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| | Midge's profile:I'm 32 years old and have a 41 year old boyfriend.
I was born and lived in South Africa until 1997, when I moved to Scotland.
Although I have my own business, I am also studying Psychology part time. I have always wanted to be able to help others, and have finally found something I want to do! |
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Why can't a 14 yearold date but not sleep with a 26 year old?
Q. I was just wondering something. You know how they say you shouldn't see anyone who's really older than you, like in a loving way? like say you're a teen who likes or thinks you're in love with someone say in their 20's or 30's. say you're like 14 ...
A. 25 July 2008: The problem isnt that its wrong for two people to be together as girlfriend and boyfriend if nothing sexually happens, the problem is that this doesnt happen. It always turns sexual because all one of you needs is to be a little aroused by what the ... (read in full...)
Can I win back my boyfriend after he cheated and get things back the way they used to be?
Q. So..hello. Recently, My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 year and about 6 months and before that on and off for about 6 months..we've been though alot for that amount of time. Cheating on his part. and I lost my virginity to him. But now,...
A. 22 July 2008: I'm sorry.........he wants you to do what????? Is it just me or does this guy sound as if he's on crack??
Sorry sweetheart but he has some nerve telling you that YOU have to win his love back after everything that HE has done.
And you need ... (read in full...)
What is worse, regret or rejection?
Q. I have always feared regret more than i fear rejection, but the rejections are mounting up I'm wondering if it would be best not to tell people i fancy them when i do, what d'you think?...
A. 22 July 2008: Trust me when I say regret is so much more painful than rejection. I missed out on someone so wonderful because I was too proud to say I was sorry. Its been 15 years and I never miss a day that I dont think of him.
At least with rejection you can ... (read in full...)
What can we do about my grandma?
Q. I'm so scared right now. My grandmother is very ill at the moment! She has severe memory loss, rarely knows what she's doing and basically has lost her mind. All the family are so concerned about her, she lives with my grandad who tries his best to ...
A. 21 July 2008: To be honest I am in a similar situation just now. My dad has severe alzheimers and he is only 66. He does stupid things and his memory is diabolical to say the least. His trade/hobbies has always been cars and buses, but obviously now he cant do ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that he hit me, or do I just keep getting with jerks?
Q. My past boyfriends have been abusive towards me and before I got with the guy I'm with now I told him that I was afraid to get hurt again and he promised me that he wouldn't ever hurt me. Well we've been together for 8 months now and he's hit me at ...
A. 21 July 2008: Dont worry sweetheart I used to suffer from the same syndrome. You are somehow attracted to every asshole that walks the earth. But dont worry you do grow out of it!
Anyone that EVER tells you that they hit you because of YOU, deserves to be shot ... (read in full...)
Not even a birthday present from my boyfriend. What am I worth to him?
Q. It was my birthday last weekend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. He's a very sweet guy, but not very good when it comes to suprises for me, or buying gifts ahead of time. I was over at his parent's house the day before my birthday ...
A. 19 July 2008: My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 10 years. In the 10 years we have been together he has remembered my birthday twice, only that was only because my mum called him the night before and reminded him. He completely forgot my 30th and ... (read in full...)
I feel as though this was my fault, my friend forced himself on me.
Q. I dont know how to explain this. I dont know if it's my fault... on the 7th July I went to wales, after work, and i got there about 11pm...so after working all day i was tired ect. I was going to see my friend...my best friend...who had...
A. 17 July 2008: As a victim of rape at age 15 I can tell you now that there is a lot more to come I'm afraid.
The first part of being a victim of rape is the feeling of questioning yourself. "Did I lead him on", "did I say something that he might of taken th... (read in full...)
Questions for women about thrush...
Q. Questions for women 1)Is thrush a common problem among women? 2)Do most women have this problem at least once in their life time? 3)How can you keep a check at preventing it? 4)Can this have an effect on your sex life?...
A. 17 July 2008: Try this website. http://www.womenshealthlondon.org.uk/leaflets/thrush/thrush.html... (read in full...)
How do I deal with nerves? Alcohol's my escape so far!
Q. please help how do i deal with nerves- alcohols my best solution so far eek! thanks :)...
A. 9 July 2008: Need a little more information here. What kind of nerves? What type of situation?... (read in full...)
I'll be away travelling for a year, should I break up and hope to get back together when I return home?
Q. hi guys..im plannin on goin to australia traveling with 2 best friends in febuary, thing is my boyfriend, i really dont want to leave him...were only 2gether a year but we have been best friends since we were 14 and now we have finally got together ...
A. 9 July 2008: My boyfriend and I have been together 10 years. He is a roadie so is away for months at a time. He has in the past two years been away for 6 months, then back for 10 days then away again for 6 months. It is hard but we love each other enough to be ... (read in full...)
Do I send the flowers to her work or her house?
Q. Sending flowers to a girl. She works in a restaurant as a waitress/hostess. No idea if I should send the flowers there or to her house. If she worked in an office then it might be better to send them to work, but a restaurant may be kind of ...
A. 9 July 2008: Definately her house. I had flowers delivered to me at a restaurant once, and by the time I got home they were wrecked. There is no good place to put them at work so everywhere I did put them people had to move it to get into where they needed.
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I watched in despair as the woman I love flew out of my life forever. Do I risk it all and follow her?
Q. I need some help. yesterday i watched in horror as the love of my life flew out to australia. We were together for 3 years, and we just drifted apart, with her at uni and me starting a new job. i am older than her, and i think to be honest she just ...
A. 9 July 2008: Trust me, you only get one shot at true love! If you think this is it, and you love this girl.........why the hell are you listening to us gabbering on.........why arent you on a plane already???????... (read in full...)
I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?
Q. ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...
A. 8 July 2008: It sounds very much like a urinary infection. Woman are prone to getting them. If untreated it can become very serious so I suggest you get it seen to. In the meantime however, I would seriously suggest going and buying yourself some cranberry juice ... (read in full...)
I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?
Q. ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...
A. 8 July 2008: It sounds very much like a urinary infection. Woman are prone to getting them. If untreated it can become very serious so I suggest you get it seen to. In the meantime however, I would seriously suggest going and buying yourself some cranberry juice ... (read in full...)
I only like receiving oral sex, any suggestions, to help me reciprocate?
Q. Hello. I have some sort of phobia or fear or disgust of giving oral to a women. Now I've been with my girlfriend for a year and she is very relaxed in giving me oral and demands none because she knows how I feel which I really appreciate of he...
A. 3 July 2008: Actually you are not alone on this one. I have to admit that I used to feel EXACTLY the same. My boyfriends loved oral and I just felt like it was a chore because I felt sick doing it. I felt like I had to go wash my mouth out as soon as it was ... (read in full...)
If you get fired from work, what do you put on your CV?
Q. Just a quick question.A colleague was recently sacked/fired at my workplace for a silly mistake(she was having an affair with a married colleague).She,myself and another girl all started at the same time (we have been there for 2 years now) and we ...
A. 2 July 2008: Its a difficult one because of course you should be honest, but at the same time it could destroy any chances of getting another job.
It really depends on the position you are gonna go for. Some employers, not all, do actually contact previous... (read in full...)
I miss my ex girlfriend, I miss my kids' mom and feel terrible. My boys have never seen me cry and I fear they might hear me at night...
Q. Hello. This is somewhat difficult for me to talk about but here it goes. I am a 36yr old single father of twins. I have raised them since they were born. Their mother is in prison and is out of the picture. I have no regrets about raising my ...
A. 28 June 2008: Just from what you have said, I can feel the pain you have.
I'd like to start off by saying what a man and father you are to have dealt with all these things so head on. I only wish there were many more of you that take their responsi... (read in full...)
Are there any faithful women out there ,...or not?
Q. All the women i have ever dated cheated on me one way or another i looked at my self more closely i didnt see anything seriously wrong with me and how i treat these women is it ok to think that there are no faithful women out there no more ?...
A. 27 June 2008: Sweetheart it sounds like you are attracted to the wrong woman, and nothing to do with there being no faithful woman in the world.
I have bee with my boyfriend for 10 years and have never even contemplated cheating on him. Never!
There may not... (read in full...)
Any help on making my Curriculum Vitae?
Q. i know this isnt to do with relationships but ive seen that this site is just soo helpful!! i really need a bit of help with writing a CV ive just left school and am looking round for jobs as im bored stupid and also need a litle cash before goin...
A. 25 June 2008: Some years ago I went and had someone professionally write my cv for me. It cost a bundle but it is well worth it. If you want, send me your details and I'll email you a template.
Put it this way, every job I have ever applied for, I have gotten b... (read in full...)
How can I get on birth control without going to my mother's doctor?
Q. well the thing is i want to be put on birth control and i have been haveing sex for about 3 weeks now and and we been using a condom but how does a 17 year old girl get birth control with out going to my mothers doctor and she nows i want birth ...
A. 25 June 2008: Family planning clinic. You dont need a parents concent to go and all they will do is ask you some questions about your sex life and find out if you know the risks. And they give you contraception free!... (read in full...)
Has anyone let love go due to fear of commitment?
Q. Has anyone ever let a love go because they were afraid to commit and then after realized they made a mistake? Or did it mean he was not the one for me and I was right in doing what I did?...
A. 25 June 2008: Yes and I have to admit I have always regretted it. Sorry to be so blunt!
I met a guy, had feelings for him but I was young, so decided that I would move on and wait until we were a little older. A few months later he was killed, so I never go... (read in full...)
Is sex in a commitment better than one night stands?
Q. hi i want to no if being in a committed relationship make sex more pleasurable to women than casual sex...
A. 25 June 2008: I have to admit, being in love and making love to your partner is so much more pleasureable than having sex with some guy that you just met. All I would be thinking about is where has his bits been before me, how clean is the guy and what viruses ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mother want to meet my boyfriend?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating three months, and it's got more serious in that time. I've met his mum, now I want him to meet mine. Problem is, that Mum doesn't want to meet him. When I suggested it, she went on about how she doesn't ...
A. 23 June 2008: I think its more to do with the fact that she has issues with her little girl growing up and getting into relationships. Possibly relationships where she feels that you are (whether her feelings and justified or not)going to get hurt. This is her ... (read in full...)
Am I beign unreasonable??
Q. I have been happily married for a decade. My husband has always had lots of female friends, who I get along with usually. Recently, my husband met a single mum of one and I did not really mind. I went to meet her but she ignored me most of the time ...
A. 22 June 2008: I dont think you are being unreasonable at all, but I do think that you need to be clear about bounderies here. He obviously isnt too sure about where bounderies start and end and this is where the problems are coming in.
You need to sit down and... (read in full...)
Do you think I should still go there to see him or cancel the ticket and wait to see what he does??
Q. me and my fiancee broke up a few weeks ago, but we have been talking all this time..when he talks to me he says he misses me and wants to be see me, so i bought a plane ticket to go see him thinking we could work things out, but then he calls me two ...
A. 22 June 2008: Quite honestly if it were me, I'd be thinking that he obviously said what he felt at the time, so there must be some truth to what he said. The fact that he has changed his mind doesnt forgive him for what he said.
If it were me, I'd cancel m... (read in full...)
I tried to apologise but he said it's over. How can I cope?
Q. Me and my boyfriend fell out 3 weeks ago and after 1 week of not speaking I rang him to apologise but he didn't answer so i left a message. 2 weeks later I had heard nothing back so I rang him to try and sort things out and he told me he thought I ...
A. 22 June 2008: I know if may sound really terrible but there is no easy way to get over someone. I am a very big believer in the fact that an ex is an ex for a reason.
Okay so you had an argument and you at least had the guts to call him and apologise. That tak... (read in full...)
My husband has been diagnosed as having 3 months to live, could the doctor be wrong?
Q. hi guys. i have been married 2years to the love of my life. I mean THE love of my life. Im 5months pregnant with twins. My husband got a lump on his neck checked out a few weeks ago. he came home yesterday to tell me that the doctor says at best ...
A. 21 June 2008: So sorry to here the news. But at least you got to tell him how much you loved him, and he passed knowing that he was truly loved!... (read in full...)
I have pimples. How can I get rid of them?
Q. i have pimples on my face there not every where theyre mainly just on my chin but they are cinda big andi think that most girls dont realy want to hang out with me because of them outher wise i would be realy good looking can any one suggest a good ...
A. 20 June 2008: So glad to hear that! Just remember to do it once a week and make sure that you always keep your skin nice and clean. Dont go buying all those pimple products that are always advertised on tv because most of the time you have natural products at ... (read in full...)
Any woman had a hysterectomy due to cervical cancer? Any advice?
Q. Any woman diagnosed with HPV and had a hysterectomy due to Cervical Cancer as a result of HPV ??? I need some answers or advice? Thanx a billion....
A. 19 June 2008: My mom had cervical cancer and had to get a hysterectomy about 20 years ago now.
I am not sure what you want to know about it, but I am happy to answer if I can.
One thing I know for certain is that your sex drive does deteriorate a LO... (read in full...)
What constitutes cheating?
Q. Hi to all you advisors out there on this site. I don't have a problem, but here's the story. A few weeks ago we had friends over and somehow the subject of my 'former best friend' came up. He is only a 'former best friend' because of his divorce, he ...
A. 19 June 2008: I agree 100% with you. I would however say that I would NOT constitute having a fantasy about someone as cheating. You havent done anything wrong. You have thought about it Yes, but you have not done anything about it. It works the same as "you can ... (read in full...)
Bullying problem! I need help!
Q. hello, i'm a 14 year old female living in england. I know this page is for love and sex questions but i have a really important one...about bulling. Its a long story but please read. Last friday me and my friend "AM" skived school. Even tho...
A. 16 June 2008: This is a difficult question because I dont feel that there is any "right" way to sort this out without anyone being put into a difficult situation.
Okay, I was bullied at primary school and I mean big time! So I can see where you are coming f... (read in full...)
It's like she lives on another planet. Is this abnormal and how do I fix it?
Q. My wife of five years is driving me crazy. We're both Christians but she, unlike me, is very devout and has an incredibly attitude towards all forms of physical intimacy. She isn't interested in having kids and does not believe in recreational sex. ...
A. 15 June 2008: Okay, my boyfriend is a devout Catholic. He feels very much the same way as your wife, however, me being a Christian and to be honest, a very naughty one, we came to a compromise when it came down to things like sex.
My boyfriend would NEVER ev... (read in full...)
They're making fun of me - how do I deal with that?
Q. almost every one at school makes fun of me because i'm not strong,athletic,or tall what do i do...
A. 15 June 2008: Ever heard the saying "dynamite comes in small packages", well trust me it does.
I was made fun of as a kid of your age because I was tiny. I was thin and scrawney, I could run but then find I would trip over my own feet so it gave them a little... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl really be just friends?
Q. Can a guy and a girl really be just friends? And by friends, I mean more then just talk and hang out in the same group. I mean have a proper friendship. Can they be best friends? So far in my life, at age of 19, I havent been able to have that. An...
A. 15 June 2008: Yes, at school all my friends apart from one were guys. My girl friend stopped speaking to me when I moved country, but my guy friends still talk to me to this day and even come over for holidays and stay with me.
The thing is, we all know whe... (read in full...)
I have pimples. How can I get rid of them?
Q. i have pimples on my face there not every where theyre mainly just on my chin but they are cinda big andi think that most girls dont realy want to hang out with me because of them outher wise i would be realy good looking can any one suggest a good ...
A. 14 June 2008: I would always just rub the salt in for about a minute or two. Make sure you rub it in enough to get it into all the pores of your skin. It doesnt dry your skin out, which I think most people think salt would do. So dont worry about that. A minute ... (read in full...)
What do you think the average age to have your first child in today's society?
Q. Consider the fact that you're a working woman that have your own career, what do you think the average age to have your first child in today's society?...
A. 12 June 2008: I think each case is individual. Both my sisters had their first kid when they were 19 years old. I personally think that is too young because you have not lived, nor have you any career. But that is just a personal opinion. I am sure there are MANY ... (read in full...)
I have pimples. How can I get rid of them?
Q. i have pimples on my face there not every where theyre mainly just on my chin but they are cinda big andi think that most girls dont realy want to hang out with me because of them outher wise i would be realy good looking can any one suggest a good ...
A. 12 June 2008: It may sound like a silly thing to do, but honestly, I was shocked the first time I used it. My skin had never been so smooth and supple since birth! It also clears away blackheads and I dont know how, but it does seem to work. Anyway, no harm in ... (read in full...)
Am I going in the right direction if I want to lose weight?
Q. i have a health problem as told from other people and i know this myself. i am quite over weight lets say around 45 pounds overweight and it's been 4 years since i was in great shape. now i am not in great shape. i've been thinking about my weight ...
A. 12 June 2008: Okay, I have been told by my doctor that I need to loose 2 stone because of a medical condition that I have. So I have done something similar to you:-
I have three small meals a day, whether I want them or not. Made up by fruit, vegetable a little... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I fancy transvestites?
Q. Is it weird that I fancy transvestites? I am a 19yo female in a loving realtionship but I keep fantasising about trannies and have started masterbating watching this porn.. Is this normal or just weird?...
A. 12 June 2008: Hey, I am a firm believer that so long as you are not hurting anyone, whatever rocks your boat hunnie!
If its trannies that does it for you, so be it. Some straight people like watching gay porn. Why, I couldnt tell you, but they do and they get... (read in full...)
I have pimples. How can I get rid of them?
Q. i have pimples on my face there not every where theyre mainly just on my chin but they are cinda big andi think that most girls dont realy want to hang out with me because of them outher wise i would be realy good looking can any one suggest a good ...
A. 11 June 2008: Actually something that my mum told me some years ago that I originally dismissed, but later tried and it worked was good old household salt.
Wash your face with soap and water, then take a little bowl of table salt and rub it into your skin. It... (read in full...)
My husband has been diagnosed as having 3 months to live, could the doctor be wrong?
Q. hi guys. i have been married 2years to the love of my life. I mean THE love of my life. Im 5months pregnant with twins. My husband got a lump on his neck checked out a few weeks ago. he came home yesterday to tell me that the doctor says at best ...
A. 29 May 2008: I cant say how sorry I am! I couldnt imagine having to go through that. Just remember to make the time you have together count. Say all the things you want to say and tell each other how much you mean to each other each day. God Bless!... (read in full...)
My husband has been diagnosed as having 3 months to live, could the doctor be wrong?
Q. hi guys. i have been married 2years to the love of my life. I mean THE love of my life. Im 5months pregnant with twins. My husband got a lump on his neck checked out a few weeks ago. he came home yesterday to tell me that the doctor says at best ...
A. 27 May 2008: I am so sorry to here this!
If you are pregnant, your hormones are gonna be having a field day, so unfortunately your reaction, however severe was just that, hormones.
The doctors could be wrong or they could be right! But for heaven sake, don... (read in full...)
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