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| | pinktopaz's profile:I'm 25 from California. Born and raised.
I think I've dated just about every type of guy...the asshole/jerk/degrading, the nice/treats women like they should be treated, the manchild that doesn't know what he wants/has peterpan complex, the bad boy, losers, annoying guys...
And after all that, I feel like I just haven't even started. But I just like to help people out. I can be too opininated at times and wonder why the heck some people are even putting up with some peoples' crap. So I figure I can at least help someone out to make them a little happier. At least just give an affirmation that what their thinking is in the right direction. Some things just don't need to be sugarcoated =)
The questions I most dispise, "Could I be pregnant?" There are a lot of websites that tell you the symptoms of pregnancy! Read those! Take a pregnancy test! It's really not that complicated!
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Is it possible to get your period while you're pregnant?
Q. I am sexually active with my girlfriend of course. My question is... is it possible to get your period while you are pregnant? According to those menstrual cycle calculator things her fertile days 19-24 of october. And she was supposed to be ...
A. 7 November 2009: Actually, I've heard of some women getting their period every month while still pregnant. I'm not sure if it's an actual period and maybe more so spotting like other posters have mentioned.
It does sound like it could be a possibility that she... (read in full...)
I've very shy and quiet.. any tips?
Q. I'm extremely shy and quiet. I'm in my mid 20's, which is also embarrassing because most people outgrow this stage by now. Some people may think I'm cold or unfriendly or serious, but I'm really just shy and quiet. I stink at making small talk. (I ...
A. 7 November 2009: I forgot to include, when you're asking them questions try to listen for what you can talk about. If they mention something that you know about or have interest in, talk about it for minute...that way you don't end up sounding like an interviewer, ... (read in full...)
I've very shy and quiet.. any tips?
Q. I'm extremely shy and quiet. I'm in my mid 20's, which is also embarrassing because most people outgrow this stage by now. Some people may think I'm cold or unfriendly or serious, but I'm really just shy and quiet. I stink at making small talk. (I ...
A. 7 November 2009: I've always been fairly shy, probably not as shy as you--but I know it can be hard to keep the conversation flowing sometimes when you don't know someone too well.
So instead of one-word answers just try to elaborate a little more on what was aske... (read in full...)
She cheated with me when she was in a relationship with my best mate... I worry that she might do it to me now
Q. This is a very long and complicated issue, but its kind of bothering me and wanted peoples advice. well im currently seeing this gurl and things are all great but the problem i have is a trust issue. the thing is she used to date a friend of mine ...
A. 7 November 2009: I'm just going to put my 2 cents in: you lose them how you got them.... (read in full...)
My husband checks out girls and watches porn online... I'm a little overweight could that be a factor?
Q. I think i have a huge problem, and i need some advice, i dont know if its me or my husband but it seems like i catch him every other day looking at internet porography, well it will be in the history, he says he loves me but i dont know we have been ...
A. 7 November 2009: No, it's because your husband is a jerk. I completely agree with what caringguy said. Just about every guy looks at porn or checks out other women, but your husband doesn't need to act like a disgusting pig about it.
Making a remark and dry-hump... (read in full...)
I've split with my ex but he's so depressed and still dependent on me... how do I help him to get help?
Q. I just got out of a relationship that lasted for a few years about 2 months back, and my ex is taking it pretty hard. He still calls me sometimes when he is really upset and says stuff like he is so depressed. It is hard because I do care about him ...
A. 7 November 2009: There's nothing that you're supposed to do. You can't help a person that doesn't want to help themself. You've made suggestions and his mother has tried to help him and he doesn't do anything about it, it's his problem. You're completely right ... (read in full...)
Is there a risk of prostate cancer if you don't masturbate or have sex?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 7 November 2009: I don't know about the whole prostate cancer deal, but if you don't have sex or masturbate--I do remember from back in the days of Biology class, that since a man is continually producing sperm his body will just naturally get rid of the "old" sperm ... (read in full...)
Should I make the move to be with this guy? Anyone got experience of this kind of thing?
Q. One of my really good friends for years and I have really fallen for each other, but we live in different cities. We have kept in touch over many years although living in other places, and lately we have been going to visit each other and have ...
A. 7 November 2009: Yes, I have and I would never do it again. Don't compromise what you have going on in your life to fit into his...especially moving. If you don't have any of YOUR OWN friends there (his friends that you like and like you too don't count), he's ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and really mature. I want a baby and I think I'm ready...?
Q. Im almost 16 and I really want a baby. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and he says that he is ready for a baby. He is almost 19, Im wondering what you guys think?.. I'm a really mature young lady and I've been though a lot in my life ...
A. 7 November 2009: To think this way means that you're not mature...and you've been through a lot in your life? I don't mean to make you feel stupid, but you have not been through a lot in your 15 years of life. Have you paid for rent, utilities, groceries, credit ... (read in full...)
Why do bad things happen to good people?
Q. I'm in a awkward place in my life, I feel like I have no direction nor anything to look forward to. I've been questioning a lot about life. I consider myself to be a good person and my attitude towards life is treat others as you want to be treat...
A. 6 November 2009: Things like what your friend is going through is just life. People aren't immortal based on their behavior. There's a reason for everything, life is indeed rough. It's like things will be going great and then there's a big crash...you hang out on ... (read in full...)
Will I always be alone?
Q. I'm beginning to get quite down on myself. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship. I'm not giving up hope on finding that someone, it's just the advice I keep getting from friends seems so contradictory. For instance, everyo...
A. 6 November 2009: It's okay to think about wanting to meet someone. However, it's kind of more along the lines when you go out to just have fun and not give a care about whether you meet someone that night or not. Just go out and have fun, but don't be in the ... (read in full...)
The love of my life cheated on me...is he at it again?
Q. I have been cheated on 3 years after I was married, by the person whom I knew for more than 10 years and who showed me nothing but pure love, respect and trust. We had a beautiful love story that a lot of people envied and wished they would have the...
A. 6 November 2009: 1. Should you believe him? No. He's already broken your trust, so why should you believe him? It's possible he hasn't done anything with that other woman YET, but it's total BS that it was just a joke about seeing her again. If I were you, I ... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend watches porn!
Q. I hate that my boyfriend watches porn. I gave him many pictures of me, and he himself has taken several pictures of us doing stuff. But he doesn't use them at all, he just uses regular big tit porn. I have small boobs, and I'm not as perfect as ...
A. 6 November 2009: Cut him out of the pictures that you have together, then replace his head and body with magazine cutouts of hot men. My personal favorites include: David Beckham, Hugh Jackman, and Carey Hart. Now that you have replaced those photos with men that ... (read in full...)
Is she really that busy?
Q. I have been exchanging emails with this girl. She has written twice that she is sorry it took couple of days to reply to my email, but she first mistakingly thought that she had replied me and only later realized she hadn't. Do you think it's pos...
A. 5 November 2009: Yes, my friend is that way. However, you really expect any of us to believe that you just want to "know her better" and that you're not planning on having an affair? Riiiight. Maybe she is blowing you off and is too nice because she would prefer ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with teacher/student relatonships?
Q. what's the big taboo with student teacher relationships? I know there's all this stuff about peadophillia, but why does it HAVE to be reported? And does anyone know how teachers react, like what do they say to a student who has just admitted...
A. 5 November 2009: Because it can cause favoritism and the teacher giving out better grades if you give them "favors." Therefore, students can basically prostitute themselves for better grades, or the teacher can give not so good grades to students who don't want to. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fall in love after spending only 3 intimate weekends together?
Q. Is it possible for a woman to fall in love after spending only 3 intimate weekends together? We are both divorced and single. We both have kids that are grown and on their own, so in that aspect there is no problem. Even if they were small or ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think what she means by "falling for you" is that to begin with she was trying to think rationally and come to the realization that it is what it is: it's long distance and may not work out, so it's best to keep it friendly. Well it looks like ... (read in full...)
Does he still love me? And why is he ignoring me?
Q. I was with this guy for a year and we both loved one another very much. But there was a lot of struggles we had to go through to be together and we both got tired of it so we decided that we should just stop for a while. Well... after that I text ...
A. 5 November 2009: He's trying to move on. If you two have followed a pattern of breaking up and getting back together he's probably tired of it and decided this time it needs to end for good. I'm sorry, but that's just the way that it is sometimes. ... (read in full...)
Why does he not respond? Does he need space?
Q. The guy I am dating had a birthday and I text him happy birthday and something nice at the late evening, on that day and the day after in the morning I text him happy good morning and happy birthday and some very nice sentences about that, he is the ...
A. 5 November 2009: He's backing off for whatever reason, and it's time for you to do the same. Yes, give him space. Don't text him or call him anymore regarding the dinner, getting together, etc. Even if a week goes by, just don't do it. Let him come to you. If ... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating my ex who I still love... what should I do?
Q. I want to know what to do... my friend well "best friend" and i have been bickering back and forth for a while now over dumb things.... lately the reasons we've been fighting because every time i just break up with a guy she goes and asks him out ...
A. 5 November 2009: You need to recognize that your so-called best friend really isn't a friend at all, and I think you know that. She does this probably because she's jealous of you, she's insecure, and she thinks everything is a competition. That's not what a friend ... (read in full...)
I've never kissed before and don't know how to do it!
Q. ok the guy i have liked forr aggess has asked me out and he is my first boyfriend....well this is kindof embaressing but i have never kissed anyone before and i dont want him to think i am a rubbish kisser...so how do you kiss? ...
A. 5 November 2009: Nobody can explain how you kiss, you just do it. Nobody had an instruction manual the first time they kissed someone so don't feel embarrassed. It's usually a fairly natural thing, it's not a hard thing to do. Besides that, kissing someone new is ... (read in full...)
Am I being too needy or is my boyfriend slacking on his part?
Q. To make a long story short... I met my boyfriend almost four years ago. We dated, life got in the way, broke it off, remained best friends the next two years, he was there through it all- good, bad, you name it. We recently got back together. We ...
A. 5 November 2009: No, I don't think that you're being too needy. He needs to take you seriously; otherwise, how can you take this relationship seriously? If you two are around the same age, remember that guys mature a lot slower than girls. So his behavior is ... (read in full...)
Do opposites attract? Will I not attact him because we're so much alike?
Q. I have had a crush on my boss for the past 8 months. I don't believe in having a work relationship so I have done nothing to pursue it. I would be willing to find a new job, its time for me to move up in my industry anyway, but I don't know how to ...
A. 5 November 2009: Actually, I've heard that the whole "opposites attract" thing is bogus. Sure, we like some traits in people that we don't have because that is something that we may find admirable since we don't have those traits. However, people typically are ... (read in full...)
Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: 8 inches and 7 inches? Do you guys start measuring at your scrotum? I'm guessing you do...sorry but I've just heard guys make jokes about that before.
Listen, I doubt you and all those other guys are walking around with erect penises (at leas... (read in full...)
We both really like each other but she has a boyfriend?
Q. This is kinda long/confusing but i'll keep it simple. I'm a senior in high school and have had a great friend since my sophomore year. Back then when she was a freshman, she had a big crush on me but i was oblivious since even if i was great friends ...
A. 5 November 2009: Well you kind of have to really think about a couple things here. One, if she's kissing you while she has a boyfriend; what does that really say about her? If she has "strong" feelings for someone else while she's with you do you think she'll be ... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract older men who want to have sex. Is it because of my behaviour?
Q. I always feel like i attract men that only want to have fun with me. There was a professor who is married that tried to get into my pants he never did. then there was a thirty year old that only wanted to get into my pants. I just want to know why i ...
A. 4 November 2009: It's okay to flirt, but it's about how you do it. As long as you put very minimal to no comments regarding sexual inudendo, then they won't be so quick to think that you're good for one thing. I flirt with some guys all the time, but it's just ... (read in full...)
Must a woman orgasm to conceive?
Q. Should my wife have an orgasm to become pregnant or is it enough that my sperm goes inside through the vagina during intercourse?...
A. 4 November 2009: No, she does not need to orgasm to conceive.... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for him even though it's wrong. What do I do?
Q. I have known this guy since I was a little girl, our families are beyond best friends. We have been spending a lot of time talking, and I am quickly becoming infatuated with him, because he's been exposed to me and my family life so much, he ...
A. 4 November 2009: It's okay to have a crush on him--it's only wrong on his part if he acts on anything. Don't tempt him with anything that could cause him to get into trouble. Leave it be for now, we all have a time (or a few times) in our life when we have a crush ... (read in full...)
Raped by two men and troubled by porn
Q. [Moderator note: some spelling errors corrected, paragraphs added for easier reading] So to start off my question I'd like to say that I was drugged and raped by two guys a couple of years back. But My question is that the last thing I remember...
A. 4 November 2009: He REALLY needs to know why it bothers you; otherwise, he's going to assume you're just overreacting about nothing. Tell him everything: what bothers you, how it bothers you, what doesn't bother you, and why it bothers you. I don't think it's even ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now my sister won't talk to me!
Q. Should I say sorry to my sister, I had an abortion in April and my sister got very angry at me, she is very pro-life and wanted to to weigh my other options. She did not talk to me for a couple of months, and it was really hard not being able to ...
A. 4 November 2009: No, you have nothing that you need to apologize about. I wouldn't be so nice about it if I were you. I'm sure you had your reasons as to why you had an abortion, and those are your reasons and you don't need to apologize for them. I know what ... (read in full...)
They say I am pretty but fat. Should I be offended?
Q. Okay soo. Im 13 and i am over weight. please dont comment giving me tips on how to lose weight or on how to be healthier, im offended enough. i have low self asteem when it comes to my body, i have a stunning face but my body just isnt right, and ...
A. 4 November 2009: So you don't want tips on how to lose weight or be healthier, but you don't know what to do? You're unhappy about something that you can probably do something about. I'm sorry if this sounds mean, but I'm just being honest, if you're so unhappy ... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract older men who want to have sex. Is it because of my behaviour?
Q. I always feel like i attract men that only want to have fun with me. There was a professor who is married that tried to get into my pants he never did. then there was a thirty year old that only wanted to get into my pants. I just want to know why i ...
A. 4 November 2009: It would help if you were specific about your behavior. Do you think you behave in a particular way that would lead men to believe you just want to have "fun?" ... (read in full...)
How can I Deep Throat a boy without gagging?
Q. Okey my problem isnt a really big one but a good answer will really help me in my situation. i want to give my boy friend the best blowjob ever and i kno this question has been asked alot but i need some tips on how to deep throat with out feeling ...
A. 3 November 2009: Learn to control your gag reflex?... (read in full...)
I haven't had my fairytale. What hope is there for me?
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: Two questions from the same poster have been combined into one.] At 36 I have almost given up hope of ever finding Mr Right. I have had a few relationships, most never get past the one year point, a couple have been longer. ...
A. 3 November 2009: Well relationships are never a fairytale...it's a story. I think that rather than waiting around for years to figure out what someone wants, find out at the beginning. It sounds like you do find out a little bit, but then settle hoping that ... (read in full...)
Late with the morning-after pill, and now bad cramping -- is there something wrong?
Q. about two weeks ago I went to the clinic to get the morning after pill, it was really late (64 hours) and a couple of days ago at night I had REALLY bad cramps! :( And I had them again this morning! :( Is there something really wrong with me? My ...
A. 3 November 2009: Ummm no, I don't think that those are normal abortions. Go to the doctor so you can quit freaking out. That lady just scared you, but go check just to put your mind at ease and make sure everything is okay.... (read in full...)
Late with the morning-after pill, and now bad cramping -- is there something wrong?
Q. about two weeks ago I went to the clinic to get the morning after pill, it was really late (64 hours) and a couple of days ago at night I had REALLY bad cramps! :( And I had them again this morning! :( Is there something really wrong with me? My ...
A. 3 November 2009: I think she's talking about a tubal pregnancy? No, dear. Cramping can just be implantation cramps which are perfectly normal. Yes, they are sharp cramps. It's just the egg imbedding itself into the lining of the uterus. Although the tubal ... (read in full...)
My co-worker has a b/f but tells everyone I'm taken?
Q. im a little confused by this situation. this girl I work with is dating someone else. we are really good friends. lately she's been acting real different. she's been questioning my past relationships, about my beliefs over cheating and such. after ...
A. 3 November 2009: Eww, she sounds gross. Sexual harassment anyone? She definitely has some sort of crush on you, and is considering cheating on her boyfriend with you. I agree with gerta on the whole "buttering up" thing. I'd stay away from her for sure. I think ... (read in full...)
Can you go from sexually active to abstinent to make sure he's the right guy?
Q. Hey, umm, I have been sexually active for about two years now and I have had three partners, two in which i have been serious with, and one, was just a one night stand. after that one time, i kinda felt guilty about it because i did it out of spite. ...
A. 3 November 2009: I think it's a bit easier to do that with a new guy and not a guy you've already been having sex with. That one would be a bit more complicated. I don't think it would be just because they're guys either--if a guy I had been intimate with declared ... (read in full...)
I lied to my date about basic info
Q. I'm new to the whole online dating scene but I figure why not give it a shot. I'm a very personal person and I did not want to reveal that much information about myself in case I do not like the guy. So I chatted with this guy online and he wa...
A. 3 November 2009: Ok, I can maybe see you lying about your name or where your family is...maybe. But your age too? You lied way too much, there is such a thing as telling a person too much information, being subtle, or just lying. If you would have just told him ... (read in full...)
I'm flirting with someone's boyfriend. Does he like me?
Q. I finally told this boy I liked him, even though he has a girlfriend. He always flirts with me and the other night he was sending me some extremly flirty texts about if he didn't have a girlfriend he would get with me and do stuff. I really like...
A. 2 November 2009: I think you should be more concerned with your insecurities than whether or not this boy actually likes you (and he probably doesn't). If you were more secure with yourself, you wouldn't go after boys with girlfriends.... (read in full...)
Is this incest?
Q. Ok, Im 19.. I have a 21 year old sister who has a boyfriend at the age of 35.. He has a nephew at the same age as me! We have been talking for a while and my sister found out and her and her boyfriend tried to set us up... My sister an her bo...
A. 2 November 2009: No.... (read in full...)
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