas hes been gone for 10 months and we were constantly fighting and he was always accusing me of cheatin on him and then my brother died and all he did was fight with me and i just couldnt take it anymore and i met a guy who was ...
A. 24 May 2007: Yes, you should. When you marry someone, it's for better or worse. You make a promise when you get married that if you can't handle the worst parts, that you should do your partner a favor and walk away. Couples are supposed to argue. It's part of ... (read in full...)
We love each other to bits but I'm desperate for a child and she is totally against it!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now. We both said we love each other and are planning to share an apartment together. We have talked about other things in the short term and the long term. The problem we have is probably one of the ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think that it's best that you two go your separate ways. I just broke up with my girlfriend because she wanted to be able to date around before committing. She's going to find me when she's ready, but until then, I know that she needs to go her ... (read in full...)
I am 21 year old and I'm really scared of intercourse.
Q. Hi, I am 21 year old and I'm really scared of intercourse. I am a virgin still. Is this normal and what can I do about it ?...
A. 24 May 2007: It may not be that you're scared of intercourse, but rather of being intimate with someone. When you find someone that you love, after a while, you'll be excited about it, I promise. Just give it time.
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I've been cheating on my boyfriend... what do I do for the best?
Q. i am not in love with my boy friend anymore and have been seeing someone else behind his back what should i do ...
A. 24 May 2007: You should break up with him, and let him move on to a relationship where his love is returned.
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He doesn't last more than 45 seconds when we have sex!
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for a while..I know that sex isn't everything..However, it is good if done right...I have a situation like this we engage in intercourse half the time there is no foreplay and he doesn't last for more than 45 ...
A. 24 May 2007: Although I have never engaged in intercourse, I've watched A LOT of documentaries on how to please a woman... He's probably getting so worked up ahead of time, that he cums almost immediately. You need to be sensual with him, and get him into a calm ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you REALLY love someone?
Q. How can you tell when you love someone? Please, I mean I love someone but I want to know how you can really tell???...
A. 24 May 2007: For me, I know when I'm willing to stand behind them on any decision they make, no matter what. I know when they look me in the eyes, and tell me that they believe in me. I know when I'm in love when they walk into the room, and I fall for them all ... (read in full...)
My bf won't let me drive my own car? Right or wrong?
Q. Is his behavior irrational? My fiance will argue with me if I don't let him drive my car. I don't see what the problem is since it belongs to me. I will let him do it once in awhile, but I like to drive my car when he's with me too. He has his own ...
A. 24 May 2007: It's your car, and you deserve to drive it. It he has a problem with it, show him the door. He's crazy.
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What does he mean by... "I'm only happy when you're happy" - given that he never asks me if I'm happy?!
Q. My husband of 7 years tells me he's happy when I'm happy. He will never ask me if I'm happy???, He will only mention "I'm Happy When Your Happy honey" or "As Long As Your Happy, That Makes Me Happy" whenever I get excited about something like a new ...
A. 23 May 2007: It is just a phrase. Guys generally say that when they're disinterested, bored or not particularly thrilled about something.
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How you tell someone to stop thinking about the future and everything too much
Q. Hi, I was just wondering how you tell someone to stop thinking about the future and everything too much? I've only been dating my boyfriend for a month, but we were very close friends for three years before this. I was in love with him through...
A. 23 May 2007: Voice your concerns immediately. You need to make it clear that he needs to slow down, and consider your opinion before making any plans.
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Guy's views please! Do guys normally make an effort to be nice to their best mate's ex gf (me) or does he really fancy me?
Q. hiya! I fancy my ex`s best mate and i have done since before me and my ex went out. The problem is that he only occasionly comes out with our group and when he does i just want to be near him and cant keep my eyes of him! The best mate is so nice ...
A. 23 May 2007: There's a rule among guys that they won't date a friend's ex - girlfriend. The only time that the rule is broken is if the ex(guy) gives the ok.
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Been seeing her for 4 months but I can't trust her! Will we make it?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for about 4 months now and we both have said we love each other. Problem i have is im not sure i trust her. i know this is MY problem but i know she has slept with a few of my mates in the past.however,she was dating ...
A. 23 May 2007: As long as there is no funny business going on, you have nothing to be worried about. You have to consider that they want to protect their child from any negativity that the may hold towards each other.
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I am so busy I have no time for a gf and my friends ignore me...any views?
Q. i cant be happy in my life there are too many responsibles on me that made me so busy to find a girl is fit to me and i feel that my friends ignore me and i cant tell them about this? thank you...
A. 23 May 2007: If your friends ignore you, they aren't friends. As far as not having time, I know people who work 70 hours a week, maintain their bills, and still make time to take out his wife and kids at least once a week. It's all about scheduling. Take control ... (read in full...)
Is she using me ? I'm always there for her and we share cuddles etc, but shes texting other guys all the time and wont give us a shot!!
Q. So I met this girl about half a year or more ago, right off the bat I was attracted to her, but I snoozed too long and she started going out with one of my good friends. I became the relationship counselor for her and began to get to know her and ...
A. 23 May 2007: I would walk away. When a girl says she just wants to be friends, you need to respect that. You need to stop cuddling with her, and give her space. The best thing for you to do would be move on and find someone who is willing to return your ... (read in full...)
Parted but back together again, can I trust him?
Q. Me and my partner split up after a series of rows now altho this was a very short split up when he come back i found a new number in his phone that belonged to a girl he chats to on the internet i also found a txt from her that indicated he had been ...
A. 23 May 2007: He's lying.
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Waiting for sex until after marriage, any opinions?
Q. Abstaining from sex till marriage? I’m a virgin, abstaining from sex till marriage. My main fear, if I’m even lucky enough to find love is that if my partner might cheat on me. The only reason I fear this is because of what I’ve heard in the medi...
A. 23 May 2007: I've made the same choice, and I stand behind it. Most people I've asked about it tell me that I've made the right choice. I've been told many stories about friends waking up next to people the next day, and regretting it. It's good that you want it ... (read in full...)
Do men respect women who make the first move?
Q. What do men think when a woman makes the first move towards getting to know each other? ...
A. 23 May 2007: I think that it's great. It's much easier for a guy to get to know a girl when it's on her terms. That way she can't complain that the guy was making her feel uncomfortable by asking too many questions off the bat. It's a good thing.
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I'm in a relationship where there is no direction and he ignores me! What should I do?
Q. My current boyfriend is not giving me any attention, we have been together for 3 months but the relationship is still with no direction. How can I make him jealous, so that he starts realising im there for him to come rushing back to me.... I plan...
A. 23 May 2007: No, he won't. You're playing a game, and at this point, he's probably trying to forget you. You're mad that he's not spending time with you, and when he attempts to, you blow him off. If you told him that you're starting to see other guys, then he's ... (read in full...)
Why is it that porn has become just 'acceptable behavior' for all guys? But many of them are not cool about it, when their gf's do it.
Q. Dear all, I have a question to ask. Sorry this is so long but I had to get it off my chest because I am very upset about it. When I was young, everyone knew that blokes would buy the odd Mayfair and a right of passage it seems would be your Mum ...
A. 23 May 2007: There are a lot of reasons behind this. Guys have a higher sex drive, so it's expected that they would need to look at porn all the time. Women supposedly have either a really high sex drive, or none at all, and are the greater percentage of people ... (read in full...)
Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?.
Q. Hi all, Would like your thoughts on this subject. Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?. I remember when we first used to kiss and cuddle and it was like melting in his arms. The sex was the best ever, and we couldnt lea...
A. 23 May 2007: With anything in life, things are exciting at first. After a while of seeing the same thing over and over, the flame dies. The problem that I see with most couples is that they would rather spend more time thinking about it, or arguing about it, ... (read in full...)
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