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writes:Help! i have a boyfriend and he went out of town for the week on a business trip and i went out by my self last night and saw this supper hot girl. so i we talk and had a few drinks next thing i new we were on our way back to her apartment. were we then had sex! truth is it was better than when i have sex with my boyfriend what do i do i am not a lesbian. help!!
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (12 May 2009):
 "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."
When the people in the highest positions of authority in America LIE and deny that oral sex is not sex, as did the former President Bill Clinton, I'm not surprised that other people lie about their sexuality as well. You need to come clean with yourself and your boyfriend. Take Satins advice.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (12 May 2009):
 If its something you are going to carry on doing meeting women for sex then you must tell your boyfriend. If it was a one off mistake then DONT tell your boyfriend why cause a good man heartbreak and end up losing him for one mistake.....if it wont happen again then dont tell him, just learn form your mistake and move on, your still young and lifes to short to hang on a mistake! Its good that your experience something new, maybe your boyfriend would want a threesom with another women, then your have best of both worlds!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Well said Satindesire, I totally agree... Sex is more than penetration, it is more than the vagina and the penis.. Ignorance spreads disease, homosexuals, bisexuals, oral, anal, ALL THESE THIS PRACTICES ARE SEX.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Anon, I have no idea what you're talking about, oral sex IS sex. I'm guessing you don't think lesbian women have sex, don't you? You need to educate yourself about sexuality, posthaste, if you're going to be an agony aunt. Misinforming people who need the correct information isn't going to help anyone.
Oral sex, mutual masturbating, using sex toys? That's sex. She cheated on her boyfriend, and it doesn't matter what gender she cheated on him with, she still had sex with someone else.
To the poster:
You need to tell your boyfriend what you did. Since you feel attracted to both men and women, you are bisexual, not a lesbian. The reason why sex with this woman felt better is because you generally don't have to teach a woman how to sexually please another woman...since we both have female genitals, we already know what feels good and what doesn't. Same with male-on-male sex. But at this point, the label you give your own sexuality doesn't matter nearly as much as the fact that you cheated on your boyfriend BY YOUR OWN FREE WILL and you need to come clean to him. If you used no protection with her, you also need to go to a clinic and get tested for STDs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I think you need to let you b/f know asap, dont let him find out before u tell him. At least it wasn't a guy right! And with a girl its not really sex. Im sure he wont be too impressed however he will remember the fact that it was with a girl and forgive you. Maybe it was just something that you needed to experience! Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I think you need to let you b/f know asap, dont let him find out before u tell him. At least it wasn't a guy right! And with a girl its not really sex. Im sure he wont be too impressed however he will remember the fact that it was with a girl and forgive you. Maybe it was just something that you needed to experience! Good luck
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Maybe it was just the fact it was the first time with a girl and the excitement of it made it feel better. If you had sex more than once and it was better than I'd say your bisexual. And you might want to tell him about it... technically it's cheating, even though it was with a girl.xx
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