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Hi. I am a senior at Fayetteville State University, majoring in Elementary Education with a second concentration in math. I am currently residing in North Carolina. Me and my husband have been married for about nine months. We got married July 16th, 2008.

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My husband has colon cancer... need prayer and information.

Q.   Hi. I have been married for over a year and a half now. July 16th will be our two-year anniversary. My husband has stomach and colon cancer. His hair is starting to fall out. He recently lost his job, and will be trying to look for another one so t...

A.   24 March 2010: He isn't giving me a lot of information. He hasn't given me a lot of information. He is around 27 years old. He has asthma as well. He was going to have surgery, but after looking at it they said that they couldn't operate on him. I am probably ... (read in full...)

My husband has colon cancer... need prayer and information.

Q.   Hi. I have been married for over a year and a half now. July 16th will be our two-year anniversary. My husband has stomach and colon cancer. His hair is starting to fall out. He recently lost his job, and will be trying to look for another one so t...

A.   23 March 2010: Thank you for your prayers. They are very much appreciated. ... (read in full...)

I feel my girlfriend treats me like shit!

Q.   hey whats up guys and girls i need help i dont know what to do. my girlfriend always dresses nice when im not going to be around and she never wears nice things when i am does she have something on the side, is she cheating on me is she going to ...

A.   28 September 2009: Well, maybe she doesn't wear that kind of stuff around you because she is not ready to go to the "next level" yet with you and she is afraid that you will try to take it to the next level. Other people, will just admire what she is wearing and are ... (read in full...)

Is my girlfriend smoking again?

Q.   hey once again my girl friend quit smoking about 6 months back when we started dating because i convinced her to and i explaind that its a dirty habit and anything any one could think bad about smoking i told her but now its been half a year and im ...

A.   23 September 2009: It's not the smoking that I hate. It's the lies. That people think that they can fool you like you are stupid or something. My husband smokes. Face it, you can't make anyone quit anything. Only she can make herself quit. ... (read in full...)

I feel my girlfriend treats me like shit!

Q.   hey whats up guys and girls i need help i dont know what to do. my girlfriend always dresses nice when im not going to be around and she never wears nice things when i am does she have something on the side, is she cheating on me is she going to ...

A.   19 September 2009: Sounds like you need to find someone else. ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in asking him to stop this behavior?

Q.   I have an issue with my boyfriend who gives a light kiss on the lips of a married woman every time he passes her. He said it was just a game that they played before he started dating me. This has been over a year and he continues to do this. I ...

A.   19 September 2009: No. Absolutely not. In fact, it sounds like something a gay guy would do rather than a straight one. ... (read in full...)

Why do friends act this way?

Q.   It seems like all of the friends that I have throughout my life have at one point left me and my group to hang out with other friends. That is fine- we're all entitled to meet new people- but the thing is, my friend ends up changing who she is. They ...

A.   11 September 2009: Sounds like a maturity problem to me. I think you have needy friends who aren't willing to be there for you as much as you are for them and that you need new friends! I think that friendships should be more relaxed than this, but that's just my ... (read in full...)

Was this verbal abuse?

Q.   Hi. I have been married for about one year, and we went out for about one year, so we have been together for two years. I have been depressed anyways, Idk why maybe because I am going to be graduating soon and this is a life change for me, graduati...

A.   8 September 2009: Thanks for the responses. It frustrates me when he acts like if I had just said the right word, or the right phrase, or what he wanted to hear that he just would've calmed down. I told him that I am not responsible for his behavior and shouldn't ... (read in full...)

Husband's lack of sex drive...

Q.   My husband told me he had a lack of sex drive, and it's not that he doesn't want to have sex with me, it's that he can't - he also said it wasn't a medical issue, but a work-related one. He told me all the hotdesking he does in work has given h...

A.   8 September 2009: How old is your husband? And is he overweight?... (read in full...)

Why does he keep pressuring me to have a baby before we get married?

Q.   Hey everyone, long story short 18 months ago I met my fiance Rob, he was married at the time but filed for divorce shortly after our meeting. I am 24 and he is 34. Our wedding is set for Dec 26/09. Even though we are just months away form our ...

A.   8 September 2009: You can be rest assured that he has some ulterior motives. Ask him why this is so important to him. If he keeps avoiding the issue, tell him you are not ready and especially since he is refusing to be honest with you.... (read in full...)

Is weight loss an early symptom of pregnancy?

Q.   Ok im with a guy well id mainly call him my f- buddie at the moment, and recently 2 people who have had children have said your not pregnent are you, Basically im doing things with him and last week he put it inside me and pulled out just before h...

A.   8 September 2009: 1) Get a pregnancy test. 2) Yes, weight loss is an early sign of pregnancy. They might be talking about that one show, "I didn't know I was pregnant," where some women actually lost weight while they were pregnant. My mom lost weight when ... (read in full...)

Is this man trying to be my friend or is he just crazy?

Q.   I am married and have two children. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Our marriage is great but can be a little better. Before I met my husband, I was with a man that was a cheat and very dominating. Beside all the flaws, he was ...

A.   8 September 2009: He's crazy. Avoid him as much as possible. He ain't leaving any time soon. Maybe get a restraining order on him.... (read in full...)

Am I trying to hold on to a heart that no longer belongs to me?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm struggling with myself so much right now. I've been dating this guy for 3 years. We had ups and downs. Broke up once and got back. He used to care about me and like me only. He had a first love that he always seems to keep in his h...

A.   8 September 2009: If he wants to jeopardize a three year stint for something such as a crush, his brain isn't thinking. Seems like he admired her from afar for a long time though. Ask him, straight up, "Do you still want to be with me?" ... (read in full...)

He's questioning me all the time. I don't know what to do. Please help...

Q.   im seventeen years old and ive been going out with my boyfriend since i was fifteen, however we have been friends since i was twelve. By looking at our relationship from an outsiders perspective, you would think that it was perfect. Even my own ...

A.   7 September 2009: Sounds like you've got someone special. ... (read in full...)

Too far to love?

Q.   Hey i am 16 and met this girl online shes gonna be 15 in november. we talk forever online and when its too late to use the computer we text up until 3:30. I have never really felt about this girl the way i did any other girl. were so much alike she ...

A.   25 August 2009: Absolutely. I've been married for a year, and I dated for a year a man who is about an hour away from me. The space is awesome and you miss them more sometimes.... (read in full...)

Why can't I leave the married man I'm living with?

Q.   I am living with a married man, who is not divorced, or seeking divorce, wife left 4 years ago, neither is legally separated, yet both are property owners of the house that this man lives in and which I reside with him at his request. Did not know ...

A.   25 August 2009: I don't know why you can't do it, but you better do it before this ruins you. Sounds like he's having three women or more all at once.... (read in full...)

Too young to be engaged & in love with someone else, what do I do?

Q.   I am 19 years old and engaged. I have also been in love with a different man for almost 6 years. Recently, the man that i've been in love with for 6 years confessed how he wants to be with me and has had mutual feelings for the same amount of time. ...

A.   25 August 2009: Then stop being engaged. I was once engaged too quickly myself. Please don't get into a sham marriage. Don't be another statistic. Think about your life.... (read in full...)

I believe the other woman more than I believe my boyfriend!

Q.   i found a girl's number in my bf phone. i asked who it was and he lied. couple days later i found out it was this same girl ive saw be4 on his page on the internet couple months ago. so i told him to call her and have a convo with her. ask her why ...

A.   25 August 2009: Go with your gut. If you feel that he's lying, let him go.... (read in full...)

Commitment phobia boyfriend

Q.   What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend (been together for 3 years, lived together 2 years) tells me that: - in order to be fun a relationsip must be commitment-free - he's not sure he's gonna love me forever because he might not like me in t...

A.   25 August 2009: Leave him. You deserve better. You know what I like about doing certain things that I am afraid of? Sometimes I feel better or great after doing those things, because I was really able to do it. I proved to myself that I could do it. You can do a... (read in full...)

She told me I must get her pregnant in the next few weeks and we've never had sex!

Q.   I'm 18, left college, going to university in September, my girlfriend's 17. She's told me I must get her pregnant in the next few weeks. I told her this is just not going to happen, and I said I will leave the relationship if she attempts this. ...

A.   25 August 2009: You did the right thing. Now you should just avoid her. If it gets worse, go to the police with your messages and get a restraining order. If it gets worse still, ie she claims you are the dad, demand a dna test. ... (read in full...)

I'm 15, pregnant and scared of having an abortion

Q.   I'm fifteen years old and I am two months pregnant. I've been in a rocky relationship with my boyfriend for the past nine months. My boyfriend doesn't come from a stable enviroment. Has yet to get a job, and ever since I found out I was pregna...

A.   25 August 2009: Be true to thine ownself. If you don't believe in abortion and you have a choice in this matter, don't do it.... (read in full...)

He's paying for everything for his ex -- is he playing me for a fool?

Q.   my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. at first he was paying everthing for his and his ex wife house because he has a 16 year old daughter. She is now almost 20 years old and living with her boyfriend. My boyfriend is still paying ...

A.   25 August 2009: Yes. Cut your losses.... (read in full...)

What is my Mother's problem??

Q.   My mother is in relationship and its going fab and i do like the man but she is very mean to him at times and makes him feel really bad about himself. She also makes me feel bad but i think she is playing me and her partner in a way. Because when ...

A.   25 August 2009: Sounds like she's using you. When she starts this crap, just ignore her. Be fake to her, like she's being fake to you.... (read in full...)

Is it possible to have a strong teenage relationship without sex?

Q.   So me and my bf have been dating for 5 months now i don't think thats relevent but anyways, I was just wondering if it's possible to have a real strong relationship without sex? Ask questions and give me answers and opinions please. =]....

A.   25 August 2009: Yes, but the journey will be difficult. Never be alone in a room together.... (read in full...)

I'm not a monogamous guy - will there ever be another woman like her?

Q.   My ex-girlfriend and I broke up just over ten years ago after a seven year relationship. I'll admit, I wasn't the nicest guy in the world. I did cheat on her and left her for other women several times throughout our relationship. Well, now I'm 42 ...

A.   25 August 2009: Wow. You just opened yourself up for a whole host of judgmental responses.... (read in full...)

My heart cannot survive this hurt!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend off and on for 16yrs... in this time i found out i cannot carry a child. he left me 8 yrs ago...got a girl pregnant and i took him back i felt i could not give this to him so i accepted his child as my own. well low a...

A.   25 August 2009: Let him go. You are doing the right thing.... (read in full...)

Why would they be stalking me?

Q.   has anyone ever heard of someone stalking someone purely for the fun of it-proper stalking, not just checking someones myspace or whatever. I am being stalked by my so called boyfriend and his friends-the boyfriend is NOT obsessed with me-we only ...

A.   25 August 2009: This is what you do. When they are at your home call the police and say that you have some trespassers. Stop trying to figure out a reason and stop hanging around these immature people, including the "bf." Some woman told my mom today she met a ... (read in full...)

What can I do about his attitude toward my friends who are male?

Q.   HI, i have a boyfriend that has a BIG problem with me havin home boys.... AND HEs always bring up a time where i went out with one of them.... WHEN WE were brokin up at the time i mind you... AND he hates that i had just friends when i lived with ...

A.   9 August 2009: Sweetheart tell him no and that you deserve better. Sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment.... (read in full...)

I see to be caught in a cycle of rejections from my boyfriends, how do I stop this?

Q.   any i like does n,t show any interested me at all they don,t even ask my name or where i am. i never ever get asked out and i never even got my first boyfriend and let alone my first kiss. and isn,t due to lack of trying nether,guys just...

A.   9 August 2009: Stop going after guys and wait for the right one to find you. So you've been rejected ever since you were nineteen? That sucks. I'm sorry that this has been happening to you and I hope that the right one finds you. Some of these guys, from the way ... (read in full...)

It ended with me looking like the bad guy! I feel so down..help!

Q.   I was in a relationship for one year and then we broke up and we were dating for 2 years, but we were not in a relationship. for the past two years he stopped calling me less, he said he did not feel 100 percent sure about our relationship but we ...

A.   9 August 2009: Do what brings you closure. ... (read in full...)

How can I change myself so that he desires more intimacy with me?

Q.   Dear Cupid I am in a relationship with a man in his late 40's and I am in my late 20's. The question is about our sex life. He does not do much foreplay, when we do have sex and outside of this act, casual hugging and kissing is just not his cup...

A.   9 August 2009: Talk to him about these issues. If he refuses to talk with you about them, obviously he is not the one for you, and find a stress-free time to do it in, so he's not likely to get easily frustrated and dismiss what you are saying.... (read in full...)

Does online dating work?

Q.   Does anyone here ever tried online dating? Does it ever work like you can expect something serious to come out of this? I am asking because I am about to try this out and would want to know if its worth the time and effort generally. If no...

A.   7 August 2009: I met my husband on plentyoffish. We were friends for two weeks, went out for about one year, and have now been married for one year. You might run into a few crazies, cheaters, users, etc., BUT look up some tips online for how to minimize... (read in full...)

He's a great guy but...I've lost respect for him! Help, I'm disillusioned here!

Q.   Simple to explain my situation, but don't know what to do about it. I have a partner who is a good guy I've know for 15 years and we've been together 10 years. I think he genuinely loves me, although it's never been exactly passionate and I have inc...

A.   7 August 2009: "I feel resentful that the relationship has drifted because of his reluctance to sort himself out." Have you sorted yourself out? Are you still having the affair? It's not selfish to want what is best for you. If you feel that he is not best f... (read in full...)

Period trouble..is there something wrong with me?

Q.   okay so I had my period about 3 weeks ago it goes away in about a week so its been at least 2 weeks since I finished it . I went to my dr the day I finished and I started using the birth control patch but I took the 1st one off cause I got paranoid ...

A.   7 August 2009: You should not be asking us these questions. You should consult your doctor, or at the very least a medical helpline.... (read in full...)

It ended with me looking like the bad guy! I feel so down..help!

Q.   I was in a relationship for one year and then we broke up and we were dating for 2 years, but we were not in a relationship. for the past two years he stopped calling me less, he said he did not feel 100 percent sure about our relationship but we ...

A.   7 August 2009: Let him go and stop worrying about what you look like to these people. Who cares what they think? Also, did you tell him that he could only date you when yall were "only dating but not together"? ... (read in full...)

Would it be in bad taste for me to mail these tickets to her?

Q.   My female friend and I have known each other 18 months. We were as close as dating without actually dating and were the best of friends. Three months back we "broke up" after I started an argument at a party with her. She never stopped talking to ...

A.   7 August 2009: Congrats.... (read in full...)

I want him to think I'm amazing, but will he since I'm so inexperienced?

Q.   I am lookiing for some advice, I am quite a shy 25 year old female and I have fallen for a guy for the first time, he is the only guy I have ever felt attracted to and he seems into me as well, we have kissed a couple of times and I know it is early ...

A.   7 August 2009: Virgins are amazing. Maybe read some magazines, go online and get some tips? ... (read in full...)

I love him but if doesn't return that, why can't he just be a gentleman about it?

Q.   I think it is time to let go of the man i have loved for years. he tells me he loves me yet he dont phone me when he say he will. he lives in england and that is were we did meet i have visit england many times and he has visit me 3 times. the last ...

A.   7 August 2009: Ask him what is going on. "Hi. How are you? I love you and I miss you. I miss you so much, and I've noticed that you've been visiting me less and less. Is there someone else? ......Because if there is, you can tell me, and we can both move on." ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to miss your boy friend after you break up?

Q.   I've recently broken up with my boyfriend of two years. I still love him but I had to do it because he was too controlling. I miss him though... Is it normal to miss your boy friend after you break up. Sometimes I'm happy and others I'm not. But I'm ...

A.   7 August 2009: I will tell you something that people have told me over and over again. You are stronger than you think you are. You can do this, just keep reminding yourself of the reasons why you broke up.... (read in full...)

I'm trying so hard to be the bigger person but he's being a jerk!

Q.   I'm so confused and angry!! My boyfriend of six months and I broke up recently (his decision), and I have been a mess. I am dying to get back with him but I am holding onto my dignity and I am not contacting him or saying mean things about him or ...

A.   7 August 2009: Why do the reasons for his feelings matter anymore to you? Keep being the bigger person. Let him show his ass. You are doing the right thing. Maybe write about it some. Draw some funny pictures of him being stupid. ... (read in full...)

How can I change myself so that he desires more intimacy with me?

Q.   Dear Cupid I am in a relationship with a man in his late 40's and I am in my late 20's. The question is about our sex life. He does not do much foreplay, when we do have sex and outside of this act, casual hugging and kissing is just not his cup...

A.   27 July 2009: I don't think that you need to change yourself. If you are keeping yourself clean I don't see why he is acting this way. ... (read in full...)

Would it be in bad taste for me to mail these tickets to her?

Q.   My female friend and I have known each other 18 months. We were as close as dating without actually dating and were the best of friends. Three months back we "broke up" after I started an argument at a party with her. She never stopped talking to ...

A.   21 June 2009: No it wouldn't. Maybe send her a note with them that says, "Not expecting anything in return. No strings attached, just thought that you'd enjoy these much more than I would."... (read in full...)

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