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writes:Ok. Here's the deal.About 2 months ago, I began to like a very good friend of mine. I'll call him 'Pete'. I've known him two years now. There's a problem though. Him and my other friend were dating for 4 years and broke it off recently, maybe a few months ago. I'll call her 'Amy'. Now before 'Pete' and I even went out on a single date, I made absolutely sure that it would be alright with 'Amy' first. That's the respectable thing to do. So all was good. Well, now 'Amy' has realized that she is lonely and is jealous of what 'Pete' and I have. We still aren't together together, but we're dating. So 'Amy' zeroed back in on 'Pete' and now he doesn't know what he wants. He's shared things with me that he hasn't with her, and he told me that he thinks he's in love with me. And now I believe that I'm falling in love with him as well.So my question is, should I wait around for him to make up his mind, or should I let him go?
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reader, DV1 +, writes (22 May 2007):
 As much as it may hurt, I think that you should be the better person and let him be happy. Let them have another go at their relationship, and if it doesn't work out, step up to the plate. Just let him know that he'll have another chance with you, but if something better comes along, you're going to take it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): well first of all isnt there a rule about going out with your friends ex's, this will make things really horrible for all three of you.
No matter how many times she told you it was ok
This sounds like a new break up ?, sta away untill he knows what he wants untill then get on with your life and you never now how is waiting round the corner
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): Hi, well from what ur telling us is that this is a new break up, you should have stayed away from Pete a friend ex should have stayed off limits. No matter how many times she told you it was ok for you to date her ex, the bottom line is wasnt and now your friendship is going to be under strain. stay away from pete untill he knows what he wants, if its you he will make it known. untill then move on with your life.
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reader, nicola79  +, writes (22 May 2007):
 well maybe just give him a bit longer? its how you feel really,personally i would ask him where his feelings lie and if he says that he doesnt know then maybe you should tell him that you really like him and want to be with him but its not right for him to keep you dangling, as for your friend she may not want him but it may be that she doesnt want you to have him either?
if he still cant make his mind up then just tell him that you should spend a bit of time apart and see how you both feel then?
i wish you all the best.xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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