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I don't know if I can trust him, anymore.
Q. me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years now and he cheated on me right after i found out i was preganat and he new but one night his ex girl friend texted him and he told her to never text or call him and that i was preganat and we were ...
A. 15 November 2012: Run away. Don't walk. if you can fly, or drive, or ride a motorcycle, or moped, make it happen.... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to have a healthy three-way relationship, not not just a sexual threesome, but an actual dating relationship?
Q. My fiance (age 27) and I (25) have been together for two and a half years. We have a 15 month old son together, and she has a daughter that she feels might have a minor form of autism that lives with the father. We have had our rough times, but ...
A. 15 November 2012: Yes, you can have a polyamorous relationship... ... (read in full...)
Do I chose my friend? Or his sister?
Q. I like my best friend's sister but the problem is that I don't want to lose him so what should I do?...
A. 15 November 2012: Talk to him and explain how much you like her... If he's a good friend, you'll understand... Unless your best friend is a girl, which in that case, is a hell no, choose your best friend... ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and I don't think any guy will ever want me
Q. Help I am 18 and having a rough time. I feel ugly and I dont think any guy will ever want me or choose me over anyone else. My mum says I am beautiful but I think she would say that. I am at the stage where I dont like anything about myself. I am ...
A. 15 November 2012: You can't have a boyfriend until you're happy with yourself. You can't use someone else as a crutch to fill in the gaps of what you feel that you're missing... The best thing that you can do is travel, spend time with loved ones, figure out where ... (read in full...)
When I'm not home or sleeping all my boyfriend does is watch porn.
Q. So I have a question thats been bothering me alot lately.... I been with the same man going on a year and the last month or so I have noticed that when im not home or sleeping all he does is watch porn... I mean there is like 50 things a day from ...
A. 15 November 2012: Sounds like he's got either sex addiction, porn addiction, or a very high sex drive... there's therapy, pills, and long love making sessions that can fix that...... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to watch porn online?
Q. Ok now i no im about to sound stupid but... a couple of weeks ago and again last night i watched porn on an online site( strictly adult couples nothing wrong or sick ect ) I dont know why I watched it, I think it was just curiosity but it suddenly ...
A. 15 November 2012: Not at all, unless it's child pornography... ... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded to my texts so I left him alone for a few weeks. Should I try again now?
Q. I've had this crush on this boy for about two months and when I first started to like him I got his number and we'd text a lot and flirt and at one point we even kissed. But he just got out of a major relationship so he doesn't want anything ...
A. 15 November 2012: Yea, right now, he probably needs just a friend, you're absolutely right... ... (read in full...)
She's a liar but every time I try to leave she cries and I stay. Help!
Q. I wanna start by saying that im a 25 year old male from ct. I've been dating this girl for the past year and a half and I knew not to get involved from day one. When I met her she was in a relationship for about a month with a guy almost an hour ...
A. 15 November 2012: Good job getting out. Don't walk away... run... if you can't run, fly, or drive, or get a moped... ... (read in full...)
How much do you normally spend on Christmas gifts for in laws and parents?
Q. I have a question regarding Christmas gift giving. How much do you typically spend on parents and in laws for Christmas? I can only really use my own family and my husbands family as examples and we do things pretty differently so I'm curious what ...
A. 15 November 2012: Yea, I like candy, so I tell people to get me that, and it's like... 5 bucks...... (read in full...)
How do you deal with losing someone who made you genuinely happy when you did nothing to cause the distance?
Q. Thank u in advance for ur help. So i had a female friend who i have been getting along with since September. We would see and talk to one another at least twice a week. I had feelings for her but since it was a great connection i let it play itself ...
A. 15 November 2012: Yea, no worries... It wasn't you... There was either stress, she got scared because she started to care too much, or there was someone else... Those are the only real options... ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by walking away when my fiance was staring at a woman? He didn't try to find me.
Q. My fiance stares a lot at women in front of me. I've talked to him about it, but to no avail. His staring can get blatant, up and down looks, looking at their rear. No matter where we go, he looks or tries to sneak a peek in. I see it all even if ...
A. 14 November 2012: He might have just been talking to her. Making small talk isn't horrible. Lots of people do it. If he started ripping her clothes off and having sex with her, or touching her, or making out with her, then you'd have a problem. It's all gravy. Stop ... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded to my texts so I left him alone for a few weeks. Should I try again now?
Q. I've had this crush on this boy for about two months and when I first started to like him I got his number and we'd text a lot and flirt and at one point we even kissed. But he just got out of a major relationship so he doesn't want anything ...
A. 14 November 2012: He probably needs space, and kissed you at a time where he was most vulnerable. Right now, it doesn't matter what you want, what matters is what he needs. Leave him be, and if he finds you, then he finds you. Otherwise, you're going to have to let ... (read in full...)
I've got to live with my ex for another 4 months and she's seeing other guys already! How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm 26 my ex is 21. (go figure I'd have relationship issues right?) Alright, so my now ex-girlfriend and I were together for 2 years. A few weeks ago I noticed a change in her behavior, she was shielding her phone. So I looked through it when she ...
A. 14 November 2012: Just ignore her. ... (read in full...)
I had sex with a married man but now he won't speak to me! What do I do?
Q. please help i had sex twice with this married man who is driving me crazy,i know what i did was wrong but i couldnt control my self i was so attracted to him but ever since the last time we had sex this was like three weeks ago he hasnt kept intouch ...
A. 14 November 2012: Leave him be and find your own person. What you did was really wrong, and you might want to take time to take a long hard look at yourself. You obviously have no problem destroying families and such, so you might want to go work on that... ... (read in full...)
I haven't been showing much affection lately, what can I do now to bring back his smile?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about close to 10 months now. And well... Quite recently I have just finished my Major Examinations. So.. Freedom. During the period of my examinations, he has been there for me, making time for me...
A. 14 November 2012: It's not difficult... Tell him you love him, hold his hand, be intimate with him... ... (read in full...)
I like this girl a lot but she keeps changing her mind about what she wants. What should I do?
Q. was wondering if people could advise me as im confused and depressed by this situation. i've been seeing this girl. we slept together a couple of times and it all seemed good. then she suddenyl started being busy- going to parties and stuf...
A. 14 November 2012: She's a flake. Run. if you can't run, walk quickly, or fly, or drive, or get a segway or a moped and speed away...... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty giving the cold shoulder to someone who was rude to me?
Q. This is a curiosity question mainly for psychologist, and psychology lovers. Keeping in mind this was three years ago. About three - four years ago i was volunteering at youth center there this worker, all the female staff pretty much droolin...
A. 14 November 2012: You feel guilty because there's always going to be that part of you that cares about him, and you feel bad because your actions might affect that part of him...
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My boyfriend is dirty and won't take a shower for me, how can I get him to?
Q. My Boyfriend does not like to keep himself hygienically clean. He is almost a 40 year old man. His average is a shower every three days. He thinks that he is clean. It gets hard to be intimate due to his lack of cleanliness; it affects my sex life ...
A. 14 November 2012: It sounds like he's become too comfortable with you... and he might also be losing feelings for you, otherwise he would get all cleaned up for you. Anyone can get intimate, but he sounds selfish, like he doesn't care about you...... (read in full...)
She's a liar but every time I try to leave she cries and I stay. Help!
Q. I wanna start by saying that im a 25 year old male from ct. I've been dating this girl for the past year and a half and I knew not to get involved from day one. When I met her she was in a relationship for about a month with a guy almost an hour ...
A. 14 November 2012: Run away. Fast. If you can't run, walk quickly, drive, or fly.... (read in full...)
I left my wife for a woman half my age. Now I hear crap like she will leave me one day, how do I stop it and what do I do if she does leave?
Q. let me start out by saying that i usually dont need advice but im truly upset. i am 49 cheated on my wife with a girl half my age, left my wife for her, got a divorce, got engaged, and now im going to be a father for the first time, to my own child. ...
A. 14 November 2012: As long as you're a loyal husband and dad, why do you care what people say? Screw 'em. Be happy. Also, don't cheat again. Cheating is bad.... (read in full...)
How much do you normally spend on Christmas gifts for in laws and parents?
Q. I have a question regarding Christmas gift giving. How much do you typically spend on parents and in laws for Christmas? I can only really use my own family and my husbands family as examples and we do things pretty differently so I'm curious what ...
A. 14 November 2012: It doesn't matter what you spend if the gift is meaningful... ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with losing someone who made you genuinely happy when you did nothing to cause the distance?
Q. Thank u in advance for ur help. So i had a female friend who i have been getting along with since September. We would see and talk to one another at least twice a week. I had feelings for her but since it was a great connection i let it play itself ...
A. 14 November 2012: You definitely need to talk to her, but be cool about it... ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend I've fallen for him or just suffer in silence?
Q. So I went and did the worst thing possible, I fell in love with one of my friends. I've known him nearly two years and realized that I loved him about 4 months ago. Now I don't want to lose a good friend if he doesn't feel the same so the dilemma is ...
A. 11 November 2012: Do NOT say anything, trust me... Just leave it be. I just got out of a relationship with my best friend, and it gets really ugly on the way out... Spare your friendship... ... (read in full...)
Broken up with her while deployed. She says I gave her too little too late. But why is she keeping my stuff, and should I have no contact with her or text her on her upcoming birthday?
Q. Apologize for the length of this...Currently I am on deployment and won't be home for about 6 months. I met my ex girlfriend about 2 years and a few months ago. When I first started dating her I wanted to take things slow. I had been in another ...
A. 11 November 2012: I just went through the same exact thing. Deployed, distant e-mails, ect... She got angry for no reason and decided to break it off. I said my peace in an e-mail, but still no response. All you can do is cut your losses, and hope that the giant ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him... or should I not?
Q. Hello everybody. I would like you're opinion... I have been sort of dating a guy, for the past 3 months, let's call him A. We did have sex but we were just friends that were in love. About a week ago we had a huge argument about me being so moody...
A. 11 November 2012: Yep. Not to be blunt, but you were friends with benefits. ... (read in full...)
Help!!!! My confidence and self esteem are at an all time low...
Q. My self esteem and confidence was shattered by my ex boyfriend, he would always call me fat and make nasty comments about the way i looked and my weight. In the bedroom he would constantly tell me how crap i was at some things and how sometimes i ...
A. 11 November 2012: You've got to take you time. If you're surrounded by toxic people, get them out of your life. Why do you care what everyone else thinks? If you're not happy with yourself, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and do something about it, until the ... (read in full...)
There is nothing I can do and this is tearing us apart
Q. My girlfriend has been stressing lately about paying for college because she doesn't have enough to pay what the college is asking for. I try to make her feel better about it and I love her so I usually can calm her down. Today she was crying and ...
A. 2 November 2012: Has she looked into FAFSA, Pell Grants, scholarships, ect? If she doesn't have a huge income, sounds like she has more options than she realizes. Depending on how serious your relationship is, maybe you could step up and help her cover some of those ... (read in full...)
There is nothing I can do and this is tearing us apart
Q. My girlfriend has been stressing lately about paying for college because she doesn't have enough to pay what the college is asking for. I try to make her feel better about it and I love her so I usually can calm her down. Today she was crying and ...
A. 2 November 2012: Has she looked into FAFSA, Pell Grants, scholarships, ect? If she doesn't have a huge income, sounds like she has more options than she realizes. Depending on how serious your relationship is, maybe you could step up and help her cover some of those ... (read in full...)
We have been fighting over little stuff and now g/f wants to take a break
Q. me and my Girlfriend been fighting with each other for the past couple weeks. It's about stupid stuff, the littlest stuff is getting to us. And she don't like how i catch a attitude with her really quick after i get done hanging out with my ...
A. 2 November 2012: You had someone watching her? You'll need to explain more before any of us can help you... It sounds like you might have insecurity/control issues that you might need to work through before you can be in a relationship with her. If she needs a ... (read in full...)
We have been fighting over little stuff and now g/f wants to take a break
Q. me and my Girlfriend been fighting with each other for the past couple weeks. It's about stupid stuff, the littlest stuff is getting to us. And she don't like how i catch a attitude with her really quick after i get done hanging out with my ...
A. 2 November 2012: You had someone watching her? You'll need to explain more before any of us can help you... It sounds like you might have insecurity/control issues that you might need to work through before you can be in a relationship with her. If she needs a ... (read in full...)
Condoms in his wallet change? Is he cheating?
Q. My boyfriend is 19 and I am 18. We've been together for around 5 months now. Im his first girlfriend. He is so gentle, caring and affectionate, and is generally a very nice guy. We get along exceptionally well, and it has been this way since ...
A. 2 November 2012: Sounds like he's got a case of bad nerves... performance anxiety so to speak. Most guys (myself included) carry a condom in their wallets. It's a regular occurrence, and nothing to be worried about. We do it as a just in case type thing... As long ... (read in full...)
Condoms in his wallet change? Is he cheating?
Q. My boyfriend is 19 and I am 18. We've been together for around 5 months now. Im his first girlfriend. He is so gentle, caring and affectionate, and is generally a very nice guy. We get along exceptionally well, and it has been this way since ...
A. 2 November 2012: Sounds like he's got a case of bad nerves... performance anxiety so to speak. Most guys (myself included) carry a condom in their wallets. It's a regular occurrence, and nothing to be worried about. We do it as a just in case type thing... As long ... (read in full...)
We are under alot of stress but something has got to give!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2.5 years. A lot of people thought he would be my rebound because I had literally just gotten out of a terrible 3.5 year relationship a week prior but we managed to work through a lot of shit together. (In ...
A. 2 November 2012: Number one -- communication is a pitfall in most relationships. Make sure you tell him all of this, because it could all just be a huge miscommunication.
Did you guys take on all of this right as you moved in with each other? That could be a hug... (read in full...)
We are under alot of stress but something has got to give!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2.5 years. A lot of people thought he would be my rebound because I had literally just gotten out of a terrible 3.5 year relationship a week prior but we managed to work through a lot of shit together. (In ...
A. 2 November 2012: Number one -- communication is a pitfall in most relationships. Make sure you tell him all of this, because it could all just be a huge miscommunication.
Did you guys take on all of this right as you moved in with each other? That could be a hug... (read in full...)
How does a guy break up with a girl, but do so in a kind way?
Q. Hey guys This is a question that one of my friends asked me but I didnt know the answer so can you try and answer it. Thanks He has been going out with this girl for about 2 months now and he feels the spark has gone and he is going to break u...
A. 24 April 2011: You should talk to her about it. Just be honest and say that the spark has gone, exactly like you just typed...... (read in full...)
Why did he let me get away with this? (FwB question)
Q. Long story short, I've got a friend with benefits and I made a huge mistake. He took to long to respond to a text, and then told me he was busy. And I got pissy at him and told him to talk to me when he decided I was worth talking to. I pre...
A. 24 April 2011: You have to realize that you confused a bunch of us on here by saying that your relationship was a friends with benefits type. That means that you're friends with the person and have a sexual relationship with them. We gave an answer that was ... (read in full...)
Why did he let me get away with this? (FwB question)
Q. Long story short, I've got a friend with benefits and I made a huge mistake. He took to long to respond to a text, and then told me he was busy. And I got pissy at him and told him to talk to me when he decided I was worth talking to. I pre...
A. 24 April 2011: You're way too young to have a friends with benefits relationship. 13 to 15 year olds should barely even get the concept of dating at that age. Amazingk is right, concentrate on your school and becoming successful. You've still got a whole lot of ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my BF it's over? I said No. But He's still pressuring me. he wants to lose his virginity with me.
Q. I am a 14 year old virgin, but my BF , which is 15, wants to lose his virginity with me. We have been dating for not so long(1 month or so) and I'm scared that if I continue dating him, then I'll lose my virginity. At first it was a straight up ...
A. 24 April 2011: If you said no, and he still keeps asking, get rid of him. Tell him to either be willing to wait, or you'll find someone else who is willing to. Be confident enough to let him know that the world offers you options...
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My girlfriend keeps promising to try harder in the relationship, but she doesn't!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost a year and a half now. Before her I had another girlfriend for nearly 2 years and It was a bad breakup. I almost did not date my current girlfriend because my ex ruined it for me. But I decided to ...
A. 24 April 2011: If you're putting in all of the effort, all you can do is move on.
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I cannot stand the constant stream of husband's family in our home!
Q. I am an only child and have been married to my second husband for nearly 2 years - my first husband died. My parents are both dead and I come from a very small family unit. The man I have married comes from a very large family and he has children ...
A. 24 April 2011: I think that you've grown used to your life and how things are. Change doesn't just come from your surroundings, it comes from within. I think that instead of staying quiet and becoming anti-social, you should say something. In a marraige, both ... (read in full...)
Is it my pride or something else that's making me leave her?
Q. i met this girl 4 months before i had to go study over seas. I was everything in her life. Her first proper boyfriend. I ws gone for 15 months. We always talked on the phone and internet. I cheated on her couple of times when i was gone. When i came ...
A. 24 July 2008: You guys both cheated on each other. If you really loved each other, you guys would have been dedicated to each other, no matter how far apart you were. I don't see my girlfriend as much as I would like, but when we're together, we make the best of ... (read in full...)
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