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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 24 June 2007: All that you can do is respect her mother. If you two only care about each other as friends, you don't really need to hold each other and be anywhere near a bed...
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He is always looking at me and smiling. Does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy at my college and I have been told that he likes me, he keeps looking at me and trying to catch my eye and when he is talking to me and my friends he focuses on me, he also smiles constantly when looking and talking to me. D...
A. 24 June 2007: The only way that you're going to know is to ask him.
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I hate porn and no guy I am with is going to look at it!
Q. Are there an men who would be satisfied with one female sexualy? Is this too much to ask? I mean not be interested in porn etc...I ask this because I am considering whether to start dating again..Frankly Im very against porn for political and ...
A. 24 June 2007: If you don't want to date a guy that watches porn, then you would have to date a guy that's asexual, which is very hard to come by. They won't feel anything sexual at all. That's the closest that I see you getting. It's an expectation for guys to ... (read in full...)
The sex with him is awful; should I leave him, or cheat?
Q. my kids father and i just recently reconnected and before the sex was amazing and now its terrible, i just made him stop and get off me i am not satified with the way he handles me. i try to spice it up but hes not intrested. its like were 2 dead ...
A. 24 June 2007: If you two can't satisfy each other, you're not in a relationship. You're wasting time and energy.
It's not right to cheat on him because you're not getting satisfied. If you'd rather cheat than improve your marraige, you didn't deserve him maki... (read in full...)
My mate caught me kissing her boyfriend
Q. my mate is going out with the boy i have totally loved since primary n i know he likes me. his mum n my mum r like best mates so i was round his today, sittin on his bed talkin n we both got really carried away n we ended up full on kissin. whilst ...
A. 24 June 2007: There's nothing that you can do. The moment that you sat on his bed, you took your friendship and threw it out the window. It shows how little the friendship with your friend meant to you. You don't deserve to hang out with your former friend ever ... (read in full...)
I'm in a secret relationship with an older man--should I be afraid of the law?
Q. Please help me--I am in a 1 year 7 month secret relationship with a 31 year old man. We love each other to bits. Can he get in trouble with the police if my parents go to the police? And we both want to try for a baby--can he get in trouble ...
A. 23 June 2007: Yes, he can. You're still a child, and he can be caught on rape charges, not to mention a child shouldn't be having a child.
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He's been with someone else the whole 5 years I've been with him. Should I stay with someone who has lied to me all this time?
Q. Well im a 26 year old who was with someone who is 39 and we've known each other for about 5 years. we have been together 3 years and i recently got a phone call from a woman who told me they have been together for 9 years. He admitted they were ...
A. 23 June 2007: No way. If he did it once, he'll do it again.
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I think I'm losing her to another guy
Q. Okay i have been with this girl for 4 months now and i trust her and love her to no end but every time i cant hang out she goes and hangs out with this other guy. The way our summer schedule has worked out we haven't been able to see each other for ...
A. 22 June 2007: I agree. I think that she's replacing you. Get rid of her and move on from her.
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I can't afford to give him sweet gifts for no reason like he can! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 18 years old and dating an absolutely fantastic guy. He's wonderful, treats me well, everything is great. So obviously that's not a problem. The problem is gifts and things. This guy comes from a pretty wealthy family, he work...
A. 22 June 2007: The guy is supposed to pay for everything. It's basic manners. All that most guys is expect in return is for you to be faithful, and be loving to him as often as you can...
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Am I too young to really be in love with her?
Q. So many say I am too young to feel love. I would lke to know when it isn't so young. how will I know I love someone. Cause I feel something toward a girl. I talk to her when she feels down. I don't let her pay for anythign when we hang out. I think ...
A. 22 June 2007: I don't think that 15 is too young to be in love. I fell in love with my best friend at 14, and I still love her to this moment. :)
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He shows me no affection; I have to ask for cuddles!
Q. Thank you for your help but I have more to add. My parents are both loving and although sometimes cringeworthy, they act like love sick teenages and they have been together for 33 years. I have longed for someone to be silly like that with me but ...
A. 22 June 2007: I know that this may sound harsh, but a relationship requires two people. If he groans at the mere thought of keeping you satisfied, then you shouldn't be with him. That's a one-sided relationship, and you should leave him immediately. It's not ... (read in full...)
My bf won't show me his penis after a year's realtionship! Any ideas as to what's wrong?
Q. Right..I've bin havin sex with my b/f for a few months now..when he "broke me in" it was really difficult..it took us at least 4-5 attemps..he has done probably everything imaginable to my body but even after a YEAR! he refuses to show me his penis ...
A. 22 June 2007: I think that he has serious problems... If he's forcing you to do anything sexual without your consent, that's called RAPE. Having your "cherry popped" means that you've broken your hymen. It generally happens during sex...
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I'm scared I'm too young to have sex with him
Q. hiya im 14 years old i have a boy friend, I trust him with all my heart He Asked me the other day " do i want sex ? " I sed " I dont know i sed ill tel u wen im ready to " but i think i am but im ready to but im scared that i am to young .. wh...
A. 22 June 2007: You're too young. Unless you're prepared for the consequences, you shouldn't. I don't understand why you would even think about it at your age. You're still a child...
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Lots of things make me think my boyfriend may be cheating... such as his secret myspace pages!
Q. I have been with someone for almost two years. We are moving in together in 2 weeks. Whats mine is his and vice versa. I love him dearly but I have trust issues with him. I have never caught him cheating on me but here are a few examples of what ...
A. 22 June 2007: I can tell you that he's cheating on you... DV1... (read in full...)
My husband was seeing prostitutes while I was pregnant, has been searching for women to date online and is always bad tempered since the birth of my baby. Should I leave him?
Q. Hello, I have been married for 4 years, and together with my husband for the past 7, and I gave birth to our baby boy last September. My husband has been unable or unwilling to have sex with me for the past 3 years on and off, and since I was 8 we...
A. 21 June 2007: Yes, you should.
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I am 16 and I am in love with a 23 year old guy...but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. i am 16 and i am in love with a 23 year old guy, he is perfect in every single way but he already has a girlfriend, what should i do? i can't get him out of my head and whenever we see each other we always have a really good chat. help! what should ...
A. 21 June 2007: Until you are 18, you shouldn't do a thing. He is also in a relationship,and you need to respect that. If he liked you, he would be with you, and not her. He wants someone older that he can have sex with, not to mention spend his time with. It would ... (read in full...)
He's told everyone about how I lost my virginity to him! What should I do? Help!
Q. I recently broke up with an ex but I remained friends with his friends. I lost my virginity to my ex and he's been bragging to every person who will listen about it and it makes me so embarrassed! His friends tell me intimate details that he...
A. 20 June 2007: Ask him to stop. If he doesn't, all you can do is ignore it, or spread rumors about how small he is...
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I don't know if I should tell him I like him--before I go abroad!
Q. I really like this guy, met him when he was in a relationship with his ex and was there for him when they broke up. I was working with him offshore for 4 weeks, living and working together. nothing happened then coz i was also in a relationship. w...
A. 20 June 2007: Sit him down, and tell him that you're interested in him, and that if he's not, you'd like to maintain a friendship. He'll respect that. You definitely need to tell him before you leave. Otherwise, you'll be thinking about it during your entire ... (read in full...)
My husband wants more sex than I can handle!
Q. My husband wants to have sex twice a day and I am not able to comply. I feel so sad. What should I do? ...
A. 20 June 2007: If you can't have sex twice a day, you could try doing other things to stimulate him. There is always oral sex, or masturbation. That may help.
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My jealousy is ruining my relationship!
Q. Hi all, Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, she's 22 and i'm 18. I have several different problems. First is my jealousy, i get jealous over stupid little things that dont even matter. I always think about her past as well, she dabbled ...
A. 20 June 2007: Wake up tomorrow and make a choice. I know that it sounds stupid, but you're making a choice to be this way. Loving someone means putting your trust in them. If you don't trust her, you don't love her. It sounds like you're getting a little out of ... (read in full...)
I have issues with trusting people not just my boyfriend, how do I learn to trust people?
Q. I accuse my boyfriend of cheating, though he spends all his free time with me. I have issues with trusting people not just him how do I learn to trust people?...
A. 20 June 2007: Life only lasts so long, so while we're here, we've got to take chances while we've got them. All we can do is extend our line of trust, and hope to pull back something good. It doesn't always work out, but it's the lessons that we take from it that ... (read in full...)
I want to cheat again, but I know it's wrong--help!
Q. I'm having trouble with the relationship between my boyfriend and I. We've been together for a year and a half now and have lived together for a year. For the past 10 months I felt like he was treating me more like a roommate them a girlfriend. ...
A. 20 June 2007: Have a talk with the other guy, and let him know that you're taken. Tell him that you made a mistake, and don't intend on repeating it, because you intend on repairing your relationship. If you still feel tempted, then you should let your current ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell anyone!
Q. hi i am 16 and really scared. my bf just dumped me and i think i am pregnant. i dont know what to do because my dad and mum will kill me as we are catholic so i cant get rid of it either. he was 19 by he way and i am soo scared. the only other ...
A. 20 June 2007: Go to a doctor and get tested. If you're pregnant, you've got many decisions to make. He's going to have to step up. If you're pregnant, you're obligated to tell him. Wait until you're 100 percent sure to tell him. Your parents will be upset, but ... (read in full...)
Everyone at school knows who I like--I'm so embarrassed!
Q. Well because i haven't been in school since monday my friend told me today that this girl that i told who i fancied told this boy and he shouted it out and EVERYONE heard and now the boy i fancy knows and because im new at that school its going to ...
A. 20 June 2007: Be proud of the fact that you like him. If you really like him, you should want the entire world to know it... :)
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We haven't had sex for a month because we both live with our parents... any tips?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months now and we love each other very much. The only problem we have is the sex issue. It is great .... when we get time! We are both 20 and we both still live at home with our parents. This is very ...
A. 20 June 2007: Does he have a car? Go out to a random parking lot or a field in the middle nowhere... If you guys can do the whole flower field thing, it would be really romantic...
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I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?
Q. I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?...
A. 19 June 2007: Personally, I would say no way. Are you ready for the possibility of pregnancy, or STD's? You're still a little girl, and you shouldn't be rushing into things like that...
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I'm dating a guy online. How do I know it's not going to be a "pedo's trap" when I finally meet him?
Q. Ok here goes... I am going out with this guy i met online, thing is i havnet met him face 2 face and we have made plans for the future! am i crazy? is this guy for real? or am i falling for a peados trap? plz help me!!!...
A. 19 June 2007: Don't meet him alone. Bring your biggest, baddest guy friend along, and make sure that it's on your terms.
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Got asked out while at the library and said "no" even though I wanted to say yes... !
Q. A guy introduced himself at the library and asked me out. He asked me in front of the librarian and I turned him down out of sheer embarrassment. Now that I think the encounter over, I want to see him again just to talk to him. Is it possible ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you run into him again, just tell him that he came on a little too strong, and that you need small steps... It should work itself out...
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He is leaving for a year. Should we break up now or later?
Q. My boyfriend is going travelling for a year and he's leaving in 5 months. We will have been together for just over a year by the time he goes. In this time I have grown to like him a lot. I am dreading him going and I realise how hard it is g...
A. 19 June 2007: Can't you go with him? I understand that you both have your lives, but when you love someone, it's worth making changes and sacrifices for both your benefit...
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Should I go up and speak to her or what???
Q. a girl at college keeps givin me looks but quickly turning when i catch her eye! is she trying to tell me something or would i be wasting my time making a move on her?...
A. 18 June 2007: It's either a really bad thing, or a really good thing. "Accidentally" bump into her when you're "in a rush"...
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Is a relationship of 5 months too short a time for a break?
Q. hi, im seeing my boyfriend now for 5 months, im 32 with 2 kids and he is 26, thing is we are arguing alot lately and decide 2 weeks ago that we shouldnt see each other any more. my guy is also in the middle of buying his first home and said all the ...
A. 18 June 2007: It sounds like he's having doubts. Give him a few weeks of space. Don't read anything into it. If you don't hear from him for about a month, move onto someone new...
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I cheated on my boyfriend during our 9 month relationship. He caught me. What can I do?
Q. Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now but i have cheated on him twice and he has just caught me out. there is no way i could deny anything. He doesn't want to end it but what shall i do? i feel so sick and its making me ill... How can ...
A. 18 June 2007: Obviously, you don't love or respect him, or you wouldn't have cheated on you. You're lucky that he hasn't outright dumped you and/or completely lost it on you. The best thing that you can do for him is to break up with him and let him find someone ... (read in full...)
I like my ex and he likes me back, but he has a girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. Well I have fallen hard for my best friend, who is also my ex-boyfriend. I have liked him since the beginning of this year and I told him a month ago, but he has a girlfriend. He says he does like me too which I believe because he was (not sounding ...
A. 18 June 2007: All that you can do is either move on, or wait it out. If you choose to wait it out, do it for a little while. You need to respect the fact that they're in a relationship. If it doesn't seem to pan out over a few months, move on.
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Is it considered slutty to sleep with someone a week into a relationship when one of them is a virgin?
Q. I need peoples opinions here... Do u think its slutty to sleep with someone a week into the relationship, if one of the people are virgins? ....If yes what do you think is an apropriate amount of time to wait?...
A. 18 June 2007: Personally, I think that it's incredibly wrong. You two are just getting to know each other at this point. It wouldn't make any kind of sense to sleep with him unless you plan on being
a) his sex toy from now on
b) the word of the town
c) the on... (read in full...)
Worried about sexual advances from my boyfriend. Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and my boyfriend has started to hint he wants to finger me. We've been together 2 months now and I want him to, but am a little nervous about it because I've never had it done before. I've tried masterbating myself but I've never actually ...
A. 18 June 2007: Don't fake it... That's one of the biggest things that you can do to insult a guy, especially if he finds out. Just experiment a little bit on your own, and find out what works for you. Be honest about your situation to him. Also, ask him to respect ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your meant to be together?
Q. How do you know if your meant to be together? i met this guy in hs,he was w/ his gf. We started talking n really clicked, n he didn't want be w/his gf but felt like a jerk if he just broke it off w/her. So he was going wait until she finds anothe...
A. 18 June 2007: If he's not happy with her, and you're not happy with your boyfriend, then you two need to break things off with your respective partners. Marraige is only made for people who are in love with each other... It sounds like he's just trying to make ... (read in full...)
I dont want to date her anymore, let alone go to the dinner party, how do I get out of it politely ?
Q. I've been invited to a dinner party ona date yet to be confirmed with the girl I've been seeing. I suggested dates I could make. It's primarily her friends attending the dinner. I no longer want to see this girl and I don't want to go to the ...
A. 14 June 2007: The best thing that you can do is be honest. If you don't have feelings for this girl anymore, you need to tell her. Be nice about it, and don't do it in a rude tone.
Everything will turn out ok.
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Should a guy go back to his pregnant ex, even if he loves someone else?
Q. Tell me something, if a man breaks up with someone, decides to move on, finds a new girlfriend and they are both happy, and then suddenly the ex says that she is pregnant with his child does he have to leave this new love and go back to the other ...
A. 13 June 2007: If an ex told me that they were pregnant, I would ask for proof.
He's already built a new life for himself, and nobody can take that away from him.
If it is his, he has the right for visitation, but doesn't have to go back to a hateful relation... (read in full...)
I really want to ask her out, should I "accidently" be working outside the school when she comes out (she works there) or what?
Q. Hi im 23 and have been going through a very weird problem. Well me and this girl had been friends since we were 3 and when we were 15 we became boyfriend and girlfriend and loved each other very much. My mum never liked it and about a year n a half ...
A. 12 June 2007: If you remember where she lives, drop by and say: "hi". That's the best start. Don't go into it with high expectations. Tell her that you were back in town, and that you thought to say hi to her. She'll most likely appreciate this gesture. Hang out ... (read in full...)
My new girlfriend was in a long term relationship where she was expected to preform oral sex on her ex but he did little to non back to her. Thus, she has learned to really hate doing it.
Q. My new girlfriend was in a long term relationship where she was expected to preform oral sex on her ex but he did little to non back to her. Thus, she has learned to really hate doing it. I love to give and receive. I told her that I didnt want ...
A. 12 June 2007: All you can do is wait it out. Giving her time and space to deal with her past is the best thing that you can do.
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He wants to give me oral but I'm a bit self conscious about how I look down there.
Q. My boyfriend wants to do oral on me (ive done it to him) and i want him to but I'm just a bit self concious about how I look! I know im probably worrying about nothing but i cant help it! i do shave but not right down there coz i dont wanna cut ...
A. 12 June 2007: That shouldn't matter. As long as you're clean, he shouldn't care. If he loves you for who you are, it doesn't matter.
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