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My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!

Q.   Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...

A.   29 December 2013: To be honest i never catch my boyfriend looking at hot women but i know for sure he does he just makes sure he does it when im not looking and im sure yours is the same. ... (read in full...)

Should I buy my boyfriend of 4 months the new Playstation 4?

Q.   Hi Dear Cupid, I am in a LDR with a guy I met 4 months ago. We decided to make it official October of this year. Instead of exchanging gifts during Christmas time, it was a mutual decision for us to surprise each other with them in January when ...

A.   29 December 2013: I would not spend that much money enless i had been with someone a couple of years. If i was you i would NOT spend all that money on a play station. I would buy only what you can afford and what you were originally planning to buy. If he spends more ... (read in full...)

I would like to know where my boyfriend is during the day, and night, 24/7.

Q.   Hi all, I would like to know if its too much for me to ask my bf about his whereabouts. By asking about his whereabouts I mean just asking him his plans for the day and what he'd be doing, not the crazy gf sort of asking every hour. Personally I ...

A.   29 December 2013: I dont think there is any harm in wanting to know where your partner is. Me and my boyfriend know where the other is most of the time.We both know what times the other works.If i am at a friends house i will text him. If he is going out with friends ... (read in full...)

If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...

A.   17 January 2011: I agree with kenny. And also, the more you do and the more you change the more he will make demands on you because he knows you will do what he wants.If i were you i would walk away.... (read in full...)

What should I wear on this date?

Q.   i cant decide between 5 dresses which one i should wear for a date.. please someone give me a clue on what type of dress we have to wear on a date. your answer will be appreciated...

A.   17 January 2011: Something comfortable, pretty, not to short and revealing. Or maybe just wear your favourite because then you will feel more confident.... (read in full...)

I can't love ... I think.

Q.   A while ago i fell in love with a girl who dumped me to go on a 3 week orgy effectivly, she was my first love. I think i am now over her, expecially after i slept with the girl across my road as soon as i could, just to take my gaze off her, and so ...

A.   25 October 2010: Your under 16, your still a kid and you shouldnt be worrying about all this stuff. Dont worry about finding a relationship and falling in love with someone just enjoy life and have a laugh your not even legal age to have sex. ... (read in full...)

I know my girlfriend is the best option for me, but I am having some feelings for a friend!

Q.   I am 17 and my girlfriend is in the year below me and is 16. I have been with my girlfriend kim for just over 20 months just now and it has always been briulliant. Everything has always been perfect. At the start I was the lovestruck clingy one ...

A.   25 October 2010: Your relationship with kim may have run its course. Or maybe you both need to talk about it and put a bit more effort into your relationship. Mary jane is proberly a distraction from your issues with kim. Only you know deep down who you really want ... (read in full...)

Did I send the wrong message? Text message, that is!

Q.   I have a good guy friend I've recently reconnected with. We found each other online and after months of getting to know each other I felt we were going somewhere. We recently started talking and texting. I NEVER end texts with ttl, or bye or ...

A.   25 October 2010: Its so easy to get your wires crossed over text message. Give him a call or arrange to meet him face to face. If he doesnt reply just send him a message saying if you offended him you really didnt mean to and you really like him.... (read in full...)

Husband still in contact with "friend" he cheated with against my wishes!

Q.   he cheated with a new "friend" who he kept hidden from me. now that all has been found out he lies to me still about talking to her and uses excuses to keep in contact with her now its her parent is ill and he feels bad for her so they email each ...

A.   25 October 2010: This is completely unacceptable. Useing her sick parent as an excuse to keep in contact with her. If a male friend of his had an ill parent would he be in contact so much. No. Its all an excuse. I think its time to make him choose, you or her. The ... (read in full...)

Husband says my body isn't tidy, won't have sex

Q.   pls I have two children and my husband said that my body is not tidy as is use to be.pls help me and tell me what to do so that my husband will enjoy having sex with me. Pls is urget.thanks ...

A.   25 October 2010: Hes got to accept that you have had two children and its not your fault if your body may have changed a bit. Ask him exactly what the problem is.Perhaps he should spend some time making you feel more confident instead of saying things like this that ... (read in full...)

I have a 30% chance of living so he dumped me for his ex

Q.   I fell for this man, he was everything to me. I was diagnosed with cancer, which is spreading to my lungs...I have a 30% chance of getting through it...but when I saw messages on Kellen* phone (I was using it because mine was broken) I noticed ...

A.   23 October 2010: It may be that he couldnt handle losing you. I think he is just generally an asshole and would probly have treated you badly even if you wernt ill. Either way its best that you focus on yourself and enjoying your life. He is not worth your time and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is really starting to grate on me!

Q.   I just moved in with my boyfriend a little over a month ago, and he's really started to grate on me. He doesn't have a job, but his parents pay for his rent and living expenses (he's in his late 20s for what it's worth). This annoys me, becau...

A.   9 September 2010: I think you need to have a serious talk with him. Tell him you want him to get a job. Not just for the money but so he is doing somthing and not sitting around all day. Also if he isnt working he should be cooking and keeping the place tidy for you ... (read in full...)

How do you forget about someone?

Q.   I like this guy a lot, but i know he doesn't like me. I need to forget about him, but i don't know how...anyone know how to forget about someone? It hurts so much to think about him, and I've literally been up crying at night. I remember just a...

A.   9 September 2010: I wish i did know how to forget someone. Eventually in time the hurt will ease. Keeping busy and meeting someone new also helps alot.... (read in full...)

Should I let him be part of my child's life?

Q.   Well a few months ago my boyfriend and I were living together, happy relationship, and we find out that we're having a baby. Everything seemed to be going good (or so I thought). Then when I was 5 months pregnant I find out he had been cheating on ...

A.   9 September 2010: I think every child needs a father but the fact that he tried to choke you and threatened you with a knife makes me think the baby would be better off without him. He is obviously evil and unstable and could present a risk to your child. He didnt ... (read in full...)

Was her behaviour unacceptable?

Q.   hi , please help me. I met a girl about 4 years back, we met on yahoo messenger chatting room. she is from another country. we kept talking like friends for two months, but after two months i proposed her, and she also accepted. Everything was...

A.   7 September 2010: I think you should call the whole thing off. Finish it. If you were not obsessing about a girl you hardly ever get to see you might find someone you can be with properly. It sounds like you both have different feelings and views on things. Is she ... (read in full...)

Was her behaviour unacceptable?

Q.   hi , please help me. I met a girl about 4 years back, we met on yahoo messenger chatting room. she is from another country. we kept talking like friends for two months, but after two months i proposed her, and she also accepted. Everything was...

A.   7 September 2010: I think you should call the whole thing off. Finish it. If you were not obsessing about a girl you hardly ever get to see you might find someone you can be with properly. It sounds like you both have different feelings and views on things. Is she ... (read in full...)

Even if he doesn't want to be friends.. I just want to say sorry!

Q.   Um ok so i really need help, and i'm very greatful for advice. I've had a very hard summer, i've had a couple of family memebers in hospitals,which requires a lot of traveling. To add to that stress my mom moved out to help her sister. To add to ...

A.   30 August 2010: Well if he is going to be immature i wouldnt bother with him anymore.... (read in full...)

Dealing with drama because of my ex.....

Q.   After my ex left me for his female friend he claimed ! He told Me not to call no more so i say what ever! i havent call him , now he callin me cause she wants to speak me woman to woman that some body been prank callin her and i told him look nobody ...

A.   25 August 2010: They are obviously being paranoid or just trying to give you grief. The next time they phone you tell him you havnt prank called them, you dont know what there on about and to f**k off.... (read in full...)

Should I leave him to sort things out with his ex? or do I stay with him and try to show him how better I am than her?

Q.   a guy i like recently split up with his gf, me and him got close quickly but nothing has "happened" between us. this week his ex has been txting him loads trying to get back together with him. he's told her that he wants to be single at the moment ...

A.   25 August 2010: If he is still in love with her then you may end up missing out or remaining secound best. If nothing has really happened between you does he even know you feel this way ? He has given her hope that they may get back together so he must still want ... (read in full...)

Even if he doesn't want to be friends.. I just want to say sorry!

Q.   Um ok so i really need help, and i'm very greatful for advice. I've had a very hard summer, i've had a couple of family memebers in hospitals,which requires a lot of traveling. To add to that stress my mom moved out to help her sister. To add to ...

A.   25 August 2010: Go up to him and say sorry, if thats what you want to do then do it. Tell him how you feel and that you still want to be friends. If he says no then you will have to let it go. True friends stick together through every thing they dont stop talking ... (read in full...)

I can't "cape" doing this!!!!

Q.   I need a little bit of help. I was about to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time the other day, and before we started she told me she had something to tell me. Apparently we can only have sex if we both have capes on, with pictures of each ...

A.   25 August 2010: Perhaps she is working or has regular commitments and that is why she cannot be contacted at certain times of the day. Bringing blood into the bedroom ?? Thats worse than the cape thing isnt it.... (read in full...)

She is in a never ending cycle with her ex and dragging me into it...

Q.   I'm having trouble here. I fell in love. Yea one of those. I've had a very bad history in life. My first love died in a car accident. I lost it stopped dating then started searching for the same feelings I had before and ended up hurt in every way ...

A.   24 August 2010: You have had a bad time and i feel you need to concentrate more on your own stability before you worry so much about her. You need to focus on making yourself happy.It doesnt sound like she considers you when she decides to go back and forth to her ... (read in full...)

This guilt is eating away at me. How can I get rid of it?

Q.   When I was 19 (I am 24 now) I knowingly had an emotional affair with a married man. He told me upfront he was married (we met online) and that he didn't love his wife. I told him I didn't care that he had a wife and that I just wanted the company. ...

A.   1 August 2010: It was a few years ago now and although you say it was an ''emotional'' affair, i really dont think you should worry about this. You didnt even meet each other so there really could be alot about him you dont know. He could have been talking to ... (read in full...)

I can't "cape" doing this!!!!

Q.   I need a little bit of help. I was about to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time the other day, and before we started she told me she had something to tell me. Apparently we can only have sex if we both have capes on, with pictures of each ...

A.   1 August 2010: Tell her you dont want to wear it again and if she wont compromise perhaps you have to consider if the relationship is right for you BOTH. If she agrees you could still wear it sometimes if she likes it. ???... (read in full...)

Do you tell your husband when you have cheated?

Q.   I had an affair 3 years ago with a man I thought I loved. I was so messed up from it I slept with another man just to get over the man I was in love with. I have been married to my husband for over 20 years and have not slept with anyone else! It ...

A.   1 August 2010: I would say come clean if it will make you feel better but i think it will make you feel WORSE. Because you will hurt your husband and why should he be hurt just so you can shift your guilt. It was three years ago and although you feel bad its time ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to fancy two girls at the same time?

Q.   Dear Cupid..is it possible to like your gf and this other girl a lot at the same time ?? I know a guy who is in that situation and he thinks it is possible to like his gf and this other girl at the same time but i want to prove to him that it's not ...

A.   1 August 2010: Just because you are in a relationship doesnt make everyone else around you unattractive. Im certain it is possible to like two people at once but if you really love the person you are with you wont take it furthur with anyone else.... (read in full...)

I am longing for my ex but she is recently married! What do I do?

Q.   Man, I don't know what to do. There was a girl I had feelings for, for a long time. About 5 years. All through high school. To be honest she's the only girl I've really been interested in. It's not to say I haven't seen other girls but none o...

A.   1 August 2010: Send her a birthday card or a text message or something. Maybe you cant stop thinking about her because things were left hanging with you two.As she is married i would say that you should try to forget her but it sounds like you have not been able ... (read in full...)

How can I have sex with a girl without a condom and not get her pregnant?

Q.   How can you have sex with a girl with out a condom, but have sex like putting it in and out with out getting her pregnant? ...

A.   22 July 2010: She could go on the pill but that wont protect you from sexually transmitted infections and if she missed one she could get pregnaunt.... (read in full...)

Did HE put this picture on Facebook???

Q.   hi, everyone need some help if yall wouldnt mind taking the time, please, and thanks. so yesterday my soon to-be husband comes home from work, we're laying on the bed talking and im checking my facebook on my phone and there was a photo downloaded ...

A.   20 July 2010: Well would he really put it on facebook if he knew you would see it ??? He must have known you would see it ??? The question is what is it doing on his phone in the first place ?? Did someone have his phone and loaded it on for a reason ????... (read in full...)

Was it really all my fault...?

Q.   Hi. My name is Shelby, and I'm in desperate need of help. See, my boyfriend and I were together for 10 months and 18 days, but about 3:30 on the 18th day, right when me and my friends went into the Mall that I've been dying to go to for months, ...

A.   20 July 2010: You will be able to go on living and it will not be the end of the world, it is this attitude that he has probly had enough of. He has been unfair to you but i think you need to learn to be more mature and independant. Moving on and showing that you ... (read in full...)

He's so wonderful but he's not fulfilling my needs!

Q.   So, about a year and a half ago my husband passed away in a tragic accident, I was left with three young children (FYI-I was 34 at the time). I panicked and quickly dated out of fear of the "unknown", and I wanted to put the pieces back together, so ...

A.   19 July 2010: I dont think you need to end it completely but i think a bit of space wouldnt go a miss. If you agree that you do need space, tell him gentle that you care for him very much but need a bit of space. You dont have to stop all contact with him just ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my best friend's younger sister how I feel about her?

Q.   Hi, I have had a crush on my best friends younger sister for a very long time. I have been best friends with him since First Grade, and I have been friends with his sister since about Fourth or Fifth Grade. She told me a few years ago that she like...

A.   19 July 2010: Keep friendly contact for now and when she visits next try to spend a bit of time with her and see how things go. I think it is important to spend a bit of time with her and tell her you like her to her face not over the phone or internet. But i ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my friend her b/f cheated on her?

Q.   my boyfriends friend who is going out with my friend has cheated on her (kissed another girl which still counts as cheating at this age) while she was on holiday, it was only a few kisses but still it shouldnt have happened. he said it was a minute ...

A.   19 July 2010: You should probly tell her but on the other hand if he denies it she might not beleive you. It could all backfire if you tell her but if she finds out you didnt tell her she will be annoyed. If i was you i would just tell her and if she doesnt ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my husband's incessant stroppiness?

Q.   hi i have been married for 18 months and have been with my husband for appx 4.5yrs, we have a son of 9 months and my husband is so stroppy, moody, and appears angry most of the time, i am struggling to cope with this. i nearly died last christmas ...

A.   17 June 2010: Well he cant just have the family life in 5 years can he. If he wanted to be a father he has to take everything that comes with it. Perhaps he has depression or something.... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my husband's incessant stroppiness?

Q.   hi i have been married for 18 months and have been with my husband for appx 4.5yrs, we have a son of 9 months and my husband is so stroppy, moody, and appears angry most of the time, i am struggling to cope with this. i nearly died last christmas ...

A.   13 June 2010: You need to stick up for yourself and tell him how unhappy he is making you and how it will affect your soon in a negative way now and in his future attitude. Can you really see your marriage working long term if he doesnt change. Can imagine in ... (read in full...)

How to get closer to this friend...???

Q.   I'm in a small pickle. Last year I was in a situation with a friend where we became so incredibly close, and did everything together, and feelings built up until we kissed then after a while she decided she didn't like me that way and went out with ...

A.   13 June 2010: The more you think about her the deeper your feelings are getting. Just ask her and see what she says. If she isnt interested then at least you know and can avoid getting into the same situation as you did before.... (read in full...)

His constant cheating is breaking my heart...

Q.   My boyfriend's character towards me changed since two weeks, i find out that he is cheating on me. what do i do? i came to his house and saw a girl inside his car, i called him to let him know that am around he just shouted at me that i should have ...

A.   13 June 2010: Finish it. He doesnt respect you and you said hes cheating on you so get out of this relationship. I know its hard but you arnt going to be any worse off without him.... (read in full...)

My wife lied to me about her sexual past until 12 years later...

Q.   my wife lied too me about her sexual past before we got married, she told me only one partner, too find out 12 year later she slept with four other men when she was a teenager. but she did come out and tell me because it was bothering her for so ...

A.   13 June 2010: It was a long time ago and everything a person does in there life makes them the person they are. Youve loved her all this time and your being unfair that just because of this you doont have the respect for you. She most likely lied because she was ... (read in full...)

Wanting to move to next base with him but he doesn't seem to want to know... help!

Q.   I have been going out with this boy for quite a while now, and I just can't stop thinking about him. He really turns me on and I just can't stop day dreaming about us doing something really naughty together in the shower, his room, changing rooms ...

A.   13 June 2010: He is most likely really really nervous. So tell him that you want to move to the next step and ask if he wants to. If he says that he does tell him that you can take your time and that he doesnt have to feel worried because your not going to think ... (read in full...)

It's all so childish!!!

Q.   Hey all im really annoyed and i need some calming down/advice. Me and my ex boyfriend were with each other for just over a year and split over a year ago. I got with my new partner 5 months ago after speaking with him for 2 months before that...

A.   13 June 2010: Tell you ex to put them straight. If i was you i would walk straight up to the bitchy girls and give them a peice of your mind. If they keep it up go to the landlord and tell him/her that in this recession they really should have staff that dont ... (read in full...)

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