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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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If he stares at you does that mean there could be 'love there"?
Q. When a men stares at you and you look at him that mean there could be love there. when a men says hi two you everytime he sees you does it mean the like you....
A. 26 May 2007: If he goes out of his way to say it, in a kind manner, then yes. If he just walks by and stares, he's having bad thoughts about you. I say hi to this girl at a fruit stand every morning... I'm slowly falling for her...
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I am a mature student and I am bi-curious.I have this mad crush on my female teacher! What should I do about it?
Q. I am in my mid-twenties, happily married with a child. I am currently a mature student at college and I am head over heels madly deeply in love with my female teacher who has children older than me. She is not only beautiful outside but she's caring ...
A. 26 May 2007: Nothing, you're married. If you choose to do something, end your marraige, and say goodbye to your child. If you're in love with someone else, you really don't deserve what you have now.
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Do men sort of fall out of love with their woman after they have his baby?
Q. I had a baby a mo. and a half ago. Lately, I feel like maybe my boyfriend resents the responsibility I have brought upon him. We were friends for like 6 yrs. before we got together and I was dating a friend of his. Well, we were just seeing ...
A. 26 May 2007: Certain guys just aren't meant to be in relationships, or have babies, and this sounds like one of them. I personally tend to pick girls that I fall for all over again every time I see them. That's how you know you're in love. If you're really in ... (read in full...)
Update: She's never been kissed before so how do I tell her I have feelings
Q. Hey, this isn't really a question im just writing to thank everyone for the advice they gave me and to let you know how it went. Well my question title was "She's never been kissed before so how do I tell her I have feelings??" Well i went back to ...
A. 26 May 2007: Congratulations!!
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Gf is finished with me! How can I get her back?
Q. my girlfriend finished with me because she doesnt want a boyfriend nomore,what can i do to get her back...
A. 26 May 2007: If she doesn't want a boyfriend anymore, you have to respect her choice. You can't force someone to love you. It's time for you to move on to better things.
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He wants a baby--but, I don't want to have child without marriage. What should I do?
Q. Break up or wait??! I'm in need of some impartial advice! I've been with my partner for nearly 5 years now. We are both professionals owning houses very near each other (don't live together). My partner is 32 was married and has a daugh...
A. 26 May 2007: If he can't commit to a marraige, how can he commit to a child? I'm suprised that he holds onto the one he has, because that's just as large a commitment as marraige. I agree with you, you should be married. I think that you should find someone else ... (read in full...)
She told my mate on msn she loved me--so why didn't she just tell me?
Q. Hiya there been a development i fill you in on the details, A few days ago my mate on msn said that he had spoken to my ex-girlfreind on msn and she told him that she loves me this was about 2 weeks ago, so why not tell me this,since them about...
A. 26 May 2007: I would call her right now, and see if she wants to get back together. The anonymous guy was right- be friends, as well as partners. That's important.
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I get angry when he looks at other female forms! What should I do?
Q. hey im 16 and i have a boyfriend of 5 months. and we went to the beach 2day with loads of people nd girls in bikini's and stuff. and he kept looking at other girls boobs and legs and stuff. this drives me crazy and i just wanna shout to him and...
A. 26 May 2007: Tell him that you don't mind him looking at other girls, but it's not nice to oggle while you're already in the presence of one. He doesn't sound like a good guy. Start looking at other guys when you're with him, and see what it does to him.
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I called my bf while I was on holiday and he told me to"f**k off!" Should I go back to him or not?
Q. I am visitng my family for 3 weeks, and away from my boyfriend of 4 years. I have called him today on his cellphone and he was getting ready to visit his dad at the hospital and was in a hurry. While talking to me, he said that "im bugging his ...
A. 26 May 2007: Let him be. If he wants to talk to you, let him call you. Regardless of why he might have been angry, he still owes you an apology. Until then, move on with your life, and if something better comes along, take it.
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After we had sex he said, "we are seeing each other, to see how we get along". What did that mean?
Q. hiya, slightly confused here. after to speaking to a few people i still have no idea so i bring the question here if you are seeing a guy, does it mean its nothing serious but really just sex? the line i was given was' we are seeing eachot...
A. 26 May 2007: He was obviously looking to "test drive the merchandise" so to speak. Ditch him and move on. Don't even give him a second thought.
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My selfish ex bf won't talk to me now, because I didn't leave work to pick him up with my car. Should I call him?
Q. Me and my ex broke up and became friends but he's till selfish. We broke up about 5 months ago and didnt speak. He called me after mayeb two months. We started having casual sex without the strings. We hang out from time to time. I used to let him ...
A. 26 May 2007: He's a user, don't bother.
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Frustrated because my bf never is home for me and the kids. What should I do?
Q. hi all wondering could i get some advice/opinions with wat im experiencing right now, to be honest feel like im cracking up. all replies welcome and thany u in advance. ill be brief, with my bf 3 yrs,we have 2yr and 8yr old boys together, bf wor...
A. 26 May 2007: Being a partner means satisfying the other's needs. Luckily, he's just a boyfriend, which means that he can be let go. If he's not there for his children either, there's also a major problem there. I think that you should end it, and figure out a ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but I 'love' my teacher, Mr. D. So who do I choose?
Q. I like this guy, let's call him Peter. But I love my teacher, let's call him Mr.Dreary. I just met Peter, and we talk online sometimes. He's nice and seems cool. We like the same things too. But I have loved Mr.Dreary for almost two years now, b...
A. 26 May 2007: One's married, and one's not. It seems like it's more than a logical choice to me. Is it worth destroying the man's marraige and career to get what you want? Stop being selfish. You're way too young for him as well. He's going to want a mature ... (read in full...)
I don't think we need to have sex at this stage of dating. Any tips on how we can slow it down a notch?
Q. I am nearly 17 and my wonderful grilfriend is 16. We have been togetehr for nearly 10months and i am completely devoted to her. And i madly love her. Recently, we have been more passionate. Kissing and 'groping'. But i am becomign worried that this ...
A. 26 May 2007: If you don't want to have sex with her yet, tell her that you need to slow things down. Tell her that you were also in the wrong for causing things to move so fast, but that you're getting scared and would like to slow down. She'll respect that.
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My friend is really misjudging my bf...should I still be friends with her?
Q. I have a boyfriend who treats me great. He is kinda weird at times but i tell him that and he agrees. Everyone does weird things it's just some don't care to show it. Well, to get to the point, My friend was hanging out with us for a few times then ...
A. 26 May 2007: Until he proves otherwise, don't worry about it. Sometimes friends are able to see things clearly, and are looking out for you. A lot of times, however, people tend to stereotype and pass judgement before even spending enough time with someone and ... (read in full...)
Angry dysfunctional relationship...should I call him or let it go?
Q. Please, I am reposting my question again because I am desperate for help. Thanks for taking the time to read... Hi all, I have been in a romantic affair with a lovely man for 9 months. He was the one doing all the running, and gave me a lot...
A. 26 May 2007: No guy would ever call just to inquire about the flu. He had intentions of saying something more important when he called, and lost the confidence to say it. He was probably trying to fix things. You need to call him NOW if you want to save your ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 26 May 2007: I think that you need to be willing to give up your home for one near him. There is always a place to live halfway between. If you can find a location that suits all three of you, go for it. Otherwise, see if you can convince him to move. As long as ... (read in full...)
I'm successful in my studies but have no social life and never even dated... Worried that I have a boring personality (and I'm small)
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone could give me some useful advice.I'd be very grateful. I am 27 year old male, of small build (171 cm tall, slim, from the UK. Soon I'll be 28 years old (July). I am still at university, studying chemistry (well , I am a late ...
A. 26 May 2007: My answer remains the same, regardless.
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He can say "I love you" over the phone but not in person.. why?
Q. my bf says he loves me on the phone and i believe him, but to my face he can only manage i like you. He can't explain himself. Whats going on?...
A. 24 May 2007: It's easy to say over the phone, because you don't have to see their face. He may be nervous, and he may also fear your reaction. He may also be saying it to please you... Voice your concerns to him about it.
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We spend time 24/7 together for 8 months... now he wants space but not sure I can do it!
Q. Hi there My boyfriend and i have hit a rough patch, we used to spend 7 days a week together for the last 8 months until it started to cause problems like when he wanted to go out with out me i presumed it was because he didnt want me around anymor...
A. 24 May 2007: It will definitely work out. It's sweeter when you miss him. You'll enjoy it more when he's around.
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He still wants to be friends...should I or shouldn't I?
Q. "I left my troubled relationship for him. Now he has left me for pregnant ex girlfriend" He now says he would still want us to be friends. Do you think its wise for me to be friends with this guy or should i just forget he ever existed in my li...
A. 24 May 2007: If he left you for someone else, he never really loved you. Get him out of your life, and keep him out. Wish him the best, then forget that he ever existed.
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Decided I am moving to another country to start over! Is this a good idea?
Q. ("I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a ...
A. 24 May 2007: Running isn't going to help. Take a vacation, but don't walk away from your life because someone broke your heart. You may also find a completely set of rules to be prepared for. You'll find someone new.
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I really love a man with whom I am not sure I can share my life with, in terms of money matters.Any advice?
Q. I am 26 years old, married for about 3 years. I am a positive person with self-esteem and confidence in the future. I have a great CV with high education and experience. However it is not easy to find good income work in the country I live i...
A. 24 May 2007: Let me remind everyone of something. When you love someone, why does money matter? His happiness should be what's important to you. When you marry someone, it's for richer or poorer. As long as he's working at all, and he's showering you with love ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me when he sees me, once a month. Then I don't hear from him! Is he being sincere?
Q. My boyfriend and I live in different towns. I see him once a month and when we see each other he always tells me that he loves me, but as soon as he leaves, I don't hear from him for weeks. He won't even return my smses. Do you think he means it ...
A. 24 May 2007: He probably doesn't love you. I know that probably hurts to figure out, but it's got to be the truth. When a guy really loves a girl, he can't get enough of her, and would be making an out of town trip as much as possible. I think that you should ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 24 May 2007: You should tell the middle daughter that there comes a time when people go away. Tell her that her grandma has to go away, and that you can explain when they're older.
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We started living together and then plans to get engaged fell through! What happened here?
Q. I have been a relationship with my boyfriend for two and half years and since October we have been living together. He has rented out his flat and has moved into my house. We have discussed getting engaged and were planning a holiday to celebrate my ...
A. 24 May 2007: He might have cold feet. Ask him why. If you know, then we need more details to appropriately answer your question. If he's commitment-phobic, you need to leave him and find someone who isn't.
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The girl I really want to be with keeps changing her mind about me! Do I go back to my ex gf who wants me back? Any advice?
Q. I've been seeing a girl for six months, but much of that time have secretly pined for another a girl, a shared friend. A month ago this friend told me she had feelings for me, and it was obvious to her I did as well. Shortly afterwards I broke up ...
A. 24 May 2007: If you love your ex, then go with her. Only be with someone when you're ready to devote yourself to them, and no other. If a girl says she doesn't want to be with you, she doesn't want to be with you. Right in front of you, you have a girl who fully ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure my bf enjoys his first time?
Q. i really like my boyfriend and know that he fells the same way, he is a virgin and im not. he is 22 and im 24. we did some foreplay and even a bit more and i realized that he wasn't very confident. it already happened to me before that the first ti...
A. 24 May 2007: I'm 22, and a virgin... I'm really proud of it. I'll tell you what I would want for my first time. Tell him that if he's willing, you'd like to give it another try. This time, ask him to trust you, then lead him. If you really mean what you say, he ... (read in full...)
Is a month too soon into a relationship to start having sex?
Q. Im a 25 year old virgin who has recently started seeing a guy. he is coming to my town on saturday night and has asked me to stay in a hotel with him. can i read into this as him expecting sex? ive been seeing him for a month, i trust him but being ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think that you should wait. If value my virginity really high, and I'm not just going to give it up. I would never give it up in some seedy hotel, in some bed that's not my own. I think that you deserve to wait until you can truly be intimate. ... (read in full...)
I really don't know what I should do, should I cheat or keep suffering???
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 5 months officially we were casually seeing each other for about 4 months previous, we started out as friends but there was loads of sexual chemistry between us all the time. When we first slept with each other it ...
A. 24 May 2007: You need someone who is willing to please your needs. You should voice you concerns. If he refuses to satisfy you, go your separate ways.
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I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: You're young, don't be in such a rush. It sounds like you're just feeling left behind because some of your friends are having experiences that you're not. I'm 22 and still a virgin. I've been waiting until I'm in love with someone. I feel that it's ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my mind or my heart after my husband cheated?
Q. What should i follow,my mind or my heart? My mind tells that i have to leave my husbnd for the cheat he did in our relationship. but my heart tells that i have to give him another chance for the sake of our marriage life..Im confused...any advice ...
A. 24 May 2007: Cheating is wrong. He made a choice, and he's got to live with it. You deserve someone that's going to be faithful. There's nothing else that needs to be analyzed or said.
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I'm successful in my studies but have no social life and never even dated... Worried that I have a boring personality (and I'm small)
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone could give me some useful advice.I'd be very grateful. I am 27 year old male, of small build (171 cm tall, slim, from the UK. Soon I'll be 28 years old (July). I am still at university, studying chemistry (well , I am a late ...
A. 24 May 2007: It sounds like yu need to be happy with yourself first. If you're ready to love someone, why not find someone within your program of studies? If there's a girl there that you haven't talked to, introduce yourself. You'll share something in common, ... (read in full...)
I wonder if I was the victim of a very cruel deception at the hands of my ex?
Q. Can you guys give me your viewpoints on this? I wonder if I was the victim of a very cruel deception at the hands of my ex. We were very good friends for quite some time prior to becoming partners and I thought we would get married and have a ...
A. 24 May 2007: You got used. The bottom line is that he told you everything that you wanted to hear to get you into bed. It seems like he also has an ego problem, because he needed to add insult to injury. Get him out out of your life. Just don't think that when ... (read in full...)
Is she letting me know these things because she wants to move on, or is she genuinely looking for answers?
Q. Hi, I'm 39 and my girl is 27. We both love each other, and have been together 5 years. She is starting to question things...she wonders why we don't talk deeply and where are we heading? (her brother who is younger just got engaged). She an...
A. 24 May 2007: If you think that things are great, why move on. She was trying to give you a hint by asking questions. It means that she wants to have deep conversations, and she wants to know whether she is investing in a future. You need to tell her if you're ... (read in full...)
I cant get on with my bfs friends and am left sitting round the house!
Q. I don't like my boyfriends friends! My boyfriend has taken me around them, and I have tried to enjoy myself but they are the type who, if they don't know you, they don't really say anything to you. This is a problem because most of the time, my Bf ...
A. 24 May 2007: Have your own friends come along, so that your friends can get to know him and his friends. At the same time, don't do it all the time, because he needs space.
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I'm too insecure to let him go!
Q. I have told my boyfriend i feel trapped...i cant alk to him, he bores me but i am too insercure to loose him! There is amn in my life i have known for 6 years and slept with 2 years ago once as a mistake! He is a great guy and always cheers me up ...
A. 24 May 2007: You should break up with your boyfriend and go to the person who makes you happy. The longer you let things continue, the more hurt you will cause. You need to be happy with yourself before you can date. Don't be too hasty to hop into another ... (read in full...)
I left my husband a year ago because I knew I no longer loved him the way a wife should... but I'm worried he'll talk me into staying
Q. I left my husband a year ago because I knew I no longer loved him the way a wife should. We had grown apart, and I felt no physical attraction for him anymore. But I didn't rush into divorce either because my husband insisted that I wait, hoping ...
A. 24 May 2007: Don't hold back. If you know what's going to make you happy, you must consider that. You have to tell him in no uncertain terms that it's over.
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I find that this "kind" of sex really hurts... any tips?
Q. boyfriend really wants anal sex but weve tried before, i can have a finger in my ass and i enjoy it its just that having him in there really hurts and is uncomfortable i dont know how to fully relax and let him in,it is wat he really wants any tips ...
A. 24 May 2007: If you don't want it, he doesn't get it. Period. There's satisying you're partner's needs, then there's sticking to your ground. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If it hurts you and he's aware, but still keeps asking, he doesn't respect ... (read in full...)
What is scat??
Q. I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend a few weeks ago. That's all well and fine, but now he's telling me that he has a fetish, "scat" I feel very embarrassed to ask him what this is. What is it?...
A. 24 May 2007: You need to get rid of this guy. That's a very bizarre fetish, and isn't mentally or physically healthy.
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Is it possible to be addicted to another human being??
Q. can anyone help me please? I have been in love with my ex-husband since I was 15 (I am now 39). We had many break-ups due to his violence and alcoholism. I am now separated from him a year and a half but he still goes through my mind every single d...
A. 24 May 2007: Yes, it is. When you're with someone that long, you expect that the person will be there always. Has he tried getting help? A year and a half is a long time to be separated. You need to stop keeping things on a thread, and decide whether or not to ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 22 May 2007: I think that you need to give yourself an ultimatum. How important is where you're living at the moment? A hard thing about love is giving up time and place for our partner. It sounds like he's so boxed in, that it would be hard for him to move. You ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a future with me, but he has still not figured out the details. Is it even worthwile to stick around?
Q. ok so heres my question. The love of my life lives two hours away. We've been on and off for 4 yrs. The distance kills me sometimes. Him:never married, no kids, me: one child, divorced. He works all summer fourteen hrs a day. In the fall though...
A. 21 May 2007: Express your concerns to him. I have a suspicion that he's waiting for you to take action. A rule among guys is to let girls make most of the decisions. At this point, it seems as if he spends all of his available time with you, regardless of how ... (read in full...)
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