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23 July 2009: One of our agony aunts is going to have a baby soon, so I thought it might be nice to send her our best wishes and our tips, the practices on parenting that we have learned from our experiences! I'll start the ball rolling - - If you don't want a...
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Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking?
Q. Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking? I wake up and remember quite a bit of what I have dreamt that night, and I thought that was quite normal, but many family members tell me that they never dream (or simp...
A. 21 July 2009: Don't worry - your OB/GYN would have already have been laughing and asking "How big was your last baby" when measuring the fundal height if your baby was too big to deliver...
Don't sweat it. satin! Most of us are well prepared for labour, afte... (read in full...)
Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking?
Q. Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking? I wake up and remember quite a bit of what I have dreamt that night, and I thought that was quite normal, but many family members tell me that they never dream (or simp...
A. 21 July 2009: Ohhhh, Man. My second baby was 10.4 lbs., talk about size of a pea... nice pun! (that was like having a Volkswagon sitting on your bladder.)... (read in full...)
Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking?
Q. Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking? I wake up and remember quite a bit of what I have dreamt that night, and I thought that was quite normal, but many family members tell me that they never dream (or simp...
A. 21 July 2009: Worrying about aging now, for birdynumnums, would be like closing the barn door after the cows got out...
I distinctly remember having them when I was FIRST worrying about aging, but not about looks, I think that they are more about mortality in g... (read in full...)
Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking?
Q. Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking? I wake up and remember quite a bit of what I have dreamt that night, and I thought that was quite normal, but many family members tell me that they never dream (or simp...
A. 21 July 2009: Haha Tish, Good one!
I guess my night-time hot flashes are happening during my REM cycles, satin! (...which explains why I'm dreaming more!)
I was curious, but rogerramjet seems a lot like my husband, who very rarely remembers his dreams. ... (read in full...)
What are these bumps on my vagina?
Q. My name is Melina and i have this problem. This isn't a problem that has to do with relationships or anything like that, this is a physical problem. I have these little white bumps on the outside and the inside of my vagina, and my vagina lips are ...
A. 21 July 2009: If you haven't had sexual contact yet, and there is no discomfort or discharge, then the redness is probably just how your vagina is reacting to being touched. That's what your body does in order to prepare itself for intercourse - it sends more ... (read in full...)
Is there an instrument that detects infidelity?
Q. if i have sex with another man will my husband know? i hear there is an instrument which detects that on this date you had sex with another man is it true? please assist?...
A. 20 July 2009: If you want our help in cheating on your husband, you've come to the wrong place. I think that I can speak for all of us that the Aunts and Uncles are here to Help Solve Problems, not create new ones...
Oh, what a tangled web we weave when firs... (read in full...)
Why do women place such importance on the emotional side of sex?
Q. Okay, I have a question for both men and women. My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. When it comes to sex, she claims to love it with me and tells me that I make her feel better than anyone has before - physically but then she ...
A. 20 July 2009: A guy can say something, have an argument and be over it 20 minutes afterwards. A girl will remember EVERYTHING that you say for the rest of their life.
We, as women, eventually have to get over this in order to have sex with you idiots. Hope... (read in full...)
Without oral sex, how does a girl satisfy a boy?
Q. How does a female satisfy a male without sex or performing oral sex?...
A. 18 July 2009: Honestly? At your age, you aren't required to satisfy anyone, and quite often, your boyfriend and your friends will be untruthful to make you go along with them.
Orgasms are Sex - whether or not they include penetration - and you may regret just... (read in full...)
Do breasts get bigger when they are sucked on?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and we've been sexual lately since its summer.. I have 34A breasts and lately it seems like my bras have been "shrinking" and getting tighter.. he likes to suck on my boobs and I heard they get larger when ...
A. 18 July 2009: ...and at your age, you may not be at your full size quite yet.
But seriously, guys will tell you quite a lot in order to get more, so go on line and check out your facts instead of blindly following a peers advice. XXX... (read in full...)
Her mom died and now she wont make love
Q. My wife's mom died a month ago and she didn't want to anything sexual, she wouldn't even let me see her naked. Anyway one night I was really horny.and my wife was washing dishes. Well I went behind her and grabbed her breasts (she usually hates me ...
A. 17 July 2009: “Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance."
She's a... (read in full...)
How can I stop my posessive feelings?
Q. Hi there, Quick outline to my situation: I live with my friend, who's also a work colleague. We sleep together also, in the same bed every night (we do have separate bedrooms though.) We moved in together after breaking up with our long term pa...
A. 17 July 2009: You can't manage your jealous and possessive feelings because you aren't looking at the whole thing realistically. There's an old saying about "Why by the cow when the milk is free?" and you are being treated like a convenience store by him. G... (read in full...)
Opinions on age differences
Q. Is it okay for a 18 year old guy to date a 31 year old woman?...
A. 23 June 2009: I think that we're all very open-minded here at DC. The only problem is the amount of stick - good and bad - that you are going to get from your friends. You can probably count on it - That AND a lot of nosey *NOYB* questions!!!
The reason that... (read in full...)
I don't know why my boyfriend dumped me!
Q. Hi. I really really really need advice. I am so confused and hurt:( My boyfriend and I were together for six months, and it was such an amazing relationship..I genuinely cannot put it into words properly. We met in college and after a while it got ...
A. 22 June 2009: Not overnight, over a weekend, as you yourself have written. I am sorry that he did not visit you in the hospital, but I think he might be afraid of more drama or another confrontation! I'd be confused if I were him! You can't tell him what he ... (read in full...)
I've always believed guys should make the first move but I'm tempted to email him...
Q. I've always believed that a girl should let a guy approach her, contact her and pursue her. I've 'chased' a guy before and it's never worked so this is why I think this way. I've recently been using an online dating site and I apply the same s...
A. 12 June 2009: You can only be played if you let him - so don't get so far ahead of yourself! I think that a dating website is not quite the same thing as regular dating. For one thing, you know that everyone there is searching, that has to open up the field a ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't feel a connection any more
Q. My husband of 6 years recently told me he wants a divorce. He says he is not in love with me and has only stayed with me out of obligation to our children. He admits to me that he doesn't understand why he feels this way, and that he feels I have ...
A. 5 June 2009: I am terribly sorry, my dear, and the previous two writers were brilliant. I can't help but think that when someone comes home out of the blue and says "I'm done" that there isn't someone else. Sorry. Either he is bald-faced lying, and it's ... (read in full...)
I'm not a whore... so what is my problem?
Q. Okay, so I'm 14 and I have a huge problem. I'm a flirt. I know it, everyone knows it. There's this cycle I go thru with almost every single guy I've known. 1. I get their number 2. We text and flirt 3. I send pics 4. He stops talking It'...
A. 2 June 2009: I hope that RCN wasn't right about your pics - and that you aren't sexting. That's always a big boo-boo, because once those pictures are out there - you can't get them back.
Anyways, Hun, guys are guys, and they are the men and the hunters. They... (read in full...)
Anyone know how long it might be before I can expect a period again?
Q. Hey everyone Not sure if anyone can help but... I've been taking the pill (microgynon) continually for about 8 weeks - you're meant to have breaks but the whole reason I went on the pill was to not have any periods whilst I was doing my fi...
A. 31 May 2009: If you do want to take advantage of not having periods, then use a pill like Seasonale or another "Extended-Period" pill after discussing it with your doctor. These are made specifically for that purpose. Even though you CAN put off a period by ... (read in full...)
What do people think about casual sex?
Q. I'd like peoples opinions on casual sex (one night stands and friends with benefits). Do you think either are morally ok? I am trying to make my mind up on weither i think they are accetable and would like some opinions. ...
A. 20 May 2009: Reely?... (read in full...)
He said "I love you" and I think it was too soon, what now?
Q. Well I just started seeing this guy and well I really like him. But he asked me to be his girl friend a few days after I met him and then one night I went over to his house and he told me he loved me. I think that was way way to fast. What should I ...
A. 18 May 2009: I once had a guy ask me to marry him on our third date, ON A BUS, and I was just 16 at the time. It scared the heck out of me and the fact IS, he Actually married the next girl he dated! OBVIOUSLY TRUE LOVE! Before the end of high school! I ... (read in full...)
Why would his late wife's mother want me over for dinner?
Q. My boyfriends wife died over 30 years ago and I can't imagine how hard that must be, they had two sons together too. The problem is that he approached me and said his sons grandmother asked him and our new son over for dinner but I was invited also. ...
A. 17 May 2009: Like it or not, you have a connection through mutual family, whether or not it is exclusively "your own".
Your Boyfriend is always going to be the father of this woman's grandchildren, and that is going to continue until she dies. They are her ... (read in full...)
Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 16 May 2009: ?... (read in full...)
I've been on this emotional roller coaster for too many years, I want to get off. Any advice?
Q. Hey everyone! Ok, so I've had feelings for this guy for 4 years. He's been sending me mixed signals consistently. I'm so confused. Thus far, I've been attempting to get over him, except he lives in the neighborhood right across from mine. And every ...
A. 16 May 2009: Of course his mother want you to date him. She knows YOU are a great girl and wants you to be a stabilizing effect in his flighty life. You already know EXACTLY how unpredictable he is and what life is like with him. SO, Really???? Do you want ... (read in full...)
I've been on this emotional roller coaster for too many years, I want to get off. Any advice?
Q. Hey everyone! Ok, so I've had feelings for this guy for 4 years. He's been sending me mixed signals consistently. I'm so confused. Thus far, I've been attempting to get over him, except he lives in the neighborhood right across from mine. And every ...
A. 16 May 2009: Of course his mother want you to date him. She knows YOU are a great girl and wants you to be a stabilizing effect in his flighty life. You already know EXACTLY how unpredictable he is and what life is like with him. SO, Really???? Do you want ... (read in full...)
Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 15 May 2009: Go for a "Bobbit"...
With apologies to all the male readers who are wincing right now...... (read in full...)
Did this happen to anyone and they were pregnant?
Q. I don't know what to think anymore I have all of the pregnancy symptoms Wierd fluttering feelings a few pains like my uterus is strechting an increase and decrease in my appetite sleepy during the day hard to sleep at night I felt this way since ...
A. 14 May 2009: You should see an OB/GYN and have a blood test done. Tell them your symptoms. We are just Agony Aunts, and we only have our own personal experiences to guide you, and what you need is a real Physicians medical advice now. Call your own doctor and ... (read in full...)
How much before it becomes suffocating?
Q. There is a girl Ive been with for a few months now. I have never met anyone like her. Theres no way to describe it but I love her. I assure you its not infatuation, far from it. I think the feelings are reciprocrated because shes told me she love...
A. 14 May 2009: I think that you already know, from exactly what you have written to us in your letter, that you are crowding her a bit and are expecting her to reciprocate your feelings, when the facts are that she has made it quite clear that she wants to remain ... (read in full...)
My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me
Q. My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...
A. 13 May 2009: I have the next 2 lines.
Anal play doesn't make you gay unless it's guy on guy,
But if you're a straight girl and have had sex with girls,
That definitely make you Bi...... (read in full...)
Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 13 May 2009: If you haven't discussed it, you should. How you feel about it is the important thing! If you don't like it, then it is akin to rape because he knows you don't like this and have not consented.
However, if you like being woken up like that and ... (read in full...)
My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me
Q. My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...
A. 13 May 2009: Anal play doesn't make you gay unless it's guy on guy.
Sounds like the start of a dirty limerick...... (read in full...)
Sex with a random girl felt better than sex with my b/f, what do I do?
Q. Help! i have a boyfriend and he went out of town for the week on a business trip and i went out by my self last night and saw this supper hot girl. so i we talk and had a few drinks next thing i new we were on our way back to her apartment. were we ...
A. 12 May 2009: "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."
When the people in the highest positions of authority in America LIE and deny that oral sex is not sex, as did the former President Bill Clinton, I'm not surprised that other people lie about thei... (read in full...)
Best place to lose your virginity?
Q. I'm ready, and I'm gonna lose it. The question is where? Ideas anyone? The beach? The woods? Not some sleazy hotel room or my bed. This is the first time you'll always remember. I want to make it memorable in so many different ways, and...
A. 12 May 2009: I'm wondering what exactly you are hoping to remember. If it's that you lost it when you were far to young, and that it was with a guy who you don't even remember anymore, because you had lost it at such a young age; and that sex became just a ... (read in full...)
How can I get these girls to stop kissing me?
Q. My girlfriend and I are very happy together, but girls keep coming up to me and touching me and doing other stuff when they know I have a girlfiend. Like today this girl from a different school came up to me and kissed me on the lips!!!! and my gf ...
A. 12 May 2009: Like Mom says, Use Your Words. No one can take advantage of you unless you allow it. If you can't stop them with a loud "NO" or "GET AWAY FROM ME" and they kiss you, then saying "GROSS" after having a kiss forced on you isn't being rude.
I'd also... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 10 May 2009: I have the Answer - WHAT was the Question?
Another SENIOR moment!!! How I love mentalpause...
Congrats Andrew and all the hardworking Aunties and Uncles who have answered those 100,000+ questions and to all those out there who put there fa... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any idea what the hell this was?
Q. The weirdest thing ever just happened to me, and I’m really freaked out. I’m hoping this has happened to someone else out there before and they can give me an idea of what’s going on. It’s not a pretty subject, but bare with me. I just started...
A. 6 May 2009: You should wrap that up and take it in to your Doctor first thing in the morning for a proper diagnosis and lab analysis.... (read in full...)
I left Uni for this guy and he's treating me like I'm an idiot!
Q. Well, where do I start? I need some advice. i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year and I love him so much and I know he loves me for he tells me every day, several times a day but lately that flair has disappeared. We're supposed to be moving in ...
A. 5 May 2009: No, you aren't being too demanding, but you ARE barking up the wrong tree. He's showing you blatantly how he isn't into commitment, and you want to move in with him? What is making you so desperate?
You are obviously good-looking, as you have... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks it would be a turn on to watch me having sex with our dog!
Q. Hi everyone, I am 26 and have been with my current bf for almost 3 years. We have a great relationship, he is perfect in many ways. We get along great and have a great sex life. We are both very open at trying new things sexually and I will admit ...
A. 4 May 2009: "one sick puppy" - NO pun intended - that was humorous.
Lots of people have responded that it is illegal and gross, and many have said that it is pushy and abusive as well.
You may be interested in the fact that there are bacteria that can only... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits or couldthere be more?
Q. My long time best friend is a male, we have been friends since we were both 4 years old, and never once have we ever felt anything between us other then just friends. We both have have ended our last relationships about 8 months ago and started ...
A. 4 May 2009: You should probably rethink how you are behaving around him. Guys really want to be the pursuers and aggressors, so if you are really interested, don't let slipping into sleeping with him become just a FWB relationship. You need to back it up and ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with her best friend...
Q. I am a 25 year old male, who just got out of a 4 year relationship last week. The girl who I left, I have a 2 year old son with. I left her because even after a year of trying to work it out, the fighting, drama, and unecessary stress was getting ...
A. 2 May 2009: I'm going with the #5). GERRY! GERRY! on this one. You said it first, so you shouldn't have to ask us what you already know!!!
Moving on is one thing, but move far away from her friends too, especially if you want to REMAIN on good terms with... (read in full...)
Is flirting one step away from cheating???
Q. I went on my boyfriends computer and i was going to check my Myspace. But he was already logged on and it said he had 9 Messeges. I was curious so i clicked. (I didnt find 9 new messeges) But i did find a conversation he was having with some girl T...
A. 2 May 2009: Here's what your BF isn't getting... And it's the reason why you are pissed off and questioning his behavior...
If a girl, whether or not she is an ex or old friend, IS SOooo OBVIOUSLY being flirtatious, your boyfriend SHOULD be dropping the ... (read in full...)
What does "Friends with Benefits" mean?
Q. Hello, i was talking to my ex-boyfriend, and he said we can be friends. im fine with that.He also said we could be friends with benifits. What did he mean? thank you....
A. 1 May 2009: FWB is a term that horny guys use to make having sex without a relationship seem like a normal, regular idea. That's easy because guys can have sex without getting pregnant and without getting emotionally involved - in other words - it's just ... (read in full...)
Going to a wedding, his bitchy ex will be there, how do I get through it?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months has asked me to go to his friends wedding in May. Not a problem really, until you take into accoiunt that his very maliscious, nasty and bitchy ex will be there - who has a real thing against me (she had my boyfriend wra...
A. 30 April 2009: If all you focus on is his bitchy ex, she wins.
I would not let her intimidate me, and go, with the intention of being the most engaging, lovely, reasonable and personable girlfriend at the party! Your boyfriend will be thrilled with not havi... (read in full...)
I prefer to be their aquaintance rather than a friend.
Q. We live in a small community and our children go to a small school. There is a couple whom we have kids in the same grade with. This couple has always been very cliquish with another couple. (They were really good friends, and they were almost ...
A. 30 April 2009: Why on earth are you so worried? It's perfectly FINE to say No to any invitation and it goes like this "I'm busy that night/I've made plans for that weekend/I'm afraid that I have to work that day/I already have a meeting or plans scheduled". You ... (read in full...)
I think my Dad is cheating, what should I do?
Q. I think my dad having an affair. I was doing my parents taxes and found a receipt of condoms, my parents don’t use them. I know it can be a lot things but I have had many suspicions! I’ve always been a straight forward person so I confronted him. He ...
A. 28 April 2009: Tell your Dad that you will not keep his secret for him, that you expect HIM to tell your Mom and give him a two week deadline.
No matter what, it is his problem to sort out and your Mom would be upset if she ever found out that you ALSO knew and ... (read in full...)
Should I really have my phone attached to my hip and check it every five minutes?
Q. My bf is very impatient and has a short temper. I'd also like to mention he has never been abusive to me physically, mentally, or emotionally the past three years we've been together. I wish I could say the same for inanimate object. But... he...
A. 26 April 2009: Nooooo! It's not you. Your instincts about this are absolutely right on.
This is a classic example of controlling behavior and coupled with the fact that he is impatient, has a short temper and destroys your belongings when he is upset, I woul... (read in full...)
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