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I am interesting kind fellow, I have always been one of those people that everyone always talks to, even if I don't know THEM! But i've been told im approchable, and thats what i like.

I am currently working in the IT field and live in Nottingham. I am Engaged with a beautiful son.

I hope I can help someone.

Is my boyfriend gay???

Q.   Is my boyfriend gay? I have questioned my boyfriend's sexuality a bit in our relationship. He is not exactly metrosexual, but he has some interesting tendancies. He is always concerned about his appearance, although he doesn't know the difference ...

A.   11 June 2007: I'm bi, and yes i like elton john. But you have to remember he is with YOU, not a guy. The kissing thing is very much fashionable at the moment. Dont worry to much. Smile Hope this helps... (read in full...)

How do we ensure that child support arrears are paid?

Q.   Husband continued to pay ex-wife child support for five years even thou the child lived with us. We finally got full custody and judge ordered her to pay back the five years of support. The child is now 18 and ex-wife wants the child emancipated ...

A.   11 June 2007: Try free family law clinics in the area... (read in full...)

Foreskin is tight...how long before it naturally pulls back?

Q.   Hey, a few weeks ago i realised even tho' my foreskin was tight it could be pulled back all the way. I have only managed to perform this in the bath so far, i haven't done it for a while but i'm thinking, im gonna do it everyday, but how long would ...

A.   11 June 2007: Shouldnt take too long. You could also try lubricant to alieviate the problem. But be careful if it is taking a long time and it painful you could have a simple medical problem. Sorry, you would have to see your doctor about treatment, i hope its... (read in full...)

Anal sex-are there any risks? Can you get infections/std's by doing it??

Q.   my husband of 7 years has asked me if we could try anal sex. we did try once b4 but it felt to painful and we give up.we are in a happy marriage,both in our 20's and both in good health. are there any risks? can you get infections/std's...

A.   11 June 2007: Working backwards, guys like it for lots of different reasons, firstly it is something new and different - thats always good. If he has seen any form of porn in the last year or two, it is fashionable, alot of people are doing it. Theres also a ... (read in full...)

Am I just scared or do I really want out of this?

Q.   Why am i soo scared?? Ive bin with my guy for nearly 5 months now n its goin great (I think) but im so scared all the time, so much co that i think wed be better off as friends because at least then feelings will wont get so hurt. i dunno is it that ...

A.   11 June 2007: Ok, from a guy who's only marginally older than you, i think you have to slow down and breathe. I'm guessing it is a very stresdful time for you, exams and such? Enjoy life, relationships shouldnt be the most important thing on your mind. After... (read in full...)

Suspicious phone calls are coming in for him but he swears he knows nothing! Any advice?

Q.   my boyfriend is accusing me of being jealous and crazy. We spend evenings together up until a certain time then he rushes out at the same time every night or I leave. Well I was getting suspicious so I overstayed a few nights last week and sure ...

A.   11 June 2007: I have an idea, see if you can get the chance to ring her off his phone, see what the answer is like. To me he's up to no good. Sorry but thats what it sounds like. Dont dwell on him too long, lifes too short Hope this helps... (read in full...)

Do I leave my husband of 40 years (who I love but don't fancy) for my new kinky lover?

Q.   I suppose I am quite old to have a question like this (I'm 60). But here goes! I have been married for 40 years to a man who adores me, and who I am very fond of. Trouble is I just dont fancy him any more. I have started an affair with a man who ...

A.   11 June 2007: I agree with the previous comment, but you have to enjoy life aswell. I think you need to come to a decision because if your husband finds out then he will be crushed. Hope this helps... (read in full...)

He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...

A.   11 June 2007: I'm not going to patronise you, or make fun because if you are contemplating staying with him you must have real feelings for him. But in my opinin darling, they need to end, no one has the right to touch you, and that's that you are such an ... (read in full...)

Still love him but after the split, he's unbearable when we socialize with our mutual friends! Any thoughts?

Q.   6 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me and I was hung up on him for months. I'm finally starting to get my life back on track but I feel as though he's holding me back. Even though he broke up with me he holds a grudge against me and be...

A.   11 June 2007: Talk to him, away from friends, see how he feels. But if he is making things unbearable then maybe you shouldnt want to be with him anyway. I think the most important thing is to make him feel as if he isnt affecting you, jobe back at him when he ... (read in full...)

Should my friend have sex with this guy?

Q.   should my friend have sex with him? there is this guy my friend works with and he is leaving soon. she has liked him for the past year and now he is leaving he has asked her to have sex with him she doesnt know what to do as she really likes the...

A.   11 June 2007: Hiya There Is it your friends first time? if it is then no Also how sure are you that it is the guys first time, coming from a guy, he might not be a virgin. But at the end of the day, life is for enjoying, SAFELY Hope it helps... (read in full...)

I'm suffering from analysis paralysis... have so many thoughts I have no idea how I feel.. !

Q.   I've been dating a co-worker for 9 months and he's great! But lately, for some odd reason, I've been over analyzing everything! Now I have so many thoughts I have no idea how I feel. The thought of not being with him makes me so sad. I used to know ...

A.   11 June 2007: Book yourself on one of those spa days, have a massage and a jacuzzi and think. Then TALK to him, its the most important thing in a relationship. Hope this helps try last minute.com... (read in full...)

I hate my girlfriend's tats!

Q.   My girlfriend has two tattoos, both of which i hate, and she has plans for more. i dont know if i will be able to cope with them. Has anybody got any suggestions? ...

A.   11 June 2007: It seems like you have three brutal options, deal with it cope, tell her about it see if she will change her mind. Or leave. I wouldnt reccomend the last. Tatoos are a way of expressing yourself, some people write, somepeople draw, somepeop... (read in full...)

Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more?

Q.   Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more? Sorry for the length. My GF is recently divorced, I'm separated (my divorce final w/in 3 mos). We're both in our 40's. We dated back in high school/colleg...

A.   11 June 2007: It's hard when people hide things from you, I had the same thing, thats why i first looked at this site. There's no definite answer, which i know is not what you want to hear. I also appreciate that you might not want to talk to an 18 year old. But ... (read in full...)

How do we ensure that child support arrears are paid?

Q.   Husband continued to pay ex-wife child support for five years even thou the child lived with us. We finally got full custody and judge ordered her to pay back the five years of support. The child is now 18 and ex-wife wants the child emancipated ...

A.   10 June 2007: Try this website http://www.freelawyer.co.uk/vlawyer/actfile.asp?subject1=1&subject2=2&seq=2&actid=233 If not there is normally free family law clinics in your area. The main thing i think you have to realise is that upsetting the other party ... (read in full...)

I didn't take him home with me and I think I blew it! How do I let him know I am up for it, now?

Q.   hi i went out last week with some friends. me and this one guy started getting really close in the taxi on the way home, like we were holding hands and he kept trying to kiss me but i didnt want to because there were other people with us so i kept ...

A.   10 June 2007: Just so you know, No one can judge you except you. And what would be the point of life if you can't have SAFE fun. If he likes you too, then it shouldnt be a problem, how about inviting him out, or around for a meal. Just start txting him, txts... (read in full...)

I think she is out of my league what do I do?

Q.   There is this one girl - I have never met anyone like her before. I barely get to see her and it is making me want her more. The problem is, she is outta my league what do i do?...

A.   10 June 2007: Don't think about leagues, you should see my fiance. Way out of my league. You have to come to a decision, do you want to go after her, or get over her. When you have made that decision then you act from there. If you think that she is out of your ... (read in full...)

I'm not saying it's wrong to have a past...but how does one deal with it?

Q.   http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-girlfriend-gave-her-ex-blow-jobs-why.html A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): It is "disgusting"... Why would i find it to not be "disgusting"?. Yes when she does it to me that fine because its me, ...

A.   1 June 2007: Your young, just like i am, and i know how you feel to be trapped. If your girlfriend is permanantly talking about past relationships, ask her not to, if it is making you feel uncomfortable then she should understand. The past is what builds u... (read in full...)

I feel constanty pressured to do well, to be cool and popular! Am I not happy with just 'who' I am?

Q.   hiya i constantly feel pressured the whole time to do well in everything and to be cool and popular. Life feels like a competiton of who is happier and has the best life. I know that i should be happy with who i am but im not and constantly thrive t...

A.   1 June 2007: It could be lots of things, it could just be the screwed up society we live in. I think you have to look at your friends, what are their attitudes towards this type of things, how materialistic are you family? I do feel for you. Try sitting in a ... (read in full...)

Fallen in love with my male friend but he doesn't feel the same way! He even refused to kiss me when we got drunk! Any Advice?

Q.   The common story: I'm a girl of 16, and have fallen in love with my best friend, whos also 16. He doesn't like me, I can tell and hes said things to me about it before. Recently we got really drunk and I asked him to kiss me and he refused but after ...

A.   1 June 2007: OK, How long have you known him? It might just be the fact he really doesn't want to jeopardise what he has with you. I would honestly talk to him about how you feel, tell him, reassure him that you really value his friendship but you don't know if ... (read in full...)

I asked her out and she said she'd tell me the next day. It this her way of politely saying no?

Q.   i asked out this girl i really like to go catch a movie with me. she asked me questions about when i wanna go, and if we're goin alone etc. she said she'll tell me the next day coz she might be busy. i cant help think that's a excuse or nice ...

A.   29 May 2007: Just see how things go, she said wait, so wait, All good things come to those who wait. I would take it as a sign that she is genuinely thinking about, that the fact you asked her matters to her, she doesnt want to just say yes off the cuff. When I ... (read in full...)

Why did he tell the person on his phone he was out with his mates when he was in with me?

Q.   Im gay and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. Last night on the phone he told whoever rang him he was out with work mates and not me. He told me it was his mate who was out bowling. Now I'm wondering why he said that and ...

A.   28 May 2007: Dont jump to conclusions, it could just be a simple thing like if he said he was out with you, the other person might want to join you. Just see how things go, i'm not defending him, i'm just saying once you have something in your head it is really ... (read in full...)

I'm confused, am I bi?

Q.   I think im bisexual. How can I tell, I really fancy fit boys but I find girls really atractive. Im quite an art person and enjoy drawing naked people men and women.So am I bi? ...

A.   28 May 2007: First thing is to say you are still young, you dont have to put yourself in a box just yet. Enjoy Life, that's all that matters. Secondly, if you were Bi there would be nothing wrong with that, if you are concerned about anything google search gay ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have an anal fissure or could it be something more serious?

Q.   I have a bit of a problem and wondering if anyone can help. Im a 20 year old male in a gay relationship. Ive been with my boyfriend now for about 8 months. Two months into the relationship I noticed during sex that my anus hurt. Ever since then ...

A.   28 May 2007: I'm bisexual, and have had a similar problem in the past with the pain, but not with the bleeding. If you know your doctor well and dont feel comfortable telling them. You could try your local pharmacist, or sex clinic, but following research of my ... (read in full...)

When I masturbate it's absolute agony, can any of the agony uncles help here?

Q.   Hi guys. I have an embarrassing question coming up and i'm hoping some of the guys may be able to help me out. A little while ago, I wasn't able to pull my foreskin over the head of my penis while erect, then after research I found out that s...

A.   28 May 2007: You could always try a form a lubricant aswell, whether it be baby oil, ky jelly or one of the many others on the market, or see if masturbating in the shower or bath helps the problem. Dont feel embarrassed to ask, or to use lube, loads of guys do... (read in full...)

She's cheated on me and I know... but she doesn't know I know - what should I do?

Q.   My partner has cheated on me at least once, she doesn't yet know I know. What should i do, i love her to bits, but she continues to lie to me. We have a son, he is almost two, i cant see him hurt by this, but i can hardly stand to look at her....

A.   28 May 2007: Thanks alot guys for your help on this, We have talked things over, i think she has been honest with me. But it may take a while to get that trust back. You guys have been great... (read in full...)

She's cheated on me and I know... but she doesn't know I know - what should I do?

Q.   My partner has cheated on me at least once, she doesn't yet know I know. What should i do, i love her to bits, but she continues to lie to me. We have a son, he is almost two, i cant see him hurt by this, but i can hardly stand to look at her....

A.   26 May 2007: thank you for the advise, im going to speak to my lawyer on monday morning and see what he thinks is the best course of action... (read in full...)

Am I being selfish by not telling my bf, I have cheated on him twice?

Q.   Hi there I have been dating this guy for 3 years and we are still madly in love. The problem is I have cheated twice during those years. I feel bad but dont want to lose him. I have changed my ways and dont cheat anymore, the relationship is ...

A.   26 May 2007: I am (not literally) your boyfriend. My partner has cheated on me, she doesnt think i know. If she doesnt tell me in a week i am going to break up with her. YOu have to tell him for the sake of him and love. Please, if my partner would have told me, ... (read in full...)

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