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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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I don't know if I can trust my friend with my boyfriend...
Q. Right, this might be a little complicated so I am going to write it in a list: I am totally in love with my boyfriend of six months and trust him implicitly. I do not believe he would do anything wrong in this situation. However I don't know...
A. 3 June 2007: She shouldn't be hanging out in his room alone with him, period. End of story. That's a big trust killer. I would personally be furious. There's hanging with a girl, then there's being in a room with a bed of any sort. Basically THEY were ON A BED. ... (read in full...)
He is being violent to me and beating me on a regular basis...
Q. Hey i have been with my husband for 3 years although we have been together for 5 I love him very much but last year I went through a really rough time and lost 3 babys altogether the 3rd was an abortion and my husband has been blaming me even though ...
A. 3 June 2007: Although I understand your need to defend yourself, I have a couple of points that I want to make clear.
1) Your wife has a right to vent online, and it's a little odd that you need to follow up with things, and post on her account. Are you that... (read in full...)
Do I take my ex back or give it a go with this other guy?
Q. dear cupid, i have been in a relationship with a guy for 22 years which produced two beautiful children. I left him recently because i was abused and embarrassed in front of people at times. I have a new boyfriend, but i just hate to ...
A. 3 June 2007: If you're being abused, then there really shouldn't be any question. There shouldn't be a second thought running through your head. Let him cry, and beg all he wants. Why do you need to be in a relationship right away? I think that you should take ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can trust my friend with my boyfriend...
Q. Right, this might be a little complicated so I am going to write it in a list: I am totally in love with my boyfriend of six months and trust him implicitly. I do not believe he would do anything wrong in this situation. However I don't know...
A. 3 June 2007: You're not being ridiculous. I don't care if they were talking, or just laying there, he shouldn't have even been in a bedroom with him. I would have been furious! You're right not to trust him. Just because he may not be attracted to her now, ... (read in full...)
After a bad day at work I said the wrong thing to her, she dumped me on the spot!
Q. Hi 7 months after a nasty divorce i met the girl of my dreams, she was a virgin when we met and there was a age gap of 10 years which did not matter to us. Three months down the line and after a very bad day at work as a policeman, we me...
A. 3 June 2007: If she dumped you on the spot, then she was probably looking for an excuse all along. Generally, people are willing to forgive and forget.
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I thought he was joking, when he said "he had a daughter"..he's only 22! Did I react badly?
Q. I am 20 years old and met this guy whom i really like. He is the sweetest and most considerate guy, and i am madly in love with him. I saw a picture in his room and when i asked who the people in the picture were, he told me that it is him and his ...
A. 3 June 2007: It depends on if you're ready to be a mother... Now that you know for certain, being with him means accepting his child into your life as well.
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My boyfriend watches porn when I'm asleep.
Q. my boyfriend watches porn when i am asleep! i feel like i am not good enough for him or i am not satisfying him. i feel like i cant be as good as porn stars so he will want to finish me!! please help!!...
A. 2 June 2007: I know that this may sound far-fetched but have you ever watched it with him? A lot of my friends have great relationships, and all of them watch porn together. They tell me that they get ideas for how to please each other. Maybe your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
He gives me nothing in this relationship..no gifts, no cards, very little affection! Stay or go?
Q. Live with a guy together for over 2 years. we have never gone out when he does go to the store walks behind me. no flowers, cards or gifts, yet i give these to him. i pay for alot of his things im lucky if he buys me a pack of smokes a month. ...
A. 2 June 2007: He's only interested in the money and home that you provide for him. Dump his lazy butt on the street. Find someone who wants to take you out, show you off, and shower you with love at home.
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I have been married for almost 6 months now, and haven't had sex with my husband yet.
Q. I am married for almost 6 months now, and haven't had sex with my husband yet. He has been very tolerant and patient about this subject as he don't want to hurt me. However i can't see him go through all this. i feel like having sex with him, but ...
A. 2 June 2007: There comes a point in our lives where we are consumed with great fear. At that crossroads, we can make a choice to overcome it, or we can let it consume us. If you love your husband, and aren't scared of him, you have nothing to worry about. He'll ... (read in full...)
We broke up because I felt he was putting me last! But I miss him..what can I do?
Q. Having a problem moving on... I am a African american women with a master's degree,stable career in education, living on my own, and no children. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up five months ago. Here is his story: He's 36 years old w/no children and ...
A. 2 June 2007: Your friends are right. He doesn't sound like he's getting out of the rut that he's in. He's dug a hole, jumped in, and found his comfort zone. He's still a child in his mind. I would move on to better waters.
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Why can't my family understand that I want to live my own life. They make me feel selfish..any advice?
Q. I moved back home and left my life and my new family that I was starting in febuary to help take care of my mom when she started cancer treatment, only it turns out that she didn`t need my help after all which don`t get me wrong it isn`t a bad thing ...
A. 2 June 2007: You're a grown adult, with children. You deserve to be treated like one. If you've made plans, follow through. Pack your bags tonight, and go. Your parents can say and think what they want, but you have the choice to ignore it. Unless your family ... (read in full...)
My husband's penis is a brown colour - is this normal!?!
Q. hi everyone i need help.....i noticed that my husbands penis is a brown color and he is white, my question is is this normal for every guy? or should i really get him checked? thank you for all your help...
A. 2 June 2007: Miss Oz is correct on all fronts. Just as in anything on this planet, there are different colors, shapes, and sizes. Have him get a check up if you're really concerned. It will be an excuse for both of you to get tested for STD/I's to put each other ... (read in full...)
I'm a total freak when it comes to boyfriends, I recently hacked into his myspace to see if i was on his top eight.
Q. OK this is going to sound really weird but i think I might be crazy...I'm a total freak when it comes to boyfriends, I recently hacked into his myspace to see if i was on his top eight. I get awful jealousy a lot and lie to split people up if ...
A. 2 June 2007: Why wouldn't you just load his site, instead of phishing his account? I think that you're just really insecure. You have to be happy with you before you can be happy with a relationship.
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She is Jewish and wants me to be circumcised but I want to stay in tact!!!
Q. I am a 22-Year-old guy, and I have been living with my Girlfriend who is 21, for about 8 Months. I absolutely love her. We never argue or conflict. We were made for each other. Heres my Problem: She is Jewish. I am not Jewish and Uncircumcised....
A. 2 June 2007: I know that it seems like a big deal, but it's only a foreskin. From what I've heard, it takes extra time to clean around it, and can cause you to be at greater risk for bacterial infection. I would do it, especially if you're planning to convert. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay and see if things get better or should I break off with him?
Q. This is the third time me and my boyfriend have gone out and all the times before have been great but now it's different. we don't spend that much time alone together and he would rather hang out with other people than me. He asked me out and now I ...
A. 2 June 2007: If he really wanted to be with you, he would be going out of his way to see you. You should move on. I know that it's going to be tough, but I promise, you'll be ok!:)
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Is he still carrying on with others, even though I refuse to believe it ?
Q. last year i found that my boyfriend was texting and meeting another girl we managed to put it behind us but 6 weeks later i found he was doing it again with the same girl. i comfronted him but he said she was ugly and it was nothing more than a ...
A. 2 June 2007: He should have told you who he was meeting up with. He's toying with you, and it's time for you to get your kid and move on.
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Everyone in my school thinks I am a 'bof'!
Q. Everyone in my school thinks i am a 'bof' when i'm not they don't even have good reasons for that. it hurts so much because they are often horrible jokes. I'll be lucky if i ever get a boyfriend because of whatt these people say. They all say if ...
A. 2 June 2007: Keep being yourself. If you give in to what everyone else wants to be, you will forget who you are.
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How can I help my cousin get over the rat that cheated on her ?
Q. I have a cousin who dated her boyfriend for 14 years and then they got married. They had a beautiful little boy and after a year and a half of marriage he cheated on her. They are separated but she cant get over him and has extremely low self ...
A. 2 June 2007: She needs to heal over time. Just give her space, and try and stay a phone call away. If she needs you, be willing to listen.
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In love with a girl who feels I am too good for her! What can I do?
Q. im in love with a girl who feels that i am to good for her. as if thats not enough she cant stop thinking about all the pain she has caused me in the past i dont care about the past but she cant forget and its making her very sad. i've done all i ...
A. 1 June 2007: I was just in your predicament, and I found a way to fix it... What you tell her is this:
1) It takes two people to have a relationship. That means that you made the choice to allow things to continue, however bad they may have seemed. It's part... (read in full...)
Had an affair..am I doing the right thing by ignoring him?
Q. i had an affair with a married man but recently i refused to accept his calls and even i acted so rude to him cuz i want to get out of his life.But i know he loves me.Am i doing the right thing by ignoring him? ...
A. 1 June 2007: It's the beginning of doing the right thing. You should tell him why you're doing what you're doing, so that he gets the point. You'll save tension later. When you said "an affair", I assumed you meant that you cheated, too. If that's the case, the ... (read in full...)
I constantly seek reassurance that I'm pretty.
Q. I constantly seek reassurance that I'm pretty. I think that i am very pretty wen i have makeup on but wen i dont i just feel disgusting. So wen im out i carry round my makeup with me and im constantly touching it up, thinking about it, looking in ...
A. 1 June 2007: No, I mean there's a subconscious need for your ego to be satisfied. Generally, it's rooted in something deeper, like an experience that left you feeling worthless. Maybe you lost someone, and you miss their attention... It could be rooted in a ... (read in full...)
I love him so much but he works far too much!
Q. This is how my life goes, I am deeply inlove with someone and he feels the same. we have a long distance relationship. We meet from time to time and both of us are okay with that. I love this guy so much that even words cannot explain how i really ...
A. 1 June 2007: Loving someone means accepting their lives, and what baggage may come with it. He works a lot, but if you love him, you'll work around it. If you're aching for him that badly, why not suggest moving in together. If you're both happy with the ... (read in full...)
I'm don't know whether to have feelings or don't pay him no mind.
Q. What should i do if me and this guy have been friends for 2 years, we start off dating then we lost contact with each other. Now we have start back talking again. He tells me he loves me but don't share no other feelings. I don't force him to tell ...
A. 1 June 2007: Don't waste feelings until you know where you two stand. I know that's going to be hard. I've watched my phone and kept my IM account logged in for hopes of hearing from someone. I don't want you to waste yourself away like I did. Go to him, and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my mate...
Q. hi I'm worried about my best m8 because we went out together and my dad took us,then i saw my male friend there so i thought we could all hang out as mates cus i thought we were i woz so wrong!!!!i feel sorry 4 my male friend because recently 4 ...
A. 1 June 2007: It sounds like she's needy for attention. When your attention went to your male friend, she got jealous, because you may have something good in the future. She's not the type of person that you want to keep in your life.
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I received an annonymous email from somebody saying that my boyfriend was cheating on me!
Q. I received an annonymous email from somebody saying that my boyfriend was cheating on me. I asked him about it but he said that he didn't. He always hangs out with his best friend who is a girl. She borrows his boxers, goes to the movies with him ...
A. 1 June 2007: He's not cheating. She's trying to steal your man. This is one of the few times where I would EVER say this, but: You need to make him decide between hanging out with his best friend, and you. He's allowing this flirting to continue, and it's ... (read in full...)
Why would she jump the gun like that?
Q. hi, i was recently broken up with. we went out for 10 months. arguing was happening, we had problems. i wanted to sit down, relax, and talk about our issues and feelings with each other. most of the time in the past she would think problems would ...
A. 1 June 2007: A lot of people have a problem with placing blame after a relationship has ended. She's not ready to accept the fact that she did anything to damage the relationship, and therefore puts the blame on you. That's not healthy, and it's time for you to ... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend had a huge argument and she hit me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend had a huge argument and she hit me. I dont mean like a slap a full on attack. I dont know what to do i really love her, im walking round with bruises all over my body. This isnt the first time she has lashed out at me wha...
A. 1 June 2007: My friend's girlfriend is like that- she doesn't get upset, she gets violent, and she hurts people. My best friend walks around with bruises and cuts all over his body, and his girlfriend laughs it off.
If you're walking around with bruises all over... (read in full...)
I got on my boyfriend's PC, he was talking with this girl and they were saying that they liked each other and that I was a complication!!!
Q. Hello. Recently i managed to hack into my boyfriends internet account and found him talking to this girl at work. They were saying that they liked each other and that I was a complication! Although you can see nothing actually happened. In Januar...
A. 1 June 2007: It's time for you to pack your bags. It sounds like he's playing with you.
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Since we started seeing one another we've not been as close. How can I get things back to what it used to be like?
Q. ive been seeing this boy, Sean for about two months. at first we were just really good friends, but everyone always told me that he really liked me. however, i ignored it and we continued to be close friends. about two months ago when we started ...
A. 1 June 2007: He probably felt like he gave you all kinds of signs, and you ignored him. He's not a mindreader, and won't know how you feel unless you tell him. You're torturing yourself, and blaming both yourself and him for nothing. He can't call and text you ... (read in full...)
We've had sex twice but now he's not calling me...
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 weeks. we had sex on our second date. he says he is ready for a serious relationship. we work very close so i see him everyday but thats all he does not call. we had sex again but since then he has not called what ...
A. 1 June 2007: I think that he's just looking for sexual fulfillment. If he was looking for more, he would be doing everything possible to see you. Tell him that you're not going to be his sex buddy.
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Every time I masturbate or have sex I always think of my ex girlfriend.
Q. Every time I masturbate or have sex I always think of my ex girlfriend i mean this is terrible and its destroying my life i mean i just dont know what to do i am not on speaking terms with my x so i can't even tell her to try to get it out my head...
A. 1 June 2007: It's natural to never be completely over your ex. I think the best thing you can do is try to become friendly, and then slowly work your way up from there. If you two are willing to forgive each other over time, everything will work out. Try being ... (read in full...)
I constantly seek reassurance that I'm pretty.
Q. I constantly seek reassurance that I'm pretty. I think that i am very pretty wen i have makeup on but wen i dont i just feel disgusting. So wen im out i carry round my makeup with me and im constantly touching it up, thinking about it, looking in ...
A. 1 June 2007: It sounds like you have an ego problem, and it's getting to the point where you constantly seek attention. Look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you're beautiful. When you start to believe it, others will, too. Just don't get a big head about ... (read in full...)
I like a friend as more than a friend, he has told me he feels the same way but currently has a girlfriend.
Q. I like a friend as more than a friend, he has told me he feels the same way but currently has a girlfriend. I think i should talk to him about it but don't want to affect his relationship. Can anyone give me some advice?...
A. 1 June 2007: I'm sorry to hear that. As a friend, your job is to make sure that he's happy. Right now, she's his choice. If it doesn't work out, give him a little time to heal, and let him know that you'll be waiting for him when he's ready.
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Please help, I've never kissed a boy before...
Q. Plz help!!! I've never kissed a boy before and he's my 1st boyfriend, how do i know if he wants 2 kiss me or not, plz help!!...
A. 1 June 2007: A good kiss is something that happens in the moment. None of us know how to kiss until we've had a chance to try. If he wants to kiss you, it's something that you'll know...
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I'm a virgin and want a relationship, but I fret about the size of my penis..any advice?
Q. Hi iam 17 and still a virgin i would love to have a relationship with a girl but iam very insecure about the size of my penis as it is only 6 and a half inches when erect should i be woried or am i fretin about nothing ...
A. 31 May 2007: If someone wants to be with you, it shouldn't matter. There are many ways to please a woman other than intercourse...
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My girlfriend and I live far apart and sometimes when I call her she makes jokes that I dont like too much.
Q. My girlfriend and I live far apart and sometimes when I call her she makes jokes that I dont like too much. For example, I called her and said "Hey, what you up to?" and her reply was "I was just thinking about fooling around with my boss". ...
A. 31 May 2007: It sounds like she's trying to hurt you, or get you angry. That's not a joke - it's a hurtful remark, intended to create problems. After comments like that, she's not even worth your time.
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My bf loses his temper and lashes out at me very easily and out of the blue - is this normal?
Q. I need some advise. My boyfriend loves me very much. We have been together for 8 months and we also have an apartment together. He holds me tight and tells me he loves me. Sounds like a fairy tale right? but there are also times when he gets mad at ...
A. 31 May 2007: He may not know how to deal with his anger. Voice your concerns to him. If he scares you sometimes, let him know that. If he loves you, he'll get help, and be willing to change.
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I have never cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years but he's got it into his head I have and it's driving me mad!
Q. I have been going out with my partner for over 4 yrs now. But i am at the point now of deciding whether or not to end it. There is a considerable age gap between us and perhaps this plays its part in the problems. My partner does not trust me nor...
A. 31 May 2007: If he isn't willing to trust your word, then he won't trust you. The only thing that you can is walk away. You deserve someone who can deal with you having friends of the opposite sex. It sounds like he's really paranoid. Paranoia can become ... (read in full...)
She always wants her own way and throws tantrums.
Q. I'm writing to ask what I should do in my current situation with my girlfriend. We have been together 3 months now and it's all been pretty much fantastic. Since our first date we have been with each other everyday since and apart from the odd ...
A. 31 May 2007: You need to stand up for yourself. If she's walking all over you, she's using and disrespecting you. You deserve better. Break up with her and find someone who wants you for you.
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I confronted her about cheating on me and now she's ignoring me.
Q. Here's the story. I got an email from someone saying that my girlfriend of a year cheated on me. They told me to look at her myspace inbox in september and it would be there. This is what it said: Guy: I hope that we can still be friends aft...
A. 31 May 2007: You both betrayed each others' trust. She's done it on a greater level. She might be playing a game with you to see how angry she could get you. You've tried apologizing, and that obviously didn't work. The only thing that you can do at this point, ... (read in full...)
What should I do if I'm talking to a boy but he won't really tell me his feelings because he thinks he will get hurt if he falls in love again?
Q. What should I do if I'm talking to a boy but he won't really tell me his feelings because he thinks he will get hurt if he falls in love again?...
A. 31 May 2007: The best thing that you can do for him is give him time and space. If he likes you, let him come to you. I know that it may seem hard to wait, but if you really care about him, it's worth it. I promise. :)
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My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house.
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice. My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house. I'm not sure because I don't know why he came up with the idea. He said he would do one for me in ...
A. 31 May 2007: Do you want all of his friends seeing you in that fashion? If you're proud to show off to everyone, go for it. I personally wouldn't do it. Your body is a private thing until you're ready to share it... If you put it up, everyone he knows will see ... (read in full...)
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