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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 5 June 2007: It seems like he's got your best interests at heart. You're not ready to be with him, as you've got issues. He's doing the right thing-letting you go. When you REALLY love someone, you know what's best for them, and you know when they need space to ... (read in full...)
Can two people who genuinely care and love each other make their relationship work even if they are living two seperate lives?
Q. My girlfriend of three years and I have recently split. It has completely devasted me as I thought of her as my future wife. After putting the pieces together, I have come to the conclusion that the biggest reason for the break-up was because we are ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you love her, take your car, or take a bus, and get down to see her. If you make an effort, she'll come get you. Stop looking for an excuse. The only way you can save your relationship is to fight like hell. Prove to this girl that you're worth ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 30 May 2007: Wait a minute, this is rich. Let me see if I understand this: your boyfriend has been acting up? Your boyfriend? Good way to get the attention off of yourself. You're just as guilty, if not more, than he is. He's not a toy to be played with. You ... (read in full...)
Could it be that I am still a virgin at my age because of possibly low testosterone(male sex hormone)levels?
Q. NB: Please reply to THIS question; ignore the previous one- it was accidentally posted prematurely! I am a 27 year old male student, at University (a late starter), in the UK. My problem is that, at the age of 27 years, I have never had any se...
A. 30 May 2007: I'm going to keep it short, sweet, and cut right to the point. When you hit your 20's, age doesn't matter. Girls like older guys. I've dated my share of younger girls. Have faith in yourself. If you feel uncomfortable with girls on campus, think of ... (read in full...)
Can two people who genuinely care and love each other make their relationship work even if they are living two seperate lives?
Q. My girlfriend of three years and I have recently split. It has completely devasted me as I thought of her as my future wife. After putting the pieces together, I have come to the conclusion that the biggest reason for the break-up was because we are ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you guys let your work or your school get in the way of your relationship, then you never had a strong one to begin with. If you really loved each other, you would both go to your occupation/school during the day, then see each other during the ... (read in full...)
How do I really know that I made the right decision?
Q. Hi Everyone - your help is needed! I split up with my partner of 4 years over two months ago now. I had been feeling confused over my feelings for him for a good few months before finally ending things. I think I have changed over time and don't ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you didn't feel anything for him anymore, than you made the right decision. He didn't deserve to have it dragged out, and you ended it, which was kind of you. If you can't see a future with him, that answers your question. If you don't see a ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my girlfriend and are starting to turn my head round to their way of thinking.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 37. I'm into her (I'm not sure I love her though) but my parents and family isn't big time. They're also not thrilled about her having a 15 year old son. They keep telling me I'm being suckered in cause sh...
A. 30 May 2007: If you two love each other, it's your business. If you're prepared to take on father responsibilities, go for it.
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Why would a guy say one thing then leave me waiting?
Q. They say men are from mars and women are from venus...how true!! ok so me and my ex have been in contact since we split up a few years ago hes been telling me over the weekend how much he still fancies me but when he arranged to meet me tonight in a ...
A. 29 May 2007: He might have arrived later than planned. Guys tend to do that. Don't read too much into it. Try again.
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I'm a 27 year old male and have never had sex...
Q. Hi, I would appreciate some advice, I am a 27 year old male, at University (a late starter), in the UK. My problem is that, at the age of 27 years, I have never had any sexual experience with the opposite sex, girlfriends/rela...
A. 29 May 2007: I'm 22, and proud of my virginity. We're a valued commodity, apparently. It's due to the norm of sleeping around. Don't worry yourself over it. Just keep searching for that special someone, and share it with someone special.
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This is really embarrassing, I keep itching down below its driving me mad
Q. Hi, This is really embarrassing, I keep itching down below its driving me mad...I have used all the thrush creams on the market but it still persits.....To my horror I went to the GUM clinic and was tested for loads of STD's even though I am marri...
A. 29 May 2007: It may be a bacterial infection. Ask your doctor to check for bacteria...
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I'm 14 and I think I'm gay!
Q. im 14 know. And i think im gay. I like girls still. But i cant help but look at other boys when were in the gym showers. Its strange, because i want to be with girls, yet i want to 'do thing' with boys! help?...
A. 29 May 2007: You may be either bi or bi-curious. You're at an age of experimentation, and it's natural for you to be curious.
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He's sending signals one minute then backing off the next, what should I do?
Q. dear agony aunts and uncles i need your help, ive have just met this guy and i cannot get him out of my head he is sending signals one minute and then backing away the next i don't know what i should do please give me some help A.S.A.P PLZZZZZZ...
A. 29 May 2007: Go up to him and ask him!
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I heard he's going to ask me to marry him and I don't know what to say to him.
Q. Hey, I am going out with a guy and I have been for almost a year now. His friends have told me that he's going to ask me to marry him. At first when they told me I was really excited about it because we were both really into each other, but now when ...
A. 29 May 2007: He's probably been nervous! I imagine that he's going over 80 million different times, places, and ways to pop the question. He's probably overthinking everything, because he probably wants it to be perfect, and therefore may seem deep in thought ... (read in full...)
He finished with me, saying we were just "plodding along"!
Q. I'm 43, divorced and have 1 child. I have been seeing a man who is going through a divorce for 1yr 9mths. I love him 100% and want to be with him forever. He dumped me last week saying he thought we were just plodding along but he did love me and ...
A. 29 May 2007: What he's saying is that you weren't keeping him emotionally satisfied. If you two have been seeing each other for a while, he was probably hoping that you would mention the desire for a greater commitment... Try telling him how you feel.
Good luck... (read in full...)
We broke up but I love him so much and I KNOW he still loves me. What shall I do?
Q. I am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 in we have ben to gether for at least 6 months and last night he told me we have been together too long and i ask him so what's that suppose to mean he said nothing. But before last night he told me we are going be ...
A. 29 May 2007: You made a mistake, and you're learning consequences firsthand. It was your choice. All you can do is keep asking his forgiveness, and trying to prove it to him until he's convinced.
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I'll do anything for it to be how we once were...
Q. ok so im 8month pregnant, 15, and by boyfriend -hes the dad- keeps forcing me into sex, he sexually abuses me and accuses me of cheating on him and goes everywere with me and if he cant he gets one of his m8s to go with me instead , he beats me up ...
A. 29 May 2007: You've done nothing wrong. He's a PSCYHO!! He's CRAZY!! Pack your bags, and go somewhere where he can't find you. Get your number changed, get a new job, and start over. If you stay with him, you will most likely die, or have permanent damage done ... (read in full...)
She won't stop texting him and he's not interested but won't tell her plainly!
Q. My children's father and I got back together at the end of January 07. We have a 10 and 8 year old. He was dating/sleeping with this girl for about 5 months..Nothing serious at all..He basically would go over her house late night. She really feels ...
A. 29 May 2007: If it comes to it, get a number change... On most new phones, there is also a block feature...
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Do I have the right to be upset about her being so close to her work colleague?
Q. Ive dated a girl for 3 yrs. Ive caught her in lies. At functions or a few parties she used to ignore me and talk to others, that was in the beginning. My big question, she went on a college recruiting trip for a company, when she flew up to meet ...
A. 29 May 2007: Sure you do. A married woman should NOT be sharing a bedroom with a colleauge from work, regardless of how many beds are in the room. When she says that she's going to his room to go over work, that's her nice way of telling you that they're having ... (read in full...)
I've been in contact with my ex for the past 4 months, should I ask him out again?
Q. Hi, Can anyone tell me please this guy is driving me crazy, he is my ex from years back we have been e-mailing each other for the past 4 months now only about once or twice a month as we are both busy with our jobs, I keep them brief and put in a...
A. 29 May 2007: I'm sorry to say, he probably thinks that you're trying to maintain a friendship with him. If you still love him, tell him, and see if he would be willing to give it another shot. If it didn't end on bad terms, it shouldn't be an issue.
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I threw my vibrator in the bin and now I can't pleasure myself properly, any suggestions?
Q. hia just a quickish question, im in a great 1 year relationship and we are a very sexual couple. but when i am not with him, i still become kinky and i cant pleasure myself no matter what. i did have a vibe but i threw that in the bin when i moved ...
A. 29 May 2007: I would either invest in a new toy, or hold it in. If you do a lot of foreplay, you'll experience a lot more pleasure, and he'll take pleasure in giving you more satisfaction.
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Should I patiently wait for the house or rent a flat with him?
Q. My bf started his own business 2 weeks ago. His goal is to earn enough so we can buy a house together and live comfortably. I once said to myself I’m not going to be marrying/moving in with a guy unless we have our own house. It has been hard for me ...
A. 29 May 2007: If you want to be with him, does it really matter. As long as there's a roof over your head, and love under it, it shouldn't matter. You guys won't even need a house until it's time to start a family. Just be loving to him.
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I told my mom my boyfriend is 12 years older than me, now she's going to tell my stepdad!
Q. im 19 years old and have a bf whos older then me he is 31, ive told my mom as i thought i could tell her, but she keeps saying she is going to tell my step dad but i know he will leave if she does what should i do as i really like this guy and i ...
A. 29 May 2007: It's none of their business. You're 19, and a legally consenting adult. There's nothing that they can do.
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How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 29 May 2007: I have a feeling that he'll be getting in touch with you. Wait for him for a few months, and if you don't hear anything, move on. I don't think that you'll need to worry about it. When he gets into contact with you, ask him to listen for a little ... (read in full...)
Living with the bf will mean a very long commute for me to work! Will this interfere in our relationship in the furture?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distant relationship (2hrs drive) but still make every effort to see each other every weekend. Since now our relationship has become more serious, not seeing him for a week drives us crazy. We are looking into moving ...
A. 29 May 2007: It shouldn't get in the way at all. With all of the good things, like cuddling and making love to go home to, don't the good parts outweigh one bad thing?
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Dealing with my bf and his ex at their daughter's b'day party. How should I cope?
Q. My boyfriend’s daughter is having a 7th birthday party next weekend. It’s going to be at my boyfriend’s ex’s house. For some reason, I’m feeling uneasy about it. I’ve been to the girl’s birthday party last year and seeing the 3 of them together ...
A. 29 May 2007: Keep in mind, that this party is for his daughter, and not for you. It's her night, let her have it. She's growing up, and how you act could rub off on her in a negative way. Go and be civil. You'll appear to be more mature.
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Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? Any views?
Q. Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? My boyfriend’s parents absolutely love me and want us to get married. On the other hand, my parents always try to find things to criticize about and tell me I should wait and see ...
A. 29 May 2007: Your parents just don't seem to be prepared to let their little girl grow up. Don't worry about it.
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Can't orgasm and different positions don't work...what can I do?
Q. I have been having sex for over a year but cant orgasm, i have tries different positions still dont work. please help...
A. 29 May 2007: A lot of girls I know can only orgasm through masturbation or clitoral stimulation. Try oral sex.
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Not sure if he's the one I want..however, a new guy looks interesting! Should I go on a 'break'?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years, and things have been great. but recently they have faded pretty badly. I know i love him and i want to be with him but i think things are going to burn out. There is another guy i know ...
A. 29 May 2007: Tell him that you need to see what it's like to be with other people for a while. Just don't expect to get him back if you want to be with him again.
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He's pressuring me for sex! Break up now with him or later after exams are done?
Q. I have a boyfriend, and weve been going out for nearly 3 months. Weve done sexual things, but not sex. We have nearly had sex, but got walked in Now when he tries, i back out, and ive decied that i dont want to, and i dont regret my decision. I a...
A. 29 May 2007: If you don't want to be with him, or have sex with him, let him know. Don't drag it out.
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Why do men chicken out when it comes to the question of marriage?
Q. Why do men chicken out when it comes to the question of marriage? Even if they are mid twenty?...
A. 29 May 2007: A lot of people, guys and girls, are commitment phobic these days. The norm these days seems to be sleeping and dating around, and losing your virginity at a young age. It's a shame that the world is becoming like this...
Not all guys are like this... (read in full...)
Is it my duty as a son to satisfy the emotional and psychological needs of my parents?
Q. Is it my duty as a son to satisfy the emotional and psychological needs of my parents, especially my mother? Why is it that my parents want to bully me in to doing this job for them? I am 25 yrs old guy.. please advice....
A. 29 May 2007: You are 25 years old. Unless you live at home, you don't have to follow their rules, or do what they ask you to. You don't even have to answer your phone when they call.
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How can I stop? I am TOTALLY addicted to porn!
Q. I am totally addicted to porn. I try not to think about it but when im on my own all I do is sit there and stare at my laptop until I get up and look at porn. It's getting annoying but I can't stop it. I don't think it porn is acceptable either but ...
A. 29 May 2007: Try and seek counseling. The first step is telling your parents that you have a problem. It will come as a shock, but if you're genuine, it's their job to try and get you help.
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I had unprotected sex on Saturday night...
Q. I had unprotected sex on Saturday night, I am on the pill but was just finishing my period and had taken the first pill out of my new pack on that day. How probable is it that I could get pregnant? I don't want to wait until my next period to find ...
A. 29 May 2007: There's always .01 chance. It's only occurred a few times.
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We're on a break as my girlfriend has said she doesn't trust me and it's driving me mad not seeing her.
Q. I would like some input on this as its very upseting for me and i feel i have no control over the situation. Me and my girlfriend are on a break for 1 month. She feels she cannot trust me because a few weeks ago we had an argument and my ex ...
A. 29 May 2007: Let her find you. If she's ready to listen, tell her that you just needed a friend, and it so happened that you were still friends with your ex. If she can't handle you maintaining friendships with your exes instead of holding negativity towards ... (read in full...)
How do I decide if 'He genuinely made a mistake'?
Q. Soon after me and my ex boyfriend broke up he got together with a girl he knew. I removed myself from the picture as he had been rude and disrespectful towards me throughout the 1 year relationship and I guess he had her ready for when he broke up ...
A. 29 May 2007: As far as you're concerned, he didn't make any mistake. You guys were broken up, which means that you were both single, which means that you both had the right to see other people. He shouldn't have to apologize. Voice your concerns, and ask him why ... (read in full...)
My 32 year old married boss has started giving me lifts home. I KNOW he wants to take it further!
Q. hi, im 17 years old have a boyfriend and have a part time job as a waitress. my boss is 32 and married with kids. recently when he is giving me lifts home we have started going for a drive and ended up kissing many times and i know he wants to take ...
A. 29 May 2007: You should let your boyfriend go, first. He doesn't deserve to be disrespected in this manner. He's abusing his power, not to mention being unprofessional, and destroying his own marraige. You both are being very selfish. I'm sorry for your ... (read in full...)
What is she really saying? Do I just walk way and let it go?
Q. Hi, Okay, help please. I just broke up w/ my gf of 5 years. She and I had a talk the other night, and she told me she still loves me, but because of earlier times, she doesn't trust me. I haven't cheated, but when we met, i was with someone els...
A. 29 May 2007: It's time to let go. It's going to hurt, but she seems to be trying to leave peacefully so that you both hurt a little less.
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I'm madly in love with a married man, he's my world!
Q. I am a lady of 44 years and am madly in love with a married man. My love is immense. Even he loves me to the core but he says he has his responsibilities. And moreover he is in Delhi and am in Bangalore. We met only once and made love. We cant be ...
A. 29 May 2007: The only thing that you can do is move on. It's selfish to be willing to break up a marriage and/or family for your own needs. Find someone who isn't married.
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I am vegetarian and my boyfriend told me he has a job... CHICKEN CATCHING!!!! I'm devastated!
Q. Even though my boyfriend knows that I am a vegetarian for animal welfare reasons, he has accepted a job offer and gone tonight chicken catching in a chicken factory. I was appalled at his decision and asked him not to go (It is a cash job for one ...
A. 29 May 2007: You have to realize, that in this day and age, sometimes money is money. We don't all like our jobs, and you shouldn't make it worse for him.
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We had an argument and he stayed out all night, checked his phone- was put on hold and heard her talking about payment for sexual services!!!
Q. hi all, in a bit of a delenma, wonder could u help me with some advice or opinions. Myself and my boyfriend are 3yrs together, we have 2yr old son. Had terrible row that lasted whole weekend, we are both very head strong people and neither of us ...
A. 29 May 2007: This isn't a healthy relationship. If he's going that far to hurt you, you should drop him a.s.a.p.
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She invites me over to her house and all she does is snog her boyfriend, it's soooooo embarrassing!
Q. I'm at the end of my tether. My best friend and her boyfriend invite me over to her house. Then all they do is kiss, pull and do things infront of me that make me feel REALLY uncomfortable. They don't have any other friends becoz when they ...
A. 29 May 2007: Stop going over. It's time to find a new circle of friends. If you have a hobby, go somewhere where there are people that share your hobby. If they ever break up, tell her that it was her loss.
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I'm married but was seeing a guy at work, now he's blocked me and I don't know how to handle being around him in the workplace.
Q. im married but got involved with a guy i met through work, the only thing i ask was that he would be honest with me and if he wanted to call it a day just say so, that way we could stay friends and when we did meet through work there wouldnt be a ...
A. 29 May 2007: You should be worried about the consequences of your actions, and how it will effect your future and marraige.
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I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother.
Q. I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother. I have known him since elementry school and even back then I really liked him, He is a freshman like me so at first when I became friends with his little sister it was kinda awkward ...
A. 29 May 2007: There's only one way to find out, and that's to pull him aside and ask him.
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How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 29 May 2007: It seems like he just needs space for a while, and if you love him, you'll respect that. That doesn't mean go and date/sleep with someone else. If you love him wholeheartedly, you will wait for him, unless he says otherwise.
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I'm in love with a married man! Do I break up with my twice-as-old-as-me-boyfriend!?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids ...
A. 28 May 2007: It seems like you're willing to hurt a whole lot of people. You're willing for him to lose his wife, his kids, and possibly everything, just to be with you? That's extremely selfish. That's not even mentioning that fact that you're willing to ... (read in full...)
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