Unsure Of My Sexuality
Q. I have a question about my sexuality. I am a girl that checks out other females. I messed around with some including having sex with them, but this girl wants a relationship with me. It feels akward. I don't know how to explain but, shes cute ...
A. 3 October 2007: Hi I can understand that you are unsure. You say you feel awkward about having a relationship with a girl why do you think you feel awkward? You seem to really like her and find her attractive yet there is a lot of confusion. Are there other ... (read in full...)
He never makes a sound during sex. Should it bother me, or are guys just not as verbal as girls?
Q. My boyfriend is not verbal at all in the bedroom. He never makes a single sound when we are having sex. He always turns his face away from me when he is coming too. Like he doesnt want me to see him (i guess thats why his fave position is doggy ...
A. 29 September 2007: There are a few things. I don't think it's got anything to do with you and you shouldn't feel bad about this. I am wondering if he has had bad experiences in the past. I was abused a lot by men and I found it difficult to express myself in the ... (read in full...)
Big Age Gap
Q. I have feelings for a female at work,but I am 52 and she is 29.Is this too much of an age difference? How would I tell if there is any interest on her part?...
A. 29 September 2007: I think it's up to you two at the end of the day not up to anyone else. Yeah sure there will be people who try to interfere but, if you two like each other then there is nothing wrong with that.
In answer to your next question I think you shou... (read in full...)
I've only ever had one relationship
Q. Very trivial, but I hate how long it's been since I last had sex. It's been.. Almost 5 months. I've only ever had one relationship, and it lasted about a year and a half. I still have a lot of feelings for my ex (and PLEASE don't just assume that...
A. 29 September 2007: Hi I know that sex isn't the bee all and end all of everything sometimes lonliness when we are not with someone is bigger than a sexual desire will ever be.
You say this is trivial what makes you say this? You are important as anyone else. I... (read in full...)
She blew it off
Q. Okay, I need help big-time. My ex and I are really done. I know it. I feel it. Here is my dilemma. I broke it off last June 1st. She wasn't sure how she felt about us etc... She had been saying that off and on for the last year. I was tired of it, a...
A. 17 September 2007: Hi I can hear your hurt and frustration. It's not easy breaking up with someone it's almost like a bereavement and you have to go through the process of accepting it is over and that person has gone from your life. To prolong the process is to ... (read in full...)
So many problems in this relationship. Trust, his family and I'm not seeing him enough! What can I do? I love him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in this relationship for five years. Last year I found out that he cheated on me. When I asked about it he lied then he came clean. The thing is he said that he dont feel like he is making me happy in bed. We use t...
A. 19 June 2007: It is never easy finding your partner has cheated on you it can cause trust issues later on in the relationship. You don't expect your partner to cheat on you. This was then furthered by your boyfriend lying to you. He has then tried to put some ... (read in full...)
How do I conquer my jealousy?
Q. How do I conquer my jealousy? Or stop the inner boiling up? It's not that I'm possessive, it's just that my bf is extremely social. He has many friends who are women, and when he talks to them by telephone, he rarely even mentions me, and I sort o...
A. 12 June 2007: Jealousy is not a good thing but there is usually a reason behind it. Perhaps you have had bad relationships and have been cheated on or betrayed by friends which explains your behaviour. The difficulty is learning to trust again. To trust ... (read in full...)
what do I do or tell her?
Q. My best friend is making me mad she always ask me if I'm seeing anybody and I'm afraid to tell her I am because she always wants there numbers then she will call them and it feels weird what do I do or tell her?...
A. 12 June 2007: I'm sorry to hear you feel so mad at your friend can you tell her how she's making you feel? It's none of your friends business who you date you are in control of your own life. You can tell your friend you are dating someone, but you don't need ... (read in full...)
What do you think I should do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with this guy and we've been together for like almost 18 months. On his birth day I gave this friend (a girl) of mine his email address just to wish him happy bday(that was in April. Lately this friend of mine has been ema...
A. 12 June 2007: I can understand that you wanted to give your friend your boyfriends email and that you trusted your friend to write to him for only his birthday. You did a good thing and now this friend is abusing your trust.
I am glad that your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm So Confused
Q. My husband serves in the royal navy, last year he went away for 5 months he left when I was three months pregnant and returned 2 weeks before our wedding. We had a lovely wedding, and I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in November. However I have ...
A. 7 June 2007: I can understand why you don't trust your husband. I think you need to talk with him, but then I suppose you may wonder if you can trust him. I am wondering if you could talk to one of his friends without him finding out. This is a tricky one as ... (read in full...)
Have I Done Something Wrong?
Q. Is it something i'm doing wrong? I started dating a man in the army when i was 17. We spent practically every minute together and got on brilliantly. I stood by him and supported him when he went away on operational tours and we were compleatly ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi I don't think you've done anything wrong. I think it's your husband that has done wrong. I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I really feel for you. You trusted you're husband and he abused that trust. He left you with your son and a ... (read in full...)
Worried About My Height
Q. Hi, I've recently been feeling very concious about my height. I've always been one of the tallest, but now I'm worried, I'm going to be small. My immediate family are all average height(father 5'8'' and mother 5'6''), but my grandfather, both...
A. 6 June 2007: I just noticed I said site and I meant size, lol!... (read in full...)
Worried About My Height
Q. Hi, I've recently been feeling very concious about my height. I've always been one of the tallest, but now I'm worried, I'm going to be small. My immediate family are all average height(father 5'8'' and mother 5'6''), but my grandfather, both...
A. 6 June 2007: I'm only 5 foot 2 and believe the best things come in small packages. I know it must be worrying for you since you want to be tall, but try not too be too focussed on your site since you have other attributes like your personality. If you are ... (read in full...)
I only like him as a friend, what shall I do?
Q. I really like this boy right and i always have and all of my friends know, but one of them has started going out with him.. i dont know what to do because i really like him but i cant ask him out or anything but i sometimes go places with them ...
A. 31 May 2007: Hi there seems to be a lot of confusion on the one hand it sounds like you feel sad because your friend has just started dating your friend who you feel very strongly about. I hear you when you say you don't know what to do, but how would your ... (read in full...)
We're getting married, BUT he's on kinky sex dating sites and doesn't want me for sex!
Q. my boyfriend is wonderful but when I starded my relation with him i found that he was inside of a lot of kinky sex datings sites (he said it was part of his past)suddenly he has some strange behavoir (i am sure he doesnt have time for see anybody ...
A. 28 May 2007: Hi I can understand your fears and worries. Espescially since your due to be married to him soon. What I will say is that you need to be 110% certain that he's the right man for you and at the moment it doesn't sound like you are. I know you love ... (read in full...)
My gf seems to hate it whenever her family talks to me! This is so bizarre..why does she do this?
Q. Whenever I am around at my girlfriends her parents and brothers try and speak to me. Whenever one of them attempts to speak to me, my girlfriend tells them to go away or tells them that 'I don't want to talk to them' for no apparant reason! When...
A. 27 May 2007: You say that your girlfriend doesn't want her family to speak to you and this does seem strange. Perhaps this is a problem your girlfriend has with her family?
It sounds as though your girlfriend is embarrassed when her family talks to you. Ma... (read in full...)
I am suspicious of other people and their motives when they want to get close. How do I deal with this?
Q. I find any act that is aimed to come close to me physically as being something that is a hostile move from a human being to hurt me, disturb me or harm me in some way. It is rarely a move that is aimed at showing affection / respect / love or ...
A. 26 May 2007: It sounds to me as though you've been hurt a lot in the past and any act that is physical threatens you and perhaps brings past memories up that you'd rather forget. Also when another person comes close to you their entering your space and you ... (read in full...)
How do I break the ice with my girlfriend's father?
Q. Hey everyone! Has anyone got any good advice for getting around the quiet dad of my girlfriend?? When I first met him it was a very formal handshake, acknowledgment etc. He was very quiet, didn't make eye contact once as far as I noticed. I'm ...
A. 8 May 2007: http://www.blogchex.com/personcentred/? I forgot if you want to know more about me you can have a look at my blog.... (read in full...)
How do I break the ice with my girlfriend's father?
Q. Hey everyone! Has anyone got any good advice for getting around the quiet dad of my girlfriend?? When I first met him it was a very formal handshake, acknowledgment etc. He was very quiet, didn't make eye contact once as far as I noticed. I'm ...
A. 8 May 2007: Hi it sounds as though the father is very protective over his daughter. I think you need to earn the trust of him which is proving difficult because he didn't make eye contact you. He sounds like a down to earth kind of guy, but he is probably ... (read in full...)
He winds me up all the time and we argue! He thinks it's nothing-so how do I deal with this?
Q. I've wrote before, and you helped so i'm trying for help again. Me and my boyfriend, well, now ex boyfriend have broken up, but we still want to be together but we just keep arguing, at first, we spent all our time with his best mate, and we argued ...
A. 9 April 2007: You say you still want to be together, but are arguing a lot. Can you get used to him winding you up? If not then it doesn't look likely to last. It sounds as though he is still very immature and he doesn't realise how much he is upsetting you so ... (read in full...)
I'm just sick of being alone and having no one to make me feel loved.
Q. Basically, i'm just sick of being alone. Im 17, and i've never had a boyfriend. Well, not a proper one at least. I think i had one a couple of years back, but it lasted about 2 weeks, so i don't consider it so. I've only ever had one kiss (and it ...
A. 7 April 2007: You sound like you are feeling very low at the moment. You are fed up of being on your own and this makes you feel lonely and depressed. I suppose you must think you yourself that you will never get a proper boyfriend, but at the same time 17 is ... (read in full...)
The in-laws are always interferring with our marriage! Please help!
Q. Hi my wife went to her parents home in December for an interview.After the interview she could not come back because she was waiting for the results.She later decided to stay there with out telling me the reason.l did not bother asking her when she...
A. 5 April 2007: It sounds as though your worried that your wife is keeping things from you as you say she stayed at your inlaws and didn't give a reason. It seems there is a lack of trust and you couldn't ask her when she was coming back because her parents wanted ... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me I asked him to stop but he just said its a laugh and I need to get a sense of humour! I cant see the funny side!?
Q. i went to meet my ex boyfriend yesterday because he wanted to talk to me so i thought if i met him outside id be safe. we went back to his house and the door was locked so we couldnt get in because he didnt have his keys. i asked him wat he wantedt ...
A. 4 April 2007: Hi I keep thinking about you and about what happened to you and I would really like to know if you are alright and how you are coping with things. Please could you write to me you can send a private message if you don't want to write publicly. I ... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me I asked him to stop but he just said its a laugh and I need to get a sense of humour! I cant see the funny side!?
Q. i went to meet my ex boyfriend yesterday because he wanted to talk to me so i thought if i met him outside id be safe. we went back to his house and the door was locked so we couldnt get in because he didnt have his keys. i asked him wat he wantedt ...
A. 4 April 2007: I am so sorry. This guy raped you there was no excuse. He didn't listen to you when you said to get off you and he carried on forcefully.
You need to tell someone about this as soon as possible. Please don't bottle it in. When I was 8 I was ra... (read in full...)
The guy I have a crush on told me he loved me! What should I do now!?
Q. i was talkin to a guy on the phone last night that i have had a crush on for along while. we used to see each other every day as just friends and we never kissed each other or anything because we where friends. but then he had to move away. i really ...
A. 4 April 2007: Personally I would not stay at his house if you are worried you will go too far. If you want to do this then use protection and go to speak to your doctor about the right type of protection. Your doctor has to keep everything you tell them ... (read in full...)
I think I had sex, but Im not sure, Im worried that Im pregnant!!
Q. i dont know if im pregnant!! but im reallyy scared after reading all these stories. i think i had sex but im not sure! if u have sex can u feel the penis go inside of u??.. i dont think it went inside but im not too sure. we didnt even use a condom. ...
A. 4 April 2007: I am sorry you feel so worried. It is clear to see that you feel very scared. Sexual intercourse is where the penis goes inside of you and the only way you get pregnant is if the man came inside you. It is very important to wear a condom not only ... (read in full...)
I cant get an erection when with someone new, any advice ?
Q. I have had sex alot, but every time I meet someone new i cant get it up. Im so nervous can you give me advice?...
A. 3 April 2007: You need to learn to relax more. There is a drug called Viagra you have probably heard of it you could get that though a word of advice. Be very careful with it I believe you can get addicted to it and so only take it when you absolutely need ... (read in full...)
We broke up as it was hard being long distance etc, Im hurt that she already had sex with someone and whilst not my business I am worried about her!
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We broke up because of logistical reasons. The distance that kept us apart, difficult legal issues concerning immigration should we want to move to be together and general conflicting life ...
A. 3 April 2007: It is never easy having a long distant relationship and it wasn't easy for you both from the start. The fact that she gave you hope from the beginning that your relationship maybe something more kept your dreams of a future with her still alive. ... (read in full...)
I knew he had a gf, we had sex, shes gone to America for 2 weeks I'm in love with him!! What do I do ?
Q. We had sex even though he had a girlfriend. He told me they were on a break and he told her about me. Now shes gone to america for 2 weeks hes still sleeping with me and ive fallen in love! What do i do!...
A. 3 April 2007: Well to be honest with you, you knew what you were getting into before you slept with him. You knew he had a girlfriend and yet you still slept with him now you have fallen in love and gotten into a big mess. The fact he told you they were on a b... (read in full...)
Should I take the first step to at least regain our friendship ?
Q. Hey, My boyfriend dumped me about three months ago, and even though it was quite a short relationship (a month), it ended extremely suddenly. One week everything was brilliant, and the next it was over. I didn't really handle it very well and even...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi my main reaction when I first read this was that it might hurt you even more being friends with him because you still sound like you have feelings for him and if you stay friends you may wish you were back together with him. The fact that ... (read in full...)
Im in love with her but Im to shy to talk to her! How can I speak to her ?
Q. i am in love with a girll and will like to marry her but my problem is that im shy and whenever i met her i loose the confidence to speak to her. tell me what to do ...
A. 1 April 2007: If you really love her then you need to tell her that you love her and be up front about it.
You don't give much information away so this is going to be a short post.... (read in full...)
How do you know when your being used ?
Q. How do you know when you are being used?...
A. 1 April 2007: This is a hard one to answer because you do not give any information about your situation.
Basically a real friend will tell you the truth no matter how much it hurts. A friend will always stand by you even when things are bad. A real friend w... (read in full...)
Am I just dreaming??
Q. So here's the deal. I had a long distance relationship for a while and eventually I moved to be with her. We lived together for about 3 months and then I had to leave again. The plan was for me to come back a month later and we would be reunited...
A. 1 April 2007: It sounds as though she was making all the decisions for you how do you think you settled in there? She said that she felt like she was holding you back, but would she listen to you when you tried to tell her you wanted to be with her? It sounds ... (read in full...)
Should I dump him and completely rip his heart out.. or stay in it for longer and see what happens?
Q. My long-distance-boyfriend is having a hard time. His parents recently disowned him, and he just had about 5,000 dollars stolen from his bank account. Our two year anniversary is coming up in July and everytime it hink about it my stomach kind of ...
A. 31 March 2007: To me it sounds like you feel obliged to be with this guy out of some kind of duty. The fact that he is having a hard time, his parents recently disowned him, and he just had money stolen from his bank account. All add to the extra pressure you ... (read in full...)
Thanks to all those that helped me on my quest for various answers.....
Q. I would just like to take this time to thank everybody who has answered my questions. I have asked three or four, to you they may seem different subjects, but there not. They all tie into my life today. I have asked about my ex boyfriend and wh...
A. 31 March 2007: Wow it is brilliant to hear how much you have moved on. You are right things do just happen and you shouldn't blame God, but He loves us and understands that we will blame Him for the things that happen to us and that's what He is there for so we ... (read in full...)
I want to try for another baby but Im scared, and also worried that it would be betraying my sons memory!?
Q. Hello some of you may remember me as I have posted a few questions before. Me and my boyfriend have been through a rough year, to the point where I thought I didn’t love him anymore. Well after a lot of talks we decided to be together as we a...
A. 30 March 2007: I cannot possibly imagine what it was like for you to lose your son and can only empathise with the pain you must have felt. My heart goes out to you. I have a 15 month oldd daughter and she was premature they spent 10 minutes trying to resucitate ... (read in full...)
Can anyone interpret this dream? I confided a sickness to a teacher in real life and had a bizarre dream about it!
Q. Okay. I was wondering if anybody is good at defining/interpreting people's dreams? My Dream: I was in some class room, with all of my sophomore classmates. I had this little pink diary and slipped it into my bookbag. Then I heard someone sa...
A. 30 March 2007: I just want to say that I don't believe dreams are anything to do with the psychic realms. They are to do with the unconcious mind that Freud looked at in his studies. Dreams are usually our deepest fears and anxieties, but they have absolutely ... (read in full...)
Can anyone interpret this dream? I confided a sickness to a teacher in real life and had a bizarre dream about it!
Q. Okay. I was wondering if anybody is good at defining/interpreting people's dreams? My Dream: I was in some class room, with all of my sophomore classmates. I had this little pink diary and slipped it into my bookbag. Then I heard someone sa...
A. 29 March 2007: Dreams are significant they usually tend to mean something and usually are logical explanations. Dreams are unique and you will not usually have the same dream as another though very rarely does that happen.
Dreams are usually the unconcio... (read in full...)
We have known each other since we were 14, Ive fallen for her, but cant tell her in case she doesnt believe me!!
Q. ok me and this girl have been friends all our life since we were little we are now both 14 and i think im falling in love with her, shes all i can think about, it upsets me to see her down and i want to be with her all the time, i honestly love her ...
A. 29 March 2007: I hear how much love you have for this girl and I think that is great. At the age of 14 you have a good idea of your feelings and what you want. You say that if you told her she wouldn't believe you, but you cannot know that because you have... (read in full...)
Is this too soon to be getting engaged ?
Q. me and my boyfriend were dating for seven months an we split up for two years we are now getting back together and he wants to marry me and i want to marry him but be engaged for about two years is this too soon for our relationship?...
A. 29 March 2007: The fact that you are asking whether it is too soon for your relationship is good because it shows you are thinking about things, but it also shows a doubt. If there is doubt there then I suggest you wait a while and carry on going out with him and ... (read in full...)
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