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Does this message mean I'm dumped? Help!
Q. Me and my bf have been arguing ALOT and we had a huge row because he has no time too see me this morning he said 'Right now I am screaming at my phone because I can't put into text what I want to say in retaliation and so it doesn't ruin your day, I ...
A. 12 July 2013: You don't say anything. Just go about your business and live your life. Don't stop your life for anyone ... (read in full...)
One night he got up and left and I never saw it coming, how do I get over him when we work together at the weekend?
Q. I need help! Just over a month ago my boyfriend who I had been with for ten months one night just got up and left! He came back the next day saying how sorry he was we spent the day together we slept together and then the next day... He had gone ...
A. 11 July 2013: Basically, in short and in truth, it's over. In geek terms: "You've got to take a shot to the face" and move on. ... (read in full...)
Why does my long distance girlfriend still have and know my phone number?!?
Q. Just wondering why my ex ldr still has my phone number I mean she does not respond back to me and ect just wondering why she would still have it even though she wanted to move on and changed her phone number 5 or 6 times all ready but I still have ...
A. 11 July 2013: I'm not sure how to answer this one except to say: "Move on".... (read in full...)
I really don't want to get into this relationship because we are both married but my heart tells me otherwise. What should I do?
Q. Hello. Am having strong love feelings for my workmate. He is married with four children and according to what he always says he loves his wife and no woman can replace her although he can be available to any woman for fun without his wife knowing...
A. 11 July 2013: If you have to ask what the right thing to do is, there is something seriously wrong with you. You need to end your marriage if you, an adult, don't understand the concept of actually being married. Think of this: if you cheat on your husband with ... (read in full...)
What is it supposed to mean when my ex ended the mail with "love"?
Q. I had a few posts about my ex here and I really do appreciate the advice I got. This is my last post. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-dumpers-always-remember-the-bad-memories-after.html I think of my ex sometimes and am trying to move on. So j...
A. 11 July 2013: It doesn't mean anything. Don't read anything into it. He's an ex for a reason. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexted at least two guys right after we broke up. We're now back together but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 4 years now. We are 23 years old and were friends before we dated, she is my best friend.... However recently i went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship for...
A. 11 July 2013: She will take attention where she can get it. She has an ego issue, and you need to forget her. ... (read in full...)
She rejected me and then months later texts me. Is she regretting her decisions?
Q. Hi readers. So this girl I haven't talked to in months (Christmas basically) texted me tonight out of nowhere saying hey. I have a feeling she's bored, or she's reconsidering rejecting me. I don't know. I'm making small talk with her now, but I want ...
A. 11 July 2013: It's not hard. Just don't answer the phone. If she calls, don't pick up. Don't answer texts. Go out and have a life, and be happy with yourself. You don't NEED anyone but yourself. If you feel like you need someone then you're really just unhappy ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexted at least two guys right after we broke up. We're now back together but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 4 years now. We are 23 years old and were friends before we dated, she is my best friend.... However recently i went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship for...
A. 10 July 2013: I did read what you said. The truth is that she took money and the cat and bailed. She sexted guys, not expecting that you would find out. You did, before you actually started getting strung along. She was going to keep you around as the backup ... (read in full...)
Confused, we were getting along so well, but he lost his job and now doesn't want to continue, and we haven't had our first date yet!
Q. Hi everyone I have used this site previously however I haven't been online in a very long time. I am just looking for some advice on something that may seem small to others but it is a huge deal to me, so here goes. For the last 4 months I h...
A. 10 July 2013: That's the best thing that you could do. Just leave it as it is and stop investing in it until he either comes around, or you find someone better. ... (read in full...)
One night he got up and left and I never saw it coming, how do I get over him when we work together at the weekend?
Q. I need help! Just over a month ago my boyfriend who I had been with for ten months one night just got up and left! He came back the next day saying how sorry he was we spent the day together we slept together and then the next day... He had gone ...
A. 10 July 2013: You forget him and move on. It gets easier with each passing day. ... (read in full...)
Is he playing it cool?
Q. Hi i have known a man 2 months now we went on a date 4 days ago and are planning a second one soon we really hit off or so i thought i text him yesterday to which i got a reply saying cant wait to see you again speak to you soon did he mean this or ...
A. 9 July 2013: A man will never text you first. We can't. It's a rule. ... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?
Q. hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...
A. 9 July 2013: If you're not attracted to him, it's not going to work. Period. ... (read in full...)
Confused, we were getting along so well, but he lost his job and now doesn't want to continue, and we haven't had our first date yet!
Q. Hi everyone I have used this site previously however I haven't been online in a very long time. I am just looking for some advice on something that may seem small to others but it is a huge deal to me, so here goes. For the last 4 months I h...
A. 9 July 2013: He did the right thing. If this is a guy that you want to be with, then you should be very proud of the fact that he was able to admit the toll that losing his job took on him. Stick by him while he looks for a job. The reason that he's not in a ... (read in full...)
What the heck happened? Why am I fantasizing about this guy?
Q. I have been engaged for two months and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and am in the middle of planning a wedding. I love him very much. I have never thought about cheating but something crazy happened. I was at a work travel recently for 4 ...
A. 9 July 2013: So basically... You went on a business vacation, and cheated on your soon to be husband. You're thinking about another guy, and not even worried about the effect this news would have on your soon-to-be husband. Can I have your boyfriend's e-mail so ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexted at least two guys right after we broke up. We're now back together but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 4 years now. We are 23 years old and were friends before we dated, she is my best friend.... However recently i went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship for...
A. 9 July 2013: Look, bottom line is that it's not going to work. You can try, but it's not, no matter what you do. You guys want stuff that's too different... ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexted at least two guys right after we broke up. We're now back together but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 4 years now. We are 23 years old and were friends before we dated, she is my best friend.... However recently i went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship for...
A. 9 July 2013: It sounds like you two need to move on from each other. The time apart was too much, and at this point, she wants sex and you want a relationship. You guys are at different points in your lives... ... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from him in two weeks -- what do I do?
Q. So my boyfriend hasn't been texting me in over 2 weeks. The last thing I heard from him was that he was in the hospital with a lot of pain. The hospital is on base so I can't enter. I don't know what to do! Should I just wait?...
A. 9 July 2013: Generally with military hospitals, they'll give close to nothing out. It's a security issue... Call his chain of command. Most people have a phone tree with their chain of command on it. Don't ask his friends, because military people outside your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 9 July 2013: Say thank you for the dates, but you don't feel enough interest for another one. Simple, non-offensive.
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One night he got up and left and I never saw it coming, how do I get over him when we work together at the weekend?
Q. I need help! Just over a month ago my boyfriend who I had been with for ten months one night just got up and left! He came back the next day saying how sorry he was we spent the day together we slept together and then the next day... He had gone ...
A. 9 July 2013: He's a flake. A lot of people tend to be like that nowadays. A lot of people just seem to not know what they want. Be cordial and/or professional and don't acknowledge anything personal. If it gets out of hand, talk to your boss. End of story. ... (read in full...)
She rejected me and then months later texts me. Is she regretting her decisions?
Q. Hi readers. So this girl I haven't talked to in months (Christmas basically) texted me tonight out of nowhere saying hey. I have a feeling she's bored, or she's reconsidering rejecting me. I don't know. I'm making small talk with her now, but I want ...
A. 9 July 2013: The truth might be hard to read, but here it is:
She needs to feed her ego, and she's not getting her boost from someone else. She decided to see if she could still get a reaction from someone, whether it's negative or positive, because either w... (read in full...)
Does he miss me and want to get back together but is too scared to make the first move?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I met on a dating site. We hit it off immediately and throughout our 6-month relationship he’d text/call everyday. He was still occasionally on the dating site where we met but I didn't say anything. We live in different cities ...
A. 9 July 2013: He's basically letting you down easy. It's the whole: "I like you, but I'm not in love with you" BS line. I'd just forget about him and move on.... (read in full...)
My bf told me to give him the ultimatum in August, but now one of my friends has confessed his feelings for me. Help?
Q. Hi guys I would like advice please as you have all been really helpful to me in the past. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years now. Those of you who have seen my past posts will remember I have been divorced for 7 and a half years...
A. 9 July 2013: I'd ignore the above response, because it's based all around you, and not what's real. What's real is that you knew what you were getting into when you guys got together. You both have kids. His daughter might be having trouble finding a way of ... (read in full...)
Would you believe him? Or is this too weird?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We're both in our early 30's. Anyway, he's been living out of state for the last 5 months (on work) and is finally moving back here in 2 weeks. He hasn't found a solid place yet, but has the ...
A. 9 July 2013: You have nothing to worry about. It sounds like you're just a bit insecure and need to learn to trust him.... (read in full...)
He's a great guy except for his neediness to hear from me constantly.
Q. ..I would really like some advice on this please. .. My earlier question was closed and some guy posted saying he was my boyfriend. To the mods, my boyfriend does not know of this page at all! This was my question http://www.dearcu...
A. 9 July 2013: It sounds like you guys just need to break up. It's not working. There's nothing that you can do.... (read in full...)
Advice on how to proceed with a friend who is trying to demonize me!
Q. Back in University, I had 2 very close girlfriends and we used to do everything together. Now its 10 years on; I moved away to another country and left the other 2 behind. We have remained in contact but more-so the other 2 because they live closer ...
A. 7 July 2013: Sounds like they were never really friends in the first place...... (read in full...)
Girlfriend knew she had STD and still had unprotected sex with me. I found out from seeing her medication!
Q. I found out about a week ago that my live in GF has an STD. She did not tell me, I found out. I found medication that she's taking, that she never told me about. I did confront her. Naturally a fight ensued, and the house is tense now. My quest...
A. 7 July 2013: Get tested, then get rid of her. I wonder what else she's hiding. If she's got an STD, she probably has been sleeping around. I'd move on to a better girl... ... (read in full...)
Does this message mean I'm dumped? Help!
Q. Me and my bf have been arguing ALOT and we had a huge row because he has no time too see me this morning he said 'Right now I am screaming at my phone because I can't put into text what I want to say in retaliation and so it doesn't ruin your day, I ...
A. 7 July 2013: Yes, it means you guys are done. Moving on... ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about my Christmas present?
Q. Ok... I'm just wanting some opinions. Last year for our first Christmas, my boyfriend bought me some electronics. such as a DVD player and a Nintendo wii. (which was nice of him.) I know it was the thought that counts, I am more of a romantic person ...
A. 7 July 2013: The thing is... you ARE selfish. You can deny it all day long, but the only reason that you're actually apologizing is so that you can save some face and you realized that you no longer have him around your finger.... (read in full...)
He seems devoted to me but I'm insecure about his ex
Q. My boyfriend is loving, respectful and we get along very well with excellent physical attraction. We have been together about ten months. he talks about our future and marriage and babies. We've had a few issues, mostly my insecurities regarding an ...
A. 4 July 2013: He loves you, he does. You have to realize though, that sometimes, you never completely deal with loss. Sometimes, you just make yourself pick up and move on. I'm with someone now, and my gf threw my ex in my face, and I check up on her now. He's ... (read in full...)
After seven months I want to try again with my ex
Q. Hello. I split up with my ex 7 months ago and we said we'd still be friends. We have stayed in contact and met up twice. It's been nice and not awkward. We both haven't spoken about the relationship since. But he left the door open 'lets rema...
A. 4 July 2013: When a guy says: "let's be friends" it means that he's trying to be nice about getting you out of his life. You hurt him and he's trying to move on, and you keep re-opening the wound. Just leave it be. Even a peace present isn't going to fix ... (read in full...)
How do you ask to have an open relationship
Q. What is the best way to go about asking your boyfriend to allow the relationship to become an open relatonship?...
A. 4 July 2013: At your age, that's not really something that you should be asking at all. I would break it off and let him find someone who's not going to string him along so that they can have sex with other people...... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman. Her husband knows and she broke it off saying she can't live with the lies!
Q. well were to start really, Actually I am rather a pathetic person and very weak I think. In January this year I met a very beautiful woman on a site for language exchange we got talking I knew she was married but unhappy. he is from Ukraine and...
A. 4 July 2013: Let me be direct and to the point:
Just because you have feelings for someone, doesn't give you the right to ruin her marriage. She made a vow when she got married, and she needs to either live up to it or end it. What you're not respecti... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to fail at being a mum
Q. My closest friend has a 2 and half yr old daughter. I wasnt there for her as much as I would like to have been because I had a bike accident a week after she had the baby and couldnt get out and about for a good 3-4 months, but I did visit as often ...
A. 2 July 2013: It sounds like she's not your friend, but someone that wants to make someone suffer as much as she's suffering. Get her out of your life, change your number, and tell her to stay away from your family. She's toxic!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't make me cum so I took care of myself but he woke up and caught me and is angry!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles Bf and me have an ok sex life... he gets it anytime he wants, but since he works so many hours I do not initiate(I pounce on his days off) and let him rest during the work days. i never cum unless I touch myself, but h...
A. 22 June 2013: I don't think that it's being manipulative. He was left out, and she wasn't willing to show him what she needed to be satisfied. She did it right next to him, and was being selfish. Any guy in their right mind would have been a little offended. If ... (read in full...)
I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And they talk with their friends about how "hot" these women
Q. I am curious to get a man's perspective on a few things. I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And ...
A. 22 June 2013: I'm confused about how it is that most of the responses were females... I thought that this question was being directed at males. Guys like regular girls. The fantasy girl is just a sexual fantasy, while the regular girl is the combination of ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him, but either way I surely will once my B/f finds out about my wild, reckless past. What do I do now?
Q. When I was at university, I was a little wild. I had quite a few one night stands and had a fling with another girl. I even had a few threesomes, and swapped my boyfriend with a another girl ,who knew what I was like and was open sexual too, for a ...
A. 22 June 2013: Tell him now. As long as you're not cheating on him, or doing anything now, it shouldn't be of real concern. It'll show him your willingness to change. If you really want to change and put your past behind you, concentrate on being a better person ... (read in full...)
Will she come back to me because I can support her and her kids?
Q. I married a philippine women 3.years ago and I.regret that everyday of my life but im glad I discovered she was going to use me for a green card because I.went.back to visit her and.discovered she was sleeping with so many men and I wonder is she ...
A. 26 May 2013: Get an uncontested divorce...... (read in full...)
I want to tell my boyfriend that I kissed another guy but not sure how to do it?
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend and kissed someone when I was drunk I feel bad, he's cheated on me in the past but I felt worse that he had lied to me I want to tell him but I don't know what to say...
A. 5 May 2013: You guys aren't destined to be. If you've both cheated on each other, you don't love each other. You should take the cheating on both ends as a more than obvious sign... ... (read in full...)
He says he is not verbally affectionate or "open", but he used to be before. Am I asking for too much?
Q. Im 20. He's 21. We are in a long distance "relationship" (I use inverted commas because it isn't at the boyfriend/girlfriend stage yet. We are exclusively dating/seeing each other, but it isn't official, we're progressing to the relation...
A. 5 May 2013: The thing is... when women say that they want more verbal affection, it's a two-edged sword. There's a thing that happens in the subconscious of women, that appears to be out of their control Us guys give you what you want, and then your ... (read in full...)
What am I missing? Do women just want to play games when dating?
Q. I was having dinner with my guy friends last night, and we were sharing recent dating experiences. Two of us are in our early 30s and the other guy his late 30s. As we shared our stories, a common theme emerged - we were tired of people playing ...
A. 5 May 2013: I find that the thing every woman that I've met, even ones in relationships, are loyal but always looking. They're always looking for the next ladder up. More money, more power, and yet someone that they can control even more. ... (read in full...)
Will she come back to me because I can support her and her kids?
Q. I married a philippine women 3.years ago and I.regret that everyday of my life but im glad I discovered she was going to use me for a green card because I.went.back to visit her and.discovered she was sleeping with so many men and I wonder is she ...
A. 5 May 2013: It's definitely time to move on and forget about her completely. She's poison for your life. ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? My ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids, we haven't had sex in over 2 years, and I have started seeing someone!
Q. my ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids we have had no sexual relations in over 2 years he hasn't even tried. he doesn't kiss me or tell me he loves me. He doesn't even touch me in anyway. I have talked to him about it. he said ...
A. 1 May 2013: Absolutely you should feel guilty. Instead of facing your problems head-on, you insulted your vows... Fix your marriage and stop hiding from the problems it has. You promised to be there through the hard times, yes?... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: It's pretty much a moot point. You had sex with him first, so that's what you are to him... ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about my Christmas present?
Q. Ok... I'm just wanting some opinions. Last year for our first Christmas, my boyfriend bought me some electronics. such as a DVD player and a Nintendo wii. (which was nice of him.) I know it was the thought that counts, I am more of a romantic person ...
A. 20 December 2012: It sounds like you're being extremely selfish and are about what people get you instead of just loving the fact that he went out of his way anyway... Be appreciative of what you have, or walk away and let him find someone else that will appreciate ... (read in full...)
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