Like what
she writes?
... Add *irdynumnums to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *irdynumnums a private message | | | *irdynumnums's profile:I am old enough to know Not answer how old I am, wise enough to Not presume that I know all the answers, have lived in enough countries Not to assume any prejudices - and my Husband, Children and my love of Art make me tick. Have recently become a sailor and am swashbuckling on the high seas. Argh! *raising pirate hook*
Be careful what you Think, Thoughts become Words.
Be careful what you Say, Words become Actions.
Be careful what you Do, Actions will Define your Character.
...and Your Character will Determine your Destiny.
|
|
| Latest articles: Tips for New Parents!
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
23 July 2009: One of our agony aunts is going to have a baby soon, so I thought it might be nice to send her our best wishes and our tips, the practices on parenting that we have learned from our experiences! I'll start the ball rolling - - If you don't want a...
|
Ladies and gentlemen, my sister is naive and making excuses.
Q. This one pertains to my sister more than me. just as a concerned brother. My sister is 20. She is a waitress just making ends meet and working her way through a community college pre-med program. about 10 months back she met this guy. The 30 year ...
A. 18 November 2008: No doubt if he is pulling this on her, he is pulling this on the wife as well, and possibly a few more women. You could use a car that he doesn't recognize and follow him around a few nights to see what he is up to, or you could convince her to ... (read in full...)
Do I stay in this town or do I move back to the city with my children.
Q. I moved from the city to be with my husband only to find out that he had an affair with a lady I happen to know. I cannot forget what happened between the two of them even though I have forgiven my husband. The question is, do I stay in this town ...
A. 17 November 2008: You didn't say how old your children were. If they are independent, I would stay with your husband and try to make a go of it, as you say you have forgiven him. If your children are still dependent, can they move to be with you in your new city? ... (read in full...)
Best aftershaves and perfumes???
Q. Hello, quick question. Girls, which (if any) (fairly cheap) colognes do you like the best? Guys, what do you think is best? I know it's not going to suddenly make all the girls in my school attracted to me, but I like to smell good. It creates a ...
A. 17 November 2008: I like a shampoo and hair conditioner that has a nice scent rather than a cologne. It's not as overpowering as an aftershave. Aveda Rosemary and Mint is yummy. ;^D... (read in full...)
I just wish she would be a part of our family again and work with us rather than against us.
Q. Why is she so selfish? One of my family members keeps going on about how old she is and it's not cool to spend time with her brother, all she does is cause arguments between my family and her boyfriend. She is so selfish she orders people about and ...
A. 17 November 2008: Well, you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. I just lost a brother who was quite a bit like this, and I still miss him dearly. Sometimes it's easier to bite your tongue and go along to get along. In the end, you'll know ... (read in full...)
I want to be involved here too...
Q. Dear cupid, I've been with my boyfriend who I love dearly 4 about a years now. Before we lived together he got a girl pregnant. I knew about this and he said we would deal with this when the baby is born. Well the baby came and he told me they ...
A. 16 November 2008: Why not ask that the baby be dropped off at his house, then he won't have to ask her permission. Help him pick out a crib, toys and supplies so that he can take care of her for a few hours in the afternoon on weekends. If she sees that he is set ... (read in full...)
He fancies Heidi Klum, but I look nothing like her. How can he like me?
Q. Hi there, me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year and the other evening we went out with some mutual friends and the conversation turned to which celebrity we fancy most and my boyfriend said Heidi Klum. I totally agree she is stu...
A. 16 November 2008: Sorry troubled, I got the show wrong. The blonde on Cold Case, who is also Kathryn or "Lilly". X^P My opinion is I don't get it. Your Marg is pretty hot.
Yeah, Will IS leaving! Maybe you can get the series on DVD and watch reruns!!! ;^) As ... (read in full...)
I think I've fallen in love with someone I shouldn't have!
Q. Hi, I think I've fallen in love with someone I shouldn't have. There's this guy in my school, and to be completely honest... he's perfect, well, for me. But there's a problem, he's a year younger than me and already has a girlfriend. I met him...
A. 16 November 2008: He's in high school and he's not engaged or married, but he has been with his current girlfriend for 10 months. If HE makes a move, make sure that you tell him that YES, you are interested but you won't get involved with him unless he is Single. ... (read in full...)
He fancies Heidi Klum, but I look nothing like her. How can he like me?
Q. Hi there, me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year and the other evening we went out with some mutual friends and the conversation turned to which celebrity we fancy most and my boyfriend said Heidi Klum. I totally agree she is stu...
A. 16 November 2008: My husband thinks I look like Renee Russo. I was really pissed at him because I don't think I do, until my mother said "Your HUSBAND thinks YOU look like Renee Russo. Don't you think that's a GOOD thing?" My husband looks like Robin Williams, but ... (read in full...)
Does a player/cheater like some girls more than others?
Q. Does a cheater/player like one girl more than another? This player I know had a brief 'relationship' another girl. He recently sent her some presents, texted all the time, planned to spend time at christmas with her and fly to see her on his sprin...
A. 16 November 2008: I am worried that you are still trying to figure this creep out! And that you want to place the blame on the "type" of girl! If you really want to place blame STILL in order let him off the hook (Oh, see I wasn't his type), you KNEW what he was ... (read in full...)
Should I come clean with my boyfriend? And should I tell this other guy how I feel about him?
Q. ok, so I am studying abroad in Spain for a year, leaving my boyfriend of 2 years back home. I miss him terribly and still love him however... A mutual male friend of ours came over to visit me in Spain, and we ended up getting very drunk and ...
A. 15 November 2008: Well, firstly, I am going to assume that you aren't 30-35.
I think a drunken one-night stand with a guy who reminds you of your boyfriend, And of home, - isn't love-at-first sight. It's probably something that I would chalk up to being a mist... (read in full...)
I kissed and fumbled her breast and I KNOW my friend is in love with her...
Q. I saw this girl at my friend's place, and he introduced as a friend. Later my friend told be he's been asking her out which she has refused for about a year now. Not known to me, the girl was interested in me and copied my number from my friend's...
A. 15 November 2008: Okay, I'll bite...
What's "full scholarship"?... (read in full...)
How do I put some spice into my kissing?
Q. Hello everyone! I want your help on this. Tomorrow I'm gonna meet my bf. I haven't seen him for 2 weeks becuase of me going to uni. We're gonna be alone so I'm sure we're going to kiss and I wanna make it something special. I was wondering if you ...
A. 15 November 2008: Get some tongue makeup that dyes your tongue a bright colour and put a dab of spicy toothpaste in just before you start.
Wheeee!
8^D... (read in full...)
Have I broken my hymen by wearing a tampon?
Q. Hey This is probably a question for mainly girls however its just something i have been wondering about. When i was on holiday this year i had to wear tampons, for the first time. So by wearing them does this mean i have broken my hymen ???...
A. 15 November 2008: The hymen is RARELY a complete, solid tissue, but a band of tissues that narrow the opening of the vagina. Here's what different hymens can look like:
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/Images/hymen_variations.jpg
Rarely is the hymen full, or... (read in full...)
Blood after sex, can this sometimes happen? Should I go to the doctor?
Q. Hello again, just one more question! My boyfriend and I had been intimate and right after intercourse, he had blood on him. I'm not on my period I finnished a week ago. At the same time I feel no pain, but there is blood... can this sometimes ...
A. 15 November 2008: Women can "spot" at any time of the month. It's possible that you just stimulated the womb and a bit of the menstrual blood came out, and often it is a sign that you are ovulating. If this often happens to you 14 days before the start of your next ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he puts his fingers in my mouth? Why didn't he try to kiss me despite all the touching?
Q. Hi, I am 22 and a virgin. I'm not very experienced with guys - I've never been kissed or even had a boyfriend. A guy who I have been friends with for the past few years has started to be quite flirty with me whenever we meet up and when we are ...
A. 15 November 2008: It's rather bizarre foreplay, but I am imagining that he was fantasizing about putting something else in your mouth while using his fingers, if you follow me... I also find it odd that he didn't try to kiss you. If he wasn't interested, he ... (read in full...)
My Mom has a fever and I don't know what to do!
Q. help me i'm freaking out! my mom has a fever and i don't know what to do i'm really worried we're the only two in the house and i'm only 13 years old what should i do?...
A. 15 November 2008: If your don't have a relative, call a neighbour, right now.
You need to know how high her temperature is, and how long she has been running it, so check and see if you have a thermometer in the medicine cabinet. Shake it down first. If she has ... (read in full...)
Love at first headbutt gone terribly wrong... help!
Q. Ok well lets start at the beginning. Its time for outside sources to give me a fresh outlook on this. A year ago i met this man at a heavy metal club (as it happens we only got to talking because he accidently head butted me while headbanging). ...
A. 15 November 2008: A good rule is One guy at a time!
If you ARE totally screwed up over the HBguy (and only you can decide how deep your feelings for him run), you really should leave the guy that you are living with, live on your own, and get yourself sorted. I woul... (read in full...)
I have never felt about anybody like I feel about her, and this night has just confirmed my feelings.
Q. I'm struggling here. I'm married for 9 years, 2 kids, together just for the sake of the kids, no real love or passion any more. Problem - work colleague (married also). I had the hots for her, a couple of works nights out where we were close (...
A. 14 November 2008: After taking vows, it's up to you to hold up your end of the bargain. If there isn't any passion, then you should be home sorting that out with your wife. Holding hands with another women IS "something to think twice about"! What do YOU think of ... (read in full...)
I think my doctor took my virginity! Should I press charges?
Q. i think mydoctor took my virginity!i was a virgin and i went to the doctor for a pap spear and a swab exam.when I told the doctor to be gentle because i was a virgin his whole facial expression changed.he was going to fast.he didn't care if i was ...
A. 14 November 2008: Yes, in the US and in Canada a nurse has to be present during and internal, Peps. ... (read in full...)
I am afraid of taking the legal way in case he (husband) flips.
Q. I am separated for two years now, husband gets copies of the keys to the house off my son's keys, they are the ones you leave in the door. My sons won't get involved and I understand but my ex just lets himself in and snoops, I am afraid of taking ...
A. 14 November 2008: P.S. - The brand of locks that I had installed were Medeco, but their may be other brands. They are the type of security lock that office buildings and stores use. ... (read in full...)
I just found out I'm pregnant from a one-night stand! What should I do?
Q. hello everyone and cupid, im 18 years old and my adult life is goin great, but sepemtember, my friends, azlynn and alanna, invited guys from murfreeboro, of course they were from a band called [moderator removed identifying details]. We all got a ho...
A. 14 November 2008: Oops, too late.
You gave up your virginity for a band member, who was a total stranger that you decided to sleep with and have unprotected sex with, and yet Somehow, You knew enough to get a hotel, you had enough insight and forward thinking to plan... (read in full...)
I am afraid of taking the legal way in case he (husband) flips.
Q. I am separated for two years now, husband gets copies of the keys to the house off my son's keys, they are the ones you leave in the door. My sons won't get involved and I understand but my ex just lets himself in and snoops, I am afraid of taking ...
A. 13 November 2008: There are locks that can't be copied without your OWN identification code, which you receive when you purchase the door lock. No one can get keys cut without your permission and the security identification number for your locks. Get a licensed and ... (read in full...)
I have to stop feeling this way before it kills me. How do I handle this ?
Q. I need help. I am getting seriously sick - literally and metaforically - because of the situation I am in. Here goes..I have been married for several years now. During the marriage me and my guy have been through a lot ups and downs and I see him ...
A. 13 November 2008: Wow, what a great read, from start to finish and you really should be a writer. Both the question and the answers are well written!!! After I read this, I think that you aren't going to have any hope of putting this behind you until you put all of ... (read in full...)
How do I say no when it goes too far without hurting his feelings?
Q. I love my boyfriend, but he is a little more aggressive than the guys I've dated previously. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, I just find it hard to say no to him. I have not felt like saying no to anything so far, but I'm only 15 and don't ...
A. 13 November 2008: NO.
Just like that.
He needs to respect your wishes. Your body, your rules. If he DOESN'T, then HE IS WRONG! Forcing someone else to do more than you want isn't Love, Dear, and you should NEVER submit to being in a position where you have... (read in full...)
My much older girlfriend is pregnant and moving away. should I marry her?
Q. My brain says its wrong but my heart says its right: I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 43. I have only had one girlfriend before her and this relationship is way better. We have been going out 15 months. The last month she was offered a new job ...
A. 13 November 2008: The truth of the matter is that you are going to be a father whether or not you marry her or move cities, that is simply a fact. You have given us a lot of information about your feelings, but not much else. Where do you live? What do your ... (read in full...)
Having trouble trusting her love me after getting back together
Q. Dear Cupid I just got back with the ex after two months apart... everything seems to be going really well. We're taking it slow and when were together it has been great, alot like old times, but when Im not with her im finding that I am worryi...
A. 13 November 2008: I think that SHE is the one who should be trying hard to disperse these feelings for you and you should discuss this issue with her! I would probably feel the same way as you are feeling, and I suspect this is how Most people would feel in your ... (read in full...)
I think my doctor took my virginity! Should I press charges?
Q. i think mydoctor took my virginity!i was a virgin and i went to the doctor for a pap spear and a swab exam.when I told the doctor to be gentle because i was a virgin his whole facial expression changed.he was going to fast.he didn't care if i was ...
A. 13 November 2008: You did not say if you were bleeding afterwards. IF YOU WERE, tell your Mom what you have described to us and she will know what to do.
None-the-less, whenever you are as disturbed as you obviously are, I wouldn't go back to this Doctor, he isn'... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want a baby at such a young age?
Q. is it bad to want a baby at such a young age? i feel myself really wanting to be a mum and i don't know why. i had a pregnancy scare a while ago and i was actually happy about it. me and my boyfriend are very happy together and i just reli want a ...
A. 13 November 2008: A baby JUST might be something to focus on an dream about and it's more likely that it represents something that you feel YOU are missing, like unconditional love. Or it could be a great way to escape becoming an independent young woman heading off ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to actually love someone when you are married?
Q. HI: I get along great with my co worker, and I really like him alot. We hit it off on just about every level. There are somethings, that I'm kinda eh, about, but overall, he really 'hits' me. We've gone out and had so much fun. I told him that I ...
A. 13 November 2008: Really?
You don't have any qualms about a man who is married?
Please tell me that you have SOME modicum of sense and that you KNOW that this is a flipping recipe for disaster? You must either be extremely naive or this is a wind up. Surely y... (read in full...)
My best guy friend keeps asking me out.
Q. My best guy friend keeps asking me out. I just want to be friends and don't want to ruin our friendship. I rejected him before, but he won't leave me alone. I'm trying to be nice and sweet but it's not working. I really don't want to be the b...
A. 13 November 2008: The fact that he persists and asks you out regardless of the fact that YOU are happy and have a boyfriend - is actually pretty obnoxious. I would give him the heave ho. Unfortunately, he really is only thinking about himself, not about you, and ... (read in full...)
We're having twin boys, I'm delighted but inside I'm freaking out!
Q. I'm 21 years old and my fiance is 20 and 3 months pregnant by me but didn't tell me right away because she was scared. but we got over it and she moved in with me. we went to the doctor to see what we were having and we are having twin boys. I am ...
A. 13 November 2008: FIRSTLY,
Congratulations!!!
It's scary, sure, it's an unknown, but WOW, You certainly seem to be good at this!!! LOL! I think that your very NORMAL and HUMAN reaction to this is absolutely valid!!! But, May I Commend YOU on being a great Fi... (read in full...)
How can I stop laughing so much I wet myself?
Q. hello everyone.... This is a kind of embarrassing questions but here I go. I love to laugh and I have really funny friends... well If I laugh too much I tend to wet myself... is there anything that can be done about this ??? thanks ...
A. 13 November 2008: The best advice that I can give you is Empty your bladder frequently and Wear a Pantie Liner. You CAN do Kegel exercises (you can google it and learn how...), and that may help a bit, too! Regardless of whatever else you do... HANG ON TO THOSE ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to make out with me, any tips on how to be less nervous?
Q. (I'm 13) Well basically, I want to make out with my boyfriend and I he wants to make out with me. (He told my best friend because he was hoping my best friend would tell me... which she did) Then he asked me if I would mind if he wanted to make out. ...
A. 12 November 2008: I'm assuming that by making out you mean kissing and necking, because at 13, that's about as far as you should go. If you mean making out as in making babies, I wouldn't recommend going that far at your young age. Your body, Your rules. Take you ... (read in full...)
My husband says there are 2 types of I don't want to. Can anyone shed some light on this?
Q. What does it mean when talking to my husband about our lack of sex, he says there are two types of don't want to?...
A. 12 November 2008:
I am guessing that the two types of "don't want to" are either:
You don't want to because you aren't in the mood
or
You don't want to because you are angry with him...
I am strictly guessing here, but that's MY best guess. Why not simply ask ... (read in full...)
I feel sorry about my ex's troubled relationship, how can I help him?
Q. The guy i've been out with for nearly 10 months called it off with me last month, he has since gone back to one of his ex's(why do they all go back to their ex's) Anyway we've always keept in contact throught the phone, basically the girl he has gone...
A. 9 November 2008: Whoa!
You need to stop feeling sorry for him.
I think that your feelings are still invested in this guy because he broke it off with you. I think that you feel that if he sees himself clear of the thing for his manipulating ex, that he will ope... (read in full...)
Does withdrawal, along with the pill, improve my odds of not getting pregnant compared to the pill on it's own?
Q. Odd birth control question here. Does withdrawal, along with the pill, improve my odds of not getting pregnant compared to the pill on it's own? I went on the pill so we wouldn't have to use condoms anymore, which I absolutely hate. The problem is, ...
A. 7 November 2008: You are best to use a condom and the pill, because that is the best and SAFEST protection against pregnancy and disease! I hate to be the voice of doom, but it is the only way to protect your health and your fertility, and it's a good idea to use ... (read in full...)
Why would I wear a ring from a boy who promised me forever then left for college and lost feelings?
Q. my boyfriend and i started dating our sophomore year in high school. everything was going great. our senior year, we experienced more problems as we both were leaving to attend different colleges come this fall. we were aware it was going to be a ...
A. 7 November 2008: The end of high school, the beginning of university and the end of university are all HUGE transitions, and from what I've observed, a lot of relationships change at those times of life. I think that I agree with Star 07 that you should try to ... (read in full...)
How can I test my boyfriend?
Q. Hey guys just want some help... I dont really trust my boyfriend and I just want some reassuarnce that he isn't cheating... I want to see what he is like when I'm not around and when he is with other girls... I know this is slightly an extreme way ...
A. 7 November 2008: This is just playing games and truly hurtful behavior. Honestly my Dear, if you have to "test" someone, you have already lost the battle. And if he ever found out that you have no faith in him, you would crush his belief in your love. Men are ... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008: LOL!
That's a nice thought but I'm old enough to be your Mother! SO!!! Go to your room! Ha! Bet you haven't heard that in a while! I'm sure that this bothers you a lot more than it bothers any of your partners, BTW. Most women have had expe... (read in full...)
OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did!
Q. OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did... but I couldn't get 'aroused'. I got aroused a little then went down and she assumed that I had finished but I just couldn't keep it up! help! ...
A. 6 November 2008: Don't worry! Even if she knew, she wouldn't be worried about it! Most women don't expect for everything to go perfectly smoothly the first time. It's all a bit overwhelming! Chances are, the two of you just need more practice together, and if ... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008: Well, Yes, that's why I laughed! Your writing shows why women like you, you have a good sense of humor! Well, enough flattery, and I'm quite sure if you have the ability to have had a few partners, you would have the finesse to be able to present ... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008: Popping a bin liner in! LOL Cowboy!... (read in full...)
Polyurethane condoms?
Q. This is mainly one for the guys, although ladies feel free to chime in too. I have a terrible problem using condoms. I thought I was weird, but after some research, I have discovered that I'm certainly not alone, about 25% of men have the sam...
A. 6 November 2008: Why not ask your partner to use a Femidom or Female Condom instead? You could even buy a supply yourself. It would stop the pain and discomfort that you are feeling and still give you the protection that you would have from a barrier method?
;... (read in full...)
| *irdynumnums's friends
These are mutual friends, so *irdynumnums has
added them and they have added *irdynumnums!
|
