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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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He treats me like crap. What should I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been togeather for 6 years. i luv him alot. But i wonder if he really luvs me.He never takes me anywhere or buys me anything. If I ask him for anthing including sex. Its always NO! Whats the big deal, Id do anything for him. ...
A. 9 July 2007: It sounds like you aren't happy. If he's quick to say no to sex, or doesn't spend time or money on you, it's really not worth sticking around. It may be hard, but the best thing that you can do for yourself is to get rid of him and move on to better ... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: Let everyone know about him. Don't bother getting even. Eventually, vengeance becomes one face, then another, until one day, you've forgotten what actually started it all.
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Am I possessive, or is going camping with another guy normal?
Q. Hi, Have used this site before and it helped me out a lot so I hope it can this time. Basically me and my girlfriend have been together for about 7-8 months, we both love each other, but living a bit too far away from each other to see each othe...
A. 9 July 2007: Try to trust her. If she comes back acting all weird, then your suspicions will be vindicated. If not, then everything is fine...
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When we have sex, I think he's thinking about someone else.
Q. im scared that when my bf and i have sex that he is thinkin of some one else because i just caught him looking at porn yesterday and now it bothers me to be around him andi feel as if he is going to cheat on me what should i do?...
A. 9 July 2007: All guys look at porn. If you have a boyfriend who doesn't look at porn, be very, very worried. It's expected for guys to do that. It in no way means that he's going to cheat on you.
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What does a comfortable man look like?
Q. What are signs that a man is comfortable in his relationship and how soon into the relationship should this happen?...
A. 3 July 2007: If he can walk into the room with his hair messed up, his worst torn up shirt, and a pair of shoes with the toe out... If he lets you see him at his worst, he's definitely comfortable... It takes time...
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My girlfriend is driving me crazy with her clingy behaviour
Q. My girlfriend is really clingy, and lately it's been doing my head in more than usual. She wants to see me 4-5 times a week... I can't remember the last time I just got a night to myself guilt-free to chill, but she says she can't understand why I ...
A. 2 July 2007: It sounds like she's extremely selfish. Every person needs their space! It varies from couple to couple. Some don't like to be separate at all, and some like lots of space. It sounds like she's jealous that you're giving attention to ANYONE, from ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend
Q. Ok well my bf cheated on me with my bestfriend not even just once but like 4 times in like a few days and i found out obviously which he is also her ex boyfriend and she cheated on her boyfriend with mine but what do i do its hard for me to be mad ...
A. 1 July 2007: 1. If she was your friend, she wouldn't have done it.
2. She's willing to sacrifice your friendship and her relationship for her own needs, therefore showing how little people mean to her.
3. Your now ex never liked or respected you in the firs... (read in full...)
I have another chance of making a go of it with her.
Q. So I am about to go see this girl that I once kinda had a thing with. We weren't together but we acted like it. She kinda treated me bad and then just stopped talking to me. I was really upset. Then I found out she was moving and somehow we started ...
A. 29 June 2007: This time, if you're both ready for commitment, I would go for it. You two will end up hurting each other if you're not actually together. It will make things awkward... If you have a chance to do it, go for it...
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Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening?
Q. Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening? I did drop a couple of hints as he is unable to attend the ceremony and thought he might do so last time I saw him but he did not and just dismissed it. He is very ...
A. 29 June 2007: It depends... Man law says that if it's a male, he's not allowed, but if it's a girl, it's ok...
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I'm only 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19 is this relationship illegal?
Q. I'm in a realtionship, I'm only 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19 is this relationship illegal?...
A. 28 June 2007: As long as you wait until you're of legal age to have sex, it's fine. If you try to tempt him, he'll be in jail for years, and there will be no relationship...
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My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?
Q. My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...
A. 28 June 2007: You can actually send an e-mail to the webmaster @ Myspace... They really respond to things like this, and can have her account shut down. As a parent, she's not entitled to keep an account without your permission. Revoke any internet usage that she ... (read in full...)
He always hides little things from me from his ex and child and I wish he wouldn't.
Q. Female from San Francisco. I have been married for 5 years. My husband was married before and has one child. He always hides little things from me from his ex and child or other things. everytime I comfront him he says that that life is over and...
A. 27 June 2007: Respect his privacy. You need to be willing to let him move on from his past, and if you're going to force him to relive it daily, then he deserves better.
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Is it wrong to want to cheat on my husband with a married man?
Q. I'm in a bit of bother! I have feelings for my friends husband, and he has feelings for me too (More sexually driven). We love our partners but have this urge for each other that is so so so strong. We dont see each other anymore but we still cha...
A. 26 June 2007: Hell yeah!! You're destroying two marraiges!! Until you're both divorced, you shouldn't act upon anything!! What about his wife? Do you care about that? Do you really have to ask this question? It's obvious as far as morals are concerned!
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Rememberance
Q. In remembrance- For one time, I thought it might be ok to skip a question and just give condolences to someone recently past. WWE wrestler Chris Benoit, and his family were all found dead in the their Atlanta, Georgia home. Chris Benoit was a tru...
A. 26 June 2007: I feel like the police are not even considering a fact that anyone they knew could have been there doing everything. There would have been no signs of forced entry. Instead, they would rather shut the case quickly due to his celebrity... If he is ... (read in full...)
How do I prepare to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time?
Q. Ok so I have been going out with this guy now for about 2 years and I am 16 and he is 26.. I know the age right. Well he has deffently had sex. And I have but it was always really quick in and out. So I am worried that I might bleed while I have sex ...
A. 26 June 2007: You don't prepare. If you have sex with him, he will go to jail. I'm really suprised that everyone on here would be pushing you to go through with it. You want him to go to jail? That's a little selfish...
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Broke up with him because the sex was too painful... should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I broke it off with my boyfriend because sex with him was extremely painful. It was my first time and i felt he was not as gentle as i would have liked him to be. We never even kissed for he said he hates kissing and there was no fore play. wh...
A. 26 June 2007: Definitely ditch him. Foreplay is supposed to be a requirement, especially during your first time. If you were bleeding that much, and he continued, he has SERIOUS problems!! If he's not willing to put his own satisfaction aside, then you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me--what do I do now?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me--we have been together 5 yrs, lived together for 3 yrs and now living apart until we find a house. She went away working and came back and confessed that she slept with someone...it was a one off she said. What do I do?...
A. 26 June 2007: She obviously doesn't love you back, or respect you enough to save it for you. The best thing that you can do is move on, no matter how much it may appear to hurt.
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I want to wait until she is old enough to date
Q. Following up from my previous question whereby I asked for advice concerning the 4 and a half year gap (14/19)between myself and the girl I met I just want to thank everyone for reassuring me about how I am no 'monster' as I put it. Going on the a...
A. 26 June 2007: You really should date people 18 and up...
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I want to kiss but not tell!
Q. Hi please help. I want to kiss my new bf so so so bad but how do i let him know with out telling him. PLEASE HELP!...
A. 26 June 2007: Go up to him and give him a kiss that will knock his socks off...
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He found out he has leukemia and the stress caused me to lose our baby
Q. hi i recently found this GREAT guy and he's really sensetive and handsome so after a few dates we finaly had sex and i pregnant and were both happy so were gonna get married in a few years when we both have more money not long away so we se...
A. 26 June 2007: If you love him, stick by him...
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He bled during oral sex--what could these mean?
Q. i have known this guy for a little while we get along really well and have a lot in common. He is a really lovely guy that takes my breath away. In the weekend we flirted the whole time we were at this party and finally ended up kissing. This kiss ...
A. 25 June 2007: Have hope that he didn't have a herpes sore or something... I would get checked out A.S.A.P.!! Also, call him and see if he and his uhh... friend are ok...
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My fiance wants sex every night and gets angry when I don't provide!
Q. dear cupid, i am in trouble. my fiance wants to have sex every night, and if i don't feel like having sex he gets really mad and it makes me so unhappy. it's not that i don't love him because i am very much in love with him, but sometimes i am t...
A. 25 June 2007: I agree. If he married you only because he thought that it would mean constant sex, then a divorce looms in a horizon. You need to be with someone who's not going to throw a hissy fit when they have to respect your wishes. You deserve better.
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He's driven me to cheating again
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend when we first got together with a guy i had been seeing previously, i have always liked recently i have have stronger feelings for him and he also, they are so strong i think i love him! my boyfriend hasnt been treating me ...
A. 25 June 2007: Just because we have temptation doesn't mean that we have to give in to it. If that were the case, most of was would be either dead, extremely overweight, or have serious issues.
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My married bf has no time for me, now and I'm depressed about it! What can I do?
Q. Hi friends I am married and after my 1st child born, i love to someone in my office in first sight love. Till now I am in love with him (means 12 years now) I love him so much and he also love me too. I don't know why I do not have any kind of...
A. 25 June 2007: It sounds like you need to divorce your husband. You both are being very selfish by not considering your respective spouses.
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Now that her ex knows about me, shes not sure how she feels!!!
Q. Hello there, i really need advice :( I have been completely devastated, and dont know what to do. there is a girl in my life, who i have known for over 2 years. she and i both had respectible relationhips, yet i finished mine before she did. ...
A. 25 June 2007: I just got out of that same situation. You're better off single for the time being. The best thing that you can do is tell her that you two can't be together until she's sure where her heart is at. Tell her that you can't wait around, but to give ... (read in full...)
I want photos of my classmates as memories, is it too weird to ask them?
Q. So, is it ok for me to ask poeple i barely know much, [my class] to pose for photos?? i feel really weird, cuz, what if they say no? what if they think im like mental or weird and need their pic to like fantasize over it? ahah, im essagerating, but ...
A. 25 June 2007: Have you tried Facebook? It's a much less awkward route...
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I have faded stretch marks on my breasts; is this a turn-off for men?
Q. Um, well the thing is, is that im super insecure about my breasts. I have a nice set, or so Im told, but the have stretch marks on them because they grew so fast. The stretch marks arent that visible they are a white color but Im always afraid that ...
A. 25 June 2007: It depends on if the guy is shallow or not. As long as the girl takes care of herself hygeine-wise, I wouldn't care. The only physical things that matter to me are that a girl remembers to shower, and take care of their body.
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She slept with someone before I even met her and my jealousy is consuming me
Q. I have a girlfriend who I love very much, but before I met her she slept with a colleague of mine. I cant help thinking about it and everytime I go for a drink with friends I end up finishing with her for this one reason. I also get very angry and ...
A. 25 June 2007: I agree. If you can't deal with her whole past, you can't deal with being with her. Period. If that's going to be the case, you might as well quit dating, because everyone's got some sort of past, regardless of whether or not you like it.
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How do I hint that I want to kiss him?
Q. ok well i really like my bf and i want to kiss him so bad but how do i send the signs that i want to so that he knows with out me telling him. ...
A. 25 June 2007: As a guy, I can tell you a way that I would love... I'm not sure if you mean best friend or boyfriend... It seems like you mean best friend in this case. If this is the case, tell him your feelings, and don't just rush to kiss him. It won't mean ... (read in full...)
My friend keeps cheating on all the boys she's been with! I'm sick of it!
Q. ok i dont know what to do heres the story my friend is dating a guy named cory and she really likes him and he really likes her but she was talking to his friend kyle who she has never seen and she asked him out when cory was at his house and he...
A. 25 June 2007: Every time she gets a boyfriend, if you know him, or someone that he knows, tell them of her past. Until she grows up, she won't learn her lesson. It's going to take a reality check for her. She needs to lose everything, and be humbled to realize ... (read in full...)
He's driven me to cheating again
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend when we first got together with a guy i had been seeing previously, i have always liked recently i have have stronger feelings for him and he also, they are so strong i think i love him! my boyfriend hasnt been treating me ...
A. 25 June 2007: You can't expect him to forgive you right away. Forgiveness and healing take time. It's obvious by your actions that you never loved, cared for, or respected his human need for time to heal emotional wounds. You obviously didn't even respect him, ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he won't back off
Q. Hello, im 17 and my ex is 20, we broke up about 2 weeks ago because he was way too immature. ive moved on but he hasnt. hes very bipolar and immature. hes going through my friends and trying to talk to them, he makes it clear he wants me back but ...
A. 25 June 2007: Don't give him power over your life. Ask your friends to stop talking to him about you. If they don't listen, they're not helping things, and I would distance yourself from them.
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I kissed another girl when I was drunk; should I tell my girlfriend and risk hurting her, or keep it quiet?
Q. hello, i am 18 years old and a freshman in college. my girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 months. i truly think this girl is "the one" for me and i am very much in love with her. i know it's early on in the relationship, but i can't help how i ...
A. 25 June 2007: You should tell her. It's your choice: Hurt her a lot now, or a lot worse later.
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My boyfriend is 17 years older than I--I worry about how other people see us!
Q. I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? ...
A. 24 June 2007: After you hit 21, it really doesn't matter what people think. You're both legal, consenting adults, who care about each other. What everyone else thinks shouldn't matter, unless he's abusive, and your friends and family get involved. As this doesn't ... (read in full...)
Trouble with a woman at work--am I being beastly?
Q. A girl who is very nice and sociable and always tries to help is getting on my nerves. She's always messing around with lots of documents that have to be controlled by me and the other day we had a quarrel. I told her to tell me exactly what ...
A. 24 June 2007: I think that you're justified in this situation.
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I'm in love with my closest male friend.
Q. I'm in love with my closest male friend. For about 4 years now i've felt realy realy close to him and for the past year i've been wanting more that his friendship. he knows i like him because one night i got drunk and told him. he told me that he ...
A. 24 June 2007: It's doing more damage to your friendship by not being together. It's always best to date your best friend.
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My girlfriend wants me to get rid of all my stuff before she moves in--help!
Q. I need help with this problem. My girlfriend is moving in with me and she is telling me one way or another to get rid of all my home contents left from my last marriage. That means all furniture from the bedroom, TV room, all the kitchen contents...
A. 24 June 2007: She's coming into YOUR house. If she wants you to get rid of your stuff from your house, tell her not to bother moving in!!
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I was a virgin and now he wants to be f*** buddies! I'm so confused, please help!
Q. I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? ...
A. 24 June 2007: You're not being selfish. Generally when people have sex, they're in love. You didn't do anything wrong. It sounds like he used you, and wants to again. Don't waste your time with him.
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We agreed to try for a baby--now he wants me to get rid of it!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years we are also living together. We both agreed to try for a baby--then last week when I found out I was pregnant I told him and he was so disappointed and told me to get rid of it. I was so confused...
A. 24 June 2007: Get a paternity test proving that he's the father, then force him to pay child support. Then get that piece of garbage out of your life. He's a child.
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Does ejaculating damage my body?
Q. dear guys, i'm 13 ad i am just beginning to masterbate, i have ejaculted once and i dont want to do it again because i don't want to damage mt body, but i crave it so much, i am not a sicko, i just want advice. please help thanks ...
A. 24 June 2007: It's safe. It's actually one of the best forms of exercise that you can get. It improves blood circulation, and is one of the only workouts the work on the muscles of your entire body all at once...
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We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 24 June 2007: All that you can do is respect her mother. If you two only care about each other as friends, you don't really need to hold each other and be anywhere near a bed...
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