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| | pinktopaz's profile:I'm 25 from California. Born and raised.
I think I've dated just about every type of guy...the asshole/jerk/degrading, the nice/treats women like they should be treated, the manchild that doesn't know what he wants/has peterpan complex, the bad boy, losers, annoying guys...
And after all that, I feel like I just haven't even started. But I just like to help people out. I can be too opininated at times and wonder why the heck some people are even putting up with some peoples' crap. So I figure I can at least help someone out to make them a little happier. At least just give an affirmation that what their thinking is in the right direction. Some things just don't need to be sugarcoated =)
The questions I most dispise, "Could I be pregnant?" There are a lot of websites that tell you the symptoms of pregnancy! Read those! Take a pregnancy test! It's really not that complicated!
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How can I tell him my name and continue to talk with him without looking silly?
Q. So I have said hey to this guy and he has said hey back but I have yet to tell him my name and I was wondering how to tell him my name without looking really stupid.... and the thing is, I'm am a sophmore and he is a senior so.... plz help...
A. 19 November 2009: Ask him what his name is...then he'll probably ask you what your name is or you can just tell him. It's pretty simple.... (read in full...)
Is it possible just to give up on love?
Q. It's been 8 months since my ex dumped me. I tried being friends after the break up which was a mistake and just hurt me more. Her and I are over. I kind of want to send her a message saying we can't be friends but that would be pointless. I've ...
A. 19 November 2009: Sure! I think plenty of us do for at least small periods of time here and there, and it's for exactly the same reason why you're feeling like you should. I think I'm on my second round of "giving up on love" within 3 years because I just don't ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think you should quit talking to her now because you know she's going to flip flop. Being "pretty sure" is the same as not being sure. You wouldn't have asked if you did't think she was going to. Give it time, you know she probably will. ... (read in full...)
Why would she still want to be friends after we broke up?
Q. Hey, i just got out of a relationship about 3 1/2 months ago and just talked to my ex today. it was casual and she told me about her new boyfriend. It didnt really bother me as much as i thought until she said that she was completely over me. i was ...
A. 18 November 2009: She may be over you, but that's only because she found some rebound to distract her. On the other hand, it's questionable as to why she would need to announce that she's over you, that's kind of rude, don't you think?
No, I don't think you shou... (read in full...)
I've got a boyfriend now so how can I stop this urge?
Q. I'm 18 and i have a problem and i need help. well in the past i had this one guy that i gave blow jobs to and now that im in a relationship i have nothing else to give because i love the person im with. so one day they asked me to come over but i ...
A. 18 November 2009: I'm with Jayney on this one, it's hard to believe that this is even for real.
It's really not that hard to ignore someone after you've told them no, especially if they just want you to come over for bj's. That's just weird to me, and if that's h... (read in full...)
I am struggling with the end of our relationship. I need closure.
Q. I am struggling to cope with the end of a 9 year relationship, and need some advice on how to get through it all as my now ex-bf has cut all contact, leaving me with many unanswered questions and no closure at all. We were together 9 years, lived ...
A. 18 November 2009: No, don't write him a letter. You can write one, but not one for him to ever see. Like I said, no contact. Don't write him any letters, emails, or leave voicemails...no communication whatsoever.... (read in full...)
I am struggling with the end of our relationship. I need closure.
Q. I am struggling to cope with the end of a 9 year relationship, and need some advice on how to get through it all as my now ex-bf has cut all contact, leaving me with many unanswered questions and no closure at all. We were together 9 years, lived ...
A. 17 November 2009: "He is the one and only love of my life. I have never betrayed his trust, have always tried to support him, and don't understand what I have done wrong."
I'm quoting what you said because what you said is part of your answer. First, he is not t... (read in full...)
What was this thing I found in my panties?
Q. im 17 years old now... but a few years ago when i was about 14 on holiday i woke up and had this thing i cant explain in my knickers, it was kind of big, it looked a bit like a fetus, but the thing is i was a virgin at the time so i dont understand ...
A. 17 November 2009: Well if it was a blood-colored jelly-like substance it could have been a blood clot. Those can be fairly large and I've known several girls that that has happened to. Obviously if you were a virgin, it couldn't have been a fetus. I'm gonna go ... (read in full...)
How do people have interesting conversations via text messaging?
Q. What do you girls usly talk to your boyfriends about well your texting? And what do you guys like talking about with your girlfriend. Becuse its hard for me to like have a real conversation about any thing well were texting its mostly how was your ...
A. 17 November 2009: In my opinion, text is for short conversation. Personally, I hate when people want to have a full blown convo through text, it ends up taking 20 min, when we could have have a 5 min phone conversation. So instead of texting all the time, talk on ... (read in full...)
My friends keep telling me to move on, but they don't understand. What do I do?
Q. Im 18 and 2years ago i dumped the love of my life, for no reason, i tried to get him back and he wouldnt have it and for a year afterwards i fought for him and kept going back but he didnt want anything to do with me(yet he never moved on or found ...
A. 17 November 2009: What you need to do is what you friends are telling you to do, which is "move on." If he broke up with you 2-years ago and doesn't want to be with you, I'm sorry, but he is not the love of your life. I'm assuming that after all this time you ha... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating on me?
Q. Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems ...
A. 17 November 2009: She could be...but let me just warn you that from my experience; people that hide things from you (the pot smoking and friends coming over) are usually cheaters. Not telling you is the same is lying, so obviously they can't really be trusted. I ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm in love but I barely know him?
Q. Alright, here is my situation. I am in love with this guy. Every time there is even a slight chance of seeing him I get butterflies and my heart races. I can't get him out of my mind and I think I see him sometimes when I'm out. He is very funny, ...
A. 17 November 2009: It's infatuation, which feels a lot like love. Love goes a whole lot deeper than getting butterflies in your tummy and laughing at his jokes. All this means is that you like him A LOT. Love is what happens after all the giddy butterflies and ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant 2 days after ovulation using the rythem method?
Q. Can you get pregnant 2 days after ovulation using the rythem method? I cheated on my bf, and im not sure if my one night stand is the father of my child. I was with my bf 4 days before ovulation no protection and he ejaculated plenty inside me. Then ...
A. 17 November 2009: There's plenty of websites that tell you the effectivness of using the rhythm method. The rhythm method, if I recall correctly is the poorest choice of birth control--that's how most pregnancies occur besides just not caring or trying to conceive. ... (read in full...)
Should I look for someone else?
Q. I've began seeing a man of a different ethnicity than I am. Although I think this isn't such a big problem, I'm unsure if he would be serious with me because of culture/ethnic issues in the future. We are both adults, way past the issue of parents ...
A. 17 November 2009: You didn't tell us what his ethnicity is. Honestly, it doesn't matter what ethnicity a guy is, guys from every ethnicity do that sort of thing. I've been in the exact situation as you...the dates we had are different of course, but I've been in ... (read in full...)
He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!
Q. Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...
A. 17 November 2009: Listen, he WILL do it again. He "didn't know how to react" because you "mouthed off?" He's going to get mouthed off a lot in his lifetime, so does that mean he should go around backhanding people because he doesn't like what they say? NO! And ... (read in full...)
I am in lust/love with a straight man... or do I just miss my ex?
Q. Hi Guys + Gals I am in a strange situation which is pulling me apart. I currently live with this guy who I met in 6th form and we bonded really well. Since I met him I was attracted to him, although he is straight and has a girlfriend. (he kn...
A. 16 November 2009: Are you serious? You molested him in his sleep? That is beyond wrong. I think you need to start thinking with your head instead of your penis before he ends up waking up while you're violating him. The only advice I can give you is to stay ... (read in full...)
Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?
Q. I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...
A. 16 November 2009: I'm not really sure how the system work in Canada...but yes, I think you should file a police report and try to get it back, and if you can't get them back; take him to small claims court. I think here, the value of what you're trying to get back ... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby
Q. Hi I have a question I really would love some advice on. My long term boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. In anyways I have been off the pill for the last year and now no longer using condoms. My boyfriend and I had sex umprotected sex on the ...
A. 16 November 2009: That was less than 2 weeks ago...a test usually won't be accurate in that short of time. It's best to wait a few days to a week after you've missed your period. Sometimes maybe the day before it will show up positive, but I wouldn't trust it too ... (read in full...)
I thought we had a good time but he still hasn't text back!
Q. Hey, I have been getting to know this guy who I think may see me as more than a friend. This past Friday we hung out and watched some movies together in my dorm room. We sat close to one another on my bed and watched from my laptop. I guess ...
A. 16 November 2009: Here's my guess, if he hasn't texted you back yet, then he's probably not that interested. Or he may not have felt the need to text you back and figures that he will call you when he wants to hang out again. So, yeah; I guess you could text him ... (read in full...)
His penis smells of sex!!!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, i love him so much and he always tells me he loves me... but on 2 occasions, i went down on him and his penis smelt like sex, now im paranoid hes been sleeping with another girl then coming back to me. ...
A. 16 November 2009: That's how most guys are caught cheating. However, if you really don't think that he is (there isn't anything else that would lead you to believe that he's with another girl)and since he doesn't stray away from you too often, all it could be is ... (read in full...)
This guy in college is REALLY pissing me off! How do I play this?
Q. Hello everyone. I've these few problems. In short, I am a 20 year old male. I am in college now. I am still single, so you can guess I've a confidence problem. I've issues talking to girls. So, my problem is I've few friends here. They are alwa...
A. 16 November 2009: They probably feel they have some dominance over you and so they mess around with you. I don't think it's because they actually think that you're a nerd or that they don't like you, but you're just an easy target for them. Do you get upset too ... (read in full...)
My best friend seemed surprised that a guy likes me, and not her.
Q. At work, there is a guy that I have been crushing on- we talk once in a while, but we don't talk as much because we're in different departments. I told my friend about him and she knows I like him. She happens to knows his older sister and hung out ...
A. 16 November 2009: Your friend is just insecure. Have you ever seen that movie American Beauty and the girl that tells people she is a model swears that a guy is gay if he doesn't even look at her and she would lie about screwing all sorts of guys? Truth was that ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 16 November 2009: Garm,
I don't mean to butt-in here. But you shouldn't be trying to manipulate her into wanting her back. The best thing you can do is do what makes YOU happy--you're revolving your actions too much on how you can manipulate her into wanting ... (read in full...)
I just turned 18 and thought my mom would trust me with my boyfriend now, but she doesn't!
Q. Okay, so around october I started dating this new guy that I'm dating now. Last thursday I turned 18. In my mind I thought this would change things a little bit. So I asked my mom if I could help my boyfriend move into his moms house. My mom said no ...
A. 16 November 2009: You're 18...you're an adult. So technically you don't have to ask your mom if you can go somewhere. But, if you're living under her roof, then I'm sure she has certain rules that you need to abide by. So you need to talk to you mom about you ... (read in full...)
My first time and I think I've fell pregnant. Help!
Q. hi i am 16 years old and i had sex the other day with my boyfriend. I have not been feeling that well lately and yesterday i was hungery even although I had been eating all day but today im hungery but i feel very sick. My parents and his are ...
A. 16 November 2009: First of all, if you had sex the other day you wouldn't be having any symptoms yet. You're just freaking yourself out.
Second, you used protection and if it was used correctly, then you're probably fine.
I agree with the other poster, yo... (read in full...)
Are we a couple of does he just want a hook up?
Q. Does he only want to keep hooking up? I met this guy Matt*(fake name) at a party in late September, his friend told me he was interested in me and he found me on Facebook, he then gave me his number and we've been hanging out since but I feel lik...
A. 16 November 2009: Regardless if you two admit it, it pretty much sounds like you two are in a relationship. So if you want to know for sure, you need to talk to him about it. He may be afraid that you don't feel the same way (just how you're afraid that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He's giving me contradictory statements, how do I handle this?
Q. Hey!! Ok....so i'm really confused and need all the advice i can possibly get! Basically...theres this guy that i kinda got together with at the end of summer..but then he had to go back to wales and i'm still here in London. But..we kept it ...
A. 16 November 2009: You don't do anything now! Get over this guy! If you keep trying to go after a guy that can't make up his mind, that is stringing you along and supposidly has friends texting you from his phone and he doesn't really give you a sincere apology, ... (read in full...)
I prefer older guys! Should I hold off on dating?
Q. this may sound bad but im 16 and i've noticed lately that im more atracted to guys in like there late late teens or like 22, so like 18-22... i just ind guys my age anoying and inmucher....i just want to find some one to cuddle with and feel safe ...
A. 16 November 2009: I think you should ask your parents this question, because they are the ones that would throw your older boyfriend in jail if they did not approve.... (read in full...)
Why can I only remember my bad dreams?
Q. Why when I have a good dream I cant remember it but when I have a bad I can? I would like to remember the 'really good ones' but of coarse the bad dreams are more clear than possible?...
A. 16 November 2009: That's something you can't possibly have control over unless you sit and really try to remember what was dreamt the night before. Sometimes you don't even remember for days later, like a deja vu. Maybe you have a lot of bad dreams. If that's the ... (read in full...)
I lied about a pregnacy and abortion to hurt my ex...should I come clean?
Q. I lied to my ex by telling him I was pregnant and aborted the baby. I only did it to hurt him because I found out he was sleeping with my friend. I know it's horrible and at the time it made me feel good to hurt him like he hurt me, but now I feel ...
A. 14 November 2009: I think you should only tell him if you still somehow speak with him and he has told you that it bothers him. Otherwise, if he's your ex, just let it go. What's done is done and there is no sense in bringing that stuff up if you two are over and ... (read in full...)
Are these reacurring sex dreams a sign that I am a pervert?
Q. I have been having reacurring sex dreams of me and my 15 yr old niece. When they happen i wake up in a cold sweat. Once i even ejactulated while i was dreaming. I would never do anything with my niece and now if i see her or talk to her i feel ...
A. 14 November 2009: I think that it just happens. I've had dreams about some people that I was completely disgusted about. I think that a dream is just a dream. Besides Sigmund Freud (really it's all just theory), nobody really knows for certain what dreams are. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: Yes, I agree--it's weird and a little flattering. If my boyfriend did that, I wouldn't know if I should run for the hills or think, "Wow, he loves me so much he made me into a doll." So your girlfriend could have the same response, I think to most ... (read in full...)
Should I stay hopeful that my friend will return or just move on?
Q. I have noticed that my friends have gone through phases where one would kind of deviate from our group and started to hang out with another group. (And completely forget about us/not talk to us as much while they hung out with that group.) Most have ...
A. 13 November 2009: It's okay for your friend to want to hang out with other people. Sometimes people have different groups of friends for different purposes. I have several groups that I go back and forth with depending on what mode I'm in. I have my friends that ... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 13 November 2009: If you were pregnant, you should have gotten a positive test by now, but on rare ocassions, it's not always the case. Take another one first thing in the morning in a couple days, if it's still negative then you may want to make a doctor ... (read in full...)
Is he lying or is does he just want to get my attention again by hurting me?
Q. When I discovered that my boyfriend was cheating on me, I became a bitch and decided to talk to guys he prohibited me to talk to. It made him even angrier when I told him I don't care anymore if he leaves me for the other girl, I said I was fine ...
A. 12 November 2009: He's trying to manipulate you and make you jealous. He's probably doing both: lying and trying to get your attention (he's a cheater so of course he's a liar). He probably wants you back because he's lonely and an idiot--then he "accidentally" ... (read in full...)
How can I show her she deserves better than some guy who wants to screw other men?
Q. My sister is 23 and has been dating a guy for over 7 years. A month ago he told her he was bi and had been cheating on her with a guy. She broke up with him but has since taken him back. They now have an open relationship where he can go and be gay ...
A. 12 November 2009: Hmm that's quite a predicament. Well you can't show her she deserves better, she can only see that for herself once she opens her eyes. Unfortunately, the more you tell her she can do better and try to convince her that she shouldn't be in a ... (read in full...)
I'm really excited about this new guy, but suddenly he seems distant
Q. Dear Cupid I broke up with my ex back in March and we havent been on speaking terms at all for the last couple months (we decided that we cant be friends right now because it would always be more, and he had a new gf) he broke my heart but i am ove...
A. 11 November 2009: I know EXACTLY what you mean, but for now just leave him alone. Don't try contacting him or anything for now because then he'll just feel bombarded if you start asking him questions as to why he's not being so attentive. Let him come to you and ... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend or more?
Q. I met this girl about 3 months back through a mutual friend. Went on a few dates and i thought things seemed to go well. Then one night we went out for drinks and i ended up spending the night at her place and we hooked up (no sex). Another t...
A. 11 November 2009: If she asked you if you liked her...telling her yes was not a mistake. She probably asked you because she likes you too. If you tell a girl no when she asks you that question that would definitely make her probably not want to talk to you again. ... (read in full...)
I had just started to get over her and now she texts me saying she wants me back!
Q. ok so my ex and I were in a long distance relationship. I was in love with her and she told me the same. we met in person after a few months and we had a real good time. soon after we got back home to our own places. she broke it off and didn't give ...
A. 11 November 2009: Keep doing what you're doing. DO NOT TAKE HER BACK! It's too little too late on her part, she should have realized what she had before she let it go. You can do so much better! Don't let her jerk you around like that, she'll want to keep you ... (read in full...)
I would already be engaged to her if it wasnt for her past! How do I overcome this?
Q. I'll try to keep it short. In June 07 I met a girl at a party and ending up sleeping with her that night. Both of us were sober. For the rest of the summer we hooked up here and there - f buddies. About a month after we first met my good friend told ...
A. 11 November 2009: Hmmm well, I think some of this you just can't really get passed, since she had slept with some of your friends.
But just some food for thought, you want to marry a person based on who they are and how they make you feel. Obviously you're c... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend or more?
Q. I met this girl about 3 months back through a mutual friend. Went on a few dates and i thought things seemed to go well. Then one night we went out for drinks and i ended up spending the night at her place and we hooked up (no sex). Another t...
A. 11 November 2009: I think she's interested in you, but probably waiting on you to make the move. A lot of women are afraid of telling guys that they are interested in a relationship of any kind or that they do like them for fear that the guy will get "scared" and ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Eh, you just want her back cause you can't have her. So, you know that the relationship probably isn't going to work out in the future. But you pretty much have to follow what anonymous said, the more you act like you don't care, the more she'll ... (read in full...)
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